Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Part 2..."What exactly is a "Helpmeet"?

Good morning Ladies and friends,Gretings in Jesus name....

Here it is a week later, and how was your week?, tough, trials, hard, happy, frustrating.....well, you are not alone with these feelings. We are human and one can run all of these emotions plus more(not to give room for just letting our flesh run away with us)....the thing I want to zero in on, is ...."How did you handle them?", especially with DH?

Did you blow it, come "unglued", yell, snap, get silent...?,,,beleive you me, I have experienced all of these plus.....PLEASE to know, you are not alone......

Do you know Jesus as your Saviour, so you have the power to overcome?, or are you just "playing" the Christianity game?

Lets go on and discover what our lesson is about this week....


Genesis 2:18, 21,22

And the Lord God said,

"It is not good that the man should be alone I will make him an help meet for him"

And the Lord God cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up his flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

Now, all kinds of questins are running through your mind, right? Like I said last week, I am not a writer, but, just want to share what is on my mind.

Is "He" perfect and will He ever be?

I think, you can answer that....As any of you have learned, getting married doesn't really mean living "Happily ever after", it means a lot of hard work and ups, and downs. Every person is a sinner and we need to realize, that our "man" will make a lot of mistakes, walk in his flesh and generally be a "sinner".....Just as I said earlier, we "know" we are sinners and give ourselves room for our sin, "Why not your man?"

It will take a real effort to make a good marriage, this takes doing things one normally wouldn't do perhaps, maybe every day, hour and sometimes minute. God gave you to your man and "YOU" are the most precious gift God could ever give to him.

Then He tells us in Proverbs 18:22, that man needs a wife. "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing; and obtaineth favour of the Lord."

If you are a wife, you are created to fill a need, a helper ;made for the needs of a man. A woman is by nature created and endued with every thing needed to be his complete helpmeet. You are not in your proper place if you don't function within your created nature, if you are filling a mans place.

You were to make him "complete", not to get personal fulfillment "parallel" to him. So you see, a woman cannot function like a man and the opposite it true also, neither is created to function like the other.

For you ladies, that are single from whatever reason, Pleas stick with me, learning this will endue you with the necessary tools to be a "Feminine" part of our society, and if the Lord would ever to put you with
"Your Helpmeet", then you will be in your created place.

Do you think Adam was excited when He awoke from his divine sleep? What do you think He thought when He awake with "Her" next to him? We will leave your thoughts in your own head, but, If God really did create a special woman for "him", then could that woman be you for your man? Do you think men are that much different then Adam, when He awoke?

Do you really want to be His helpmeet? Do you want to be His helper?

Gods will is that you "want" to do those things....When you are a helpmeet to your man, you are a helper to God, for God commissioned men for a purpose and gave him a "woman" to assist in His divine calling. When you honor your man(respect, trust, reverence), then you do the same about God. Are we 1/2 heartedly reverencing our man?, then we are 1/2 heartedly reverencing God. There is a direct link to those 2. I remember when God brought that to me..whew!..that was a big pill to swallow, I was disrespecting my man, and that went for God also,,Now, you say, "wait a minute".....think about it, if we follow Gods word only to the extent it does not "disrupt" our lives, and only to the point, that others are not "bothered", by our Christianity, Is that less than God would want for you?...and the same is true for your man, is that less than God would want for your respect for him?

As we serve our man, we serve God.

Now, your thinking, "How can I respect him when he....______________________!" (You can fill in the blank), If you fill in the blank with what you think and feel, then it will seem abaolutely unnattainable to you, but, if you fill in this blank with what God says,and your heart is right with your Lord, then it will not seem unnatatinable, just a little overwhelming. Please don't throw me out or what God may have for you this week and in the week to come, please let him show you, "you" and what He would have for you in your heart this week, and in the weeks to come. It is easy for our flesh to "throw" something all away if it doesn't work the first, second, or maybe even third time, but, lets not, and persevere to hear Gods voice for us.

Has God changed His mind over the centuries?

All through the new Testament the Apostles wrote us to tell us that He has not! His original plan for man and woman is still the same as it was in the begining. Do you think Adam and Eve had to learn how to be Husband and wife? 1 Cor. 11:8 & 9 "For the man is not of the woman; but, the woman of the man. Neither was the man created fo rthe woman; but the woman for the man."

I really dont know if they did or not, but, God has not changed.

Regardless of who you are, your position in life right now, color, race, or status, God will is still that you are really created to be your mans helpmeet.

Gods will is that you be a suitable helper to your man...1 Cor. 7:34 "There is s difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the thibgs of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may PLEASE HER HUSBAND."

"This is wierd", you are thinking, you are right, our flesh/mind does not mind the things of the Spirit, but, the things of the world, it cannot understand the things of God. To think your DH deserves you as aHis helpmeet..?

You can only be what God created you to be..."IF"...you stay within your place within Gods order. When a woman wants to be in a mans role of leadership, that will not make you, him, nor anyone else happy. It is not a question who can do the better job, it is a matter of who is created to do it?

If a woman does a mans job, you as a woman will not be content with it, there will always be something that is not right, yet, you cannot figure it out.

It is better if the job be done poorly by your DH, than good by you. Your female nature cannot be made over to fit the mans nature, neither, can it be done the opposite.

The role of "Helpmeet", does not make one inferior to a man, nor, does it mean that the man "lords" it over a woman.

Men are created to be helpers of God. Jesus willingly helped the Father, the Holy Spirit the Son. Everyone must submit to some kind of authority in life, but, this again, does not make one inferior because of submitting to authority.

God made women to be a helpmeet to their husbands so they can upift him, helping him to be more productive. When I realized "I" was to help him be more productive, WOW!....that made me feel... not inferior, but, worth something(not to be puffed up, but, worth something). A woman is not "His" board of directors, nor do you have an equal vote, but, she is Created to be his closest, confidante', his friend, one he can lean on when everything else is at odds in this old world of ours.

But!....all at his discretion.

His wifes readiness to please him(now, don't go and throw the baby out with the bath water, hang in there!)....helps her to be motivated to see what her DH really would like. She would gladly do these things,(there are exceptions, remember, we will cover this later), A man would know she is a fine woman then. Do you think other man notice, when a woman reverences her DH? Do you think, they wish their wives, would reverence them like that? Lets, be that woman who reverences her DH, lets let others see what God can do to a "submitted" heart, and a "willing" Spirit.

Competant and Contented, does not mean "Take Over", nor does it mean a "mouse", it means, Prov. 12:4.."A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed(correcting her man, usurping authority over him) is as rottenness to his bones". OUCH! but, Gods word is true, lets ponder this the next week.

It is our ""Jobs"" to learn how we can "help" our DHs in any way we can, The fact, that you are reading this, shows that you want to be his "Contented Helpmeet"....and your hearts desire to honor God by becoming a Helpmeet to him.

Now, your homework.... Look up these words for next week, and ponder them....




Also, think about one of those "things" on your list you wrote down last week, and ask God to show you how to work on it....

Looking forward to "seeing" you next week, ...

Keep the Faith dear loved ones and friends....