Monday, December 28, 2009

Accroding to the Power, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Ah Ha!!! I finally figured out how to get these poems on here again,...YIIIPPPEEE!!!
Enjoy!!!
Please click on the title....

According to the Power, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Some dont's.....

I hope and pray that all of you who read my blog had a good Holiday.....Who was your reason for celebrating?

The last post was on "How to be a good wife today"...this one is


"Some dont's".....

***Don't greet him with problems...

***Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in His comfortable chair, or take a short nap before supper. Have his favorite drink ready, go with him to make him comfortable. Allow him to relax and unwind.

***Listen to him..... You may have a dozen things to share, but, the moment of his coming home is NOT the time....Let him talk first. (This will take time, expecially if, you have always "ruled the roost...").

***Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to supper or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of stress and pleasure, his need to be home and relax.

"The goal: try to make your home a place of peace, serenity and order, where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."


Do you see what has happened in the last 50 years? Every high school girl was taught a conservative world view that was msore bibilical in perspective than what the churches teach today.

"A wise woman patterns her life after her husband's. His working, playing, eating, and sleeping habits become hers.
Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Forgiveness....understanding others....

Have you ever wondered why others do what they do..
I have... to...Jesus did also...He said over and over to forgive......
To love our enemies, to pray for those who despitefully use you(Mt.5:44 & Luke 6:48)....Can you, Will you?
These are choices we all make on daily basis'....
What will one say, when we stand at the judgement?(which we all will do someday)...."I didnt want to"...
May we welcome "Forgiveness" and accepting others, (not their sin), but, them....

Love to all who read, and may we apply this.....
~~~***Terri***~~~

God sent us a Saviour...


God sent us a Saviour...


If our greatest need had been information....

God would have sent us an educator.


If our greatest need had veen technology...

God would nave sent us a scientist.


If our greatest need had veen money...

God would have sent us a economist.


If our greatest need had been pleasure...

God would nave sent us an evtertainer.


BUT our greatest need was forgiveness...

So, GOD SENT US A SAVIOUR.



This CHRISTmas may you see and know anew

how great His love is toward you...
Love to all who read...
~~~***Terri***~~~

CHRISTmas....


Every time we give...

Every time we love.....


Its CHRISTmas.
Love to all who read this blog....
~~~***Terri***~~~

Tuesday, December 22, 2009



He is the Son of the Highest...
Do you have Him as that in your life?
Have a good Christmas, and may we remember who it is that IS "Christmas"......

Love to all who read....
~~~**Terri**~~~

How to be a good wife today....

Hello Ladies....
Today is ..."How to be a good wife today."
(This is taken word for word from a 1950's public high School home economics
textbook)...
***Have Supper ready...Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal is part of the warm welcome ahead.

***Prepare yourself...Take 15 minutes(or less for busy mothers)to rest so that you'llbe refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your self, look as pretty as you can and be fresh looking.
He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little happy and a little more interesting than His boring work fellows.

***Clear away the clutter....Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives,gathering up schoolbooks, toys.. and papers. then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too!

***Prepare the children...Take a few minutes to wash the childrens hands and faces(if they are small). Comb their hair, and if neccessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

***Minimize all noise...At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile.


Now, PLEASE, remember this is from a 1950's handbook for home economics...and cannot possibly be kept up by everyone all of the time, but...it is a good place to begin....


Love to all who read....
***Terri***

Friday, December 18, 2009

Reflecting on.....

Today we focus on "Reflecting" on what we have read for the past weeks....a few questions and thoughts..
1. Was it pleasing to the Lord for the lady who cooked her husband supper according to his likes?

2. Would it have been sin to respond with anger or hurt feelings?
3. Would you have sought to please your husband if he had shown such insensitive ingratitide?
4. Do you think her husband was just trying to be cruel?
5. When you first married, did you think of your marriage as a career of pleasing your DH
?

A virtuous woman is a crown to her DH: but she that maketh ashamed is as rotteness in his bones"(Proverbs 12:4).

Make a new habit.
Most wives reading this book were trained not to honor their DH's. You were most likely trained by a mother's example to disrespect and resent your dad. You were trained by watching your mother showing displeasure at your dads bad habits, and nothing has changed in the way you relate to your DH. It seems natural to be angry rather than to seek change for the better. It is not easy to break a well-established tradition, but it will certainly be worth the effort.
Liberated to sorrow
Beginning with the womans "liberation" mocement of the 1960's, women have been taught and expected to resent men in authority. All media, magazines, movies, and popular books have promoted eradication of the distinction between male and female. the established churches are only about on e decade behind the, world, so Christian books and Ministers have followed with their own female liberation theology. Ministers and theologians have devised ways of dismissing the authority of the words of God found that speak about the nature and duty of men and women. It has gone so far that the churches are now convinced that the Bible supports this modern view.

When I was a child, no one in our large, extended family could ever remember a divorce on either side of the family, including the many aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. Neither was there a case of abuse or child abuse. In the last 50 years, all that has dramatically changed.
It is hard to believe, but the following assignment was found in a 1950's public high school home economics notebook. When I was in school, this is what the general public was being taught!!! Can yo imagine what an outcry it would cause if someone put this in a public school textbook today????

I guess we will wait till next posting to find our what it is......

Love to all who read.....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Hello..It seems like mu computer is doing better, maybe it got over the flu!!!! HA! HA!
I will try and post today......

Friday, November 6, 2009

On HOLD!!!!

My computer is totaled, the keyboard that is....when I type, it might dissappear or not type at all, Or type in another word......it has taken 5 minutes just to type this.....Ill try to type every Monday, but, not guaranteeing anything... I will try....
Thanks for your reading my blog....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Monday, November 2, 2009

What is a cold dinner?

Life is so much different than if used to be. Several of us ladies were sitting around a supper table recently, telling about some of our early disasterous cooking experiences. It brought vivid memories of my newlywed days. When I married, I really didnt know how etc.,, on top of that, my family are strictly "country"- peas and cornbread(still my fav), ham pork chops, fried chicken, trunip greens, etc., while my husbands family ate a very different type of diet.

I will never forget one hot afternoon., We lived in an apartment in the back of an old Victorian house which consisted of a living room-kitchen combination and a bathroom. We had no air conditioning, and that far down south could get really miserable in the summer. One sultry summer day, I worked hard to prepare a home-cooked meal for my husband, and had it ready when he came home. When he walked in the door, he was soooo hot and sweaty, he took one look at that hot meal and said in despair, "This is NOT the day for a hot meal: this is the kind of day you need a cold meal!",My heart was just crushed. Hot and sweaty myself, I had slaved to serve him the best way I knew how. I had never even heard of a cold meal. What on earth was he talking about? At that point in my life, a tomato stuffed with tuna or chicken salad was totally foreign to me. I must tell you, my story wasnt very funny thirty years earlier, but as I finished telling it to my friends, we were all laughing about how "crushed" I was that day.
I was surprised to see that one of the younger women at the table didn't think it was funny, as she huffily retorted, "Did you throw it at him? I would have!"this stopped me in my memory tracks. Was I angry? Did I want to throw it in his face? I really dont remember ever having those thoughts. I do remember, wanting to learn how to make a "cold" supper. I do remember being hurt and sad. But my most compelling thought was how to be the best wifey to my man I could be, even if that did mean learning how to make a cold supper. When I was married, I became Mrs. So and So......His life, His aganda, His desires became mine. I considered my marriage to be my career for the rest of my life, and I intended to be successful at it. If he didnt like the food that I cooked, rather than refusing to cook anymore, saying that he was just too hard to please, I would learn to cook something else.
I was DETERMNED to please my man.
I found that he was not really that hard to please. Most men are not so hard to please. I once heard someone say, that all men really need is food, intimacy, and respect, and hell be pretty content. That is certainly an oversimplification, but, from experience, I know that those things are the basic elementary needs of all husbands. ANd so, I have worked at it from that perspective for almost 30 years. It is still my goal to be pleasing to my husband. I am pleased to tell you that he delights in me. I was determined to earn his delight.

Reflecting......"A wise woman does not let little things stir her spirit in agitation. With a quiet and meek spirit, she seeks to make all things better."

With much love and hopefully continuing posting.

~~~**Terri**~~~

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Annie Johnson Flint,(please click on the link).
http://http://blessedquietness.com/journal/homemake/ajf-itisjesus.htm

Enjoy!
~~~*Terri*~~~

Cont'd from the previous post.....

It is not the fact of a grouchy husband nor is it the fact of a bad day...It just may be the fact of simple planning that can make or break your day.....
Let me share a few tips....
Mondays...the same thing every week, maybe, peas, potatoes, and minute steaks..
Tuesday...Meatloaf with sweet potatoes..
Wednesdays....roast with mashed potatoes and green beans...
Thursdays....spaghetti with salad...
Fridays...Fish, chips, and salad...
This is just a suggestion, be creative, use your imagination....this may just be the key to getting you started for planning....
The regular dinners each week, made it easier for Mom to plan and buy the weeks groceries. My dad would look forward to the meal he knew would be hot and waiting for him when he came home from work.
A grocery list with the weeks meals well-defned is a very handy tool.
As wives, our lifes work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands.
Sometimes, maintaining a good relationship with yor husband simply requires the performing of simple tasks, like havuing a meal ready on time and a clean house, even when it is not easy or convenient to do so.

TRAITS OF A GOOD HELPMEET
*A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
*She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
*She plans and prepares well ahead of tome.
*She exercises self discipline.

~~~*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your lifes work and have missed Gods perfect plan.*~~~

Strawberries and Sweet Love
I have sweet memories of time spent picking strawberries. the thing I remember most vividly ismy wrinkled old grandpa down on his knees beside me picking strawberries and talking up one row and down the other about my Grandmother and how much he loved her. Apparently, he didnt see her bulging country dress, the thin white hair, and her wrinkled old face. The thought of him loving her and of her being a beautiful woman was a novel ides in my childish thinking, but, I found it delightful. I remember giggling so much, I found it hard to pick! His declaration of love to her, was very comforting. My Grandma honored and obeyed my Grandfather. It was their foundation of love and home that made the family(even the extended family) strong. As you read the next story, you will see why we were made strong by our examples....we were conditioned to please our husbands. They taught us how to resist taking offense, and that we were never to "give him a piece of our mind." If Grandma did get offended, noone would ever know it, because it was well understood, that a lady had duties and she must be sober in her execution of them? Maybe that is another title for another chapter, a lady?, What is one, and how do I get there?

"A wise woman doesn't ever allow herself to be a liability, but strives to always be an asset to the marriage. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because of his wife."

Cont'd next week with the next story....

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Just a meal idea....

*Sunday night put dried pinto beans and water into the crock-pot to soak. Monday morning, turn the pot on low. Monday evening, grill minute steaks and bake sweet potatoes to eat with the beans.
*Add water to leftover beans, and let cook on low all night to be used with taco salad as refried beans. An hour before dinner, cut lettuce, onion, bell pepper and 2 tomatoes in preparation for a taco salad. Brown 2 pounds of Hamb. putting half of the cooked meat in a plastic bag in the referigerator for spaghetti on Weds. Season the other half of the meat with taco seasoning and keep warm. Set your table, and other "fixins" for your tacos.
*Wednesday at noon, put your reserved, precooked hamb., with onion, peppers, celery in the crock-pot with crushed tomatoes and a can of tomato paste with spaghetti seasonings. An hour before supper, make a salad and heat water ready to drop in noodles 10 minutes before supper. Wednesday night, rinse out yout crock pot and put dried black beans into it to soak.
* Thursday morning, turn your crock pot on low with the black beans in it. Two hours before
supper, add smoked sausages to the black beans. Cook enough rice for 2 meals and serve the black beans over rice with sour cream, chopped onion, grated cheese and tomatoes. Add water to the leftover black beans in the crock pot, and a small handful of rice to simmer overnight for you and the childrens lunch on Friday, put the leftover rice in the refer. for you and the childrens lunch on Friday.

*Friday, use leftover black beans and rice for childrens lunch.
Chop onion, and meat and saute'. Mix with rice, then add scrambled eggs and soy sauce to rice. Season with salt and pepper. Make a fresh salad.
*Saturday, have a cookout with hamburgers, open cans of baked beans and cookies for dessert.
*Sunday, have you whole chicken ready for the crockpot. Early Sunday morning, put your chicken, a stalk of celery, one can of Cr. of chicken soup in the crockpot and season. Just before you leave for church, cut 10 flour tortillias in 2 inch wide strips and drop into the pot with the chicken. Enjoy when you return home.

There is your week of recipes. Simple enough?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Sunday, October 18, 2009

The Plan....

In my experience of a simple/crazy life,,
raising half a dozen exuberant children(literally)....
farming USA dirt, stringing.. sheets out on the line......

I am praying to slow down and see the sacred in the chaos....
the flame in the bush...
the Cross in the clothespin..
and the flame in the bush.

Just a bit of listening, laundry,
liturgy and......
LIFE!

Love sent to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

The Assignment....

Hello Ladies,
Seems like forever that I have been on here, but, I do so hope this time, my computer is fixed. The whole hard drive had to be wiped clean and a new one downloaded..OH! the wonders of this age...
But, lets move on with our study, still trying to get through,"Created to be His helpmeet"...might take a year or more, but, I do feel it is beneficial to all of us.

The Assignment
Learn to use the kitchens "wonder tool"--the crock pot. This morning I put several frozen chicken breasts and some rice into the electric crock-pot. I added some water, cerery, bell peppers, and seasonings, and turned it on low. When we came into the house at noon, the house was filled with a delicious aroma, and dinner was ready except for a simple salad. After we had eaten, I added some more water and seasoning, which now had only a few bits of chicken and rice with the broth. This simple soup simmered all afternoon, and was the basis for our meal that evening.

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify!!!
Always offer your children only one choice for breakfast...Several options will only confuse the child and make your work more! Choices also give room for argument and discontentment, (children do not have the capacity to think like we adults, therefore, giving them confusion.) Providing the same simple food every morning(exxcept maybe Sunday) causes a child to look forward to getting cereal on that one special morning. It can really help your children to be more Thankful and will bring about a more peaceful morning. A simple, yet filling, meal for the childrens daily breakfast is peanut butter toast served on a paper napkin. Clean up is easy.
If Dad is not home for lunch, then the plan is to have the same basic wholesome food for lunch each day. A crockpot of beans for simple beans and a simple vegetable added for a variety can also be served on a paper napkin.

Next, we will try and have menu for a week, use your creativity, for meals, BUT PLEASE make them simple.
I sometimes wonder if it is WE ourselves that make our "Mothering" job more...complicated....?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Monday, September 21, 2009

To Be Sober.....Titus 2:4.."That they may teach the young women to be sober...."

To Be Sober.....
Titus 2:4...."That they may teach the young women to be sober..."
To be sober: To do ones duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
"And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure"(Isa. 33:6).


Common sense
A Sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is owner.
Her most basic responsibility is to make her husbands home run smoothly. She assumes the role of coordinator of all affairs. If the home doesn't run in an orderly manner, the marriage will not be joyous and fulfilling, and neither will child training.
When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet. This planning will eliminate tension and help set a peaceful mood. It is the simple things in life that can break down a marriage and bring about a bitter divorce. But on the positive side, it is the simple planning of lifes activities that can bring health, prosperity, peace, and happiness to a sound marriage and produce gratifying family relationships. Men(and children) appreciate good meals, a clean house, and an atmosphere of peace---a refuge from the stress of life.
Has your DH ever come home from work, and you had just had the WORST day in history with your children, they are sick, you just had a baby or you are sick and so is the newest addition to your little family....and all he does is ask..."Why supper is not ready?"..."Why is the house such a mess?"..and so..on....and on, and on......
Ladies, Even though all of this has happened, you are still responsible for what goes through your head, and what comes out of your moth, and also, what comes out of your attitude....
Noone can dispute, that your DH has just been insensitive, but, 2 wrongs don't make a good marriage. One "right" can make a BIG difference, in a marriage and change that selfish old guy. Always keep in mind that your job is to do a good job serving him, so planning ahead is a must... If you do a better job at your job,(serving him), then your DH wont be so insensitive.... Your DH expects you to plan ahead. He plans ahead at his place of work, otherwise he would lose his job. If you plan ahead, conflicts like this can be avoided, and your DH will be proud to know he has a better wife than the other guys at work. If you pamper your DH, in time he will become more sensitive to your burden, but you must be a soldier and show yourself strong.
My babies were sick to, plus I worked full time, and to keep everything running smoothly, was sometimes more than I could handle. As mothers, we will often be stressed over a sick child, but that is no reason to neglect our other duties. A sober wife, makes herself the match of every circumstance.

Continued next week....


Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

OK, Ladies, I must confess...
My computer is back, but, NOT what it was...I cannot figure out how to get the "Annie Johnson Flint" Poems on here now......I cannot do it like I use to...Can anyone help?
Email me, if you know how...please......
glad2bcovered@gmail.com

Thanks.......
~~~*Terri*~~~

Friday, September 11, 2009

Eight practical game rules......

Todays is called...."Eight Practical Game Rules"....
Have you ever studied the word "blasphame"?
When I was small, it struck terror in my heart. We were new christians and somewhere along the way, the preachers were able to stuff into my little brain the verse on blaspheming the Holy Ghost., "But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation"(Mark 3:29).
Today, now at a much riper age, the word "blaspheme" still causes me to shudder---as it should. To some degree, blasphemy is to put oneself above God, either by what you say or what you do. When the Pharisees heard Jesus speak, and because they wanted a reason to kill him, they accursed him of blaspheming,"making himself equal with God"(John 5:18).
This is a womans study about wives and mothers, so you must be wondering what blasphemy has to do with the subject. A lot! I tried to recall the list of 8 things that aged women were told to teach the younger women.
"That the aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be [1]sober, [2]to love their husbands, [3]to love their children, [4]to be discreet, [5]chaste, [6]keepers at home, [7]good, [8]obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed(Titus 2:3-5).
The word blasphemed jumped out at me,"...that the word of God be not blasphemed." Aged women (that's me) are commanded to teach the young women so they will not blaspheme the word of God!!! As young mothers in danger of blasphemy? The passage says they are.....blasphemeing the Word Of God. Even though it is not the unpardonable sin, it sure is a scary thing for Paul to say that about young wives.
The word blaspheme in this passage had always seemed to be an overstatement---an emphatic exxageration. How can a woman be causing the Word of God to be blasphemed is she is not discreet? Does a women really cause the Word of God to be blasphemed if she doesn't obey her husband? What if he is wrong? What if she dresses a little sexy and is not as chaste as she should be? Should that be judged as blaspheming? What does it mean to be keepers at home? Why are these eight things so critical to young wives that refusal to do them would be termed blasphemy?
God is faithful, as I pondered these thoughts, He gave me a glimpse of how to answer these questions, His answer broke my heart. I could never have dreamed the horror that would teach me just why the word blaspheme is the right word. But first, we will examine the 8 characteristics, one by one, that God commands aged women to teach young women.

Until next week,..........

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Computer down......

Ladies, I am sorry for not writing lately, my computer has been down and this one is wayyyyyy too hard for me to use.......I wont be writing again until I get mine back...Please do read the previous posts.
In this day and age, things are getting worse and worse, Please Pray for our leaders and our country, your unsaved loved ones and friends, that they may KNOW the Saviour and who He is before its forever and ever too late.......

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Hello Ladies....This weeks Poem....

Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry
Please click on the link...

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Part 2, "Titus 2".....

Here is the second part to these lessons...

"Titus 2"........

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their childen, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"(Titus 2:3-5).
Over the last several years I have asked hundreds of women, "Can you tell me the eight things God requires of a woman, which if she does not obey she will be guilty of blashpheming God's word?" Most women respond with a blank look, not having a clue as to the answer.
God told the older women to teach only one message. It is found in Titus 2. The next section in these studies cover those eight important things.
Stay tuned for the things that this part entails.......

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Thursday, August 27, 2009

God's Thougts and Mine, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

This is from Annie Johnson Flint for the week....
Please click on the link....

God's Thougts and Mine, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Time to Consider what we have learned/read?

Time to Consider....
Make a list of things you should do that will cause your husband to feel your honor, respect, and reverence. These might be simple things, like meeting him at the door when he comes home from work or reaching out to touch him in the car as you drive down the road. Practice what you have learned, and make a committment to do these things, come sunshine or storm....

What have we learned?
God created us to be help meets. We will find Gods perfect plan for women in their marriage as we seek to be the help meets he desingned us to be.
~~~A help meet is someone who helps another.
~~~Joy comes from the abundance of a thankful heart.
~~~Control and dominance are masculine traits. A womans calling is to be submissive and yielding to her husband; to do otherwise is against Gods plan.
~~~In order for us to know Gods blessings, we murt recognize, appreciate, and honor the chain of command that God has set in place.
~~~Ous obedience in the role of "help meet" is not dependent on our husbands obedience to God.
~~~God has called us to reverence our husband. A woman who does not submit to and honor her husband in this reverencing him, is out of place, out of order and out of control.

~~~*God defined your role when he said, "the head
of the woman is the man". The man was put in charge before the woman was ever created. God explained his plan clearly when he said, "I will make him a helpmeet for him". God was making it crystal clear that a man is never to be his wifes helpmeet when he said, "For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, foasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man."
God even told us ehy a woman was never to be in authority or to think of herself spiritually more able than a man, "For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being decieved was in the transgression."
When we thoroughly understnad our role as help meets, begin to practice joy and thanksgiving in performing that role, and turn our hearts to reverencing our husbands, only then can we expect to experience a heavenly marriage.


Love to all....
Terri

Monday, August 24, 2009

The purple flower PJs Girl....

The Purple Flower Pjs Girl......
Just last week, while I sat in my car in the Walmart parking lot, waiting for my daughter, I watched the people as they walked into the store. It was an interesting study in human behaviour. Of the 25 or so couples who walked into the store together,only 3 of them were touching each other, and those 3 ladies were the only one ssmiling out of the 25 or so I observed. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the prettiest, these ladies were 1 or 2's. One lady looked several(hard) years older than her tall, young, handsome husband. He had a delighted smile on his face as he watched her every move, possessively leading her by the arm. It was clear that she was enjoying telling him her tale. I could see it was a good story, because he threw his head back and laughed freely just as they walked through the door. He was enjoying his woman.
Another couple passed by quietly, deliberetly brushing up against each other, saying nothing, but the womans smile said everything. the third smiling couple took the award of the day. He was a muscled-up gorgeous man, and she was almost past describing. She was wearing flannel PJ bottoms that were cut off just above the knees. The shortened pants had 5 inch purple flowers scattered over the white, almost see through material. She was short. and a lot overweight, with the most weight bouncing in those "extra tight" PJ shorts. Her hair was chopped off in an very "home" cut style, and really needed to be washed. Her gorgeous man had her in a headlock hug. She was laughing and poking him in the ribs while hollering for him to ler her go. You would have thought he was hugging Miss America by the way he was grinning. He was really enjoying his purple flower sweetie. I caught his eye, and he grinned back at me, not one bit embarressed. That gal had totally won his heart and my respect. He was proud to be her man. Of all those "beautiful"a girls who had walked into Walmart while I waited, it was this girl who was publicly being adored and appreciated. I suspect that she has never removed her husbands hugging arm for any reason, much less to save her hairdo. She has accepted all of his overtures with thanksgiving and delight.
In the coming few weeks, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of our children, etc. These things are important and necessary, but, the buck stops right here at the action of the word reverence.
A man will allow his woman many, many, faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great.
If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankdul to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be very overweight, have hair needs help, not cook or very little, be a little lazy, and be not pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is wonderful.....HE WILL LOVE HER!!! I know, it sounds ridiculous,but that is just how it is.
Women, on the other hand, want their husbands to perform. They expect them to be spiritual, hardworking, diligent, sensitive, and an attentive parent, or they will take personal offense and begin a campaign to change him onto "their" image. I find it amazing that a woman would marry an MAN(as he is) and then become angry because he continues to act like one.
What does it mean to reverence?
The very act of reverence is extreme appreciation profound thankfulness that this man, JUST AS HE IS, has chosen to love me, JUST AS I AM.
How many traits should a young maid carry that is looking to be married?.....really only one, a grateful heart......let me explain....
That girl must be joyful and thankful for the love that that man has for her who marrys her. The more that young lady believes she is fortunate that her man chose her over others, the better the fondation for the true marriage of 2 souls. If the young lady feels that the man is lucky to get her, that young lady is looking for her very OWN helpmeet and she thinks you are the one to fill the job...She will spend the rest of her life trying to change that young man.

To reverence your husband is to be thankful and delighted.

Like the purple flower pjs girl. It means the you must be the opposite of the "dont mess my hair girl", and that you believe in him enough to dream good things aboaut him. You reverence him by teaching your sons and daughters that their daddy is the #1 man, and then by helping making a sign in their hearts and maybe in reality, so everyone can see how you think and feel about him. In summary, it is to believe that YOU are blessed for being loved by this wonderful man.

Next week, some things to study....

OH!! Ladies, I do hope this gives you courage....don't give up....a short note from me.....this thing called reverence is funny, but, it is true, it really works, this happened to my DH and I...I decided to reverence, it took time, for him to trust me, but, it works....
If your man decides to go the other way, PLEASE don't quit becoming what God would have you be...work on YOU!




Love to all who read....
Terri

Friday, August 21, 2009

Compassion, much needed for these tumultous times.........

Compassion....
Who has compassion?
Who has love?
Who has generosity?
Who has a general kindness?

I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight
That to somebodys need made me blind;
But I never have yet felt a tinge of regret
For being a little too kind.
Author unknown
Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Friday, August 14, 2009

The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Today this is the Poem...I hope you can let it touch your heart of hearts....
Click on the link....
The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Thursday, August 13, 2009

For What We Are Watching

Todays Poem from Annie Johnson flint, I pray it touches your heart.

Please click on the link....

For What We Are Watching

Love ~~~*Terri*~~~....

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Thank-you!!!!

I just wanted to say a GREAT BIG THANK-YOU!!!, for all those of you who read this blog, I pray that these words will touch your heart of hearts and begin to change you in a way that DH can see without you even saying a word...
Terri

Not Fair.......

Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.

This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Dont mess my hair....

Well, I didnt get this typed as soon as I wanted, but, it is for today.....


Dont mess my hair!
A few years ago, a meeting went on, where men sat in a circle and tried to figure out some answers for some grave matters that they were facing as well as, the course of action to take. Their wives were right beside them or behind them. I looked at one young man, who I will call, Charles. He was there with his attractive wife. In the midst of an intense part of the conversation Charles leaned back and draped his arm around his wifes shoulder. She immediately reacted with obvious irritation, shaking his hand off her shoulder, and leaning forward as if to get away from his embrace. Then she carefully fixed her hair where his arm had disturbed it. His mind was jerked off of the serious problem at hand and was focused on her, now-----as was the attention of almost everyone in the room. To her, brushing him off was nothing, but to all those in the room(including her DH), it was an act of putting him down like a thoughtless inept child. Everyone felt his humiliation. After that, Charles had nothing else to contribute. For the duration of the meeting, he sat downcast, properly chastened, with his hands in his lap. I wanted to get up and visit with her but, did not. It would have shocked her to know that everyone in that room, probably was thinking what I was. She continued to straighten herself, unaware that she was wasting her time trying to look pretty, for she had lost all that was lovely and feminine in that one act of disdain.
Carrying that kind of rejection, on a regular basis, Charles will never really be able to cherish his wife, and he will never have what it takes to become an effective leader or minister. Yes, she is his wife, and he will undoubtly continue to love her. But, his love will always be more of an attempe to win her. Until she repents, he cannot love her with abandoned joy. A mans ego is a fragile thing. How can a man cherish someone who cares so little for his reputation?
Her act was testimony to the state of her heart. She thought more of her hair than her husbands honor. She was rebelling against God in not reverencing her husband. To reverence is an active verb. It is something you so. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence our DHs, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others. Charles was not free; he was troubled and bound inside, and guess who made him feel that way...His wifey, that thought more of her hair, than her DH.

Regardless of how a woman may feel about her husband, she can choose to obey and honor him. A husband is told to love his wife. It involves how he feels toward her. You can will to do what you ought to do much sooner than you can be motivated by your feelings to act. As we said earlier, when you choose the right way, feelings will soon follow.

A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple(minded and heart), and knoweth nothing(even with years of schooling)(Proverbs 9:13).

"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands(by your words and actions)(Proverbs 14:1).

Love to all who read, and may it touch your heart enough to change....
Terri

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

The Meaning of Meek;

Not easily provoked(do others "bug" you?), or irritated, submissive to divine will(even if I dont see it that way?), gentle, yielding(is it only on the outside, or does ones heart truly submit?), forebearing(love through whatever)(not harsch), humble, mild, unassuming(ouch!). Does one ever have evil surmisings?

Much Love to you...

Terri

Monday, July 20, 2009

Kings and Kingdoms, contd'.....

Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language.
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?

Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Friday, July 17, 2009

Spiritual Armour....

~~~~My DH thought I should post this this morning, so here it is....
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.

Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Kings and Kingdoms, cont'd.....

Good Morning Ladies, My garden takes more time than one thinks....mowing lawn, having Grandsweeties, and other such, time flies, so here is just a bit for this week,.........

Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.

Love from my Heart,

Terri

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Kings and Kingdoms.....(New Chapter Ladies)....

A wise woman always receives her husbands overtures with delight, no matter how clumsy they may be.
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."

Part 2 of this text next week....


Love to all who read....
Terri

Friday, July 3, 2009

Bear with me.....

to all who read this blog.....Summer is upon me ...I know I posted this earlier, but, thought I should post this again.....Summer is extremely busy for me, with my 11 Grandchildren, 1 acre garden, 1 acre of lawn and other sorts........

My blog might have to take a back seat to all of this..... in the summer...BUT>>>>>> PLEASE>>>>Bear with me..I will post as often as I can......

Love to all who read this blog...
Terri

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~


God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.

"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).

Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)

Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.

Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.

Love to all who read....
Terri

Thursday, June 25, 2009

How is your week?

Hello Dear Freiends...
How is your week? Are you still trying to follow Gods plan for your marriage, or have you let the enemy of our souls win? Please don't give up, sometimes we just need to press in, keep on...and hang in there...then, God will move in our hearts or ?......
My marriage is not without it's trials, but, there is no comparison with what it use to be....I do have a glorious marriage, a DH that treats me just like I am his princess, because in my heart and actions he is my Prince Charming.................Yes, he has faults, yes I have faults, but, I CHOOSE to not dwell on them, I CHOOSE to let it roll off my back, like a duck does water(sometimes it takes prayer, on my knees and a lot of forgiveness)....but...it does happen..I am Free to love!
Don't give up....

Love to all who read...,.
Terri

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

This is for this week, May you be blessed with this poem....

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

Love to all who read....
Terri

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Washed in the Blood of the Lamb?

The title may give you questions, Is your heart washed in the Blood of the Lamb?
Rev 7:9-14, 1:4-9, and ;Hebrews 10:29
Is THE blood of THE lamb on the doorposts of your heart?
When we are deliberet in our disobedience to what God has called us to do, that is when it becomes wrong for us....In spite of repeated warnings by the Holy Spirit, Do you still disobey?, and make excuses for not obeying?
Satan would like to rob us of courage in our Christian lives and have us look at bad situations, and bring our courage low. If I can believe I am saved(washed in the blood of the lamb[i.e., born again]), my courage will come back. Satans trick is to make us believe lies, and not obey "The Word Of God"....he makes us think, were ok, to just walk the fence, with one foot in the Word and one foot in the World....

Love to all who read,
Terri

Monday, June 22, 2009

June 22, 2009 Monday...Earning His Trust...........

Earning His Trust....
Have you ever wondered why your DH does not trust your judgement?, or even worse you? Read on and see how you can change his feelings in that area towards you....
Beware, this may take work on your part in your heart..........
Not all women are as wise as some women. Years ago I knew a sweet young girl who was really dumb. She had a very tender heart(which she thought was Gods love and compassion in her), and she always showed a weakness for men who "needed" her. Her name was Sunny, and she was as fair and lovely as the Sunshine she was named for. Sunny always picked up hitchhikers to witness to, even though the older told her this practice was not wise. One day she picked up a young man of Arab descent, who looked and talked very romantic. To make a long story short, Sunny married him.
She was soon pregnant with their first child, and in a matter of weeks, the violence began. Over the next 7 years, Sunny was rugularly subjected to his alcoholic rages and beatings, and she endured his flaunted unfaithfulness. She and the children were alone for days at a time, even weeks, as her husband stayed with "friends". He returned home to vent his rage and take the few dollars she earned to support their growing family. When Sunny was pregnant with their third baby, Ahmed came home drunk and tried to kil her with a butcher knife. Only the miraculous intervention of an Almighty God spared her life.
Every time Ahmed came home raging drunk, Sunny would leave the house with the loud railing accusations and go to her mothers home and cry out her sorrows. She would get on the phone and call all of her friends and tell them what Ahmed was doing to her. But she did not leave him.
One day, I saw her at a church meeting---a huddled, sodden mass of tears and exhaustion. Sunny confessed to plotting her husbands murder. She said she couldn't tolerate life any more as it was, but her children needed her. So she had decided to kill her husband instead. Her murder plan was well thought out and could have succeeded if God had not sropped her.
I spent hours in prayer and counseling with Sunny that evening. I asked her to make a decision, either to leave her Husband once and for all and put the pieces of her life bback together, or to stay with him and begin a campaign of winning his heart and saving their life together. I fully expected her to leave him that night; but I discovered something amazing about her: Sunny really wanted Gods will in her life. She had grasped and eternal vision about life, and she now believed God could save her man.(DO YOU????)
I knew of Sunnys weakness to blab everything ; she could not keep a secret to save her life. I also knew her husband was a very private man, and that her blabbing about his sins kept him in a rage, as it would any man. I explained to Sunny that in order to win her husbands heart, she needed to reverence him. This did not mean she had to see some goodness or worth in him that was not really there, but that she needed to show him esteem for the sake of her children and herself.
Sunny alredy did everything else right. She was obedient, faithful, cheerful, a keeper at home and a help meet. I encouraged her to go one step further and look for an opportunity to reverence her husband. She was not to speak ill of him ever again. Her conversations with others, as well as with him, would be only praise and appreciation.
Sunny had a learners heart(Do You?). She took my advice, and the change in her husband was obvious in just one week. It is amazing how vulnerable a man is when a woman treats him with honor. He stopped going off with his drunken friends and got a job so he could help support the family. He came to Church occasionally and seemed amazed at the comments prople made. "Sunny says you play the saxophone like a genius". "Sunny told us you were a hamdsome man", "We've been looking forward to meeting you; Sunny told us....." Her Husband was shocked, and Sunny continued on her mission. A week or so later, she got encouraging boosts in the form of a dream.
She dreamed that a top government official came to the office building where her husband worked on a cleanin g crew. The official had a meeting with the manager of the business and told him,"I need to hire a man for the managerial position in my department. The qualifications required are faithfulness, hardworking, honesty, punctuality, and intelligence....no special education needed. We can always teach him what he does not know, but, we cant give him work ethics. So do you have anyone who has a good work ethic like that? the manager said, "I have one guy who fits that profile, but he is just the clean-up man." In Sunnys dream, the government official said, "I don't care if the guy can't read or write, if he is faithful, hardworking guy that I can trust and depend on, then I will hire him and double his wages." In her dream, her husband was hired by the government official to fill a managerial position.
When Sunny awoke, she excitedly told her husband the dream. She was sure that it was a sign he was destined for greatness. Remember what we learned when we studied "Mr. Visionary", how greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments of the lack of them? Previously, when Sunny called her friends to "TELL" them what a creep her husband was, she was reinforcing to him the belief that she thought he was a looser. She publicly shamed him, and he continued to be shameful. Her opinion became his frame of reference. Now Sunny began to publicly exalt him, with miraculous results.
Her husband thought of her dream as silly, but he held his head a little higher when he went to his regular job the next day---on time! Sunny went to her mothers house and got on the phone. She called her friends and told them her dream. This time.....her DH did not mind her blabbing!
To my knowledge, her husband is still on the cleaning crew, and Sunnys dream was just that---a dream. But it expressed her heart toward her husband, and her opinion of him was far more important to him than any job he could ever get. When she dreamed he was a winner and told it around, Her husband tried to live up to that image-----LADIES..THIS IS A KEY..WHAT WE SAY ABOUT OUR DH'S IS HOW THEY ARE----So do say uplifting things, or tear them down because they are as human as you?
Her husband found such pleasure in her life that he wanted to find out about her God....In time, He learned to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. The las time I visited with her, they were both growing in the Lord together.
The Scripture says, she won him "without word" (Bible) by her "conversation"(1Peter 3:1). God's way works. Who would have ever believed it? Sunny did-------Can You?
Ladies, where is your heart in this story(true by the way)....Do you lift up your husband in front of others(ie...family, children, friends, church people)...or do YOU make remarks, tell tale things, tell about his faults?
Lets try this week, to ONLY say good things about our DHs....It not only changes our hearts, but, others too.....

LOVE TO ALL WHO READ THIS BLOG....
TERRI

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

PLEASE BEAR WITH ME>>>>

Dear Ones...
Please bear with me, through the summer...My schedule may have to take a back seat to my 1 acre garden and 1 acre of lawn, Grandbabies, building on our house and may other sorts, because of Summer...
Please stick with this blog however, and watch for my articles....

Thanks for your Grace...
Terri

Comfort zones....

Comfort zones....
Men are not the uncaring creatures they sometimes appear to be. They highly treasure their families and like for their homes to be comfort zones. they want respect and a family that gives them security and purpose. Even though home life may get dull, men greatly value their own woman and children.
Men may allow the lust of the flesh to pull them away from that which they value, but they try to get back to that comfort zone. It is this natural need for his own famuly that keeps a man caring for and bearing the responsibility for his wife and children. When a woman does not provide for her husband a comfortable nest and a reverent attitude, she has to rely on his goodness to "keep him" faithful. She is a fool to expect him to be a good husband when she is not being the helpmeet God has created for her to be.
A man coming home to a tense or messy home, lousy meals, and a wife who is critical, judgemental, and or bossy might not have the "goodness" to remain faithful if a young sweet, kind, woman at work seeks to pull him away with the promise (illusion) of a more fullfilling comfort zone.
Woman take it for granted that a man will be faithful because it is his Christian duty to be faithful(and it is). It is also a womans Christian duty to be a help meet: honoring, obeying, serving, and reverencing.
Experience has proven that failure on a woman part will make it much easier for a man to fail his obligations to the family. a satisfied man will cherish his "comfort zone" enough to resist the "evil woman" and her empty promises.
Counselors agree that in almost all marriage conflicts both husband and wife share the blame almost equally. A mans guilt is usually easy to see. A womans guilt is less obvious but just as destructive and just as evil. God ordained a woman to be a help meet. She is to provide a haven of rest and satisfaction, and to be a delight to her husband. ARE YOU??????
When she fails to obey God, there is often a high price to pay. When she obeys God, even if she is married to a "lost" man, she will usually reap heavenly rewards.

Love to all who read, may you reap heavenly rewards by following this and "The Word of God"....
Terri