Monday, December 29, 2008

Keeping your heart with all diligence.....

Good Morning...
Today is the after Christmas type of morning....We have A LOT of family that are not believers(Please Pray), so Christmas to them is not what Christmas is to us,,,,and finding the balance in all of that is sometimes hard. But, to be able to visit with children that have been estranged from us for years, is a "Joy"....To get to know our Grandchildren, is a plus that I cannot express in words....
I have also had some others come against me, for what I write. I have shared that I will never come against, my sisters in the Most Holy Faith, so, Please continue to Pray for me, that I will share only truth and be able to graciously accept, those that come against what I write.
Today, I thought I would share a little of what is on my heart, (we will get back to the lesson next week...), Just a quote from a book that I was reading....
"True Christianity is a religion(if you will) of the heart. All outward actions and professions are worthless unless the heart is right with a Holy God. The passage of Proverbs 4:23 applies here..."Keep thy heart with all diligence(trying, failing, repenting and trying again),; for out of it are the issues of life." The heart of man is the source of life, and this "source of life" needs to be well protected so its waters are not poisoned.
I have been thinking alot about my own heart, "Where is it"?
Do I really want to be what God wants, or am I following a "following"? Am I really trying to listen to the Holy Spirit, os am I just pretanding?
Everyone is born with a self-centered nature. "There is none righteous, no, not one"(Romans 3:10). This sinful nature is set on obtaining and protecting its own desires. This nature exposes itself very early in life. Left undieciplined, it grows stronger. The longer this nature is left unsubdued, the harder it becomes to direct. Consequently, if the will of a child is not brought into subjection to the parents will at a v ery early age, it becomes difficult for that child to submit and to also submit to God, when He calls their hearts. Parents leave the imprint of their own characters on their children as they train them, be it good or bad. god also desires to imprint His image on His children. As we accept Christs redemptive power and pattern our wills after His, Gods image is stamped upon us. (2 cor. 3:18)

Much Love to all of you my "Sisters"....

Monday, December 15, 2008

A "Prayer" for boys...

Thank-you God, for boys.

Little boys and big boys, and yes, that overgrown boy I sometimes see in the man I married. Please keep my mind from criticizing them sooo often; my thoughts from being so quick to scold them.

Give me the patience to listen to them, the wisdom to understand them, the spirit of humor to laugh with them, and the strength to sometimes endure with them. Give me the courage to differ with them and discipline them(my sons) when I have to. But make me the kind of woman who can comfort them, help them, and encourage them---for only then can they be happy and enjoy themselves.

Thank-you God, for them, and help me to take care of them.
God bless my boys.

Thoughts and a letter from your toddler....

Greetings, from me and my blog to my friends/Sisters.........

I thought this week, we would take a break and I would share something else that I have in my heart...just some thoughts....

This is called,

"A letter from your toddler"..

I am your little 3 year old boy, and I am thinking I could share some things with you mom.

First, I would like to say, be a happy mother! When I see your furrowed brow and your face covered with tension, dissappointment and displeasure, I worry myself that I did something and yet again, and I may have. then, I want to ask and may..."Did I do something, mom?"

Sometimes you tell me to do something and I don't do it...I know that you see this, mom, and part of me is glad that I escaped the task. But that other part of me doesn't feel good just the same. I also have a habit of not listening to you when you talk to me, becasue I have learned that I do not have to do "it" the first time, you will keep on me several other times, before I really have to do it. then I get spanked, but, is it really my fault, if you don't follow through with what you told me to do the first time?

Don't get angry with me, when your anger leads to harsch words and actions I find that I get fearful and my whole world turns upside down. I am soo little and you sooo big. I spill, and wet my pants, and torment my sister/brother. It's much better if you sit me on a chair until we both cool down, than to discipline me in anger, remember, mom, I don't understand why you are soooo angry. I want to learn to be kind and good, and I want to learn from your example.

Pray for me mom, I am blissfully aware of what is ahead of me, but, you can pray for my friends, companions and influences I will have. Pray that I can be strong and seek God's will early in life. Pray that God can grant you the wisdom to guide my little hands, heart, and feet. Pray every day that God may watch over me and keep me safe in body and spirit.

Its fun when you talk silly to me, and get down and act as if your 2 also, but, mom, sometimes it might be better if you act like the mother more than my friend. If all I hear is baby talk, that is how I will talk, stay on your level mom, and I will learn to talk properly.

Let me help, setting the table, working in the garden, picking up toys. I wont want to spend a lot of time doing the same thing, but, work with me, don't do it for me...set a timer, if need be, remember though mom, I need to be taught and it not done for me. When I do these things, I love to tell Dadddy when he comes home. I need to learn to work, even when I don't want to. When it's easier for you to do it yourself, please take the time to show me. Teach me good habits and make me obey without having to tell me more than once.

I don't like the word no, I always like it, when your "no" turns to yes, if I "bug" you enough, but mom, maybe 2 would be a good time to learn that "no" means "no".... sometimes I need to learn to submit just for the sake of submission, other wise, how I hear the Lord calling my heart when its time? We are both learning mom, you to keep your word, and me to submit.

We both feel better if we get our sleep and eat good. Naps aren't so bad if you take the time to read to me before hand. It makes Daddy real happy if you have me ready for bed in good time at night, then everyone is happy.

I love candy, but, if I eat too much, I do get grouchy.

Mom I am so shy around other people. I like it if I can just stay close to you or Daddy when we are away from home. Please don't push me to do things that I am too young to do. When I am rady, I will join the other children in their games. Smile happily at me and love me with your whole heart and this may be just the boost I need, but, if I am rebellious and cantankerous, I still need discipline, I think you are wise enough to tell the difference.

Take time to swing me on my swing, comment on the "beautiful" picture I just drew, or help me on my puzzle, playing house or whatever I am doing, it makes me feel loved. I will be much better behaved boy if I am listened to....

When you discipline me, point out the wrong attitude, or action. Remind me that "I" am not bad, but the action, attitude was. You love me, but you do not like it when I do not listen. Help me to understand the best a 2 year or 3 year old can, but then help me to be happy again. I am such a pliable little fellow, mom, and if we can get the right foundations laid, there's potential for me in this old world, and in the service of God.

Signed...Your little child.

When boys help make cookies....

When boys help make cookies....

If the cookie cutter dissappears, you might find the graceful Angel hitched to the tractor, being used as a plow. You almost wonder how her expression can remain so demure.


The cookie rack becomes an excellent hayrack, filled with "hay"(your fresh baked cookies, grin). If mom has her back turned, it may even end up on the floor, the "hay" tumbling into the dried mud on the floor from last nights outdoor excursion. Together we pick them up while he is delighted that a snowman lost an arm, He can eat it!!!


The innocent Teddy Bear cocokie may have tell tale signs of tractor tire marks on his torso.


While cutting stars, you get to hear "Twinkle, Twinkle, little star....." in the priceless lisp of a 2 year old. And you suddenly realize what all you would have missed if you had let the grocery store bake your cookies this year.

Boys are wonderful!!!

Begin today.......

Begin Today....
Dream not too much of what you'll do tomorrow,
How well you'll work perhaps another year;
Tomorrows chance you do not need to borrow~
Today is here.

Boast not too much of mountains you will master,
The while you linger in the vale below;
To dream is well, but plodding brings us faster
To where we go.

Talk not too much about some new endeavor
You mean to make a little later on,
Who idles now will idle on
Till life is gone.

Swear not some day to break some habit's fetter,
When this old year is dead and passed away.
If you have need of living wiser, better,
Begin Today!!

Monday, December 8, 2008

A joyful Heart....

Hello Ladies;
How was your week, good I hope, How was your homework, How did it go?
Did you think about the words you listed with hope of learning to apply them to your lives? What about the things you want to see changed in your life?
As I look back and read about the things I wanted to change(I just ran across my note cards with those things written on them), and thinking this will never happen, I am amazed that they have...a few I still need to work on, but, for the most part they have changed.....
Many, are gone and my attitudes and feelings are changed, and only with the help of the Lord can and did they change, PLEASE don't give up yet, habits don't take anytime to make, but, time to change.

Now, for lesson 3 in our series of "Are we really created to be his helpmeet?"
Thank-you for reading, may this lesson be a blessing to our Spirits, and make us stop and think how we are towards our DHs.
By having the Joy of the Lord you will find the strength afforded for this marriage making journey you are on. Proverbs 17:22 says...."A merry heart doeth good like a medicine....."
We all know having a merry or happy heart thwarts some ill health and sadness and the opposite is true, also. A merry heart is the basis of health and happiness. When ones heart is happy, it will go a long way to rebuilding your marriage into Gods heavenly gift it was meant to be. Not the last part of Proverbs 17:22...."....but, a broken Spirit drieth up the bones...." How are your bones doing?, are they dry?
A broken Spirit and dry bones are the result of NOT having a merry heart.
When your DH first fell in Love with you, you were fun and laughter. Everything in you was thrilled at the very sight of him. Your activities were for both of you. Who is he married to now? Are you still thrilled at the very sight of him? Are you still full of laughter, or are your bones broken and your heart sad?
Flowers flourish in sunshinem Is your marriage flourishing with the sunshine of happiness and laughter? I am NOT saying that ther arent not times of seriousness, there needs to be, but, I am saying, where is the sunshine of laughter? What would DH say?
Proverbs 15:13 says..."A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance; but, by sorrow of heart the Spirit is broken."`
Our face tells all about us, smiling or frowning? Again, what does your DH see?
How does DH see you? Happy and full of sunshine or discontented and unhappy? Does he smile when he looks upon you, or is he "sorry" he married you? Where has your womanly charm gone? Do you still charm him the way you use to, or has it dissappeared? Now, you all say, that goes away after one is not a newlywed anymore, does it have to? My DH and I still smile at each other and my womanly charm is there and, although it did dissappear for a while, it is back and my DH LOVES it!!! Even when one is not what the rest of the world would call a "model", one can still be the delight of ones DH....
Everyone is drawn to a smile and wants to befriend a happy person. But, a unhappy countenance and attitude repels all. A rediant smile is infectious. Men are highly attracted to a smile. If DH is not wanting to stay at home, is it your attitude and frown? A gigle that draws and a merry heart will help to draw him to you and home. Remember, Proverbs 17:22
Women today, spend millions a year to make themselves more attractive to the male gender. I wonder how much money a merry heart and a giggle and a attractive attitude would cost in todays world? A little of ourselves and humility go a long way towards this, dont tyou think?
If a husband had an affair with another woman, no matter what kind, we woman want to stand our ground and not budge. DH is wrong, no doubt about it!, it would be great if he were more like God, but, he is not. God had provided a way for your man to be sanctified through you and delivered from these temptations through you, his wife. A man is a fool to wink at sin; playing with temptations is even worse. You already know this, that is why a woman reacts with jealousy and anger. (Solomen 8:6)
You are now with millions of other wives, your reactions are normal and as they continue; and you withold yourself from him until "he proves being loyal to you"...the same thing will happen to you as everyone else in this situation; bad, bad marriages and possibly divorce.
Is life fair, NO!!! Sometimes marriage is not fair. The women he is around all day long are not fair(if he works with them). DH has not and is not playing by YOUR rules. You bet, your thinking, isnt he wrong? ABSOLUTELY!!! Even though your justified with your response, it is leading to destroying your marriage. You can keep on acting the same as you always have, but, it wont save your marriage. You will be alone, surviing alone, eating alone, raising the children alone, and sleeping alone. NO, you didnt allow him to humiliate you anymore, you did it...and you are still ALONE!!! He will be with that "other' womenm but, you will still be standing for your rights, ALONE!!!
If another comes along, hw will be doing the same thing as your DH---its a merry go round and your caught in it.
This is not to say, you caused your DHs sin, I am just saying if you really, really want to win him back, your basic game plen MUST CHANGE! Without a game plan(so to speak), your arch rival, your competitor(the "other" woman) will win. She is the enemy of your hearts desire. Your negative attitude and actions and responses are NOT going to change a thing.
Oh, I wish Id have known this when I went through this exact thing.
All of a sudden your carnel DH is not going to mature and "smell the cappicinno". No man is going to crawl out of his wifes criticalness and condemnation to be a better man. He will NEVER be presurred or coerced into loving you, believe me, I tried!
A man loves a smile, remember?
Why would he leave the "other" woman, who is a giggly, laugh at his jokes(even when they are dumb), kind of woman to a grumpy, discontented, unhappy, frowning, wife? You cannot make him love you; forget the controlling words that have sharp controlling barbs, because he will run, run, run straight into the "other" womans arms. Forget telling him that he is "ruining his testimony", hurting the children, ruining his home, and dont forget, "What does God say about......"....Forget it - it wont bring him home, he will respond by wanting the "other" woman, that is the way of the carnel man(of which DH is) He is not functioning out of morality, HE IS A LONELY MAN SEEKING, WHO HE IS, IN A WOMANS APPROVAL AND ADMIRATION!
Well, now your thinking; "If he were Godly, he would think of "us", not only His needs, he would do right regardless. "You" also know he needs to repent, BUT, NOT, for the sake of an unhappy discontented, angry, frowning wife. Why should he? Again, you can "hold out", and lose your DH, as I said earlier, or you can "draw" him back. Wife, please realize you are at war(in the spiritual) for the institution of marriage(of which God has ordained) and the family. Are you as attractive(not only outside,but, it helps,) but inside;" ornament of a meek and quiet spirit..." This will only happen if your willing to loose your pride.
This "pride" issue is for married, unmarried, single, divorced and every woman. Our pride keeps us from being humble and enough so, that we can admit our wrongs, even if we "dont want to". I know, you are thinking, "but, but, but, he, he, he, did, did, did,...."Yes, may he did this and that, but, were dealing with YOUR heart not "his" right at the moment. As long as one keeps looking and pointing at the other person, one will still end up in a troubled marriage. Pride does this to us...
How do you act, feel, dress, when in competition for the most precious thing on the earth? (just imagine with me for a second), Wouldnt you do anything to win-if it meant your life and death? Of course, you would. You are now engaged in this battle for your husband and marriage....What are you going to do about it? Stand by and hold your ground? Remember your DH is going to love what is lovely. You must be more lovely than the "other" woman(not only outside, but, inside.)
Men love vulnerable women.
I am a self started, born leader, teacher, organizer and facilitator, which, I believe, are gifts given me from God, but, when not funneled through humility and Grace, it comes across as bossy, controlling, critical, impulsive, the head of our household and so on. NOT at all enticing to my DH, let alone others. But, when sanctified by the HolySpirit and when brought under humility it grows to be lovely, instead. I was repulsive to my DH once upon a time(not my weight, looks or hair) but that way deep down inside kind of thing, who I was, what I was and how I was. I found my smile, giggle, vulnerability and happy countenance and dependance upon him as a man again... When I let my DH feel that I am impressed with his stories and jokes, need him(in more ways than one...[grin]), He has and will keep on responding....
The "other" woman knows these things and more and uses it to her advantage, she appealed to his wisdom and in helping her when she is in need of it,her vulneraility builds him up.(wrong as it is). SHE is not "right" in what she is doing, but, she is getting his attention, is she not? She is drawing him by her vulnerability. You probably want to do something to her right now, but, we wont discuss that. Wives, get down on your DHs level and make yourself more attractive(not all physcally) but, in the ways we have been, be vulnerable, content, happy, "NEED" him...more than the "other" woman. And even if your marriage is ok, or good, try these pointers and let God make your marriage very good!
Dont be deceived and take your marriage for granted, love wont just exist, bacause your married. We dont live in a perfect world and you are not married to a perfect man. In a sense, you need to earn your moments with DH and cultivate his love for you. Pray, Pray, and Pray more.
I remember, 3 years ago, when I first embarked on this Marriage journey, It was a huge mountain to me,almost insurmountable, that just loomed over me, so tall, that I did not know where to start. I was frightened, although when I realized how I treated my DH and how women adored him, I suddenly realized how Id best do the same, because I was loosing him. Now you are thinking, I have lots of money and clothes and makeup and so and so forth,,,no, no, no, and no again.....we live in poverty level income and I am a SAHG..sooooo....gray hair and am older...BUT>>>>from a discontented, critical, angry, frowning wife, I am learning how to be fun, smiling, happy, giggly, vulnerable(now dont forget, I am a self starter, leader, organizer and so on)... and the Lord is showing me more I need to change to be his helpmeet.
I am being recreated in my heart and it is beginning to show on the outside, I am learning how to let my DH be "strong" for me and use my feminine wiles for him(I do believe God gave us women to help keep our men to us only).
As he hears appreciation for him in your voice, he will then appreciate you. If he hears criticalness, sarcasm, correction and an unnappreciative tone in your voice, then....need I repeat myself?
Men are vision oriented and need to feel strong, wanted and loved. Your "weapons" are right at your fingertips, and given to you by God, a loving, kind, adoring, happy, and contented self,(if it includes the physical, that is ok too!).
We can fight for him without himiliating him. Only God can give that to you! As I look back, I really dont know how it happened, this respect and reverence for my DH, I only know one step at a time and God guided me through the whole way.
This does not mean you wont blow it and explode and say the wrong thing, you will!, your just as human as him. But, there will be something growing waayyy deep down inside that you too, cannont put your finger will happen and you wont even hardly know it...Now, one must use self control and exercise listening to the Holy Spirit(if one is Born again)...but relax, God wants to help you become your DHs helpmeet...
God will stand with you when you stand for your man, if you keep holding onto "you" you will stand alond.
Memories flood as I type, I remember the day God showed how I treated my Dh, I must have cried for hours and fell flat on the floor and also repented, it was an awful feeling, but, then God could work, until we are so repulsed by what and how we treat our DHs or act towards them, God cannot work, he will let us go our merry ways, and guide, us but, He CANNOT do what he really wants to.
It will not happen overnight, it will take time, but, if you stand by your DH,
God will be right there with you. Now, please that does not mean wallowing in sin with him, God will show you what and how to do.
So, smile, be vulnerable, loose a few pounds, cook what he likes, clean like he likes it, and draw him and entice him..dont forget what drew him to you in the first place.

God does wnat me to be the best helpmeet for my Dh.
Remember Proverbs 15:13...."A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance, but, by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken."
When a woman is constantly unhappy, discontented, angry, frustrated etc., a man will go the other direction, he is feeling rejected because he is not fulfilling those needs. Is your spirit broken? Do you have a poor me attitude? No matter whree or what station of life were in right now, one can still find happiness and have the strength to be vulnerable, giggly and break the "poor me" attitude. BUT<>

To ponder-----What can I do that will make him smile in this next week?

To Study;
The word "JOY".
Think about this word all week....
See you next week.....

Much, Much, Love to you my friends and Sisters....

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Part 2..."What exactly is a "Helpmeet"?

Good morning Ladies and friends,Gretings in Jesus name....

Here it is a week later, and how was your week?, tough, trials, hard, happy, frustrating.....well, you are not alone with these feelings. We are human and one can run all of these emotions plus more(not to give room for just letting our flesh run away with us)....the thing I want to zero in on, is ...."How did you handle them?", especially with DH?

Did you blow it, come "unglued", yell, snap, get silent...?,,,beleive you me, I have experienced all of these plus.....PLEASE to know, you are not alone......

Do you know Jesus as your Saviour, so you have the power to overcome?, or are you just "playing" the Christianity game?

Lets go on and discover what our lesson is about this week....


Genesis 2:18, 21,22

And the Lord God said,

"It is not good that the man should be alone I will make him an help meet for him"

And the Lord God cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up his flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

Now, all kinds of questins are running through your mind, right? Like I said last week, I am not a writer, but, just want to share what is on my mind.

Is "He" perfect and will He ever be?

I think, you can answer that....As any of you have learned, getting married doesn't really mean living "Happily ever after", it means a lot of hard work and ups, and downs. Every person is a sinner and we need to realize, that our "man" will make a lot of mistakes, walk in his flesh and generally be a "sinner".....Just as I said earlier, we "know" we are sinners and give ourselves room for our sin, "Why not your man?"

It will take a real effort to make a good marriage, this takes doing things one normally wouldn't do perhaps, maybe every day, hour and sometimes minute. God gave you to your man and "YOU" are the most precious gift God could ever give to him.

Then He tells us in Proverbs 18:22, that man needs a wife. "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing; and obtaineth favour of the Lord."

If you are a wife, you are created to fill a need, a helper ;made for the needs of a man. A woman is by nature created and endued with every thing needed to be his complete helpmeet. You are not in your proper place if you don't function within your created nature, if you are filling a mans place.

You were to make him "complete", not to get personal fulfillment "parallel" to him. So you see, a woman cannot function like a man and the opposite it true also, neither is created to function like the other.

For you ladies, that are single from whatever reason, Pleas stick with me, learning this will endue you with the necessary tools to be a "Feminine" part of our society, and if the Lord would ever to put you with
"Your Helpmeet", then you will be in your created place.

Do you think Adam was excited when He awoke from his divine sleep? What do you think He thought when He awake with "Her" next to him? We will leave your thoughts in your own head, but, If God really did create a special woman for "him", then could that woman be you for your man? Do you think men are that much different then Adam, when He awoke?

Do you really want to be His helpmeet? Do you want to be His helper?

Gods will is that you "want" to do those things....When you are a helpmeet to your man, you are a helper to God, for God commissioned men for a purpose and gave him a "woman" to assist in His divine calling. When you honor your man(respect, trust, reverence), then you do the same about God. Are we 1/2 heartedly reverencing our man?, then we are 1/2 heartedly reverencing God. There is a direct link to those 2. I remember when God brought that to me..whew!..that was a big pill to swallow, I was disrespecting my man, and that went for God also,,Now, you say, "wait a minute".....think about it, if we follow Gods word only to the extent it does not "disrupt" our lives, and only to the point, that others are not "bothered", by our Christianity, Is that less than God would want for you?...and the same is true for your man, is that less than God would want for your respect for him?

As we serve our man, we serve God.

Now, your thinking, "How can I respect him when he....______________________!" (You can fill in the blank), If you fill in the blank with what you think and feel, then it will seem abaolutely unnattainable to you, but, if you fill in this blank with what God says,and your heart is right with your Lord, then it will not seem unnatatinable, just a little overwhelming. Please don't throw me out or what God may have for you this week and in the week to come, please let him show you, "you" and what He would have for you in your heart this week, and in the weeks to come. It is easy for our flesh to "throw" something all away if it doesn't work the first, second, or maybe even third time, but, lets not, and persevere to hear Gods voice for us.

Has God changed His mind over the centuries?

All through the new Testament the Apostles wrote us to tell us that He has not! His original plan for man and woman is still the same as it was in the begining. Do you think Adam and Eve had to learn how to be Husband and wife? 1 Cor. 11:8 & 9 "For the man is not of the woman; but, the woman of the man. Neither was the man created fo rthe woman; but the woman for the man."

I really dont know if they did or not, but, God has not changed.

Regardless of who you are, your position in life right now, color, race, or status, God will is still that you are really created to be your mans helpmeet.

Gods will is that you be a suitable helper to your man...1 Cor. 7:34 "There is s difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the thibgs of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may PLEASE HER HUSBAND."

"This is wierd", you are thinking, you are right, our flesh/mind does not mind the things of the Spirit, but, the things of the world, it cannot understand the things of God. To think your DH deserves you as aHis helpmeet..?

You can only be what God created you to be..."IF" stay within your place within Gods order. When a woman wants to be in a mans role of leadership, that will not make you, him, nor anyone else happy. It is not a question who can do the better job, it is a matter of who is created to do it?

If a woman does a mans job, you as a woman will not be content with it, there will always be something that is not right, yet, you cannot figure it out.

It is better if the job be done poorly by your DH, than good by you. Your female nature cannot be made over to fit the mans nature, neither, can it be done the opposite.

The role of "Helpmeet", does not make one inferior to a man, nor, does it mean that the man "lords" it over a woman.

Men are created to be helpers of God. Jesus willingly helped the Father, the Holy Spirit the Son. Everyone must submit to some kind of authority in life, but, this again, does not make one inferior because of submitting to authority.

God made women to be a helpmeet to their husbands so they can upift him, helping him to be more productive. When I realized "I" was to help him be more productive, WOW!....that made me feel... not inferior, but, worth something(not to be puffed up, but, worth something). A woman is not "His" board of directors, nor do you have an equal vote, but, she is Created to be his closest, confidante', his friend, one he can lean on when everything else is at odds in this old world of ours.

But!....all at his discretion.

His wifes readiness to please him(now, don't go and throw the baby out with the bath water, hang in there!)....helps her to be motivated to see what her DH really would like. She would gladly do these things,(there are exceptions, remember, we will cover this later), A man would know she is a fine woman then. Do you think other man notice, when a woman reverences her DH? Do you think, they wish their wives, would reverence them like that? Lets, be that woman who reverences her DH, lets let others see what God can do to a "submitted" heart, and a "willing" Spirit.

Competant and Contented, does not mean "Take Over", nor does it mean a "mouse", it means, Prov. 12:4.."A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed(correcting her man, usurping authority over him) is as rottenness to his bones". OUCH! but, Gods word is true, lets ponder this the next week.

It is our ""Jobs"" to learn how we can "help" our DHs in any way we can, The fact, that you are reading this, shows that you want to be his "Contented Helpmeet"....and your hearts desire to honor God by becoming a Helpmeet to him.

Now, your homework.... Look up these words for next week, and ponder them....




Also, think about one of those "things" on your list you wrote down last week, and ask God to show you how to work on it....

Looking forward to "seeing" you next week, ...

Keep the Faith dear loved ones and friends....


Monday, December 1, 2008

What a day!

Hello friends and Ladies;

What a day, Please forgive for not getting my 2nd in the series of "Are we really our husbands Helpmeet?, out today....First, my daughter with our 2 Grandsweeties, called at 7:00a and asked if I could go with to help with her 2 live wires, Now, how could I turn that down?...teehee!

We did not return home until 500:P....Then my Dh found a leak in our water line and dug 6 feet down to find it, thankfully he did and hopefuly fixed it, so we just returned in our home at 8:30p...I am exhausted....

I will have to send my 2nd in the series tomorrrow, I do not have what it takes to type for the next 1/2 hour, Please return tomorrow to read....

Thanks for your patience and Love....

Love to you...


Monday, November 24, 2008

Are we our husbands helpmeet?, or what?

Are we?

As I ponder this question, I wonder who we are....?

I am not a accomplished writer or famous, just a Mother of 6, Grandmother of 10 and married for wayyy too many years to ist....not all joyfully however, That is the point of my blog, to help all of Christian women be more happy being our Husbands Helpmeet.

You ask, how to do it, well, stay with me in these next few months and hopefully, you too, can learn how to be more happy being your husbands "Helpmeet".

God commands us older women to teach the younger women the wonders of wifehood. I can think of no better way to obey this comand than for me to share with you my readers what I have learned and am still learning through Gods School.

Regardlesss, of what you have ben in the past, with instructions from Gods word, you too, can become the heavenly gift to your husband.

Yeah, right, you think and may say outloud, If you will stick with this blog, and take to heart and practice what I outline, you can become that "dream" for your man.

You do have a choice in how your life plays out. Some of you fight against the "pricks" so to speak, and your present situation, making no progress. You are fighting in quicksand, you fight everyone and everything...

It is time to stop fighting and start learning Gods plan for you and your husband and your marriage.

Someone once said, "Anything worth having is worth fighting for"..I believe tha to the uttermost.

My marriage and respect for my husband was non existent, I fought him at every turn, thus, He would just back down and that would frustrate me, because, He was not being the head of the home.

You are embarking on a journey to learn Gods design for women. What He has called us to be as a women and Wife and mother.

Each day and sometimes hour will be desicions you will make one way or the other.

Your man is not perfect, so don't expect him to be, are you?

If you are single, hurt because of a past disaster in marriage, single and never been married, this will also help you to learn to be what God says in His Word.

I already know these things, you say, or think, so, why not learn more? Who can have too much "truth" in this day and age?

Stay with me, and you will learn....
Now, make a list of 10 things you would like to see changed within your marriage or heart..hang on to it, put it in a safe place so you can refer to it in the next few months.
I will post every week on Mondays...

I hope to hear reports in the next few months of how these truths have helped you to become the "Woman God would have you be".

Thanks for reading....
Love To You...

Choosing our own happiness....

Hello Ladies;

It was 21 degrees this morning,,,,brrrrrr.

So what does your day have instore for you today, the same-o, same-o?

I hope you can turn that "same-o" into a stupendous day....Does it not have to do with our attitude?

Not, our circumstances, for we each choose our own attitudes...

Choose to be happy with whatever state of life you find yourself in, rich, poor...noone has to be grumpy with what one has or has not....

It takes some self control and a little fortitude with our own selves to keep on the right path to contentedness, not what others do "for" us or what they don't, but, what we, each one of us do or don't do ourselves.

Think about mind is mine, no one "makes" me a certain way or not, I choose it....

Choose Contentedness instead of unhappiness, it makes ones own heart a little more contented....
Love to you....Terri

Thursday, November 20, 2008

A switch from my other blog...

This blog will only have my posts, not my business on it....So please sit down, relax and have a cup of tea, as I share with you my insights of being a woman, wife, Grandmother and friend. Although I am not that old, life has seemed to teach me the hard way sometimes.
I will post more later....
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