Hello to all that read this blog...

"The Contented Woman"...

I could not get in this blog for years and just did...WOW!!!

There have been many, many changes in my life and you will see when you read my other blog....

so PLEASE go to my other blog and here is the link to it....

 

http://thecontentedwomannow.blogspot.com/2015/01/hello-to-all-who-read_18.html

More on the "Love" tract...

Lets see, where did we leave off?....
   If you feel the need of love---if there is an emptiness in your heart----you can find true love. You can find this be giving yourself to God. God loves you with a tender, caring, compassion that knows no bounds. He cares for you and wants to share and help you through all the heartaches of life. If you feel alone and think that no one really cares,you can rest assured that the One who gave his Son for you does feel all your heartache and grief, in your loneliest hours and your most dismal days, He will be there to give you comfort, strength, and direction if you turn toHim.
   If you do not know how to reach God, just pour your heart to Him and He will hear. If you feel you can hardly trust anyone, not even God, tell Him so. Then ask Him to show you the way.
If you feel you are a sinner without hope of ever finding forgiveness and love, come to God with all your heart, repenting of and leaving your past sins. He will be your loving Father if you come to Him with all your heart, and are willing to obey in all that He asks of you.
   When God forgives and accepts you, you will feel His love and gain a relationship with HIm that nothing can take away. This relationship will only be broken if YOU turn away from HIm, it is impossible for Him to leave us IF, we are following Him.

OK, My computer is acting up, more later...

Love to all who read....Terri


Here is the link for this tract....
http://churchofgodinchristmennonite.net/node/12

Frame of reference....

Frame of reference....
Part 11
   When a woman is not interested in his most consuming passion, he feels that she is not interested in him. when a woman just "allows, cooperates, and tolerates," it leaves a man feeling sick at heart. If, to a man, intimacy was just copulation, he would make his deposit and be satisfied, but to him it is intimacy, a merging of spirits, a way of saying "I love you..I need you ...I like you" A mans most basic needs are warm intimacy, approval and admiration. For his wife to be willing but indifferent, speaks of neither sex nor love.
    A woman is a fool to believe her own excuses or to think she can convince  him that what she says  is the truth. Her half hearted commitment makes him feel incomplete and unloved. By not obeying God in this area of intimacy and love, a woman is putting a tererible curse on her husband. When a woman forces a man into that position, it is the equivalent of a man saying to his wife, "You are stupid, ugly, lousy wife, but I will still be a good husband and kiss you today.." A mans wife has more influence on his frame of reference than any other thing or person in life.
   Man is driven to succeed. Hormones drive him to be the best at work, to drive aggresiively, to build the best building, or write the  finest material piece.ressing drive is to be a successful lover.           
Making his wife feel glorious when he touches her is the ultimate test of his manhood---the very measure of the man.
   He cannot view life differentlt; that is the way God made him. He needs a wife, a help meet,
a helper who will meet the need God put in him.
   If a wife does not meet his intimacy and sexual needs, she is a help-not-meet, a helper NOT suitalbe to the task for which God created her.

More on the tract "Love"...

The difficult things that  life brings us are not an indication that God does not love us. God at times allows us to experience difficulty for our own good. A parent with true love does not always give a child wht he wants, but rather restrains him for the childs benefit.
Love is self-sacrificing, true love seeks the good of others. Love is warm, sympathetic, kind. If we really love, we will care for the present and future well being of those near to us. A loving husband and father will display his affection for his wife and children. He will gladly give and sacrifice of himself to provide an atmosphere of love and well being.
  A wife and mother who truly loves,her husband will respect her husband and will instill in her children a sense of respect and love for their parents and for each other. She will gladly provide a haven of security and tranquility for all in the family.
Christ exemplified love by his undeserved death on the cross of Calvery.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Lesson for today...

I just saw this on my desk, and thought I would pass it on....

"Needs first; Wants last..

Love to all....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Chapter 2...To love their husbands....Titus 2:4

"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands..."
This is a big commission to all of us who are married.
Loving him means putting His needs before your own. We were and are created to be help meets. Everyday and every night we need to be ready to minister to His needs.
Lets ponder this verse for the next few days, and I will   
be back to share more on this verse......
Titus 2:4
"That they might teach the young women to LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS."

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Jesus the faithful one.....

The confidence we have...
the trust we hold...
the hope we carry...
rest in His faithfulness...

Every promise He has made
He purposes to fulfill.

He has the authority to
accomplish all He has spoken.

His power is limitless...
His character changeless...
His love endless!!!

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

CHRISTmas....

Every time we give...

Every time we love.....

Its CHRISTmas.

Love to all who read this blog....

~~~***Terri***~~~

He is the Son of the Highest...
Do you have Him as that in your life?
Have a good Christmas, and may we remember who it is that IS "Christmas"......

Love to all who read....
~~~**Terri**~~~

How to be a good wife today....

Hello Ladies....
Today is ..."How to be a good wife today."
(This is taken word for word from a 1950's public high School home economics
textbook)...
***Have Supper ready...Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal is part of the warm welcome ahead.

***Prepare yourself...Take 15 minutes(or less for busy mothers)to rest so that you'llbe refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your self, look as pretty as you can and be fresh looking.
He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little happy and a little more interesting than His boring work fellows.

***Clear away the clutter....Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives,gathering up schoolbooks, toys.. and papers. then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too!

***Prepare the children...Take a few minutes to wash the childrens hands and faces(if they are small). Comb their hair, and if neccessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

***Minimize all noise...At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile.


Now, PLEASE, remember this is from a 1950's handbook for home economics...and cannot possibly be kept up by everyone all of the time, but...it is a good place to begin....


Love to all who read....
***Terri***

Reflecting on.....

Today we focus on "Reflecting" on what we have read for the past weeks....a few questions and thoughts..
1. Was it pleasing to the Lord for the lady who cooked her husband supper according to his likes?
2. Would it have been sin to respond with anger or hurt feelings?
3. Would you have sought to please your husband if he had shown such insensitive ingratitide?
4. Do you think her husband was just trying to be cruel?
5. When you first married, did you think of your marriage as a career of pleasing your DH?

A virtuous woman is a crown to her DH: but she that maketh ashamed is as rotteness in his bones"(Proverbs 12:4).

Make a new habit.
Most wives reading this book were trained not to honor their DH's. You were most likely trained by a mother's example to disrespect and resent your dad. You were trained by watching your mother showing displeasure at your dads bad habits, and nothing has changed in the way you relate to your DH. It seems natural to be angry rather than to seek change for the better. It is not easy to break a well-established tradition, but it will certainly be worth the effort.
Liberated to sorrow
Beginning with the womans "liberation" mocement of the 1960's, women have been taught and expected to resent men in authority. All media, magazines, movies, and popular books have promoted eradication of the distinction between male and female. the established churches are only about on e decade behind the, world, so Christian books and Ministers have followed with their own female liberation theology. Ministers and theologians have devised ways of dismissing the authority of the words of God found that speak about the nature and duty of men and women. It has gone so far that the churches are now convinced that the Bible supports this modern view.
When I was a child, no one in our large, extended family could ever remember a divorce on either side of the family, including the many aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. Neither was there a case of abuse or child abuse. In the last 50 years, all that has dramatically changed.
It is hard to believe, but the following assignment was found in a 1950's public high school home economics notebook. When I was in school, this is what the general public was being taught!!! Can yo imagine what an outcry it would cause if someone put this in a public school textbook today????

I guess we will wait till next posting to find our what it is......

Love to all who read.....
~~~*Terri*~~~

What is a cold dinner?

Life is so much different than if used to be. Several of us ladies were sitting around a supper table recently, telling about some of our early disasterous cooking experiences. It brought vivid memories of my newlywed days. When I married, I really didnt know how etc.,, on top of that, my family are strictly "country"- peas and cornbread(still my fav), ham pork chops, fried chicken, trunip greens, etc., while my husbands family ate a very different type of diet.

I will never forget one hot afternoon., We lived in an apartment in the back of an old Victorian house which consisted of a living room-kitchen combination and a bathroom. We had no air conditioning, and that far down south could get really miserable in the summer. One sultry summer day, I worked hard to prepare a home-cooked meal for my husband, and had it ready when he came home. When he walked in the door, he was soooo hot and sweaty, he took one look at that hot meal and said in despair, "This is NOT the day for a hot meal: this is the kind of day you need a cold meal!",My heart was just crushed. Hot and sweaty myself, I had slaved to serve him the best way I knew how. I had never even heard of a cold meal. What on earth was he talking about? At that point in my life, a tomato stuffed with tuna or chicken salad was totally foreign to me. I must tell you, my story wasnt very funny thirty years earlier, but as I finished telling it to my friends, we were all laughing about how "crushed" I was that day.
I was surprised to see that one of the younger women at the table didn't think it was funny, as she huffily retorted, "Did you throw it at him? I would have!"this stopped me in my memory tracks. Was I angry? Did I want to throw it in his face? I really dont remember ever having those thoughts. I do remember, wanting to learn how to make a "cold" supper. I do remember being hurt and sad. But my most compelling thought was how to be the best wifey to my man I could be, even if that did mean learning how to make a cold supper. When I was married, I became Mrs. So and So......His life, His aganda, His desires became mine. I considered my marriage to be my career for the rest of my life, and I intended to be successful at it. If he didnt like the food that I cooked, rather than refusing to cook anymore, saying that he was just too hard to please, I would learn to cook something else. I was DETERMNED to please my man. I found that he was not really that hard to please. Most men are not so hard to please. I once heard someone say, that all men really need is food, intimacy, and respect, and hell be pretty content. That is certainly an oversimplification, but, from experience, I know that those things are the basic elementary needs of all husbands. ANd so, I have worked at it from that perspective for almost 30 years. It is still my goal to be pleasing to my husband. I am pleased to tell you that he delights in me. I was determined to earn his delight.

Reflecting......"A wise woman does not let little things stir her spirit in agitation. With a quiet and meek spirit, she seeks to make all things better."

With much love and hopefully continuing posting.

~~~**Terri**~~~

Cont'd from the previous post.....

It is not the fact of a grouchy husband nor is it the fact of a bad day...It just may be the fact of simple planning that can make or break your day.....

Let me share a few tips....

Mondays...the same thing every week, maybe, peas, potatoes, and minute steaks..
Tuesday...Meatloaf with sweet potatoes..
Wednesdays....roast with mashed potatoes and green beans...
Thursdays....spaghetti with salad...
Fridays...Fish, chips, and salad...
This is just a suggestion, be creative, use your imagination....this may just be the key to getting you started for planning....
The regular dinners each week, made it easier for Mom to plan and buy the weeks groceries. My dad would look forward to the meal he knew would be hot and waiting for him when he came home from work.

A grocery list with the weeks meals well-defned is a very handy tool.

As wives, our lifes work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands.

Sometimes, maintaining a good relationship with yor husband simply requires the performing of simple tasks, like havuing a meal ready on time and a clean house, even when it is not easy or convenient to do so.

TRAITS OF A GOOD HELPMEET

*A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
*She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
*She plans and prepares well ahead of tome.
*She exercises self discipline.

~~~*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your lifes work and have missed Gods perfect plan.*~~~

Strawberries and Sweet Love

I have sweet memories of time spent picking strawberries. the thing I remember most vividly ismy wrinkled old grandpa down on his knees beside me picking strawberries and talking up one row and down the other about my Grandmother and how much he loved her. Apparently, he didnt see her bulging country dress, the thin white hair, and her wrinkled old face. The thought of him loving her and of her being a beautiful woman was a novel ides in my childish thinking, but, I found it delightful. I remember giggling so much, I found it hard to pick! His declaration of love to her, was very comforting. My Grandma honored and obeyed my Grandfather. It was their foundation of love and home that made the family(even the extended family) strong. As you read the next story, you will see why we were made strong by our examples....we were conditioned to please our husbands. They taught us how to resist taking offense, and that we were never to "give him a piece of our mind." If Grandma did get offended, noone would ever know it, because it was well understood, that a lady had duties and she must be sober in her execution of them? Maybe that is another title for another chapter, a lady?, What is one, and how do I get there?

"A wise woman doesn't ever allow herself to be a liability, but strives to always be an asset to the marriage. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because of his wife."

Cont'd next week with the next story....

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The Plan....

In my experience of a simple/crazy life,,
raising half a dozen exuberant children(literally)....
farming USA dirt, stringing.. sheets out on the line......

I am praying to slow down and see the sacred in the chaos....
the flame in the bush...
the Cross in the clothespin..
and the flame in the bush.

Just a bit of listening, laundry,
liturgy and......
LIFE!

Love sent to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The Assignment....

Hello Ladies,
Seems like forever that I have been on here, but, I do so hope this time, my computer is fixed. The whole hard drive had to be wiped clean and a new one downloaded..OH! the wonders of this age...
But, lets move on with our study, still trying to get through,"Created to be His helpmeet"...might take a year or more, but, I do feel it is beneficial to all of us.

The Assignment
Learn to use the kitchens "wonder tool"--the crock pot. This morning I put several frozen chicken breasts and some rice into the electric crock-pot. I added some water, cerery, bell peppers, and seasonings, and turned it on low. When we came into the house at noon, the house was filled with a delicious aroma, and dinner was ready except for a simple salad. After we had eaten, I added some more water and seasoning, which now had only a few bits of chicken and rice with the broth. This simple soup simmered all afternoon, and was the basis for our meal that evening.

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify!!!
Always offer your children only one choice for breakfast...Several options will only confuse the child and make your work more! Choices also give room for argument and discontentment, (children do not have the capacity to think like we adults, therefore, giving them confusion.) Providing the same simple food every morning(exxcept maybe Sunday) causes a child to look forward to getting cereal on that one special morning. It can really help your children to be more Thankful and will bring about a more peaceful morning. A simple, yet filling, meal for the childrens daily breakfast is peanut butter toast served on a paper napkin. Clean up is easy.
If Dad is not home for lunch, then the plan is to have the same basic wholesome food for lunch each day. A crockpot of beans for simple beans and a simple vegetable added for a variety can also be served on a paper napkin.

Next, we will try and have menu for a week, use your creativity, for meals, BUT PLEASE make them simple.
I sometimes wonder if it is WE ourselves that make our "Mothering" job more...complicated....?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Kings and Kingdoms, contd'.....

Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language.
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?

Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Tuesday.....

This is a saying I saw, and would like to share it with you my readers....
"Man/Woman values most what has least worth."

Loe....
Terri

Sorry for not getting to my posts all week, was sick, and in over my head with other stuff, , Summer?!~><......?
Here they are now.....

Monday...."The Great Mystery"....
"A wise woman understands that her husbands nees to be honored is NOT based on his performance, but, on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is Gods will for her life."
"This is a great mystery:but I speak concerning Christ and the church... and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph. 5:32-33).
There are 12 mysteries in Gods Word, but only the 7th is listed as the Great mystery. Each mystery is a strange, beautiful truth which is for us hard to understand. The old Websters Dictionary defines mystery as ,"something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being aboave human intelligence. An enigma: anything artfully made difficult."
Jesus wants us for a friend. He seeks to create through me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church through eternity.
Amazing as it sounds, marriage between a man and a woman is what God chose as the closest example of Christs relationship to his bride, the Church. You are part of eternity when you submit to your husband. Submission, reverence, and honor are virtues God seeks to establish in his sons bride. Your marriage to your husband is preparing you for a marriage in Heaven. You may think, "But, it would be easy being married to Christ. You are forgetting about haveing to offer ones son upon a alter.....that is what Abraham had to do with his son....What if your husband killed you for lying? That is what God did to Saphira....
For a woman to usurp authority over a man is aggaronce to God Almighty, like treason in camp. It would be like a man taking authority over Christ, or like the Church becoming jealous of Jesus' leadership and taking authority unto itself. It would be doing just what Lucifer did when he said in Isaiah 14:13-14, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north...I will be like the most High." Lucifer, like Eve, was not satisfied with his station in Gods eternal progrtam. He tried to jump rank and ascend higher on the chain of command. God cast him down, as he will do with men and women who attempt to live beyond their created position.
Knowing that my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life. As I reverence my DH, I am creating a picture of how we, the Church, should reverence Christ. You have wondered why God would tell us to do such a think as to reverence our husbands. Now you know.
"This is a great mystery: but I speak conderning Christ and the church.....and the wife see to it that she reverences her husband"(Eph. 5:32).
Reverence; to revere, to ber in awe; fear mingled with respect and esteem.
1. Obedience is doing what yo know the other person wants you to do.
2. Submission is your heart giving over to the other persons will.
3. Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the womans will, to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
Obedience, Submission, and reverence are all acts of the will and are not based of feelings. Showing deference toward ones husband is an act of reverence toward the God who placed you in that role.

Ladies, I am still living this and it still works....Yes, I fall flat on my face, but, that is what repentance is all about, and a God of Grace....
Dont quit, keep on....
My relationship with my DH, and my respect/reverence/hon or for him only grows with every time I allow the Holy Spirit to convict my heart, I repent(sometimes to my DH), and go on and PUT MY WILL DOWN....
Its all about putting our will down, and not having to be right....We are wrong, you know!!!!

Love to all who read,
Terri

Continuation on "Why do children rebel?

We are not printing this for mothers to be down on their husbands, or for them to think less of their DH's...I thought this might help someone who has children rebelling.....
Always pray about whatever it is you read, and ask the God for guidence.......

When a father sacrifices his family for a better retirement....
His children develop a temporal value system....

When a father desciplines in anger....
His children have seeds of bitterness...

When a father delegates his childrens educatiuon to others.....
His chgildren cease to respect him as a teacher....

When a father does not teach his children how to please him....
His children feel frustrated and rejected....

When a father is impatient with his children....
His children feel inferior and reject themselves....

When a father has inconsistent standards...
His children despise him....

When a father tries to warn his children only of the consequences of sin....
His children are challanged to be successful in avoiding the consequences....

When a father lets his wife assume spiritual leadership....
His children mauy regard religion as childish when they grow older....

when a father does not have personal convictions....
His children accept situational ethics and excuse in excess what their father allowed in moderation....

Love....
Terri

Chapter 12...by Divine Apointment (last entry).....

Marriage Made in Heaven....
So, is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, browbeaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not pur women back in the stone ages, nor will it tuen us into a bunch of women who stayed covered in black.....God does not teach that..for you to be happy---really happy---as I have been happy, you MUST follow and abide in God's role for women.
God has spoken frankly as to why he made us as he did and what our role is to be.
Yet, today others tear apart what God and the Bible teaches and make the average young wife reading these Scriptures feel as though what God has said to her in an insult. I(Debbie Pearl) have spent 35 years counseling, a wife, reading thousands upon thousands of letters, and chalking up my own life experiences, I have concluded that what the Bible says on this subject is ROCK solid truth and it works!!!! I have also seen the reults of bad teaching and teaching against the Scriptures.
My conclusions can be said to be scientifically correct. That is, the "evidence" that leads to my conclusion is reproducible: Anyone can test it and get the same results. The Creator knows best, and HIS way does work. His Word is meant to be taken at face value.
And, when any woman does as I have done, the blessings are incredible!(Just a note from me,Terri, the writer of this blog,, It truly works, my marriage was a wreck, my heart towards my DH was awful [dissrespectful, distainful, hateful and awful!!] but, God saw me really wanting to change and it has totally changed for the good, respect has come to my heart and a genuine love for my DH and also, he for me...ONLY a God who loves me and cares for my marriage could do this marvelous work!!!) I(Debbie) have received thousands of letters from woman who have entered into this wonderful plan for women and their marriage, and they just simply believed and followed and let God do the work in their hearts concerning their place as women. Broken homes, ladies who are church taught, rebellious ladies, and other such things in our world today, have been set free, all learning to honor their men and become good help meets. Marriages that all were made on this earth, remade into Godly good marriages.....Do you know even one couple who says they have a heavenly marriege? I know that the angels in heaven stand amazed at how much a man can love a woman, how he can break down weeping at the thought of how precious she is to him. The reason he loves her so is because she IS precious. She has earned his total adoration and love. She is what God asks of a woman, and the end result is a man who cherishes her beyond anything this world can know.
(LADIES<>>>> this is the way it happened with me, my heart turned upside down, all because I allowed God to reveal to me, "the real me", towards my DH...He showed me how repulsive my disrespect was to Him, and then gave me the tools to go on and change...NO, it WAS NOT EASY!!!!,,,but, so much worth the self control and time to work on it...)
When someone tells you that the Greek doesn't read submit, obey, or silence, just ask that person, "How is your marriage?....Would you say it is glorious?....Will God use your marriage as an example to show others how He wants a Marriage?"
Those who change the Word of God concerning a woman being a helpmeet do so because they don't know the wonder of a marriage made in heaven like I do.
If you want what I(Debbie Pearl and I, Terri) and thousands of other women have, then you must follow the plan the way God wrote it in the Bible. It simply will not work any other way....

TIME TO CONSIDER.....

God set up a chain of aommand, first in Heaven, and then again here on earth. When you do not honor that command, you dishonuor God, and apart from repentance, you can expect to reap the sure consequences.
"But, I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of every woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God"(I Cor. 11:3). Don't question Gods chain of command, and don't attempt to break any of its links.
Make a new habit....
Start thinking and acting as though your husband is the head of the company and you are his secretary. Look for ways to help him in his managerial position.

>Traits of a good Help Meet....
~~She fears God.
~~She believes Gods Word as it is written.
~~She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command.

>Getting serious with God......
Make a list for each day of the week....
MONDAY: Write three new things that you will add to your life that will cause you to become more precious to your husband.
TUESDAY: List three things that you can do that will be a help to him.
WEDNESDAY;: Write down 3 things you can do that will be an encouragement to him.
THURSDAY: Jot down 3 things that you can do to your appearance that you can change, which he is sure to like.
FRIDAY: List 3 things that you can do to your house that will please Him.
SATURDAY: Write 3 things you can do that will make him feel like a man(intimate time together?).
SUNDAY: Plan 3 ways you can respond to him in front of others that will show a heart of respecct and honor toward him.(This here alone will help to change the way he sees you!!!)

This is not easy ladies, but, because of such a change in my heart, it is possible. Without the Lord as ones Saviour, one cannot possibly do this, one needs to have confidence in the Scriptures and God for this to work. It has taken about 2 years for the fruits to show in my marriage, lots of biting my tongue, no remarks back, no attitudes towards him if he did not do what "I "thought He should, and lots of LOVIN".....BUT...LAdies...it works!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You will fail, you will blow it, you will make mistakes, but, God is a God of compassion, and LOVE...He is right there to pick you up, so you can go again...
DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU CAN DO IT<<>>>>>>>>>

Love to all who read this...
Terri