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This article is from the book by Debi Pearle...

"Created to be his helpmeet"...

 

May you enjoy and be convicted at the same time by what you read so that yo want to follow Jesus closer than ever, and ask Him to help you change...

The Hall

There is no permanent cure for genital herpes and many other forms of STDs. Yet one in five young teens in the USA has a sexually transmitted disease. Many statistics also tell us that one in four little girls will be sexually "messed with" by the time they are four years old. One in five little boys will be victims of homosexual abuse. Our children are in grave danger in todays world, not only from emotional trauma, but also from many of these diseases.

   How many times will your little toddler wander down the hall(while you sit in a roomful of friends engrossed in a video)before some young "trustworthy" teenage boy slips silently behind him or her and maneuvers her into the bathroom for a four minute "session"? You cannot pray and expect God for supernatural intervention and protection. God has already provided that for her through you. You can and must pray for God to make you a more attentive and sober parent, that you might better protect your children.

 

You are your babies keeper. PLEASE KEEP THEM WELL.

 

 

Hmmmm...I guess that hits it on the spot...if any of you are in this predicament...cry out to YOUR LORD and ask HIM for the strength to obey..

 

 

 

thanks for reading....

 

bye for now....

TERRI

 

 

 

Next.....I want to tell about my husband going to Heaven and coming back...

PLEASE stay tuned and keep checking back...

EXCEPTION!!!!!! Intimacy perversions...

Intimacy the way God intented is the ONLY way to have what God ordained as normal.....intimacy between a Man and aWoman....Any other way is not the way God intended......
Pornography has increased this abomination. It is a filthy practice and medically dangerous. God, the master creator, made a "natural use" of the woman for intimacy. Any man who practices intimacy other than the way God has intended, is automatically suspect for other deviant activity.
"For this cause god gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise the man, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust of one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their thinking, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do the things which are not convenient" Romans  1:26-28
If you know of any men that" intimately" handles any child call somone!. Dont keep it a secret, that is how sooo many, end up in the state of a crazy person.
"It were bettter for him that a millstone were hanged around his neck, and he be cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." Luke 17:2
Ladies, the Scripture is clear....lets not ignore it.... 


More next week..
Love to all who read..
!!!!!~~~TERRI~~~!!!!!

thoughts....

   Just had some thoughts...How is your walk with Jesus? , Or do you have one? Where is He in the lineup of your life?
 In this time we live in(the end times), He MUST be first on your list, Does He rule your heart, or does He live next to something else?
Better late then never.


Love to all who read...
@@##!!Terri!!##@@...

His arms are my arms....

Dear ?.....
    I have not felt close to God for a long time. Something was missing I found myself empty and lonely. I really had no idea what was wrong. I was aimless as a mother, and my discipline of my children was inconsitent and fraught with anger. My household management was wanting. In the past, my husband and I have had a good relationship, but even that was limp. I often cry myself to sleep, not knowing what was wrong.
   My husband had been attempting to get intimate with me during "that time of the month" at which I usually pushed him away, He knew it was "that time", but assured me, he only wanted to give me pleasure...
   I guess I must think in boxes; it is either all or nothing for me. And so, when I did not think it was all a good time, then it was nothing. Last night, after I resisted my husband yet again(argh!), my heart cried out to God, and I began to cry and cry and pray. Eventually the sobbing subsided, and I calmed down(my DH had sleepily held onto me and let me cry it out).    It was then I felt like God said in that still small voice, "Those arms that hold you are my arms", I felt the warmth and strength of my husbands arms about me. I realized by pushing my husband away, I am pushing God away. NO WONDER I was sooo very lonely!!!  I have been pushing the Lord away all this time and refusing to receive guidence and comfort  here on earth ,from my Saviour...
   How eagerly I went to myhusband and how eager I will always reamain! Life is an education. Boxes, boundaries, self imposed rules, they are all the same ink.
   Today was like a new day! My children, my house, my chores, I saw everything with different eyes, THANKFUL eyes, a grateful heart and a soul full of  joy and love....
  
 "A wise woman guages her husbands needs. She seeks to fulfill his desire before even he is aware fo them. She never leaves him daydreaming outside of home. She supplies his desire."

   Ladies, as the time draws close to Our Heavenly Saviour coming, the enemy of our souls will pour it on even more...WE NEEDS to fall on our faces before our Father and ask for guidence, Help, truth, and  our hearts to be changed....not to stay in the same mold, as we always have...
    Pray, as we never have before...for us to HEAR His still small voice, to determine, in our hearts to do the will of the Father..not our own wills....hard?, you think, yes, it is, but, the joys that will flood or souls when we do.... 
   More later....

   Love to all who read.....
   !~~~TERRI~~~!

Your God ordained place....

   A letter was written to me about a "switch" being turned off after birthing the children...Has your "switch" turned off to your DH, because ???????? Consequently,has  His(DH) "switch" turned off also, you live married and still do everything married couples do except, for sexual relations....How can this be? Obviously, the marriage was not as good as one thinks or one would not be concerned and writing as one did....
 "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render(give) unto the wife due benevelence(sexual gratification for her): and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and pryer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency"(I cor. 7:2-5).
Hmmmm. pretty strong words...Lets go on....
   Dear Mrs.?(Could you put your name in here?)........
   You would not be writing unless you are both unhappy with your current realtionship. You know this should not be. When you married you sugned over to become a helper for his needs. Your lifes work is to help your husband. Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends. In practice, you are not in a marriage relationship with your husband. You and your husband are effectively living in a seperate status..having put each other away .
   God commands, in I Cor. 7:5...."Defraud not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan temp you not for your incontinency."
   God has already told us that not having regular intimacy is giving Satan an opportunity to tempt married couples. Wife, it is your God-ordained helper place to your husband to be his totally enthusiastic intimacy partner, ready to enjoy him at all times. To do less is a grave error. If you love your DH, as God commands, you will always seek to give him pleasure. In so doing, you will fulfill your role as his suitable helper.

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Great sin....

Great sin..
Does any women really love her husband if she does not seek to pleae him in that area? If you are not interested in intimacy, then at least be interested in him enough to give him a intimacy that he wont soon forget.---"...to LOVE their husbands...". the bible says, "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin"(James 4:17) Hopefully, you just didnt realize that your lack of imtimate interest in your husband can be sin.

More later,,,
Love to all who read...
Terri

Frame of reference....

Frame of reference....
Part 11
   When a woman is not interested in his most consuming passion, he feels that she is not interested in him. when a woman just "allows, cooperates, and tolerates," it leaves a man feeling sick at heart. If, to a man, intimacy was just copulation, he would make his deposit and be satisfied, but to him it is intimacy, a merging of spirits, a way of saying "I love you..I need you ...I like you" A mans most basic needs are warm intimacy, approval and admiration. For his wife to be willing but indifferent, speaks of neither sex nor love.
    A woman is a fool to believe her own excuses or to think she can convince  him that what she says  is the truth. Her half hearted commitment makes him feel incomplete and unloved. By not obeying God in this area of intimacy and love, a woman is putting a tererible curse on her husband. When a woman forces a man into that position, it is the equivalent of a man saying to his wife, "You are stupid, ugly, lousy wife, but I will still be a good husband and kiss you today.." A mans wife has more influence on his frame of reference than any other thing or person in life.
   Man is driven to succeed. Hormones drive him to be the best at work, to drive aggresiively, to build the best building, or write the  finest material piece.ressing drive is to be a successful lover.           
Making his wife feel glorious when he touches her is the ultimate test of his manhood---the very measure of the man.
   He cannot view life differentlt; that is the way God made him. He needs a wife, a help meet,
a helper who will meet the need God put in him.
   If a wife does not meet his intimacy and sexual needs, she is a help-not-meet, a helper NOT suitalbe to the task for which God created her.

The meaning of quiet...

Quiet...Are we?
mild, free from turbulance, immovable(in the things of the truth of God), steadfast, settled, not easily provoked.
Ask ourselves this wuestion, Am I?

Reflections on the Chapter.....

Reflection on Sober...

Traits of a Good Help meet..

~~~A good help meet establishes a haven of rest.

~~She will adjust to her husbands time schedule and eating habits.

~~She will realx and enjoy her family, instead of worrying and fretting.

Words God uses to describe a godless woman...

Locate the verses in a concordance, and write them down. Ask God to cause you to HATE any sign of these things in your life. Believe and know that God will set you free.

*Foolish                                        *Brawling                                  *Withut Discretion

*Clamorous                                   *Contentious                             *Wanders from house tohouse

*Simple                                         *Angry                                        *Stubborn

*Knoweth nothing                        *Tattler                                     *Loud

*Like a swine(fat pig)                   *Busybodies                               

  with a gold nose jewel

Getting serious with God....

Think of an occasion in the recent past when you became angry or were hurt because your DH responded in a way that you felt was wrong.  Keep in mind that the other side of the coin of being angry is being hurt. It is one and the same coin,  and it buys the same results: a bad marriage and a strained relationship. How different do you think the end of the struggle might have been if you had kept in your mind that your job was to please your man? Write your own story. First, write the one that ended in a big fight, and next, write the story as it should have ended. Remember, he doesn't have to be right or kind for you to react in a godly way. this excercise will help you see the rationale for honoring your husband in a different light.

"Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"(PHIL> 2:5).

Personal shrines....
Many women lack biblical soberness, as seen in the way they treat their houses as shrines to be protected, rather than as spaces inwhich to enjoy their families. They get emotionally upset if the carpet gets messed up or if the children accidentally spill milk on the couch. They become emotional wrecks over their physical surroundings. If you have that problem, let me ask why, how you would feel if your husband provided nothing more than an open barn in which to deliver your first baby? That was the case with Mary, the mother of Jesus. Do you think God could have used Mary to be the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her enviroment was not clean and orderly? Think of the teenage girl, Mary, clinging to the back of a bouncing donkey, contractions pulling at her exhausted body, while her desperate husband searched for a place for her to have her child.
   Many have speculated as to what virtues Mary had that prompted God to choose her to be the mother of our Lord. I can tell you what she was like. She had eternity in her heart. She was self possessed, thoughtful, and was always learning to make wise judgements. When a young woman learns to be sober, she will not live for immediate gratifiction. She will appreciate those things that will last for eternity.

More next week....

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

A poem to take to ones heart.......

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Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Some dont's.....

I hope and pray that all of you who read my blog had a good Holiday.....Who was your reason for celebrating?

The last post was on "How to be a good wife today"...this one is

"Some dont's".....

***Don't greet him with problems...

***Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in His comfortable chair, or take a short nap before supper. Have his favorite drink ready, go with him to make him comfortable. Allow him to relax and unwind.

***Listen to him..... You may have a dozen things to share, but, the moment of his coming home is NOT the time....Let him talk first. (This will take time, expecially if, you have always "ruled the roost...").

***Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to supper or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of stress and pleasure, his need to be home and relax.

"The goal: try to make your home a place of peace, serenity and order, where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."


Do you see what has happened in the last 50 years? Every high school girl was taught a conservative world view that was msore bibilical in perspective than what the churches teach today.

"A wise woman patterns her life after her husband's. His working, playing, eating, and sleeping habits become hers.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Forgiveness....understanding others....

Have you ever wondered why others do what they do..
I have... to...Jesus did also...He said over and over to forgive......
To love our enemies, to pray for those who despitefully use you(Mt.5:44 & Luke 6:48)....Can you, Will you?
These are choices we all make on daily basis'....
What will one say, when we stand at the judgement?(which we all will do someday)...."I didnt want to"...
May we welcome "Forgiveness" and accepting others, (not their sin), but, them....

Love to all who read, and may we apply this.....
~~~***Terri***~~~