Reflections on the Chapter.....

Reflection on Sober...

Traits of a Good Help meet..

~~~A good help meet establishes a haven of rest.

~~She will adjust to her husbands time schedule and eating habits.

~~She will realx and enjoy her family, instead of worrying and fretting.

Words God uses to describe a godless woman...

Locate the verses in a concordance, and write them down. Ask God to cause you to HATE any sign of these things in your life. Believe and know that God will set you free.

*Foolish                                        *Brawling                                  *Withut Discretion

*Clamorous                                   *Contentious                             *Wanders from house tohouse

*Simple                                         *Angry                                        *Stubborn

*Knoweth nothing                        *Tattler                                     *Loud

*Like a swine(fat pig)                   *Busybodies                               

  with a gold nose jewel

Getting serious with God....

Think of an occasion in the recent past when you became angry or were hurt because your DH responded in a way that you felt was wrong.  Keep in mind that the other side of the coin of being angry is being hurt. It is one and the same coin,  and it buys the same results: a bad marriage and a strained relationship. How different do you think the end of the struggle might have been if you had kept in your mind that your job was to please your man? Write your own story. First, write the one that ended in a big fight, and next, write the story as it should have ended. Remember, he doesn't have to be right or kind for you to react in a godly way. this excercise will help you see the rationale for honoring your husband in a different light.

He is the Son of the Highest...
Do you have Him as that in your life?
Have a good Christmas, and may we remember who it is that IS "Christmas"......

Love to all who read....
~~~**Terri**~~~

What is a cold dinner?

Life is so much different than if used to be. Several of us ladies were sitting around a supper table recently, telling about some of our early disasterous cooking experiences. It brought vivid memories of my newlywed days. When I married, I really didnt know how etc.,, on top of that, my family are strictly "country"- peas and cornbread(still my fav), ham pork chops, fried chicken, trunip greens, etc., while my husbands family ate a very different type of diet.

I will never forget one hot afternoon., We lived in an apartment in the back of an old Victorian house which consisted of a living room-kitchen combination and a bathroom. We had no air conditioning, and that far down south could get really miserable in the summer. One sultry summer day, I worked hard to prepare a home-cooked meal for my husband, and had it ready when he came home. When he walked in the door, he was soooo hot and sweaty, he took one look at that hot meal and said in despair, "This is NOT the day for a hot meal: this is the kind of day you need a cold meal!",My heart was just crushed. Hot and sweaty myself, I had slaved to serve him the best way I knew how. I had never even heard of a cold meal. What on earth was he talking about? At that point in my life, a tomato stuffed with tuna or chicken salad was totally foreign to me. I must tell you, my story wasnt very funny thirty years earlier, but as I finished telling it to my friends, we were all laughing about how "crushed" I was that day.
I was surprised to see that one of the younger women at the table didn't think it was funny, as she huffily retorted, "Did you throw it at him? I would have!"this stopped me in my memory tracks. Was I angry? Did I want to throw it in his face? I really dont remember ever having those thoughts. I do remember, wanting to learn how to make a "cold" supper. I do remember being hurt and sad. But my most compelling thought was how to be the best wifey to my man I could be, even if that did mean learning how to make a cold supper. When I was married, I became Mrs. So and So......His life, His aganda, His desires became mine. I considered my marriage to be my career for the rest of my life, and I intended to be successful at it. If he didnt like the food that I cooked, rather than refusing to cook anymore, saying that he was just too hard to please, I would learn to cook something else. I was DETERMNED to please my man. I found that he was not really that hard to please. Most men are not so hard to please. I once heard someone say, that all men really need is food, intimacy, and respect, and hell be pretty content. That is certainly an oversimplification, but, from experience, I know that those things are the basic elementary needs of all husbands. ANd so, I have worked at it from that perspective for almost 30 years. It is still my goal to be pleasing to my husband. I am pleased to tell you that he delights in me. I was determined to earn his delight.

Reflecting......"A wise woman does not let little things stir her spirit in agitation. With a quiet and meek spirit, she seeks to make all things better."

With much love and hopefully continuing posting.

~~~**Terri**~~~

To Be Sober.....Titus 2:4.."That they may teach the young women to be sober...."

To Be Sober.....
Titus 2:4...."That they may teach the young women to be sober..."
To be sober: To do ones duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
"And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure"(Isa. 33:6).


Common sense
A Sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is owner.
Her most basic responsibility is to make her husbands home run smoothly. She assumes the role of coordinator of all affairs. If the home doesn't run in an orderly manner, the marriage will not be joyous and fulfilling, and neither will child training.
When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet. This planning will eliminate tension and help set a peaceful mood. It is the simple things in life that can break down a marriage and bring about a bitter divorce. But on the positive side, it is the simple planning of lifes activities that can bring health, prosperity, peace, and happiness to a sound marriage and produce gratifying family relationships. Men(and children) appreciate good meals, a clean house, and an atmosphere of peace---a refuge from the stress of life.
Has your DH ever come home from work, and you had just had the WORST day in history with your children, they are sick, you just had a baby or you are sick and so is the newest addition to your little family....and all he does is ask..."Why supper is not ready?"..."Why is the house such a mess?"..and so..on....and on, and on......
Ladies, Even though all of this has happened, you are still responsible for what goes through your head, and what comes out of your moth, and also, what comes out of your attitude....
Noone can dispute, that your DH has just been insensitive, but, 2 wrongs don't make a good marriage. One "right" can make a BIG difference, in a marriage and change that selfish old guy. Always keep in mind that your job is to do a good job serving him, so planning ahead is a must... If you do a better job at your job,(serving him), then your DH wont be so insensitive.... Your DH expects you to plan ahead. He plans ahead at his place of work, otherwise he would lose his job. If you plan ahead, conflicts like this can be avoided, and your DH will be proud to know he has a better wife than the other guys at work. If you pamper your DH, in time he will become more sensitive to your burden, but you must be a soldier and show yourself strong.
My babies were sick to, plus I worked full time, and to keep everything running smoothly, was sometimes more than I could handle. As mothers, we will often be stressed over a sick child, but that is no reason to neglect our other duties. A sober wife, makes herself the match of every circumstance.

Continued next week....


Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Computer down......

Ladies, I am sorry for not writing lately, my computer has been down and this one is wayyyyyy too hard for me to use.......I wont be writing again until I get mine back...Please do read the previous posts.
In this day and age, things are getting worse and worse, Please Pray for our leaders and our country, your unsaved loved ones and friends, that they may KNOW the Saviour and who He is before its forever and ever too late.......

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

What a day!

Hello friends and Ladies;

What a day, Please forgive for not getting my 2nd in the series of "Are we really our husbands Helpmeet?, out today....First, my daughter with our 2 Grandsweeties, called at 7:00a and asked if I could go with to help with her 2 live wires, Now, how could I turn that down?...teehee!

We did not return home until 500:P....Then my Dh found a leak in our water line and dug 6 feet down to find it, thankfully he did and hopefuly fixed it, so we just returned in our home at 8:30p...I am exhausted....

I will have to send my 2nd in the series tomorrrow, I do not have what it takes to type for the next 1/2 hour, Please return tomorrow to read....

Thanks for your patience and Love....

Love to you...

Terri