A letter was written to me about a "switch" being turned off after birthing the children...Has your "switch" turned off to your DH, because ???????? Consequently,has His(DH) "switch" turned off also, you live married and still do everything married couples do except, for sexual relations....How can this be? Obviously, the marriage was not as good as one thinks or one would not be concerned and writing as one did....
"Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render(give) unto the wife due benevelence(sexual gratification for her): and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and pryer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency"(I cor. 7:2-5).
Hmmmm. pretty strong words...Lets go on....
Dear Mrs.?(Could you put your name in here?)........
You would not be writing unless you are both unhappy with your current realtionship. You know this should not be. When you married you sugned over to become a helper for his needs. Your lifes work is to help your husband. Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends. In practice, you are not in a marriage relationship with your husband. You and your husband are effectively living in a seperate status..having put each other away .
God commands, in I Cor. 7:5...."Defraud not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan temp you not for your incontinency."
God has already told us that not having regular intimacy is giving Satan an opportunity to tempt married couples. Wife, it is your God-ordained helper place to your husband to be his totally enthusiastic intimacy partner, ready to enjoy him at all times. To do less is a grave error. If you love your DH, as God commands, you will always seek to give him pleasure. In so doing, you will fulfill your role as his suitable helper.
Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~
Showing posts with label reverenc e. Show all posts
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Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Christlikeness?
The life I live should reveal what I believe; whether the "world" or "Christ".
Are you a nominal Christian(conformed to the world, and not Christ)? How do you make a difference in the false values and beliefs around you? When a Christian responds/acts like those looking on, they see no difference, "Why should they change?, but, if they see a difference n your demanor....they can't help but want what you have. Afterall....Christlikeness is all that really matters, not?
Love to all who read....
Terri
Are you a nominal Christian(conformed to the world, and not Christ)? How do you make a difference in the false values and beliefs around you? When a Christian responds/acts like those looking on, they see no difference, "Why should they change?, but, if they see a difference n your demanor....they can't help but want what you have. Afterall....Christlikeness is all that really matters, not?
Love to all who read....
Terri
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Reflections on the Chapter.....
Reflection on Sober...Traits of a Good Help meet..
~~~A good help meet establishes a haven of rest.
~~She will adjust to her husbands time schedule and eating habits.
~~She will realx and enjoy her family, instead of worrying and fretting.
Words God uses to describe a godless woman...
Locate the verses in a concordance, and write them down. Ask God to cause you to HATE any sign of these things in your life. Believe and know that God will set you free.
*Foolish *Brawling *Withut Discretion
*Clamorous *Contentious *Wanders from house tohouse*Simple *Angry *Stubborn
*Knoweth nothing *Tattler *Loud
*Like a swine(fat pig) *Busybodies
with a gold nose jewel
Getting serious with God....
Think of an occasion in the recent past when you became angry or were hurt because your DH responded in a way that you felt was wrong. Keep in mind that the other side of the coin of being angry is being hurt. It is one and the same coin, and it buys the same results: a bad marriage and a strained relationship. How different do you think the end of the struggle might have been if you had kept in your mind that your job was to please your man? Write your own story. First, write the one that ended in a big fight, and next, write the story as it should have ended. Remember, he doesn't have to be right or kind for you to react in a godly way. this excercise will help you see the rationale for honoring your husband in a different light.Monday, January 4, 2010
I'm about to have a nervous breakdown....
This letter shows how not gttring our way often causes us to have a nervous, troubled spirit instead of the quiet(sober) spirit God expects us to have. It was good to hear that this lady finally found peace. the article she refers to can be found on the nogreaterjoy.org website.
I heard your article read publicly called "Carnal husbands, cranky wives and cantankerous kids", while at a seminar in Knoxville. It was the first time I realized my anxiety controlled my husband and was a reflection of my lack of confidence in him. As we left the seminar and were fighting traffic, my husband spoke up that we needed to stop for gas. Miles passed and still the traffic was bumper to bumper. Suddenly we were free and in the mountains with no place to buy gas. I was in an extreme state of turmoil. I had worked myself up to a state that I wanted to scream to him to go back in to the city and get gas. I could see the gas gauge; it was . totally empty. I kept quietly raging to God that "this was the exact reason why I had to take control, since he is the most irresponsible man and does not make wise decisions. I felt that I should tell him what to do. "I was so nervous, I was almost sick, but, for the first time I kept my mouth shut and looked interestedly at the hills. Ten miles up into the mountains, we finally came to an exit that had a gas station, and my husband turned to me, smiled and said, "Whats happened to you? Your not a nervous wreck like you usually are. I'm so glad youve learned to relax. Isn't life a lot more fun when your not so full of fear? I'm proud of you."
I had to stop and think Even if we had tun out of gas, would it have been a tragedy? I could see that I had turned many things into monsters. I had the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit that we were suppose to have. I have learned not to let my fears and irritations over uncertain circumstances control me, and , much worse, my husband. I am learning to lean on my husband.
Love to all who rad...
~~~*Terri*~~~
I heard your article read publicly called "Carnal husbands, cranky wives and cantankerous kids", while at a seminar in Knoxville. It was the first time I realized my anxiety controlled my husband and was a reflection of my lack of confidence in him. As we left the seminar and were fighting traffic, my husband spoke up that we needed to stop for gas. Miles passed and still the traffic was bumper to bumper. Suddenly we were free and in the mountains with no place to buy gas. I was in an extreme state of turmoil. I had worked myself up to a state that I wanted to scream to him to go back in to the city and get gas. I could see the gas gauge; it was . totally empty. I kept quietly raging to God that "this was the exact reason why I had to take control, since he is the most irresponsible man and does not make wise decisions. I felt that I should tell him what to do. "I was so nervous, I was almost sick, but, for the first time I kept my mouth shut and looked interestedly at the hills. Ten miles up into the mountains, we finally came to an exit that had a gas station, and my husband turned to me, smiled and said, "Whats happened to you? Your not a nervous wreck like you usually are. I'm so glad youve learned to relax. Isn't life a lot more fun when your not so full of fear? I'm proud of you."
I had to stop and think Even if we had tun out of gas, would it have been a tragedy? I could see that I had turned many things into monsters. I had the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit that we were suppose to have. I have learned not to let my fears and irritations over uncertain circumstances control me, and , much worse, my husband. I am learning to lean on my husband.
Love to all who rad...
~~~*Terri*~~~
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry
A poem to take to ones heart.......
Click on this link....
Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry
Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
Click on this link....
Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry
Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
Monday, December 28, 2009
Some dont's.....
I hope and pray that all of you who read my blog had a good Holiday.....Who was your reason for celebrating?
The last post was on "How to be a good wife today"...this one is
"Some dont's".....
***Don't greet him with problems...
***Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in His comfortable chair, or take a short nap before supper. Have his favorite drink ready, go with him to make him comfortable. Allow him to relax and unwind.
***Listen to him..... You may have a dozen things to share, but, the moment of his coming home is NOT the time....Let him talk first. (This will take time, expecially if, you have always "ruled the roost...").
***Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to supper or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of stress and pleasure, his need to be home and relax.
"The goal: try to make your home a place of peace, serenity and order, where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."
Do you see what has happened in the last 50 years? Every high school girl was taught a conservative world view that was msore bibilical in perspective than what the churches teach today.
The last post was on "How to be a good wife today"...this one is
"Some dont's".....
***Don't greet him with problems...
***Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in His comfortable chair, or take a short nap before supper. Have his favorite drink ready, go with him to make him comfortable. Allow him to relax and unwind.
***Listen to him..... You may have a dozen things to share, but, the moment of his coming home is NOT the time....Let him talk first. (This will take time, expecially if, you have always "ruled the roost...").
***Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to supper or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of stress and pleasure, his need to be home and relax.
"The goal: try to make your home a place of peace, serenity and order, where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."
Do you see what has happened in the last 50 years? Every high school girl was taught a conservative world view that was msore bibilical in perspective than what the churches teach today.
"A wise woman patterns her life after her husband's. His working, playing, eating, and sleeping habits become hers.
Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
~~~*Terri*~~~
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
God sent us a Saviour...
God sent us a Saviour...
If our greatest need had been information....
God would have sent us an educator.
If our greatest need had veen technology...
God would nave sent us a scientist.
If our greatest need had veen money...
God would have sent us a economist.
If our greatest need had been pleasure...
God would nave sent us an evtertainer.
BUT our greatest need was forgiveness...
So, GOD SENT US A SAVIOUR.
This CHRISTmas may you see and know anew
how great His love is toward you...
Love to all who read...
~~~***Terri***~~~
CHRISTmas....
Every time we give...
Every time we love.....
Its CHRISTmas.
Love to all who read this blog....
~~~***Terri***~~~
Friday, November 6, 2009
On HOLD!!!!
My computer is totaled, the keyboard that is....when I type, it might dissappear or not type at all, Or type in another word......it has taken 5 minutes just to type this.....Ill try to type every Monday, but, not guaranteeing anything... I will try....
Thanks for your reading my blog....
~~~*Terri*~~~
Thanks for your reading my blog....
~~~*Terri*~~~
Monday, September 21, 2009
To Be Sober.....Titus 2:4.."That they may teach the young women to be sober...."
To Be Sober.....
Titus 2:4...."That they may teach the young women to be sober..."
To be sober: To do ones duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
"And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure"(Isa. 33:6).
Common sense
A Sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is owner.
Her most basic responsibility is to make her husbands home run smoothly. She assumes the role of coordinator of all affairs. If the home doesn't run in an orderly manner, the marriage will not be joyous and fulfilling, and neither will child training.
When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet. This planning will eliminate tension and help set a peaceful mood. It is the simple things in life that can break down a marriage and bring about a bitter divorce. But on the positive side, it is the simple planning of lifes activities that can bring health, prosperity, peace, and happiness to a sound marriage and produce gratifying family relationships. Men(and children) appreciate good meals, a clean house, and an atmosphere of peace---a refuge from the stress of life.
Has your DH ever come home from work, and you had just had the WORST day in history with your children, they are sick, you just had a baby or you are sick and so is the newest addition to your little family....and all he does is ask..."Why supper is not ready?"..."Why is the house such a mess?"..and so..on....and on, and on......
Ladies, Even though all of this has happened, you are still responsible for what goes through your head, and what comes out of your moth, and also, what comes out of your attitude....
Noone can dispute, that your DH has just been insensitive, but, 2 wrongs don't make a good marriage. One "right" can make a BIG difference, in a marriage and change that selfish old guy. Always keep in mind that your job is to do a good job serving him, so planning ahead is a must... If you do a better job at your job,(serving him), then your DH wont be so insensitive.... Your DH expects you to plan ahead. He plans ahead at his place of work, otherwise he would lose his job. If you plan ahead, conflicts like this can be avoided, and your DH will be proud to know he has a better wife than the other guys at work. If you pamper your DH, in time he will become more sensitive to your burden, but you must be a soldier and show yourself strong.
My babies were sick to, plus I worked full time, and to keep everything running smoothly, was sometimes more than I could handle. As mothers, we will often be stressed over a sick child, but that is no reason to neglect our other duties. A sober wife, makes herself the match of every circumstance.
Continued next week....
Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~
Titus 2:4...."That they may teach the young women to be sober..."
To be sober: To do ones duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
"And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure"(Isa. 33:6).
Common sense
A Sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is owner.
Her most basic responsibility is to make her husbands home run smoothly. She assumes the role of coordinator of all affairs. If the home doesn't run in an orderly manner, the marriage will not be joyous and fulfilling, and neither will child training.
When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet. This planning will eliminate tension and help set a peaceful mood. It is the simple things in life that can break down a marriage and bring about a bitter divorce. But on the positive side, it is the simple planning of lifes activities that can bring health, prosperity, peace, and happiness to a sound marriage and produce gratifying family relationships. Men(and children) appreciate good meals, a clean house, and an atmosphere of peace---a refuge from the stress of life.
Has your DH ever come home from work, and you had just had the WORST day in history with your children, they are sick, you just had a baby or you are sick and so is the newest addition to your little family....and all he does is ask..."Why supper is not ready?"..."Why is the house such a mess?"..and so..on....and on, and on......
Ladies, Even though all of this has happened, you are still responsible for what goes through your head, and what comes out of your moth, and also, what comes out of your attitude....
Noone can dispute, that your DH has just been insensitive, but, 2 wrongs don't make a good marriage. One "right" can make a BIG difference, in a marriage and change that selfish old guy. Always keep in mind that your job is to do a good job serving him, so planning ahead is a must... If you do a better job at your job,(serving him), then your DH wont be so insensitive.... Your DH expects you to plan ahead. He plans ahead at his place of work, otherwise he would lose his job. If you plan ahead, conflicts like this can be avoided, and your DH will be proud to know he has a better wife than the other guys at work. If you pamper your DH, in time he will become more sensitive to your burden, but you must be a soldier and show yourself strong.
My babies were sick to, plus I worked full time, and to keep everything running smoothly, was sometimes more than I could handle. As mothers, we will often be stressed over a sick child, but that is no reason to neglect our other duties. A sober wife, makes herself the match of every circumstance.
Continued next week....
Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Not Fair.......
Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.
This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....
Love to all who read....
Terri
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.
This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....
Love to all who read....
Terri
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Dont mess my hair....
Well, I didnt get this typed as soon as I wanted, but, it is for today.....
Dont mess my hair!
A few years ago, a meeting went on, where men sat in a circle and tried to figure out some answers for some grave matters that they were facing as well as, the course of action to take. Their wives were right beside them or behind them. I looked at one young man, who I will call, Charles. He was there with his attractive wife. In the midst of an intense part of the conversation Charles leaned back and draped his arm around his wifes shoulder. She immediately reacted with obvious irritation, shaking his hand off her shoulder, and leaning forward as if to get away from his embrace. Then she carefully fixed her hair where his arm had disturbed it. His mind was jerked off of the serious problem at hand and was focused on her, now-----as was the attention of almost everyone in the room. To her, brushing him off was nothing, but to all those in the room(including her DH), it was an act of putting him down like a thoughtless inept child. Everyone felt his humiliation. After that, Charles had nothing else to contribute. For the duration of the meeting, he sat downcast, properly chastened, with his hands in his lap. I wanted to get up and visit with her but, did not. It would have shocked her to know that everyone in that room, probably was thinking what I was. She continued to straighten herself, unaware that she was wasting her time trying to look pretty, for she had lost all that was lovely and feminine in that one act of disdain.
Carrying that kind of rejection, on a regular basis, Charles will never really be able to cherish his wife, and he will never have what it takes to become an effective leader or minister. Yes, she is his wife, and he will undoubtly continue to love her. But, his love will always be more of an attempe to win her. Until she repents, he cannot love her with abandoned joy. A mans ego is a fragile thing. How can a man cherish someone who cares so little for his reputation?
Her act was testimony to the state of her heart. She thought more of her hair than her husbands honor. She was rebelling against God in not reverencing her husband. To reverence is an active verb. It is something you so. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence our DHs, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others. Charles was not free; he was troubled and bound inside, and guess who made him feel that way...His wifey, that thought more of her hair, than her DH.
Regardless of how a woman may feel about her husband, she can choose to obey and honor him. A husband is told to love his wife. It involves how he feels toward her. You can will to do what you ought to do much sooner than you can be motivated by your feelings to act. As we said earlier, when you choose the right way, feelings will soon follow.
A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple(minded and heart), and knoweth nothing(even with years of schooling)(Proverbs 9:13).
"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands(by your words and actions)(Proverbs 14:1).
Love to all who read, and may it touch your heart enough to change....
Terri
Dont mess my hair!
A few years ago, a meeting went on, where men sat in a circle and tried to figure out some answers for some grave matters that they were facing as well as, the course of action to take. Their wives were right beside them or behind them. I looked at one young man, who I will call, Charles. He was there with his attractive wife. In the midst of an intense part of the conversation Charles leaned back and draped his arm around his wifes shoulder. She immediately reacted with obvious irritation, shaking his hand off her shoulder, and leaning forward as if to get away from his embrace. Then she carefully fixed her hair where his arm had disturbed it. His mind was jerked off of the serious problem at hand and was focused on her, now-----as was the attention of almost everyone in the room. To her, brushing him off was nothing, but to all those in the room(including her DH), it was an act of putting him down like a thoughtless inept child. Everyone felt his humiliation. After that, Charles had nothing else to contribute. For the duration of the meeting, he sat downcast, properly chastened, with his hands in his lap. I wanted to get up and visit with her but, did not. It would have shocked her to know that everyone in that room, probably was thinking what I was. She continued to straighten herself, unaware that she was wasting her time trying to look pretty, for she had lost all that was lovely and feminine in that one act of disdain.
Carrying that kind of rejection, on a regular basis, Charles will never really be able to cherish his wife, and he will never have what it takes to become an effective leader or minister. Yes, she is his wife, and he will undoubtly continue to love her. But, his love will always be more of an attempe to win her. Until she repents, he cannot love her with abandoned joy. A mans ego is a fragile thing. How can a man cherish someone who cares so little for his reputation?
Her act was testimony to the state of her heart. She thought more of her hair than her husbands honor. She was rebelling against God in not reverencing her husband. To reverence is an active verb. It is something you so. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence our DHs, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others. Charles was not free; he was troubled and bound inside, and guess who made him feel that way...His wifey, that thought more of her hair, than her DH.
Regardless of how a woman may feel about her husband, she can choose to obey and honor him. A husband is told to love his wife. It involves how he feels toward her. You can will to do what you ought to do much sooner than you can be motivated by your feelings to act. As we said earlier, when you choose the right way, feelings will soon follow.
A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple(minded and heart), and knoweth nothing(even with years of schooling)(Proverbs 9:13).
"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands(by your words and actions)(Proverbs 14:1).
Love to all who read, and may it touch your heart enough to change....
Terri
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
The Meaning of Meek;
Not easily provoked(do others "bug" you?), or irritated, submissive to divine will(even if I dont see it that way?), gentle, yielding(is it only on the outside, or does ones heart truly submit?), forebearing(love through whatever)(not harsch), humble, mild, unassuming(ouch!). Does one ever have evil surmisings?
Much Love to you...
Terri
Much Love to you...
Terri
Monday, July 20, 2009
Kings and Kingdoms, contd'.....
Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language.
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?
Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....
Love to all who read....
Terri
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?
Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....
Love to all who read....
Terri
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Kings and Kingdoms.....(New Chapter Ladies)....
A wise woman always receives her husbands overtures with delight, no matter how clumsy they may be.
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."
Part 2 of this text next week....
Love to all who read....
Terri
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."
Part 2 of this text next week....
Love to all who read....
Terri
Monday, June 22, 2009
June 22, 2009 Monday...Earning His Trust...........
Earning His Trust....
Have you ever wondered why your DH does not trust your judgement?, or even worse you? Read on and see how you can change his feelings in that area towards you....
Beware, this may take work on your part in your heart..........
Not all women are as wise as some women. Years ago I knew a sweet young girl who was really dumb. She had a very tender heart(which she thought was Gods love and compassion in her), and she always showed a weakness for men who "needed" her. Her name was Sunny, and she was as fair and lovely as the Sunshine she was named for. Sunny always picked up hitchhikers to witness to, even though the older told her this practice was not wise. One day she picked up a young man of Arab descent, who looked and talked very romantic. To make a long story short, Sunny married him.
She was soon pregnant with their first child, and in a matter of weeks, the violence began. Over the next 7 years, Sunny was rugularly subjected to his alcoholic rages and beatings, and she endured his flaunted unfaithfulness. She and the children were alone for days at a time, even weeks, as her husband stayed with "friends". He returned home to vent his rage and take the few dollars she earned to support their growing family. When Sunny was pregnant with their third baby, Ahmed came home drunk and tried to kil her with a butcher knife. Only the miraculous intervention of an Almighty God spared her life.
Every time Ahmed came home raging drunk, Sunny would leave the house with the loud railing accusations and go to her mothers home and cry out her sorrows. She would get on the phone and call all of her friends and tell them what Ahmed was doing to her. But she did not leave him.
One day, I saw her at a church meeting---a huddled, sodden mass of tears and exhaustion. Sunny confessed to plotting her husbands murder. She said she couldn't tolerate life any more as it was, but her children needed her. So she had decided to kill her husband instead. Her murder plan was well thought out and could have succeeded if God had not sropped her.
I spent hours in prayer and counseling with Sunny that evening. I asked her to make a decision, either to leave her Husband once and for all and put the pieces of her life bback together, or to stay with him and begin a campaign of winning his heart and saving their life together. I fully expected her to leave him that night; but I discovered something amazing about her: Sunny really wanted Gods will in her life. She had grasped and eternal vision about life, and she now believed God could save her man.(DO YOU????)
I knew of Sunnys weakness to blab everything ; she could not keep a secret to save her life. I also knew her husband was a very private man, and that her blabbing about his sins kept him in a rage, as it would any man. I explained to Sunny that in order to win her husbands heart, she needed to reverence him. This did not mean she had to see some goodness or worth in him that was not really there, but that she needed to show him esteem for the sake of her children and herself.
Sunny alredy did everything else right. She was obedient, faithful, cheerful, a keeper at home and a help meet. I encouraged her to go one step further and look for an opportunity to reverence her husband. She was not to speak ill of him ever again. Her conversations with others, as well as with him, would be only praise and appreciation.
Sunny had a learners heart(Do You?). She took my advice, and the change in her husband was obvious in just one week. It is amazing how vulnerable a man is when a woman treats him with honor. He stopped going off with his drunken friends and got a job so he could help support the family. He came to Church occasionally and seemed amazed at the comments prople made. "Sunny says you play the saxophone like a genius". "Sunny told us you were a hamdsome man", "We've been looking forward to meeting you; Sunny told us....." Her Husband was shocked, and Sunny continued on her mission. A week or so later, she got encouraging boosts in the form of a dream.
She dreamed that a top government official came to the office building where her husband worked on a cleanin g crew. The official had a meeting with the manager of the business and told him,"I need to hire a man for the managerial position in my department. The qualifications required are faithfulness, hardworking, honesty, punctuality, and intelligence....no special education needed. We can always teach him what he does not know, but, we cant give him work ethics. So do you have anyone who has a good work ethic like that? the manager said, "I have one guy who fits that profile, but he is just the clean-up man." In Sunnys dream, the government official said, "I don't care if the guy can't read or write, if he is faithful, hardworking guy that I can trust and depend on, then I will hire him and double his wages." In her dream, her husband was hired by the government official to fill a managerial position.
When Sunny awoke, she excitedly told her husband the dream. She was sure that it was a sign he was destined for greatness. Remember what we learned when we studied "Mr. Visionary", how greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments of the lack of them? Previously, when Sunny called her friends to "TELL" them what a creep her husband was, she was reinforcing to him the belief that she thought he was a looser. She publicly shamed him, and he continued to be shameful. Her opinion became his frame of reference. Now Sunny began to publicly exalt him, with miraculous results.
Her husband thought of her dream as silly, but he held his head a little higher when he went to his regular job the next day---on time! Sunny went to her mothers house and got on the phone. She called her friends and told them her dream. This time.....her DH did not mind her blabbing!
To my knowledge, her husband is still on the cleaning crew, and Sunnys dream was just that---a dream. But it expressed her heart toward her husband, and her opinion of him was far more important to him than any job he could ever get. When she dreamed he was a winner and told it around, Her husband tried to live up to that image-----LADIES..THIS IS A KEY..WHAT WE SAY ABOUT OUR DH'S IS HOW THEY ARE----So do say uplifting things, or tear them down because they are as human as you?
Her husband found such pleasure in her life that he wanted to find out about her God....In time, He learned to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. The las time I visited with her, they were both growing in the Lord together.
The Scripture says, she won him "without word" (Bible) by her "conversation"(1Peter 3:1). God's way works. Who would have ever believed it? Sunny did-------Can You?
Ladies, where is your heart in this story(true by the way)....Do you lift up your husband in front of others(ie...family, children, friends, church people)...or do YOU make remarks, tell tale things, tell about his faults?
Lets try this week, to ONLY say good things about our DHs....It not only changes our hearts, but, others too.....
LOVE TO ALL WHO READ THIS BLOG....
TERRI
Have you ever wondered why your DH does not trust your judgement?, or even worse you? Read on and see how you can change his feelings in that area towards you....
Beware, this may take work on your part in your heart..........
Not all women are as wise as some women. Years ago I knew a sweet young girl who was really dumb. She had a very tender heart(which she thought was Gods love and compassion in her), and she always showed a weakness for men who "needed" her. Her name was Sunny, and she was as fair and lovely as the Sunshine she was named for. Sunny always picked up hitchhikers to witness to, even though the older told her this practice was not wise. One day she picked up a young man of Arab descent, who looked and talked very romantic. To make a long story short, Sunny married him.
She was soon pregnant with their first child, and in a matter of weeks, the violence began. Over the next 7 years, Sunny was rugularly subjected to his alcoholic rages and beatings, and she endured his flaunted unfaithfulness. She and the children were alone for days at a time, even weeks, as her husband stayed with "friends". He returned home to vent his rage and take the few dollars she earned to support their growing family. When Sunny was pregnant with their third baby, Ahmed came home drunk and tried to kil her with a butcher knife. Only the miraculous intervention of an Almighty God spared her life.
Every time Ahmed came home raging drunk, Sunny would leave the house with the loud railing accusations and go to her mothers home and cry out her sorrows. She would get on the phone and call all of her friends and tell them what Ahmed was doing to her. But she did not leave him.
One day, I saw her at a church meeting---a huddled, sodden mass of tears and exhaustion. Sunny confessed to plotting her husbands murder. She said she couldn't tolerate life any more as it was, but her children needed her. So she had decided to kill her husband instead. Her murder plan was well thought out and could have succeeded if God had not sropped her.
I spent hours in prayer and counseling with Sunny that evening. I asked her to make a decision, either to leave her Husband once and for all and put the pieces of her life bback together, or to stay with him and begin a campaign of winning his heart and saving their life together. I fully expected her to leave him that night; but I discovered something amazing about her: Sunny really wanted Gods will in her life. She had grasped and eternal vision about life, and she now believed God could save her man.(DO YOU????)
I knew of Sunnys weakness to blab everything ; she could not keep a secret to save her life. I also knew her husband was a very private man, and that her blabbing about his sins kept him in a rage, as it would any man. I explained to Sunny that in order to win her husbands heart, she needed to reverence him. This did not mean she had to see some goodness or worth in him that was not really there, but that she needed to show him esteem for the sake of her children and herself.
Sunny alredy did everything else right. She was obedient, faithful, cheerful, a keeper at home and a help meet. I encouraged her to go one step further and look for an opportunity to reverence her husband. She was not to speak ill of him ever again. Her conversations with others, as well as with him, would be only praise and appreciation.
Sunny had a learners heart(Do You?). She took my advice, and the change in her husband was obvious in just one week. It is amazing how vulnerable a man is when a woman treats him with honor. He stopped going off with his drunken friends and got a job so he could help support the family. He came to Church occasionally and seemed amazed at the comments prople made. "Sunny says you play the saxophone like a genius". "Sunny told us you were a hamdsome man", "We've been looking forward to meeting you; Sunny told us....." Her Husband was shocked, and Sunny continued on her mission. A week or so later, she got encouraging boosts in the form of a dream.
She dreamed that a top government official came to the office building where her husband worked on a cleanin g crew. The official had a meeting with the manager of the business and told him,"I need to hire a man for the managerial position in my department. The qualifications required are faithfulness, hardworking, honesty, punctuality, and intelligence....no special education needed. We can always teach him what he does not know, but, we cant give him work ethics. So do you have anyone who has a good work ethic like that? the manager said, "I have one guy who fits that profile, but he is just the clean-up man." In Sunnys dream, the government official said, "I don't care if the guy can't read or write, if he is faithful, hardworking guy that I can trust and depend on, then I will hire him and double his wages." In her dream, her husband was hired by the government official to fill a managerial position.
When Sunny awoke, she excitedly told her husband the dream. She was sure that it was a sign he was destined for greatness. Remember what we learned when we studied "Mr. Visionary", how greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments of the lack of them? Previously, when Sunny called her friends to "TELL" them what a creep her husband was, she was reinforcing to him the belief that she thought he was a looser. She publicly shamed him, and he continued to be shameful. Her opinion became his frame of reference. Now Sunny began to publicly exalt him, with miraculous results.
Her husband thought of her dream as silly, but he held his head a little higher when he went to his regular job the next day---on time! Sunny went to her mothers house and got on the phone. She called her friends and told them her dream. This time.....her DH did not mind her blabbing!
To my knowledge, her husband is still on the cleaning crew, and Sunnys dream was just that---a dream. But it expressed her heart toward her husband, and her opinion of him was far more important to him than any job he could ever get. When she dreamed he was a winner and told it around, Her husband tried to live up to that image-----LADIES..THIS IS A KEY..WHAT WE SAY ABOUT OUR DH'S IS HOW THEY ARE----So do say uplifting things, or tear them down because they are as human as you?
Her husband found such pleasure in her life that he wanted to find out about her God....In time, He learned to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. The las time I visited with her, they were both growing in the Lord together.
The Scripture says, she won him "without word" (Bible) by her "conversation"(1Peter 3:1). God's way works. Who would have ever believed it? Sunny did-------Can You?
Ladies, where is your heart in this story(true by the way)....Do you lift up your husband in front of others(ie...family, children, friends, church people)...or do YOU make remarks, tell tale things, tell about his faults?
Lets try this week, to ONLY say good things about our DHs....It not only changes our hearts, but, others too.....
LOVE TO ALL WHO READ THIS BLOG....
TERRI
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Monday, the Promise.....
Sorry for not getting on here earlier, my computer got another virus.........
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....
On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........
Love to all who read....
Terri
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....
On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........
Love to all who read....
Terri
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Eve has many sisters......
Well, Ladies, I wish summer was not sooooooooooo busy, it is hard for me to get my posts out daily......Here is Mondays and the rest of the week.
Eve has many sisters....
When men struggle with fleshly imaginations, we women give ourselves over to emotional imaginations and create a world of hurt for ourselves and those atound us. Satan goes after the man directly, offering him pleasure, power, or glory, just as he did with Jesus during his desert temprtation experience. But satan goes after us ladies as he went after Eve, with subtlety. the tempter asked Eve a question designed to stir her imaginations into supposing that God did not have the best of intentions for her.
"Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD GOD made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall eat of every tree of the garden?"(Genesis 3:1). satan was neading Eve to question Gods motives. He went on to imply that God was keeping something from her, "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ;ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil"(Genesis 3:5). Eve was deceived through her runaway imaginations. The root of her sin was doubting God's goodwill toward her. Even today, has many sisters. We still doubt the one in authority over us and imagine that he does not intend good for us. Like Eve, we imagine that we can disobey the authority of God's word and of our husband's word because we imagine that we have a higher purpose---to be more spiritual.
We have been tricked into believing that our husbands have committed offenses against us, all the while thinking that we are more spiritual because of the insights we have. We all agree that any man who lives in a lustful daydream is a godless man. And I say to you readers, that any woman who lives on the edge, expecting to be offended and believing ill will on every hand, that woman is living in vain imaginations and is a godless woman. It is time to get yourself under God-ordained authority. Believe God, believe the best of your husband, your neighbors, your church, your family, etc., and get on with the blessings of joy of life and marriage.
Ladies, I know, I keep saying this, but this really does work, not overnight, it takes time, believe me, pray and try, God is right there to help yu along the way.
Have you stepped out of being a broken record and stepped into playing in your mind those things that you are Thankful for. God speaks in Phillipians 4:8: "Finally, brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsosever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; is there be any virture, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
See, even in Gods word, we are not to be broken records or drippy fawcetts...we are to make our minds think on the above things...yes, it will take time, yes, it is hard, yes, it does not happen overnight. My mom says, "ANYTHING WORTH HAVING, IS WORTH WORKING FOR."
Are you going to work for something that is more precious than gold?
Have your children gotten the "mad wife" disease? Lets get over it before our children become infected with it, our families become infected with it.....Our children honor their daddy, because mother does, same with our families. I remember, when I would spout at my mother, who is not even a believer, she would automatically start talking down about my DH....argh!!!!
Now, I lift him up, and she does to.....How do your child(ren) see their daddy?
As your child(ren), gorw up they will become adults, they will discover that their daddy has faults, then, they will forgive their daddy as their mother has done. When they are grown, and they can see the whole picture, they will see that their mother is one of the finest mothers/wifes in the whole wide world, BECAUSE, she forgave... they will rise up and call their mother blessed.
Someday their mothers husband may grow up and grow out of his foolishness, and if he does, he will too, call her blessed. This wife/mother will have earned the daddys love and devotion, because she reverenced him when there was little in him to honor. She loved because God first loved her.
When we treat others with the love and forgiveness that Scripture talks about(now, you are thinking, he/they/she does not deserve it, your probably right, but, on the cross when Jesus forgave our sins, did and do we deserve it?) The forgiveness you heap on the heads of those who don't deserve it, shows the power of God at work in your life, and believe you me, others see it. Those who are receiving the forgiveness, will get a lump in their throats, because they know they don't deserve it. Let it work, not in spite, not in anger, but, with the same love Jesus showed on you when you did not deserve it. Your DH will get a lump in his throat not only because of your forgiveness, but, because of the reverence you bestow on him. There can be no greater love, and no greater inducement to repentance.
Not one of us honestly thinks this DH deserves your reverence, or your love for that matter. He is a first class stinker and deserves to sleep alone in an alley under a cardboard box. But, God has called us to a higher plane. It is on this higher plane that we discover the wonder of life, of love, and of forgiveness. And it is the place where we will come to be cherished. Few men are able to continue being angry, lustful, and selfish, in the face of such a strong force as being reverenced.
Ladies/ Friends......
This heaping "hot coals" of love on their heads, works, not a one time thing, not immediately, but, it does work......Gods word is true, and it still works.....
Pray, and ask God to help you do just this, "Heap hot coals of LOVE on their heads"....
More next week....
Love to all who read~~~~~
Terri
Eve has many sisters....
When men struggle with fleshly imaginations, we women give ourselves over to emotional imaginations and create a world of hurt for ourselves and those atound us. Satan goes after the man directly, offering him pleasure, power, or glory, just as he did with Jesus during his desert temprtation experience. But satan goes after us ladies as he went after Eve, with subtlety. the tempter asked Eve a question designed to stir her imaginations into supposing that God did not have the best of intentions for her.
"Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD GOD made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall eat of every tree of the garden?"(Genesis 3:1). satan was neading Eve to question Gods motives. He went on to imply that God was keeping something from her, "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ;ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil"(Genesis 3:5). Eve was deceived through her runaway imaginations. The root of her sin was doubting God's goodwill toward her. Even today, has many sisters. We still doubt the one in authority over us and imagine that he does not intend good for us. Like Eve, we imagine that we can disobey the authority of God's word and of our husband's word because we imagine that we have a higher purpose---to be more spiritual.
We have been tricked into believing that our husbands have committed offenses against us, all the while thinking that we are more spiritual because of the insights we have. We all agree that any man who lives in a lustful daydream is a godless man. And I say to you readers, that any woman who lives on the edge, expecting to be offended and believing ill will on every hand, that woman is living in vain imaginations and is a godless woman. It is time to get yourself under God-ordained authority. Believe God, believe the best of your husband, your neighbors, your church, your family, etc., and get on with the blessings of joy of life and marriage.
Ladies, I know, I keep saying this, but this really does work, not overnight, it takes time, believe me, pray and try, God is right there to help yu along the way.
Have you stepped out of being a broken record and stepped into playing in your mind those things that you are Thankful for. God speaks in Phillipians 4:8: "Finally, brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsosever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; is there be any virture, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
See, even in Gods word, we are not to be broken records or drippy fawcetts...we are to make our minds think on the above things...yes, it will take time, yes, it is hard, yes, it does not happen overnight. My mom says, "ANYTHING WORTH HAVING, IS WORTH WORKING FOR."
Are you going to work for something that is more precious than gold?
Have your children gotten the "mad wife" disease? Lets get over it before our children become infected with it, our families become infected with it.....Our children honor their daddy, because mother does, same with our families. I remember, when I would spout at my mother, who is not even a believer, she would automatically start talking down about my DH....argh!!!!
Now, I lift him up, and she does to.....How do your child(ren) see their daddy?
As your child(ren), gorw up they will become adults, they will discover that their daddy has faults, then, they will forgive their daddy as their mother has done. When they are grown, and they can see the whole picture, they will see that their mother is one of the finest mothers/wifes in the whole wide world, BECAUSE, she forgave... they will rise up and call their mother blessed.
Someday their mothers husband may grow up and grow out of his foolishness, and if he does, he will too, call her blessed. This wife/mother will have earned the daddys love and devotion, because she reverenced him when there was little in him to honor. She loved because God first loved her.
When we treat others with the love and forgiveness that Scripture talks about(now, you are thinking, he/they/she does not deserve it, your probably right, but, on the cross when Jesus forgave our sins, did and do we deserve it?) The forgiveness you heap on the heads of those who don't deserve it, shows the power of God at work in your life, and believe you me, others see it. Those who are receiving the forgiveness, will get a lump in their throats, because they know they don't deserve it. Let it work, not in spite, not in anger, but, with the same love Jesus showed on you when you did not deserve it. Your DH will get a lump in his throat not only because of your forgiveness, but, because of the reverence you bestow on him. There can be no greater love, and no greater inducement to repentance.
Not one of us honestly thinks this DH deserves your reverence, or your love for that matter. He is a first class stinker and deserves to sleep alone in an alley under a cardboard box. But, God has called us to a higher plane. It is on this higher plane that we discover the wonder of life, of love, and of forgiveness. And it is the place where we will come to be cherished. Few men are able to continue being angry, lustful, and selfish, in the face of such a strong force as being reverenced.
Ladies/ Friends......
This heaping "hot coals" of love on their heads, works, not a one time thing, not immediately, but, it does work......Gods word is true, and it still works.....
Pray, and ask God to help you do just this, "Heap hot coals of LOVE on their heads"....
More next week....
Love to all who read~~~~~
Terri
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Tuesday....Our reading material.....
Tuesday....
Our reading material....
What does our reading material say in our hearts?
Does it lft up the one and only God of the universe? Or, does it kind of hint about the "one".....?
Beware, of falsities in this reading material....hinting, about "the one" and only true God, is it what our minds know as that, our minds will pick up subtleties in what we read...Does our reading ..."build us up in the most holy faith...", or does it tickle our ears?
Does it help us grow into the likeness of Christ, love our fellow man more, have more Grace for the unlovely, or does it make us critical, judgemental and just plain grumpy at those who dont do/think/dress as we think they should?
Lets keep our eyes open to the subtleties of the enemy in our souls...
Love...
Terri...
Our reading material....
What does our reading material say in our hearts?
Does it lft up the one and only God of the universe? Or, does it kind of hint about the "one".....?
Beware, of falsities in this reading material....hinting, about "the one" and only true God, is it what our minds know as that, our minds will pick up subtleties in what we read...Does our reading ..."build us up in the most holy faith...", or does it tickle our ears?
Does it help us grow into the likeness of Christ, love our fellow man more, have more Grace for the unlovely, or does it make us critical, judgemental and just plain grumpy at those who dont do/think/dress as we think they should?
Lets keep our eyes open to the subtleties of the enemy in our souls...
Love...
Terri...
Sorry for not getting to my posts all week, was sick, and in over my head with other stuff, , Summer?!~><......?
Here they are now.....
Monday...."The Great Mystery"....
"A wise woman understands that her husbands nees to be honored is NOT based on his performance, but, on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is Gods will for her life."
"This is a great mystery:but I speak concerning Christ and the church... and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph. 5:32-33).
There are 12 mysteries in Gods Word, but only the 7th is listed as the Great mystery. Each mystery is a strange, beautiful truth which is for us hard to understand. The old Websters Dictionary defines mystery as ,"something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being aboave human intelligence. An enigma: anything artfully made difficult."
Jesus wants us for a friend. He seeks to create through me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church through eternity.
Amazing as it sounds, marriage between a man and a woman is what God chose as the closest example of Christs relationship to his bride, the Church. You are part of eternity when you submit to your husband. Submission, reverence, and honor are virtues God seeks to establish in his sons bride. Your marriage to your husband is preparing you for a marriage in Heaven. You may think, "But, it would be easy being married to Christ. You are forgetting about haveing to offer ones son upon a alter.....that is what Abraham had to do with his son....What if your husband killed you for lying? That is what God did to Saphira....
For a woman to usurp authority over a man is aggaronce to God Almighty, like treason in camp. It would be like a man taking authority over Christ, or like the Church becoming jealous of Jesus' leadership and taking authority unto itself. It would be doing just what Lucifer did when he said in Isaiah 14:13-14, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north...I will be like the most High." Lucifer, like Eve, was not satisfied with his station in Gods eternal progrtam. He tried to jump rank and ascend higher on the chain of command. God cast him down, as he will do with men and women who attempt to live beyond their created position.
Knowing that my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life. As I reverence my DH, I am creating a picture of how we, the Church, should reverence Christ. You have wondered why God would tell us to do such a think as to reverence our husbands. Now you know.
"This is a great mystery: but I speak conderning Christ and the church.....and the wife see to it that she reverences her husband"(Eph. 5:32).
Reverence; to revere, to ber in awe; fear mingled with respect and esteem.
1. Obedience is doing what yo know the other person wants you to do.
2. Submission is your heart giving over to the other persons will.
3. Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the womans will, to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
Obedience, Submission, and reverence are all acts of the will and are not based of feelings. Showing deference toward ones husband is an act of reverence toward the God who placed you in that role.
Ladies, I am still living this and it still works....Yes, I fall flat on my face, but, that is what repentance is all about, and a God of Grace....
Dont quit, keep on....
My relationship with my DH, and my respect/reverence/hon or for him only grows with every time I allow the Holy Spirit to convict my heart, I repent(sometimes to my DH), and go on and PUT MY WILL DOWN....
Its all about putting our will down, and not having to be right....We are wrong, you know!!!!
Love to all who read,
Terri
Here they are now.....
Monday...."The Great Mystery"....
"A wise woman understands that her husbands nees to be honored is NOT based on his performance, but, on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is Gods will for her life."
"This is a great mystery:but I speak concerning Christ and the church... and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph. 5:32-33).
There are 12 mysteries in Gods Word, but only the 7th is listed as the Great mystery. Each mystery is a strange, beautiful truth which is for us hard to understand. The old Websters Dictionary defines mystery as ,"something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being aboave human intelligence. An enigma: anything artfully made difficult."
Jesus wants us for a friend. He seeks to create through me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church through eternity.
Amazing as it sounds, marriage between a man and a woman is what God chose as the closest example of Christs relationship to his bride, the Church. You are part of eternity when you submit to your husband. Submission, reverence, and honor are virtues God seeks to establish in his sons bride. Your marriage to your husband is preparing you for a marriage in Heaven. You may think, "But, it would be easy being married to Christ. You are forgetting about haveing to offer ones son upon a alter.....that is what Abraham had to do with his son....What if your husband killed you for lying? That is what God did to Saphira....
For a woman to usurp authority over a man is aggaronce to God Almighty, like treason in camp. It would be like a man taking authority over Christ, or like the Church becoming jealous of Jesus' leadership and taking authority unto itself. It would be doing just what Lucifer did when he said in Isaiah 14:13-14, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north...I will be like the most High." Lucifer, like Eve, was not satisfied with his station in Gods eternal progrtam. He tried to jump rank and ascend higher on the chain of command. God cast him down, as he will do with men and women who attempt to live beyond their created position.
Knowing that my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life. As I reverence my DH, I am creating a picture of how we, the Church, should reverence Christ. You have wondered why God would tell us to do such a think as to reverence our husbands. Now you know.
"This is a great mystery: but I speak conderning Christ and the church.....and the wife see to it that she reverences her husband"(Eph. 5:32).
Reverence; to revere, to ber in awe; fear mingled with respect and esteem.
1. Obedience is doing what yo know the other person wants you to do.
2. Submission is your heart giving over to the other persons will.
3. Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the womans will, to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
Obedience, Submission, and reverence are all acts of the will and are not based of feelings. Showing deference toward ones husband is an act of reverence toward the God who placed you in that role.
Ladies, I am still living this and it still works....Yes, I fall flat on my face, but, that is what repentance is all about, and a God of Grace....
Dont quit, keep on....
My relationship with my DH, and my respect/reverence/hon or for him only grows with every time I allow the Holy Spirit to convict my heart, I repent(sometimes to my DH), and go on and PUT MY WILL DOWN....
Its all about putting our will down, and not having to be right....We are wrong, you know!!!!
Love to all who read,
Terri
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