Your God ordained place....

   A letter was written to me about a "switch" being turned off after birthing the children...Has your "switch" turned off to your DH, because ???????? Consequently,has  His(DH) "switch" turned off also, you live married and still do everything married couples do except, for sexual relations....How can this be? Obviously, the marriage was not as good as one thinks or one would not be concerned and writing as one did....
 "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render(give) unto the wife due benevelence(sexual gratification for her): and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and pryer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency"(I cor. 7:2-5).
Hmmmm. pretty strong words...Lets go on....
   Dear Mrs.?(Could you put your name in here?)........
   You would not be writing unless you are both unhappy with your current realtionship. You know this should not be. When you married you sugned over to become a helper for his needs. Your lifes work is to help your husband. Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends. In practice, you are not in a marriage relationship with your husband. You and your husband are effectively living in a seperate status..having put each other away .
   God commands, in I Cor. 7:5...."Defraud not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan temp you not for your incontinency."
   God has already told us that not having regular intimacy is giving Satan an opportunity to tempt married couples. Wife, it is your God-ordained helper place to your husband to be his totally enthusiastic intimacy partner, ready to enjoy him at all times. To do less is a grave error. If you love your DH, as God commands, you will always seek to give him pleasure. In so doing, you will fulfill your role as his suitable helper.

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Christlikeness?

The life I live should reveal what I believe; whether the "world" or "Christ".

Are you a nominal Christian(conformed to the world, and not Christ)? How do you make a difference in the false values and beliefs around you? When a Christian responds/acts like those looking on, they see no difference, "Why should they change?, but, if they see a difference n your demanor....they can't help but want what you have. Afterall....Christlikeness is all that really matters, not?

Love to all who read....
Terri

Frame of reference....

Frame of reference...
A mans concept of marriage is different from a womans. Especially after he has gone without intimacy for a few days. This book is not a "how to" for a man. I will skip his part and deal with the ladies part. God describes marriage as"they two shall be one flesh", which is, their bodies coming together. 
   Many men feel that marriage is not quite what they thought it was going to be. Some men spend their youth dreaming about the wild passion they are going to experience with the one woman they love more than life. It is their expression of the oneness they will have with her alone and her alone. This is truly Gods design for a man in the department of love .
   The man remembers the passinate looks his sweetheart gave him before marriage. He had  naturally assumed that she would always think of him in that all-consuming loving way.
   When they were courting, that is the way she made him feel. He saw it refelcted in her face. All he wanted was to satisfy that hungry anumal he thought she was, and, for a while, she was all he had hoped for; but then
it faded away. She wasnt interested anymore. Her disinterest in him intimately is a reflection of her heart, and he knows it. Ther are a multitude of excuses women use to explain why they would "rather not" or why they "cannot respond" this way. I think  her husband knows in his spirit that all her excuses are just that:excuses for not wanting him.

My computer is acting up again, I can only write a few lines then it shuts off.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
 

Cont'd from the previous post.....

It is not the fact of a grouchy husband nor is it the fact of a bad day...It just may be the fact of simple planning that can make or break your day.....

Let me share a few tips....

Mondays...the same thing every week, maybe, peas, potatoes, and minute steaks..
Tuesday...Meatloaf with sweet potatoes..
Wednesdays....roast with mashed potatoes and green beans...
Thursdays....spaghetti with salad...
Fridays...Fish, chips, and salad...
This is just a suggestion, be creative, use your imagination....this may just be the key to getting you started for planning....
The regular dinners each week, made it easier for Mom to plan and buy the weeks groceries. My dad would look forward to the meal he knew would be hot and waiting for him when he came home from work.

A grocery list with the weeks meals well-defned is a very handy tool.

As wives, our lifes work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands.

Sometimes, maintaining a good relationship with yor husband simply requires the performing of simple tasks, like havuing a meal ready on time and a clean house, even when it is not easy or convenient to do so.

TRAITS OF A GOOD HELPMEET

*A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
*She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
*She plans and prepares well ahead of tome.
*She exercises self discipline.

~~~*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your lifes work and have missed Gods perfect plan.*~~~

Strawberries and Sweet Love

I have sweet memories of time spent picking strawberries. the thing I remember most vividly ismy wrinkled old grandpa down on his knees beside me picking strawberries and talking up one row and down the other about my Grandmother and how much he loved her. Apparently, he didnt see her bulging country dress, the thin white hair, and her wrinkled old face. The thought of him loving her and of her being a beautiful woman was a novel ides in my childish thinking, but, I found it delightful. I remember giggling so much, I found it hard to pick! His declaration of love to her, was very comforting. My Grandma honored and obeyed my Grandfather. It was their foundation of love and home that made the family(even the extended family) strong. As you read the next story, you will see why we were made strong by our examples....we were conditioned to please our husbands. They taught us how to resist taking offense, and that we were never to "give him a piece of our mind." If Grandma did get offended, noone would ever know it, because it was well understood, that a lady had duties and she must be sober in her execution of them? Maybe that is another title for another chapter, a lady?, What is one, and how do I get there?

"A wise woman doesn't ever allow herself to be a liability, but strives to always be an asset to the marriage. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because of his wife."

Cont'd next week with the next story....

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Compassion, much needed for these tumultous times.........

Compassion....
Who has compassion?
Who has love?
Who has generosity?
Who has a general kindness?

I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight

That to somebodys need made me blind;

But I never have yet felt a tinge of regret

For being a little too kind.

Author unknown

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~


God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.

"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).

Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)

Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.

Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.

Love to all who read....
Terri

Continutaion on "Peace"......

Repentance and Confession of Sin Leads to Peace of Mind.......

Maybe you feel the heavy load of past sins weighing you down, and you feel you have more than you can bear. The Lord offers the remedy in Acts 3:19. "Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted our, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord." 1 John 1:9 also says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." As a result, you will have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ (Romans 5:1).
In the 23rd Psalm David expresses his confidence in God. He gives a very descriptive message of the peace he experienced. This peace and fellowship is for all those who have a vital companionship with the Shepherd.
The 23rd Psalm...........
"The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for hou art with me; thy rod and thy staff comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; My cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house fo the LORD forever."
Do you know this Shepherd? Do you believe and trust Him? Isaiah tells us that this tender, merciful Shepherd "shall gather the lambs in His arm, and carry them in his bosom"(Isaiah 40:11). Are you ready to be lifted out of confusion into the serenity ofGod's everlasting arms? Are you ready to commit to Him your past sins, your present temptations, your fears of the furure, and yield yourself completely to Him? The Lord gives you the choice. It is yours to make.

Abiding Peace.........

When you come to Jesus Christ with your whole heart, your search for peace of mind will be over. He will give peace, and a calm that comes only from trusting HIm. You will be able to say with the poet:

I know a peace, where there is no peace,
A cal, where wild winds blow,
A secret place where face to face
With the master I may go.
----------Ralph spalding Cushman

You will have peace of mind in a troubled world! Open the door of tour heart to Christ--just now--and someday He'll open the door of heaven for you, where perfect peace will reign and never end...........

I hope this has touched yourheart, may you find "Him"........



Terri

Continuation of..."The nature of men and women"..

"The Virtuous Woman....

Proverbs 31 defines the virtuous woman. She is NOT MOUSY, voiceless prude. She is confident, hardworking, creative and resourceful. Her first virtue is that the heart of her husband is safe with her. That is, he can trust her with his thoughts and feelings, never fearing that she might use the private knowledge she has of him to hurt him in any way. A man will maintain a distance from his wife, never really opening up to her, if he senses she might give this knowledge out inadvertently or use it against him when they are out of sorts. A man whose heart is safe with his wife will never tell her what he intends to do or how he feels, because on previous occasions she has assumed the role of overseer by taking it upon herself to be his conscience and the manager of his time. She reminds him of what he said he was going to do ina manner that says, "I am holding you to it. What is wrong with you? Are you a sloth or something?"

He finds it more peaceful to keep his own counsel. Wives, never use your special knowledge of your husband as leverage to get your way.

If this passage in Proverbs had been written from our modern perspective, it would have extolled her for having a "quiet time" and being a "prayer warrior", teacher, or counselor. In all the Scriptural profiles of righteous women, including Proverbs 31, no such concepts are ever mentioned. In our culture, we have lost a a clear understanding of what constitutes a virtuous woman. We have accepted the modern idea of the "spirtitual" woman circulating in the realm of religious power, and have forgotten that God does not see them in the same "glorious" light. What we think is spiritual, God labels "Jezebel"."For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord"(Isiah 55:8).

A woman working beside her man is a spiritual force for them both. A woman providing good intimacy and fun company is offering her husband a spiritual benefit. A woman preparing healthy meals and cutting the grass so he can go fishing on Saturday is a spiritual woman, because she is placing him above herself. There is no greater love than to put another first.

<<<<<<<<<<<<<"Dominance and control is always a masculine trait and characteristic.">>>>>>>>>>>

It is important for a woman to understand that she must be feminine(devoid of dominance and control)in order for her man to view her as his exact counterpart, and thus willingly respond to her protectively,with love and geltleness.

A woman who criticizes her husband for watching too much TV, playing too much golf, or indulging in a any frivolous activity is expressing dishonor. When the relationship is properly balanced, a wife can make an appeal at the right time and in the right manner, and it need not be challanging to his authority. We will speak of how to make an appeal in due course. But know of a certainity that when a woman continually tries to assert her own will against her husbands, throwing it up to him that he is wrong, she is usurping authority over him, lording it over him, and dishonoring him. A women who continues in this behaviour blasphemes God and can expect Gods unsure reward.

I say again; when a woman steps outside her nature and assumes the dominant role, she will soon become emotionally and physically exhausted.

A man cannot cherish a strong woman who expresses her displeasure of him.

You say, that HE should model Christs love regardless of how SHE acts. Is this what you want? Is it what Christ wants? Do you wnat your husband to be forced to seek supernatural power just to find a ways to love you? Do you want to be another of his trials--his greatest example of overcoming adversity?

The home front should not be a spiritual battlefield; it should be the place where a man relaxes and can be vulnerable with the woman he cherishes. Men will always want to reclaim those times when love was fun and free, with no demands, like the times when she would smile at him with that sweet, girlish, "I think you are wonderful" expression. She was so feminine then, so much the woman. He wanted to hold her just because she was a bundle of delightful joy. He would do anything for her.

TIME TO CONSIDER:

God placed man in the position of HEAD of the family, not because he is wiser or more capable, but because it is part of Gods plan.

When people thn k of your family, do they see your husband as the principlc player, or do they think of you as the main character? Would they refer to your family as "Cathys family", od as "Johns family"..? Have you usurped the position of headship?

the very first command god ever gave to a women was,

"Thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee"(Gen. 3:16). Is your desire toward your husband? Do you live to please him?, Or, do you expect him to live up to YOUR convictions and whims. Do you spend your days in angry frustration over his unwillingness to change to your specifications?

If so, you have become Jezebel !!!!!!!!!!!

Biblical Profile Contrast

Jezebel profile... Virtuous Woman Profile

1. Prophetess 1. Help Meet

2.Teacher 2.Silent

3.One who pities 3.Encourager

4. Religious 4.Prudent worker

5. Controller 5.Submissive

Ladies...lets take a good hard look at our own hearts. Where is it?

Much love to all who read this blog, May the Holy Spirit help all to be more Godly and a "Virtuous Woman".................

Terri

My Weekly Blog Schedule....

My weekly blog Schedule is now like this...

Mondays...Created to be His Helpmeet

Tuesdays.....Note from Sermons

Wednesdays.....Annie Johnson Flint Poetry

Thursdays.....Tracts

Annie Johnson Flint's Story, The Story of Annie Johnson Flint

This is a Woman who I ran across on the net...Her poetry has touched my heart....click on the title to finish reading the story....I am going to have her poetry every wednesday to share with my readers...
Love to all...
Terri

Annie Johnson Flint's Story, The Story of Annie Johnson Flint: "Annie's Story
By Rowland V. Bingham
Bible Memory Association International
No copyright and no date



EARLY LIFE
Annie was born on Christmas Eve, in the year 1866, in the little town of Vineland, New Jersey. Eldon and Jean Johnson, the father and mother, welcomed that Christmas present as the greatest earthly gift. The father was of English descent, and the mother was Scottish.
The only remembrance of her mother dates back to the time just before her mother's death in 1869 (at the age of twenty-three) following the birth of a baby sister for Annie. She must have looked with wonder from that baby face into the mother's face that day, for it was the only imprint of that mother's likeness that lived in her memory. The baby was left for life-long companionship. The father took the children to board with the widow of an old army comrade who had been killed in the Civil War. It was not a happy arrangement. The woman had two children of her own and her means were very limited. During the two years the Johnson girls added to the cares of that family, they were evidently unwelcome and unwanted.
But it was at this time when the outlook seemed so dark for their young lives, that a neighbor interposed in a kindly way. She loomed in the memory as Aunt Susie, although she could claim no blood relation to this friend. Aunt Susie was a school teacher, and boarded near the school in the home of Mr. and Mrs. Flint. She became so strongly attached to the Johnson girls that she was continually speaking of them to the Flints, and at last so aroused their sympathy on behalf of the motherless children, that a little over two years after their mother's death they were adopted by the Flints, whose name thereafter they bore. While their name"

Our name in the Book of LIfe?

Good Morning to all who read....

Is your name written in the Book of Life? Do I allow the "cares of this life" to weigh me down?

The martyrs followed and their names were in the Book Of Life, and knew death was imminent when professing Christianity. Do I follow because of ?....Is it pressure or a willingness on my own?

Is my christianity a ressilient one, or do I get discouraged when persecuted?

How do others see me as a Christian? The thought of "As long as my heart is right, does anything else matter..is a big thought in our world today....What is in our hearts eventually comes out....Then does the outward matter? Of course, because what is inour hearts comes out(ward)!

So what is in our hearts is what we wear on the outside...not? What we wear on the outside is for all to see, and it tells all what is in our hearts.

If we really are not right in our hearts, and it shows on the outside, will we hear the trump when it is blown? Does my liufe line up with the Scripture?

what exactly does the outside of me say about the inside of me?

Notes from our service...

Love to all....

Terri

The nature of man and woman....Ruth and Esther Profile....

In contrast, God reveals the ideal woman in positive stories about women who honored him. The story of Ruth is about a young girl who had known tragedy, extreme poverty, and hard menial work. Yet, she maintained a thankful and submissive attitude. Read the book of Ruth and see a beautiful example of bold femininity that caused Boaz to love and admire her. Note her willingness to work and her willing obedience to the Scriptural teaching of her aged mother-in-law, Naomi. And lastly, see the wonderful blessing God showered on her in placing her nto the lineage of his only begotten son..

Esther is the story of a Jewish Girl who lost her family and was taken by force to bewcome the wife of an older, divorced, heathen man. She could have asked herself the silly question, "Is he really even my husband? Did I marry the right man?, since he was divorced?" If she had, there never would have been a book in the Bible describing her courage, honor, and fortitude.

She was put(by her husbands decree) in danger of losing her own life and the lives of all her people, the Jews. Yet, she rose above her circumstances and her natural fear, to honor her husband, even as she made an appeal to save her own life, along with the lives of her people.

God has laid down only a few simple rules for women to follow, because they are consistent with our feminine nature and the nature of men. It was Esther's submission to these principles that won the King's love and his appreciation for her as his queen. These 2 women showed themselves womanly and lovable in the midst of extreme circumstances. God honored them with his favor and favor from the men in their lives.

Love to all who read this, May we all apply this to our lives...

Terri

Unconditional Surrender

Good Morning Ladies....

I thought for today, I would share my thoughts about this title....What does that mean , you are thinking...Lets find out....

Immediate and unconditional surrender is the only way we can truly serve God. In the battles of life, those who loose are at the mercies of the winners. If the loosers don't give up, immediately and unconditionally to their captives, it just wouldn't work for the loosers.

If we desire to live a Christian life, the only way we can, and the thing Jesus offers is "freedom", but, with unconditional surrender of our hearts and minds and wills.

Luke 14:31..We wonder, "Why is Christianity not clear, why cannot I hear the voice of the Holy Spirit? Could it be a lack of complete surrender in our lives? Am I willing to do whatever the Holy Spirit asks of me? Even when it goes against my own thinking? Rev. 2:26-28

Matthew...Are we holding onto a "part" of ourselves, that perhaps God has ask us to give up and let go of? We don't want anyone else to know, we want to keep it secret....We may think it's a secret, but, Our Heavenly Father, sees it all, and we really are not fooling anyone, are we?

God is very merciful to us, He will not require anything of us, that He would not give us the strength to overcome, or walk through. He's not a harsch God, He does not hold a rod over our heads to clunk us, when we do wrong, He is merciful, and ever bearing with us. He wants us to be "free" of our "secret" sins...... It may be painful to go through, we may have to be humble enough to be wrong.....but, that is the way we are free.....

When we are truly broken, we will want to be what he wants us to be.....We will want to do right, that doesn't mean we wont fail, we will, but, he is

there to "lift our arms that hang down"..and help us along....We can then have the vision to see wht God is requiring of us. Humility ONLY comes when we are truly broken and ready and willing for whatever He has for us....

Matthew 10 says....."...come unto me all ye that are heavey laden...for "I" will give you rest..."

I want to encourage us to give our "all" to Jesus, and allow Him the room to "set us free"...

May we be faithful so, no matter what, even when its tough and looks like a mountain to us, we may fall on our knees and repent.

Love from my heart this morning...

Terri

The Jezebel Profile.........

Dearest friends...today is another part of this writing, please read....

When the name Jezebel is mentioned, most of us see the painted face of a seductively-dressed woman gazing into the eyes of a man who lacks good sense. The Bible portrays Jezebel in a different light. Revelation 2:20 says that Jezebel "calleth herself a prophetess," and men received her as a teacher, showing that she was part of structured Christianity, "ministering" to the saints. Jesus warned the Church against the teaching woman, Jezebel. Any woman who defies scripture's prohibition against women teachers in the Church is following in the grave tradition of Jezebel.
OUCH!!!!!

Lets go on.....

Going to first Kings to see what the Bible has to say about the historical Jezebel....the first thing was that she was more spiritual and religiously devoted than her husband. She used her insights to guide him. He was a weak man, so she took the lead to motivate him. the Bible says in I Cor. 11:3, "But I would have you to know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." Regardless of our circumstances, when we women take the spiritual lead, we step out from under our designated rightful head.

The second thing, was that Ahab was emotionally volatile---unstable. Is your husband prone to retreat? Is he bitter, angry, or depressed? When a woman takes the lead in her marriage, her assuming the masculine role makes a weak man weaker and weaker and weaker to the point of sending him to bed, as did Jezebel.....If your Dh cowars out of all he can...Are you leading again?....or still?

The third and most significant thing I noticed was that she used his emotional stress to endear herself to him---a strange way of lording over her husband. If you read the story, you will see how Jezebel manipulated and accused an innocent man, then had him killed so that Ahab could obtain his vineyard. Ahab, in depression, kept his face to the wall, and let her do her dark deeds. Today, if a woman is willing to play her husbands role in directing the family, her husband will lose his natural drive to bear responsibility. He will turn his face to the wall.

The fourth thing....

Ahab was esily manipulated by his wife to suit her purposes. She stirred his passive spirit, provoking him to react in anger. Jezebel used him to set up images and to kill Gods prophets. Often a man becomes involved in the local church, not because God has called him, but because he is trying to please his wife be at least looking spiritual. When a husband steps into a spiritual role at his wifes beckoning or emotional pressure, he is susceptable to her "guidence" in that role. Jezebel took steps to help promote her spiritual leaders. In th eprocess, she provoked her husband to destroy those in spiritual authority whom she did not like. Have you influenced your DH to think evil of those in authority because you did not like something abaut them?

Jezebel knew that she was not the rightful head, so she invoked her husbands name to give her word authority. Have you ever said, "Oh my husband will not let me do that," when you knew he would not care? It is a way to maintain control and to stop those who would question you. When a woman steps outside her divinely ordained nature and assumes the dominant role, she will soon become emotionally and pyhsically exhausted, and dangerous.........

Ladies.

Is this picture you?

It was me, just 1 year ago. I remember whwn I read this part and ithit me like a ton of bricks....I layed on the floor and cried for hours in repentence....for treating my DH like Jezebel..............my heart broke as God showed me the real me....YUK!!!!!!!!

We need to allow God to show us, who we really are....So we can be set free, this did not happen overnight, it its an ongoing process of repentence and asking him for forgiveness....(humility on my part)

You are thinking..."But he wont lead"......of course not, with you leading, why should he?

There were things that I just had to stop doing, NOT IN REBELLION, but, just because I knew he would wait till I did it, well I didn't....then he began to take his rightful place....but, then I had BAD habits to break......and still have to work on them, to stay where God would have me....

Ladies,,,LETS NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Next, we go over 2 women of godly femininity in the Word...

Until next week......

My Love and Prayers to all who read this...

Terri

For Today.....

I just want to thank each and every one of the ladies who read this blog.....Please know, that all I write is not for every marriage, nor for every woman. However, if it has touched your heart,(even though its hard to obey), please let me know. If there is something that you feel is not Bibilical, also, please let me know....and I will take a look at it with my DH....

I only want to serve and obey the Lord in this matter of Submission to my DH....

Lets pray together for this blog and others like this one, that they may touch those hearts that need to submit to their DHs and truly become the woman of God they are meant to be....

Love to all of my friends, that read this....

Terri

The Nature of Man and Woman.....

Good Morning......did not get to this yesterday, so today.....Time flies way too fast, and things have been hectic here,,,,the enemy of our souls has been terrible busy in our home, Lets remember each other in Prayer.

This week the title is...

"The Nature Of Man And Woman"..

Man was created to subdue; woman to assist....God made them that way. God created man with a nature that is aggresive, and then commanded him to exercise dominion over the earth(Gen. 1:28). He created the male with an extra dose of testosterone, which provokes him to want to work hard, conquer everything in his path, and subdue all things. That is why the male is at the forefront of conquests, exploration, architecture, science, inventions etc. No woman would ever go out and tame a wild horse and make a rope out of its mane and tail, and then go find a bear and lasso it just to prove that she could----laughing the whole time.

If women were the inventors, they would make minivans. Men make 4 wheel drive vehicles and then modify them so they will stand higher and drive faster. They will even put a winch on the front so they can traverse places meant only for alligators and mountain goats. Men fly to the moon, climb treacherous mountains, fight wild beasts, challange each other at any sport, and laugh with hilarious delight the whole time. They like to play or watch games where they knock each other down, just to prove they can. Everything they do must end with a testosterone driven climax. And they think we ladies are hard to understand! A woman can do about everything a man can do, but it is always the men who invent it and then eventually invite the ladies along just to make it more interesting. Testosterone again!!! A few ladies will always step out and play the mens games, trying to prove a gender point. The men don't need a point to prove; they just need to vent. Men are different, we must face it.

Thankfully, men and women were not created alike. Men were created with traits that I do not want as part of me!!! But, when I married, it was of course, to one of these strange male creatures with those wierd traits. When we ladies discover traits in a man like sensitivity, spirituality, and understanding, we are thrilled, because they contrast so starkly with the many coarser and visible traits that so strongly drive his nature. After all, having a nature to subdue all things, he likes best, a woman who will give him a token struggle and then surrender totally to his wit, charm, and strength. He must thoroughly conquer. It is a battle I always enjoy losing, I like to be conquered by my man, that is the way I am created. Think about it ladies, if we are created that way, why, do it any other way? We will fall into this createdness, if we but, allow it.

The Woman Deceived...

When Adam was created and placed in the garden, Lucifer, the fallen cherub, was jealous of Adams position as master of the renewed planet. Lucifer, having become the devil, had previously made himself the enemy of god and his program. He did not want God to be successful at replenishing the earth. From the very beginning, it was in the devils dark heart to lure Adam into disobeying his Creator. Satan would make Adam into the same rebel that he himself had been for such a long time. but satan did not approach Adam. He waited and watched....

When God finished Adam, he gave the job of naming all the animals to him. He commanded the first man not to eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, and he told him to subdue the earth and have dominion over the animal kingdom. His principal job was to dress and keep the garden(Gen. 2:15). So, even before Eve was created, Adam was a full grown man, firmly rooted in his relationship with God and fully engaged in his lifes work.

Adam was alone for a period of time as he attended to his vocation and obeyed the command of his Creatos. In going about the task of ulfilling his duties, he became aware of a need that he could not define, even though he observed it daily in the male and female behaviour of the animals. He was lonely. He had no one with whom to share his conquests. God, in watching Adam, said, "It is not good that the man should be alons; I will make him an help meet for him"(Gen. 2:18). In time, God put Adam to sleep and took a rib from him to make of it a woman to be his helper and to meet his needs.

Satan could have tempted this lonely man at any time, for he had no knowledge of good and evil. But satan waited---waited for the created weaker vessel. "For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam wasnot deceived, but the woman being deceived was inthe transgression"(1Timothy 2:13-14). Satan knew that the man co uld not be deceived, but, the woman could. Hmmmmmmm....it WAS us!!! So, when she drew near to the tree, he convinced her that life would be better if she sought the higher state of being "like the gods"---gaining spiritial insight into the nature of good and evil. Eve was deceived in 3 WAYS:

1. She followed her flesh in desiring the tree for its food properties.

2. She succumbed to its beauty, desiring it for its pleasant appearance She did not follow logic, she follower her "sensibilities."

3. She wanted "deeper" spiritual insights than those provided by God.

the source of Eve's failure was her UNWILLINGNESS to believe God and her husband.

Do you do this? It is misery when we step out of this protection. Oh, God will let us, but, we will reap the consequences, a marriage that is the pits, and maybe not that bad, but, not quite right. Our hearts will take the lead, and our DHs will let us(most anyhows), and we will also take the consequences for that. Ladies lets follow, follow, follow...God can and Will show you the right path to take if you will but listen.

She was meant to be Adams helper, but she helped herself to Spiritual knowledge and acted independently, becoming his downfall instead of his helpmeet.

Why did satan avoid Adam and approach Eve with his offer of greater spirituality? Lucifer is a male being(Isaish 14:12-20). He understands the natural resistence of the male. He knows males say "no" just to prove they are in command. But Lucifer could see this soft, sweet female was vulnerable. God had made her by nature to be responsive, and she trusting and naive. Being willing to rationalize, she could be deceived---having the best of intentions.

In my mind, I picture the man being created heavily armoured. His armour is helpful both Spiritually and physically. God loaded him down with resistances, giving him a nature that is doubtful, skeptical, forceful, and pushy(for the most part). God knew that in order for man to survive, and even prosper, he would need a natural armour that would drive him to keep pushing against the odds, while enjoying the challange. God knew that satan was a liar and the master of deceit, so he crated in man a questioning about things. Mans objectivity and lack of intuitiveness make him appear less spiritual than the sensitive, female. As a general rule, man is ruled more by his mind than the female, who is goverened more by her sensibilities.

Picture God, as deliberately creating the woman without this armour, because he intended for her to stand beside her husbands armour. He was to be her covering, her shield, and her protector. Satan was ble to deceive her when she left Adams side and confronted the Devils logic alone. She didn't have the armour to ward off his fiery darts of deceit.

God designed the woman to be sensitive and vulnerable for the sake of the little ones whom she must nurture. The soul of a mother had to be vulnerable, the outer shell thin. She must be quick to feel, hurt. love, have compassion, to take in the broken, and to believe the best. Vulnerability is a womans greatest natural asset and the point of her greatest weakness. A woman CAN become tough and hard, skeptical, and cautious in relationships just like men. She can become guarded and cynical, but in so doing, she is no longer feminine, no longer attractive to a man, and she might even start to not like herself.Unprotected by the covering of her man, she will grow miserable fighting her own battles and trying to survive on equal footing with men.

I find this very interesting.....If we are created this way, and we fight against it, how can we be happy? We will, put on a good face, be happy on the outside, but, to really be happy outside of what God created us.....How can we?

Look at our world today, the same female sexes together..... In their attempt to shed their vulnerability and their not wanting to be what they were REALLY created for....they begin to exhibit traits totally outside their created feminine nature. They lose their beauty and charm, and become very poor "men".(Scripture says this).

I thnk...we will. continue tomorrow, my fingers are tired........

Think on this..Ladies. Gods word is His word, not mine...lets begin to see our man for what God created Him to be and our role where it needs to be.

See you tomorrow.......

Love Terri......

Reactions Define You!!!!!

This is my 2nd attempt at writing this morning.....my computer just blanked out and I was almost finished with this ...now to start over......

A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been". She does not see herself as "Gods" gift to her man, therefore, she is joyful and content in whatever cinrcumstances she finds herself in....
By the time you married, you already had ceratin convictions. You knew right from wrong. you did what you thought was right, and no one could persuade you differently. But, now you find yourself and your convictions challenged by someone who may not share your established standards and worldview. He may be more liberal than you, more permissive, or he may be stricter and more more legalistic. The presence of children further complicates the situation. You want desperately to do what is right for them, but you have submitted yourself under the authority of another. Life is not going the way you had planned, and you cannot react in the way you wanted to. You find yourself pushed to the limit of your patience, and then you react in unsubmissive and selfish anger.
Reactions are not premeditated actions springing from our best motives, carefully thought our, planned, weighed. They are emotional responses, breaking lose like wild horses when we feel hurt, cheated, used or misunderstood. They are often are retalitory, sometimes condemning, confrontational, or adversarial and eventually vengeful and punishing.
Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level.
We loose our carefully preserved "front" when we are pressed beyond our own thinking. Then,who we really are is made manifest.
You can control your future reactions considerably by changing the way you think you feel, and it will determine how you will react in stressful situations.
Researchers have determined that the average person thinks over 40,000 thoughts per day. The heart is filled with these thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks, be it good or bad. When the pressure is on, and the dam of resevation breaks loose, you cannot control what you say, because you will speak from the abundance of your heart---from the 40,000 thoughts you had that day and all the days before.
"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh"(Luke 6:45) If you, as s wife, are going to change the way you have been speaking, it is not a matter of willpower; it is a matter of thought ower. "For as he thinketh in his heart, so IS he..."(Prov. 23:7). You must bring "into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ"(II Cor. 10:5). "For out of hte heart proceed evil thoughts..."(Matt. 15:19). As Paul says, "Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"(Phil. 2:5).
You will ve "transformed by the renewing of your mind"(Rom. 12:2), not by the strength of your will to hold your tongue. God tells us HOW to think about our role as wife and help meet. If you believe him, you will think diferently.......
If I were in a airport baggage pick up area waiting for my red suitcase, and I saw a young man snatch it and run, I would be very upset UNTIL I learned that my husband sent him to get it for me. When my thinking changed, my emotions changed.
The lady married to the accountant gone Dairy farmer was sitting at home angry because her husband was late. When he finally arrived, he went directly to the barn to take care of his cows. She couldn't hold her tongue. She couldn't help the way she felt, because she had spent the entire day, no, the entire week....month.....last 3 years, thinking how miserable whe was for the circumstances her husband had barought upon her....She felt HER "red suitcase" was stolen. "This was not what we greed upno when we got married"......"He should come in and eat the supper that is already cold from waiting, not go out and milk first..."she had reapeated to herself for the last 3 hours when it was obvious he wa late.....She was storing up in her heart an abundance of selfish thoughts. Her actions and reactions became enslaved to her misguided thoughts.
What could she do to change her thoughts? She coul learn something she does not know, not just from this bookd advice, but, from Gods Holy Word....The Bible....
She was not created to choose her husbands vocation, nor to choose his or her lifestyle. She was created by God to be her husbands helper. In her case, that meant becoming a country girl----dairymans helper. that doesn't mena she has to like cows, but she was created to help the man who does like cows.
Think how differnet it would be if, when he was 3 hours late, she thought about how blessed she is that he comes home every night and brings a paycheck, he IS home every night, she can crawl into a warm bed at the end of a day without being lonely, has a daddy to her children and the future of more cows, milking equipment and possibly a rise in milk prices.....How thrilling her life would be.......An adventure, not stagnate.......Many a woman is sitting alone at 7 in the evening, afraid that her ex will break in her apartment and steal the children..and where will she and her children will move next month, or how will she pay the bills?.......She and many, many others would love to sit in the "dairymans" ladys kitchen, waiting peacefully for her grassroots husband to come in late for supper, only to go out and tend his cows. When he did come through door, his dinner would be warm and the smiles and hugs would be warmer, with a promise of a even warmer bed.
You are what you think, and God tells you how to think. THINK THE TRUTH!!!
This is not the power of positive thiking: this is the power of the truth as God defines it.
You are created to be your husbands helper, not this conscience, not his vocation director, and certainly not his critic.
When you develop and adversarial relationship with your husband, you do so on the premise that you are right and he is wrong...OUCH!!!!.,....You are also assuming that you have the duty to resist, confront, and challenge him. In thinking he is wrong and you are right, you declare yourself wiser than he, more spiritual, more discerning, more sacrificial, etc.
All this adds up to the obvious conclusion that you have assumed the role of his leadership, teacher, and judge. This is sinful and odious, and it displeases God greatly. No woman will ever have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband, and she is committed to becoming a good help meet for him. Is much of your life a reaciton to real or perceived wrongs? Are you truly as wise as you think?
Take this test to see....................

Wisdom Test..........
1. Do you have enough fear of God to not question his Word?
2. Do you sometimes feel God is punishing you by telling you to obey your husband?
3. Would you give God excuses like, "My husband is mean," or, "I am a strong personality, and he is weak"?
4. How would you respond if God gave you directions on how to talk, when not to talk, or how to dress or even wear your hair?
5. Are you comfortable with dismissing the Bibles role for women by saying we live in a different culture?
6. When God says to reverence(meaning, stand in awe of)your husband, do you think that is demanding too much?
7. Will you say, "If God says it, or even suggests it, than that is what I will do"?

If you can say, "Not my will, but thine be done," then you can know that your prayer is based on the fear of God. It is the beginning of wisdom. Ask God to give you the beginning of wisdom by asking him to teach you to fear him.

Time to Consider........
WE have larned that our created nature is to be a help meet to our husband.
We have learned that a help meet is someone who helps herhusband in any and all of his life projects.
We have leatned that the jou ot the Lord is our strength and that a merry heart is a real asset in becoming a godly help meet. A smile keeps our man looking our way. Our desire is to become a jolly "playmate" to our husband and to be an heir with him of the grace of life.
All of us have decided that we do not want o grow old and become crazy old, religious fanatics who think that they are obeying God while disregarding his written Word. We have learned that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, and we shudder to think we might have ended up being like some of the old reprobates we know tho dishonor their husbands.
We have learned that wisdom is a gift that God promises to anyone who asks. Through wisdom, we have discovered that eachof our husbands are made in the image of God, either as xommand men, Visionarys or Mr. Steady or a mis of all three.
We know that it is our job as a help meet to always be looking for ways to better meet ourhusbands needs and desires.
Believe you me, I know this is NOT easy........we had a something this morning...it was exactly what this page is aboaut today, now,,,,I have to ask myself....How will I deal with it...first, I apalogized, then we still got nowhere...then I confessed and tried to change my mindset, still to no avail,,,,so her we are at a standoff......
On my knees, I go...an into prayer for Gods wisdom and not my own......
Now it is time for us all to go back and add to the list the tings you could be doing that will free your husband to be the man god created him to be...
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! this will not be easy, but, with Gods help and Him doing the changes, I too, can be"Created to be His help Meet".

Lets not give up Ladies....
Love to all who read this blog....
Terri

continue on "Finding your life in His..."

Now a continuation on yesterdays postings...............

Has your Dh decided to take a different path in his career than you want?God didn't create Adam and Eve at the same time and then tell them to work out some compromise on how they would each achieve their personal goals in a cooperative manner. He created Adam, gave him an occupation, appointed him as ruler of the planet, endowed him with a spiritual outlook, gave him commands, and specified his occupational duties. Adam commenced his rule of the planet BEFORE God created Eve to help him in his lifes goals. Adam didn't need Eves consent. She was designed to serve, not to be served, to assist, not to veto his decisions. Can you imagine Eve saying; " When God brought me to you in that wonderful garden, and we commenced life together, you never said anythng about thorns and thistles, about pain in childbirth, about milking goats, cows or whatever, about churning butter and I am not a wildernessgirl!"

I wonder how your DHs feel when you are essentially saying these things? Will your unhappy DH loose his joy over the whole matter?, and be robbed of his vision? If he does go back to being what he was before he got this "vision"....will he spend the rest of his life, dreaming? Dreaming of a different kind of lady for a wife?, a bunch of happy children, and the rest of his dream?...just like the Grandpa in yesterdays words.

LIFE IS NOW!!!! Don't make him ruin his life by being forced(by you and your control)into doing "your" thoughts, do it his way, make him happy..Find your life in his!!!!

God made us women to be helpmeets, and it is in our nature to do so....It is the role in which we will succeed in life, and it is where we will find our very greatest fulfillment as a woman. God did say in Genesis; "I will make him an help meet(not head of the home) for him." 1 Corinthians 11;8 & 9 says that also...Genesis 3:16 says..."Unto the woman he said....and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee..."

When we fight Gods will and our DHs dreams, we are frustrated and disappointed.

If our DHs are kind steady men,(like mine) they will eventually become discouraged and give up trying to please us, (I am glad to have sae the right light before this happened!) If our DHs are Command men, they may leave us behind and find the kind of woman that loves what they love. If our DHs are Visionary men, they will yell and make our lives miserable until we run back to mama and end up sleeping in a cold bed and living on food stamps or less.

Life is full of choices. How you choose to respond will help you decide your fate in life. Life is NOW! Learn to really enjoy taking our the trash or milking the cow(ask God to help you and make you willing). You will be amazed at how God will fill you fulll of himself. You will look back(and I do)in your happy old age, and wonder how this happened, how you ever could have been a long faced sad sack, how you ever "did that" to your DH...how anyone else could have stood your atatitudes and control?

Now they may say, "You are just happy....why?" And you know what to say....

You can now laugh..... and knowing that you are in Gods will as a Helpmeet. that is what brings you life and Joy, being in HIS will, what you are created for...God is not looking for happy women to make them into help meets for good men....He is looking for women willing to be true help meets to the men they are married to......HE can fill them with His joy!!!!!!!!

His express image........

We have studied 3 different types of men and how each one relates the the lady in his life. WE have learned that God gives wisdom for you to come to know, accept, and appreciate, the man in your life. He may be all 3 or a mix of 2 or just one. The important thing is for you to understnad that he is what God made him, and that you are to be his suitable helper. Knowing what "expression" God has made him to be will help you become a better helper to the man of your life. God says so clearly and emphatically that "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth ato all men[and women] liverally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him'(James 1:5).

Ask The Lord of your life to help you know and appreciate your DH. Pray that God will give you the wisdom and grace to share your mans dreams so it will always be you that he dreams about....

TIME TO CONSIDER>>>>

Wisdom is knowing what you "bought", when you married that man and learning to adapt to him as he is, while enjoying the full value of your "purchase".....

Make a new habit....

Is it Gods will that yor DH adapt to you, or hat you adapt tohim? What habits in your life should yo adapt to his? Start today....

Getting serious about this whole thing...

The word WISDOM appears 223 times, hmmmmmmmmm, I wonder why?

Look up and read each one and ask that God will do a work in your heart and your "WILL". Add to your memory your favorite verses about Wisdom. Each day resolve that you will pray for your DH....the same time every day...(at a red light, washing dishes...)

This really works, it has turned my marriage upside down...

Love to all....

Terri

Finding your life in his..........

Hello Ladies and others.........tis time to go on with our study about "Created to be His helpmeet"..

Lets go on.

There was once a show called "Dad"...It told of a woman/wife that controlled the man/husbands every move, he could not even pour the milk on his cereal......they got old and the son came home to take care of them in their old days...the old woman spent her entire life taking care of her "Mr. Nice, Steady" husband...

Then she got sick and spent some time in the hospital, when she came home, her "Mr. Nice, Steady" husband was a changed man...during her absence he had began to to places, and doing fun things, the clock had seemed to be turned back 50 years, he was happy now...you seee....he was ready to live out what he had dreamed about for 30 years in his mind while working in the same old factory...

He talked of friends and family that never existed, their 4 children, when there was only 2, He spoke of his much loved, gentle and obedient wife, quite different from the reality he had experienced over many, many years. His wife was terribly shaken, because she knew that never existed, no dairy farm, no 4 children,...she also knew the woman he remembered was not her.

All the years at the factory and "dreaming "of what he really wanted for his family and wife,,took a toll on him, the psychologist explained. He now lived in the very world he had dreamed about for years. As Grandfathers mind aged, the pleasant make believe world he had dreamed about had become reality to him, and the "caged" life that he had really lived faded away....

Because of his wifes controlling hand and his desire to do "his duty" and please her, he had failed to live his dreams. She had weakened him with her control and criticism until he created and imaginary world of hope and fullfilment.

Oh, ladies, as I type this, my heart breaks again for how I treated my DH...Do you treat yours with distain, because he is not the MAN you want him to be...well, then quit treating him like that....treat him with respect, reverence and honor as you want and he will blossom,,,he will make you his queen.....

I cannot go on today, for my heavy heart and the memories that pour back with this part of the study.....

Please stay with me though......next Monday will be more.....

Love to all who read this....

Terri

Hello Ladies...

Just a note to all of you that read this blog......

Thank-you for reading it....it is in my heart to minister to those who need it, whether old or new...Today, many, many women have noone to share with, talk to, or learn from.

We will continue our notes on "Reverencing our husbands."

Then onto teaching some basic HOMEY skills....

stay tuned for what is to follow on my blog...