Hello to all that read this blog...

"The Contented Woman"...

I could not get in this blog for years and just did...WOW!!!

There have been many, many changes in my life and you will see when you read my other blog....

so PLEASE go to my other blog and here is the link to it....

 

http://thecontentedwomannow.blogspot.com/2015/01/hello-to-all-who-read_18.html

Just a note to all who read.....

Wha is written herein, is NOT, meant to confuse anyone or hurt any who are already hurt ...I encourage you to get help for those thiings that these writings may trigger.
 Lets not share the bad things with those who think as we do, lets bear one anothers burdens, and lift each other up instead of tear down...if we dont agree with someone, lets pray, instead of spreading 'bad' about that person/those people...
 We all have things in our lives that have hurt us and still do,sometimes    PLEASE bear with  me, and let these writings do what they can for others,,,maybe not for you, but, for others,....
Thanks for reading..
LOVE to all who read....
!!!~TERRI~!!!

Christlikeness?

The life I live should reveal what I believe; whether the "world" or "Christ".

Are you a nominal Christian(conformed to the world, and not Christ)? How do you make a difference in the false values and beliefs around you? When a Christian responds/acts like those looking on, they see no difference, "Why should they change?, but, if they see a difference n your demanor....they can't help but want what you have. Afterall....Christlikeness is all that really matters, not?

Love to all who read....
Terri

Frame of reference....

Frame of reference...
A mans concept of marriage is different from a womans. Especially after he has gone without intimacy for a few days. This book is not a "how to" for a man. I will skip his part and deal with the ladies part. God describes marriage as"they two shall be one flesh", which is, their bodies coming together. 
   Many men feel that marriage is not quite what they thought it was going to be. Some men spend their youth dreaming about the wild passion they are going to experience with the one woman they love more than life. It is their expression of the oneness they will have with her alone and her alone. This is truly Gods design for a man in the department of love .
   The man remembers the passinate looks his sweetheart gave him before marriage. He had  naturally assumed that she would always think of him in that all-consuming loving way.
   When they were courting, that is the way she made him feel. He saw it refelcted in her face. All he wanted was to satisfy that hungry anumal he thought she was, and, for a while, she was all he had hoped for; but then
it faded away. She wasnt interested anymore. Her disinterest in him intimately is a reflection of her heart, and he knows it. Ther are a multitude of excuses women use to explain why they would "rather not" or why they "cannot respond" this way. I think  her husband knows in his spirit that all her excuses are just that:excuses for not wanting him.

My computer is acting up again, I can only write a few lines then it shuts off.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
 

Chapter16...To Love their Husbands.

Titus 2:4 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands...
Please remember that loving him means putting his needs before your own, which may or may not be easy for most of us.  We were and are created to be helpmeets. Everyday and everynight we need to be ready to help. Here is a story from a letter that was received...
A normal Guy....
 I am in a dilemma and need you to share with my wife that I am "normal". My wife thinks I am a pervert because I need to be intimate. She feels I am not sensitive to her needs when I want to be intimate with her  and she doesn't, which is most of the time. She will be intimate with me, but it hurts her feelings that I do not consider her feelings and she feels I do not love hr enough to consider this. When I have missed a meal I unconsciously roam the kitchen, opening cabinet doors, and peer into the referigerator,just looking and looking. I told her that a few days without intimacy leaves me in the same condition imtimately. No matter how much I love her and respect her feelings and needs, I still have this overwhelming intimatecy need that drives me until it is satisfied.
There are very few times when everything is just right for her. She is exhausted, or has a backache or  whatever she comes up with most of the time. I tried to explain to her that she is setting me up for temptation, and that really set her off. Now I am not only a pervert, I am also unfaithful in my heart, so she is upset every time a good looking girl walks by.
 Please tell her I just down right NEED MY woman. Thats the bottom line; I am normal--all men need a woman. She said I made it until I was 23 without intimacy, so why do I have to have it now. I told her when I was single I did not have to look upon someone undressing in front of me, nor did I see anyone laying in the bed like that.  I just want to come home and be a family man, I want to crawl into bed at night with a woman who is glad I am her man.I want to be intimate with her every few days sos I dont have to think about the girls at work. Please write her and explain this to her. Maybe if she heard this from you she would know I have
and REALLY care about her...


LADIES... How many of you hear this from your man?
If you do, and your not being  responsible with your "intimacy" with him, your only asking for trouble. This is the basics of men, (not al), this is the way they were created...Once we understand this principle, and truly "reverence" him, we will WANT to take care of his needs.  

"For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife, , and the 2 shall reat become one flesh. This a is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the Church"(Eph. 5:31-32).

>Gods ultimate goal for you is to meet your mans needs.
>Gods oroginal intention was that a woman would spend her life helping her man fulfill his dreams and ambitions. 
>From the beginning, God meant for us to be a comfort, a blessing, a reward, a friend, a encouragement, and a right-hand woman.

"What can I do to help you Adam,?"
"Pick up the other end of that log, and help me move it over here."
"What should my next project be, Adam?"
"Have dinner ready every evening, and take good care of my little ones."
"That is a very strong fence you are building, and the gate looks nice, I am soo proud of you, Adam. What would you like now?"
"Take your clothing and put it elsewhere, but, not on you....YEAH!!! your a fine helpmeet!!!."

LADIES...Our society has perverted what God has made to be beautiful....don't let the evil one rob you and your man of what, the God you say you know and serve, has ordained in marriage. Go to your knees and ask for spiritual intervention, so you can too, can have that blessed marriage, we as women all want.


Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Lesson for today...

I just saw this on my desk, and thought I would pass it on....

"Needs first; Wants last..

Love to all....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Chapter 2...To love their husbands....Titus 2:4

"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands..."
This is a big commission to all of us who are married.
Loving him means putting His needs before your own. We were and are created to be help meets. Everyday and every night we need to be ready to minister to His needs.
Lets ponder this verse for the next few days, and I will   
be back to share more on this verse......
Titus 2:4
"That they might teach the young women to LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS."

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The meaning of quiet...

Quiet...Are we?
mild, free from turbulance, immovable(in the things of the truth of God), steadfast, settled, not easily provoked.
Ask ourselves this wuestion, Am I?

Reflections on the Chapter.....

Reflection on Sober...

Traits of a Good Help meet..

~~~A good help meet establishes a haven of rest.

~~She will adjust to her husbands time schedule and eating habits.

~~She will realx and enjoy her family, instead of worrying and fretting.

Words God uses to describe a godless woman...

Locate the verses in a concordance, and write them down. Ask God to cause you to HATE any sign of these things in your life. Believe and know that God will set you free.

*Foolish                                        *Brawling                                  *Withut Discretion

*Clamorous                                   *Contentious                             *Wanders from house tohouse

*Simple                                         *Angry                                        *Stubborn

*Knoweth nothing                        *Tattler                                     *Loud

*Like a swine(fat pig)                   *Busybodies                               

  with a gold nose jewel

Getting serious with God....

Think of an occasion in the recent past when you became angry or were hurt because your DH responded in a way that you felt was wrong.  Keep in mind that the other side of the coin of being angry is being hurt. It is one and the same coin,  and it buys the same results: a bad marriage and a strained relationship. How different do you think the end of the struggle might have been if you had kept in your mind that your job was to please your man? Write your own story. First, write the one that ended in a big fight, and next, write the story as it should have ended. Remember, he doesn't have to be right or kind for you to react in a godly way. this excercise will help you see the rationale for honoring your husband in a different light.

"Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"(PHIL> 2:5).

Personal shrines....
Many women lack biblical soberness, as seen in the way they treat their houses as shrines to be protected, rather than as spaces inwhich to enjoy their families. They get emotionally upset if the carpet gets messed up or if the children accidentally spill milk on the couch. They become emotional wrecks over their physical surroundings. If you have that problem, let me ask why, how you would feel if your husband provided nothing more than an open barn in which to deliver your first baby? That was the case with Mary, the mother of Jesus. Do you think God could have used Mary to be the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her enviroment was not clean and orderly? Think of the teenage girl, Mary, clinging to the back of a bouncing donkey, contractions pulling at her exhausted body, while her desperate husband searched for a place for her to have her child.
   Many have speculated as to what virtues Mary had that prompted God to choose her to be the mother of our Lord. I can tell you what she was like. She had eternity in her heart. She was self possessed, thoughtful, and was always learning to make wise judgements. When a young woman learns to be sober, she will not live for immediate gratifiction. She will appreciate those things that will last for eternity.

More next week....

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Jesus the faithful one.....

The confidence we have...
the trust we hold...
the hope we carry...
rest in His faithfulness...

Every promise He has made
He purposes to fulfill.

He has the authority to
accomplish all He has spoken.

His power is limitless...
His character changeless...
His love endless!!!

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Fragrance????

Forgiveness is like the violet
Sending forth its pure fragrance
On the heel of the boot
Of the one who crushed it....

I'm about to have a nervous breakdown....

This letter shows how not gttring our way often causes us to have a nervous, troubled spirit instead of the quiet(sober) spirit God expects us to have. It was good to hear that this lady finally found peace. the article she refers to can be found on the nogreaterjoy.org website.
I heard your article read publicly called "Carnal husbands, cranky wives and cantankerous kids", while at a seminar in Knoxville. It was the first time I realized my anxiety controlled my husband and was a reflection of my lack of confidence in him. As we left the seminar and were fighting traffic, my husband spoke up that we needed to stop for gas. Miles passed and still the traffic was bumper to bumper. Suddenly we were free and in the mountains with no place to buy gas. I was in an extreme state of turmoil. I had worked myself up to a state that I wanted to scream to him to go back in to the city and get gas. I could see the gas gauge; it was . totally empty. I kept quietly raging to God that "this was the exact reason why I had to take control, since he is  the most irresponsible man and does not make wise decisions. I felt that I should tell him what to do. "I was so nervous, I was almost sick, but, for the first time I kept my mouth shut and looked interestedly at the hills. Ten miles up into the mountains, we finally came to an exit that had a gas station, and my husband turned to me, smiled and said, "Whats happened to you? Your not a nervous wreck like you usually are. I'm so glad youve learned to relax. Isn't life a lot more fun when your not so full of fear? I'm proud of you."
I had to stop and think Even if we had tun out of gas, would it have been a tragedy? I could see that I had turned many things into monsters. I had the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit that we were suppose to have. I have learned not to let my fears and irritations over uncertain circumstances control me, and , much  worse, my husband. I am learning to lean on my husband.


Love to all who rad...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Accroding to the Power, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Ah Ha!!! I finally figured out how to get these poems on here again,...YIIIPPPEEE!!!
Enjoy!!!
Please click on the title....

According to the Power, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Love to all who read...

~~~*Terri*~~~

Some dont's.....

I hope and pray that all of you who read my blog had a good Holiday.....Who was your reason for celebrating?

The last post was on "How to be a good wife today"...this one is

"Some dont's".....

***Don't greet him with problems...

***Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in His comfortable chair, or take a short nap before supper. Have his favorite drink ready, go with him to make him comfortable. Allow him to relax and unwind.

***Listen to him..... You may have a dozen things to share, but, the moment of his coming home is NOT the time....Let him talk first. (This will take time, expecially if, you have always "ruled the roost...").

***Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to supper or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of stress and pleasure, his need to be home and relax.

"The goal: try to make your home a place of peace, serenity and order, where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit."


Do you see what has happened in the last 50 years? Every high school girl was taught a conservative world view that was msore bibilical in perspective than what the churches teach today.

"A wise woman patterns her life after her husband's. His working, playing, eating, and sleeping habits become hers.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

God sent us a Saviour...

God sent us a Saviour...

If our greatest need had been information....

God would have sent us an educator.

If our greatest need had veen technology...

God would nave sent us a scientist.

If our greatest need had veen money...

God would have sent us a economist.

If our greatest need had been pleasure...

God would nave sent us an evtertainer.

BUT our greatest need was forgiveness...

So, GOD SENT US A SAVIOUR.

This CHRISTmas may you see and know anew

how great His love is toward you...

Love to all who read...

~~~***Terri***~~~

CHRISTmas....

Every time we give...

Every time we love.....

Its CHRISTmas.

Love to all who read this blog....

~~~***Terri***~~~

He is the Son of the Highest...
Do you have Him as that in your life?
Have a good Christmas, and may we remember who it is that IS "Christmas"......

Love to all who read....
~~~**Terri**~~~

How to be a good wife today....

Hello Ladies....
Today is ..."How to be a good wife today."
(This is taken word for word from a 1950's public high School home economics
textbook)...
***Have Supper ready...Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal is part of the warm welcome ahead.

***Prepare yourself...Take 15 minutes(or less for busy mothers)to rest so that you'llbe refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your self, look as pretty as you can and be fresh looking.
He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little happy and a little more interesting than His boring work fellows.

***Clear away the clutter....Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives,gathering up schoolbooks, toys.. and papers. then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too!

***Prepare the children...Take a few minutes to wash the childrens hands and faces(if they are small). Comb their hair, and if neccessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

***Minimize all noise...At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile.


Now, PLEASE, remember this is from a 1950's handbook for home economics...and cannot possibly be kept up by everyone all of the time, but...it is a good place to begin....


Love to all who read....
***Terri***

Reflecting on.....

Today we focus on "Reflecting" on what we have read for the past weeks....a few questions and thoughts..
1. Was it pleasing to the Lord for the lady who cooked her husband supper according to his likes?
2. Would it have been sin to respond with anger or hurt feelings?
3. Would you have sought to please your husband if he had shown such insensitive ingratitide?
4. Do you think her husband was just trying to be cruel?
5. When you first married, did you think of your marriage as a career of pleasing your DH?

A virtuous woman is a crown to her DH: but she that maketh ashamed is as rotteness in his bones"(Proverbs 12:4).

Make a new habit.
Most wives reading this book were trained not to honor their DH's. You were most likely trained by a mother's example to disrespect and resent your dad. You were trained by watching your mother showing displeasure at your dads bad habits, and nothing has changed in the way you relate to your DH. It seems natural to be angry rather than to seek change for the better. It is not easy to break a well-established tradition, but it will certainly be worth the effort.
Liberated to sorrow
Beginning with the womans "liberation" mocement of the 1960's, women have been taught and expected to resent men in authority. All media, magazines, movies, and popular books have promoted eradication of the distinction between male and female. the established churches are only about on e decade behind the, world, so Christian books and Ministers have followed with their own female liberation theology. Ministers and theologians have devised ways of dismissing the authority of the words of God found that speak about the nature and duty of men and women. It has gone so far that the churches are now convinced that the Bible supports this modern view.
When I was a child, no one in our large, extended family could ever remember a divorce on either side of the family, including the many aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. Neither was there a case of abuse or child abuse. In the last 50 years, all that has dramatically changed.
It is hard to believe, but the following assignment was found in a 1950's public high school home economics notebook. When I was in school, this is what the general public was being taught!!! Can yo imagine what an outcry it would cause if someone put this in a public school textbook today????

I guess we will wait till next posting to find our what it is......

Love to all who read.....
~~~*Terri*~~~