Ladies...Has anyone ever wondered why God allows/brings certain things in our lives...
I am wondering about your wonderments...What has God brought to you that you deem "This cannot be from God"...A certain friend, that "reproves" you, a spouse that doesn't agree with you, a song that shows you your weaknesses, a spouse "to be" that perhaps doesn't have "enough" for you to marry him....a piece of clothing that just doesn't "sit" well in you spirit,...the list could go on and on...
Think about it, why do we say it isn't from God,,,because it does not fit in with what we want, or think or feel..
Lets be REAL careful about "throwing the baby out with the bathwater"(so to speak), when we discount something God brings our way.....
Just my thoughts...
Love to all who read this blog....
~~~*TERRI*~~~
Showing posts with label families. Show all posts
Showing posts with label families. Show all posts
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
ME?
Can others see Jesus when they look at me?
Lets ask ourselves that question....even though we have sins and they be many...
are we thoughtful, forgiving, dependable, truthful, not like the rest of the world, trustworthy, do we have the fruits of the spirit?
Lets ask ourselves that question....even though we have sins and they be many...
are we thoughtful, forgiving, dependable, truthful, not like the rest of the world, trustworthy, do we have the fruits of the spirit?
Monday, January 11, 2010
"Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"(PHIL> 2:5).
Personal shrines....
Many women lack biblical soberness, as seen in the way they treat their houses as shrines to be protected, rather than as spaces inwhich to enjoy their families. They get emotionally upset if the carpet gets messed up or if the children accidentally spill milk on the couch. They become emotional wrecks over their physical surroundings. If you have that problem, let me ask why, how you would feel if your husband provided nothing more than an open barn in which to deliver your first baby? That was the case with Mary, the mother of Jesus. Do you think God could have used Mary to be the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her enviroment was not clean and orderly? Think of the teenage girl, Mary, clinging to the back of a bouncing donkey, contractions pulling at her exhausted body, while her desperate husband searched for a place for her to have her child.
Many have speculated as to what virtues Mary had that prompted God to choose her to be the mother of our Lord. I can tell you what she was like. She had eternity in her heart. She was self possessed, thoughtful, and was always learning to make wise judgements. When a young woman learns to be sober, she will not live for immediate gratifiction. She will appreciate those things that will last for eternity.
More next week....
Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
Many women lack biblical soberness, as seen in the way they treat their houses as shrines to be protected, rather than as spaces inwhich to enjoy their families. They get emotionally upset if the carpet gets messed up or if the children accidentally spill milk on the couch. They become emotional wrecks over their physical surroundings. If you have that problem, let me ask why, how you would feel if your husband provided nothing more than an open barn in which to deliver your first baby? That was the case with Mary, the mother of Jesus. Do you think God could have used Mary to be the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her enviroment was not clean and orderly? Think of the teenage girl, Mary, clinging to the back of a bouncing donkey, contractions pulling at her exhausted body, while her desperate husband searched for a place for her to have her child.
Many have speculated as to what virtues Mary had that prompted God to choose her to be the mother of our Lord. I can tell you what she was like. She had eternity in her heart. She was self possessed, thoughtful, and was always learning to make wise judgements. When a young woman learns to be sober, she will not live for immediate gratifiction. She will appreciate those things that will last for eternity.
More next week....
Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
Monday, January 4, 2010
I'm about to have a nervous breakdown....
This letter shows how not gttring our way often causes us to have a nervous, troubled spirit instead of the quiet(sober) spirit God expects us to have. It was good to hear that this lady finally found peace. the article she refers to can be found on the nogreaterjoy.org website.
I heard your article read publicly called "Carnal husbands, cranky wives and cantankerous kids", while at a seminar in Knoxville. It was the first time I realized my anxiety controlled my husband and was a reflection of my lack of confidence in him. As we left the seminar and were fighting traffic, my husband spoke up that we needed to stop for gas. Miles passed and still the traffic was bumper to bumper. Suddenly we were free and in the mountains with no place to buy gas. I was in an extreme state of turmoil. I had worked myself up to a state that I wanted to scream to him to go back in to the city and get gas. I could see the gas gauge; it was . totally empty. I kept quietly raging to God that "this was the exact reason why I had to take control, since he is the most irresponsible man and does not make wise decisions. I felt that I should tell him what to do. "I was so nervous, I was almost sick, but, for the first time I kept my mouth shut and looked interestedly at the hills. Ten miles up into the mountains, we finally came to an exit that had a gas station, and my husband turned to me, smiled and said, "Whats happened to you? Your not a nervous wreck like you usually are. I'm so glad youve learned to relax. Isn't life a lot more fun when your not so full of fear? I'm proud of you."
I had to stop and think Even if we had tun out of gas, would it have been a tragedy? I could see that I had turned many things into monsters. I had the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit that we were suppose to have. I have learned not to let my fears and irritations over uncertain circumstances control me, and , much worse, my husband. I am learning to lean on my husband.
Love to all who rad...
~~~*Terri*~~~
I heard your article read publicly called "Carnal husbands, cranky wives and cantankerous kids", while at a seminar in Knoxville. It was the first time I realized my anxiety controlled my husband and was a reflection of my lack of confidence in him. As we left the seminar and were fighting traffic, my husband spoke up that we needed to stop for gas. Miles passed and still the traffic was bumper to bumper. Suddenly we were free and in the mountains with no place to buy gas. I was in an extreme state of turmoil. I had worked myself up to a state that I wanted to scream to him to go back in to the city and get gas. I could see the gas gauge; it was . totally empty. I kept quietly raging to God that "this was the exact reason why I had to take control, since he is the most irresponsible man and does not make wise decisions. I felt that I should tell him what to do. "I was so nervous, I was almost sick, but, for the first time I kept my mouth shut and looked interestedly at the hills. Ten miles up into the mountains, we finally came to an exit that had a gas station, and my husband turned to me, smiled and said, "Whats happened to you? Your not a nervous wreck like you usually are. I'm so glad youve learned to relax. Isn't life a lot more fun when your not so full of fear? I'm proud of you."
I had to stop and think Even if we had tun out of gas, would it have been a tragedy? I could see that I had turned many things into monsters. I had the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit that we were suppose to have. I have learned not to let my fears and irritations over uncertain circumstances control me, and , much worse, my husband. I am learning to lean on my husband.
Love to all who rad...
~~~*Terri*~~~
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
Reflecting on.....
Today we focus on "Reflecting" on what we have read for the past weeks....a few questions and thoughts..
1. Was it pleasing to the Lord for the lady who cooked her husband supper according to his likes?
2. Would it have been sin to respond with anger or hurt feelings?
3. Would you have sought to please your husband if he had shown such insensitive ingratitide?
4. Do you think her husband was just trying to be cruel?
5. When you first married, did you think of your marriage as a career of pleasing your DH?
A virtuous woman is a crown to her DH: but she that maketh ashamed is as rotteness in his bones"(Proverbs 12:4).
Make a new habit.
Most wives reading this book were trained not to honor their DH's. You were most likely trained by a mother's example to disrespect and resent your dad. You were trained by watching your mother showing displeasure at your dads bad habits, and nothing has changed in the way you relate to your DH. It seems natural to be angry rather than to seek change for the better. It is not easy to break a well-established tradition, but it will certainly be worth the effort.
Liberated to sorrow
Beginning with the womans "liberation" mocement of the 1960's, women have been taught and expected to resent men in authority. All media, magazines, movies, and popular books have promoted eradication of the distinction between male and female. the established churches are only about on e decade behind the, world, so Christian books and Ministers have followed with their own female liberation theology. Ministers and theologians have devised ways of dismissing the authority of the words of God found that speak about the nature and duty of men and women. It has gone so far that the churches are now convinced that the Bible supports this modern view.
When I was a child, no one in our large, extended family could ever remember a divorce on either side of the family, including the many aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. Neither was there a case of abuse or child abuse. In the last 50 years, all that has dramatically changed.
It is hard to believe, but the following assignment was found in a 1950's public high school home economics notebook. When I was in school, this is what the general public was being taught!!! Can yo imagine what an outcry it would cause if someone put this in a public school textbook today????
I guess we will wait till next posting to find our what it is......
Love to all who read.....
~~~*Terri*~~~
1. Was it pleasing to the Lord for the lady who cooked her husband supper according to his likes?
2. Would it have been sin to respond with anger or hurt feelings?
3. Would you have sought to please your husband if he had shown such insensitive ingratitide?
4. Do you think her husband was just trying to be cruel?
5. When you first married, did you think of your marriage as a career of pleasing your DH?
A virtuous woman is a crown to her DH: but she that maketh ashamed is as rotteness in his bones"(Proverbs 12:4).
Make a new habit.
Most wives reading this book were trained not to honor their DH's. You were most likely trained by a mother's example to disrespect and resent your dad. You were trained by watching your mother showing displeasure at your dads bad habits, and nothing has changed in the way you relate to your DH. It seems natural to be angry rather than to seek change for the better. It is not easy to break a well-established tradition, but it will certainly be worth the effort.
Liberated to sorrow
Beginning with the womans "liberation" mocement of the 1960's, women have been taught and expected to resent men in authority. All media, magazines, movies, and popular books have promoted eradication of the distinction between male and female. the established churches are only about on e decade behind the, world, so Christian books and Ministers have followed with their own female liberation theology. Ministers and theologians have devised ways of dismissing the authority of the words of God found that speak about the nature and duty of men and women. It has gone so far that the churches are now convinced that the Bible supports this modern view.
When I was a child, no one in our large, extended family could ever remember a divorce on either side of the family, including the many aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. Neither was there a case of abuse or child abuse. In the last 50 years, all that has dramatically changed.
It is hard to believe, but the following assignment was found in a 1950's public high school home economics notebook. When I was in school, this is what the general public was being taught!!! Can yo imagine what an outcry it would cause if someone put this in a public school textbook today????
I guess we will wait till next posting to find our what it is......
Love to all who read.....
~~~*Terri*~~~
Monday, November 2, 2009
What is a cold dinner?
Life is so much different than if used to be. Several of us ladies were sitting around a supper table recently, telling about some of our early disasterous cooking experiences. It brought vivid memories of my newlywed days. When I married, I really didnt know how etc.,, on top of that, my family are strictly "country"- peas and cornbread(still my fav), ham pork chops, fried chicken, trunip greens, etc., while my husbands family ate a very different type of diet.
I will never forget one hot afternoon., We lived in an apartment in the back of an old Victorian house which consisted of a living room-kitchen combination and a bathroom. We had no air conditioning, and that far down south could get really miserable in the summer. One sultry summer day, I worked hard to prepare a home-cooked meal for my husband, and had it ready when he came home. When he walked in the door, he was soooo hot and sweaty, he took one look at that hot meal and said in despair, "This is NOT the day for a hot meal: this is the kind of day you need a cold meal!",My heart was just crushed. Hot and sweaty myself, I had slaved to serve him the best way I knew how. I had never even heard of a cold meal. What on earth was he talking about? At that point in my life, a tomato stuffed with tuna or chicken salad was totally foreign to me. I must tell you, my story wasnt very funny thirty years earlier, but as I finished telling it to my friends, we were all laughing about how "crushed" I was that day.
I was surprised to see that one of the younger women at the table didn't think it was funny, as she huffily retorted, "Did you throw it at him? I would have!"this stopped me in my memory tracks. Was I angry? Did I want to throw it in his face? I really dont remember ever having those thoughts. I do remember, wanting to learn how to make a "cold" supper. I do remember being hurt and sad. But my most compelling thought was how to be the best wifey to my man I could be, even if that did mean learning how to make a cold supper. When I was married, I became Mrs. So and So......His life, His aganda, His desires became mine. I considered my marriage to be my career for the rest of my life, and I intended to be successful at it. If he didnt like the food that I cooked, rather than refusing to cook anymore, saying that he was just too hard to please, I would learn to cook something else. I was DETERMNED to please my man. I found that he was not really that hard to please. Most men are not so hard to please. I once heard someone say, that all men really need is food, intimacy, and respect, and hell be pretty content. That is certainly an oversimplification, but, from experience, I know that those things are the basic elementary needs of all husbands. ANd so, I have worked at it from that perspective for almost 30 years. It is still my goal to be pleasing to my husband. I am pleased to tell you that he delights in me. I was determined to earn his delight.
Reflecting......"A wise woman does not let little things stir her spirit in agitation. With a quiet and meek spirit, she seeks to make all things better."
With much love and hopefully continuing posting.
~~~**Terri**~~~
I will never forget one hot afternoon., We lived in an apartment in the back of an old Victorian house which consisted of a living room-kitchen combination and a bathroom. We had no air conditioning, and that far down south could get really miserable in the summer. One sultry summer day, I worked hard to prepare a home-cooked meal for my husband, and had it ready when he came home. When he walked in the door, he was soooo hot and sweaty, he took one look at that hot meal and said in despair, "This is NOT the day for a hot meal: this is the kind of day you need a cold meal!",My heart was just crushed. Hot and sweaty myself, I had slaved to serve him the best way I knew how. I had never even heard of a cold meal. What on earth was he talking about? At that point in my life, a tomato stuffed with tuna or chicken salad was totally foreign to me. I must tell you, my story wasnt very funny thirty years earlier, but as I finished telling it to my friends, we were all laughing about how "crushed" I was that day.
I was surprised to see that one of the younger women at the table didn't think it was funny, as she huffily retorted, "Did you throw it at him? I would have!"this stopped me in my memory tracks. Was I angry? Did I want to throw it in his face? I really dont remember ever having those thoughts. I do remember, wanting to learn how to make a "cold" supper. I do remember being hurt and sad. But my most compelling thought was how to be the best wifey to my man I could be, even if that did mean learning how to make a cold supper. When I was married, I became Mrs. So and So......His life, His aganda, His desires became mine. I considered my marriage to be my career for the rest of my life, and I intended to be successful at it. If he didnt like the food that I cooked, rather than refusing to cook anymore, saying that he was just too hard to please, I would learn to cook something else. I was DETERMNED to please my man. I found that he was not really that hard to please. Most men are not so hard to please. I once heard someone say, that all men really need is food, intimacy, and respect, and hell be pretty content. That is certainly an oversimplification, but, from experience, I know that those things are the basic elementary needs of all husbands. ANd so, I have worked at it from that perspective for almost 30 years. It is still my goal to be pleasing to my husband. I am pleased to tell you that he delights in me. I was determined to earn his delight.
Reflecting......"A wise woman does not let little things stir her spirit in agitation. With a quiet and meek spirit, she seeks to make all things better."
With much love and hopefully continuing posting.
~~~**Terri**~~~
Friday, July 17, 2009
Spiritual Armour....
~~~~My DH thought I should post this this morning, so here it is....
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.
Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.
Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Kings and Kingdoms, cont'd.....
Good Morning Ladies, My garden takes more time than one thinks....mowing lawn, having Grandsweeties, and other such, time flies, so here is just a bit for this week,.........
Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.
Love from my Heart,
Terri
Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.
Love from my Heart,
Terri
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~
~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~
God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.
"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).
Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)
Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.
Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.
Love to all who read....
Terri
God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.
"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).
Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)
Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.
Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.
Love to all who read....
Terri
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
PLEASE BEAR WITH ME>>>>
Dear Ones...
Please bear with me, through the summer...My schedule may have to take a back seat to my 1 acre garden and 1 acre of lawn, Grandbabies, building on our house and may other sorts, because of Summer...
Please stick with this blog however, and watch for my articles....
Thanks for your Grace...
Terri
Please bear with me, through the summer...My schedule may have to take a back seat to my 1 acre garden and 1 acre of lawn, Grandbabies, building on our house and may other sorts, because of Summer...
Please stick with this blog however, and watch for my articles....
Thanks for your Grace...
Terri
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Monday, the Promise.....
Sorry for not getting on here earlier, my computer got another virus.........
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....
On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........
Love to all who read....
Terri
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....
On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........
Love to all who read....
Terri
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Eve has many sisters......
Well, Ladies, I wish summer was not sooooooooooo busy, it is hard for me to get my posts out daily......Here is Mondays and the rest of the week.
Eve has many sisters....
When men struggle with fleshly imaginations, we women give ourselves over to emotional imaginations and create a world of hurt for ourselves and those atound us. Satan goes after the man directly, offering him pleasure, power, or glory, just as he did with Jesus during his desert temprtation experience. But satan goes after us ladies as he went after Eve, with subtlety. the tempter asked Eve a question designed to stir her imaginations into supposing that God did not have the best of intentions for her.
"Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD GOD made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall eat of every tree of the garden?"(Genesis 3:1). satan was neading Eve to question Gods motives. He went on to imply that God was keeping something from her, "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ;ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil"(Genesis 3:5). Eve was deceived through her runaway imaginations. The root of her sin was doubting God's goodwill toward her. Even today, has many sisters. We still doubt the one in authority over us and imagine that he does not intend good for us. Like Eve, we imagine that we can disobey the authority of God's word and of our husband's word because we imagine that we have a higher purpose---to be more spiritual.
We have been tricked into believing that our husbands have committed offenses against us, all the while thinking that we are more spiritual because of the insights we have. We all agree that any man who lives in a lustful daydream is a godless man. And I say to you readers, that any woman who lives on the edge, expecting to be offended and believing ill will on every hand, that woman is living in vain imaginations and is a godless woman. It is time to get yourself under God-ordained authority. Believe God, believe the best of your husband, your neighbors, your church, your family, etc., and get on with the blessings of joy of life and marriage.
Ladies, I know, I keep saying this, but this really does work, not overnight, it takes time, believe me, pray and try, God is right there to help yu along the way.
Have you stepped out of being a broken record and stepped into playing in your mind those things that you are Thankful for. God speaks in Phillipians 4:8: "Finally, brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsosever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; is there be any virture, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
See, even in Gods word, we are not to be broken records or drippy fawcetts...we are to make our minds think on the above things...yes, it will take time, yes, it is hard, yes, it does not happen overnight. My mom says, "ANYTHING WORTH HAVING, IS WORTH WORKING FOR."
Are you going to work for something that is more precious than gold?
Have your children gotten the "mad wife" disease? Lets get over it before our children become infected with it, our families become infected with it.....Our children honor their daddy, because mother does, same with our families. I remember, when I would spout at my mother, who is not even a believer, she would automatically start talking down about my DH....argh!!!!
Now, I lift him up, and she does to.....How do your child(ren) see their daddy?
As your child(ren), gorw up they will become adults, they will discover that their daddy has faults, then, they will forgive their daddy as their mother has done. When they are grown, and they can see the whole picture, they will see that their mother is one of the finest mothers/wifes in the whole wide world, BECAUSE, she forgave... they will rise up and call their mother blessed.
Someday their mothers husband may grow up and grow out of his foolishness, and if he does, he will too, call her blessed. This wife/mother will have earned the daddys love and devotion, because she reverenced him when there was little in him to honor. She loved because God first loved her.
When we treat others with the love and forgiveness that Scripture talks about(now, you are thinking, he/they/she does not deserve it, your probably right, but, on the cross when Jesus forgave our sins, did and do we deserve it?) The forgiveness you heap on the heads of those who don't deserve it, shows the power of God at work in your life, and believe you me, others see it. Those who are receiving the forgiveness, will get a lump in their throats, because they know they don't deserve it. Let it work, not in spite, not in anger, but, with the same love Jesus showed on you when you did not deserve it. Your DH will get a lump in his throat not only because of your forgiveness, but, because of the reverence you bestow on him. There can be no greater love, and no greater inducement to repentance.
Not one of us honestly thinks this DH deserves your reverence, or your love for that matter. He is a first class stinker and deserves to sleep alone in an alley under a cardboard box. But, God has called us to a higher plane. It is on this higher plane that we discover the wonder of life, of love, and of forgiveness. And it is the place where we will come to be cherished. Few men are able to continue being angry, lustful, and selfish, in the face of such a strong force as being reverenced.
Ladies/ Friends......
This heaping "hot coals" of love on their heads, works, not a one time thing, not immediately, but, it does work......Gods word is true, and it still works.....
Pray, and ask God to help you do just this, "Heap hot coals of LOVE on their heads"....
More next week....
Love to all who read~~~~~
Terri
Eve has many sisters....
When men struggle with fleshly imaginations, we women give ourselves over to emotional imaginations and create a world of hurt for ourselves and those atound us. Satan goes after the man directly, offering him pleasure, power, or glory, just as he did with Jesus during his desert temprtation experience. But satan goes after us ladies as he went after Eve, with subtlety. the tempter asked Eve a question designed to stir her imaginations into supposing that God did not have the best of intentions for her.
"Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD GOD made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall eat of every tree of the garden?"(Genesis 3:1). satan was neading Eve to question Gods motives. He went on to imply that God was keeping something from her, "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ;ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil"(Genesis 3:5). Eve was deceived through her runaway imaginations. The root of her sin was doubting God's goodwill toward her. Even today, has many sisters. We still doubt the one in authority over us and imagine that he does not intend good for us. Like Eve, we imagine that we can disobey the authority of God's word and of our husband's word because we imagine that we have a higher purpose---to be more spiritual.
We have been tricked into believing that our husbands have committed offenses against us, all the while thinking that we are more spiritual because of the insights we have. We all agree that any man who lives in a lustful daydream is a godless man. And I say to you readers, that any woman who lives on the edge, expecting to be offended and believing ill will on every hand, that woman is living in vain imaginations and is a godless woman. It is time to get yourself under God-ordained authority. Believe God, believe the best of your husband, your neighbors, your church, your family, etc., and get on with the blessings of joy of life and marriage.
Ladies, I know, I keep saying this, but this really does work, not overnight, it takes time, believe me, pray and try, God is right there to help yu along the way.
Have you stepped out of being a broken record and stepped into playing in your mind those things that you are Thankful for. God speaks in Phillipians 4:8: "Finally, brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsosever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; is there be any virture, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
See, even in Gods word, we are not to be broken records or drippy fawcetts...we are to make our minds think on the above things...yes, it will take time, yes, it is hard, yes, it does not happen overnight. My mom says, "ANYTHING WORTH HAVING, IS WORTH WORKING FOR."
Are you going to work for something that is more precious than gold?
Have your children gotten the "mad wife" disease? Lets get over it before our children become infected with it, our families become infected with it.....Our children honor their daddy, because mother does, same with our families. I remember, when I would spout at my mother, who is not even a believer, she would automatically start talking down about my DH....argh!!!!
Now, I lift him up, and she does to.....How do your child(ren) see their daddy?
As your child(ren), gorw up they will become adults, they will discover that their daddy has faults, then, they will forgive their daddy as their mother has done. When they are grown, and they can see the whole picture, they will see that their mother is one of the finest mothers/wifes in the whole wide world, BECAUSE, she forgave... they will rise up and call their mother blessed.
Someday their mothers husband may grow up and grow out of his foolishness, and if he does, he will too, call her blessed. This wife/mother will have earned the daddys love and devotion, because she reverenced him when there was little in him to honor. She loved because God first loved her.
When we treat others with the love and forgiveness that Scripture talks about(now, you are thinking, he/they/she does not deserve it, your probably right, but, on the cross when Jesus forgave our sins, did and do we deserve it?) The forgiveness you heap on the heads of those who don't deserve it, shows the power of God at work in your life, and believe you me, others see it. Those who are receiving the forgiveness, will get a lump in their throats, because they know they don't deserve it. Let it work, not in spite, not in anger, but, with the same love Jesus showed on you when you did not deserve it. Your DH will get a lump in his throat not only because of your forgiveness, but, because of the reverence you bestow on him. There can be no greater love, and no greater inducement to repentance.
Not one of us honestly thinks this DH deserves your reverence, or your love for that matter. He is a first class stinker and deserves to sleep alone in an alley under a cardboard box. But, God has called us to a higher plane. It is on this higher plane that we discover the wonder of life, of love, and of forgiveness. And it is the place where we will come to be cherished. Few men are able to continue being angry, lustful, and selfish, in the face of such a strong force as being reverenced.
Ladies/ Friends......
This heaping "hot coals" of love on their heads, works, not a one time thing, not immediately, but, it does work......Gods word is true, and it still works.....
Pray, and ask God to help you do just this, "Heap hot coals of LOVE on their heads"....
More next week....
Love to all who read~~~~~
Terri
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Sorry for not getting to my posts all week, was sick, and in over my head with other stuff, , Summer?!~><......?
Here they are now.....
Monday...."The Great Mystery"....
"A wise woman understands that her husbands nees to be honored is NOT based on his performance, but, on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is Gods will for her life."
"This is a great mystery:but I speak concerning Christ and the church... and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph. 5:32-33).
There are 12 mysteries in Gods Word, but only the 7th is listed as the Great mystery. Each mystery is a strange, beautiful truth which is for us hard to understand. The old Websters Dictionary defines mystery as ,"something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being aboave human intelligence. An enigma: anything artfully made difficult."
Jesus wants us for a friend. He seeks to create through me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church through eternity.
Amazing as it sounds, marriage between a man and a woman is what God chose as the closest example of Christs relationship to his bride, the Church. You are part of eternity when you submit to your husband. Submission, reverence, and honor are virtues God seeks to establish in his sons bride. Your marriage to your husband is preparing you for a marriage in Heaven. You may think, "But, it would be easy being married to Christ. You are forgetting about haveing to offer ones son upon a alter.....that is what Abraham had to do with his son....What if your husband killed you for lying? That is what God did to Saphira....
For a woman to usurp authority over a man is aggaronce to God Almighty, like treason in camp. It would be like a man taking authority over Christ, or like the Church becoming jealous of Jesus' leadership and taking authority unto itself. It would be doing just what Lucifer did when he said in Isaiah 14:13-14, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north...I will be like the most High." Lucifer, like Eve, was not satisfied with his station in Gods eternal progrtam. He tried to jump rank and ascend higher on the chain of command. God cast him down, as he will do with men and women who attempt to live beyond their created position.
Knowing that my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life. As I reverence my DH, I am creating a picture of how we, the Church, should reverence Christ. You have wondered why God would tell us to do such a think as to reverence our husbands. Now you know.
"This is a great mystery: but I speak conderning Christ and the church.....and the wife see to it that she reverences her husband"(Eph. 5:32).
Reverence; to revere, to ber in awe; fear mingled with respect and esteem.
1. Obedience is doing what yo know the other person wants you to do.
2. Submission is your heart giving over to the other persons will.
3. Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the womans will, to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
Obedience, Submission, and reverence are all acts of the will and are not based of feelings. Showing deference toward ones husband is an act of reverence toward the God who placed you in that role.
Ladies, I am still living this and it still works....Yes, I fall flat on my face, but, that is what repentance is all about, and a God of Grace....
Dont quit, keep on....
My relationship with my DH, and my respect/reverence/hon or for him only grows with every time I allow the Holy Spirit to convict my heart, I repent(sometimes to my DH), and go on and PUT MY WILL DOWN....
Its all about putting our will down, and not having to be right....We are wrong, you know!!!!
Love to all who read,
Terri
Here they are now.....
Monday...."The Great Mystery"....
"A wise woman understands that her husbands nees to be honored is NOT based on his performance, but, on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is Gods will for her life."
"This is a great mystery:but I speak concerning Christ and the church... and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph. 5:32-33).
There are 12 mysteries in Gods Word, but only the 7th is listed as the Great mystery. Each mystery is a strange, beautiful truth which is for us hard to understand. The old Websters Dictionary defines mystery as ,"something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being aboave human intelligence. An enigma: anything artfully made difficult."
Jesus wants us for a friend. He seeks to create through me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church through eternity.
Amazing as it sounds, marriage between a man and a woman is what God chose as the closest example of Christs relationship to his bride, the Church. You are part of eternity when you submit to your husband. Submission, reverence, and honor are virtues God seeks to establish in his sons bride. Your marriage to your husband is preparing you for a marriage in Heaven. You may think, "But, it would be easy being married to Christ. You are forgetting about haveing to offer ones son upon a alter.....that is what Abraham had to do with his son....What if your husband killed you for lying? That is what God did to Saphira....
For a woman to usurp authority over a man is aggaronce to God Almighty, like treason in camp. It would be like a man taking authority over Christ, or like the Church becoming jealous of Jesus' leadership and taking authority unto itself. It would be doing just what Lucifer did when he said in Isaiah 14:13-14, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north...I will be like the most High." Lucifer, like Eve, was not satisfied with his station in Gods eternal progrtam. He tried to jump rank and ascend higher on the chain of command. God cast him down, as he will do with men and women who attempt to live beyond their created position.
Knowing that my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life. As I reverence my DH, I am creating a picture of how we, the Church, should reverence Christ. You have wondered why God would tell us to do such a think as to reverence our husbands. Now you know.
"This is a great mystery: but I speak conderning Christ and the church.....and the wife see to it that she reverences her husband"(Eph. 5:32).
Reverence; to revere, to ber in awe; fear mingled with respect and esteem.
1. Obedience is doing what yo know the other person wants you to do.
2. Submission is your heart giving over to the other persons will.
3. Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the womans will, to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
Obedience, Submission, and reverence are all acts of the will and are not based of feelings. Showing deference toward ones husband is an act of reverence toward the God who placed you in that role.
Ladies, I am still living this and it still works....Yes, I fall flat on my face, but, that is what repentance is all about, and a God of Grace....
Dont quit, keep on....
My relationship with my DH, and my respect/reverence/hon or for him only grows with every time I allow the Holy Spirit to convict my heart, I repent(sometimes to my DH), and go on and PUT MY WILL DOWN....
Its all about putting our will down, and not having to be right....We are wrong, you know!!!!
Love to all who read,
Terri
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Continuation on "Why do children rebel?
We are not printing this for mothers to be down on their husbands, or for them to think less of their DH's...I thought this might help someone who has children rebelling.....
Always pray about whatever it is you read, and ask the God for guidence.......
When a father sacrifices his family for a better retirement....
His children develop a temporal value system....
When a father desciplines in anger....
His children have seeds of bitterness...
When a father delegates his childrens educatiuon to others.....
His chgildren cease to respect him as a teacher....
When a father does not teach his children how to please him....
His children feel frustrated and rejected....
When a father is impatient with his children....
His children feel inferior and reject themselves....
When a father has inconsistent standards...
His children despise him....
When a father tries to warn his children only of the consequences of sin....
His children are challanged to be successful in avoiding the consequences....
When a father lets his wife assume spiritual leadership....
His children mauy regard religion as childish when they grow older....
when a father does not have personal convictions....
His children accept situational ethics and excuse in excess what their father allowed in moderation....
Love....
Terri
Always pray about whatever it is you read, and ask the God for guidence.......
When a father sacrifices his family for a better retirement....
His children develop a temporal value system....
When a father desciplines in anger....
His children have seeds of bitterness...
When a father delegates his childrens educatiuon to others.....
His chgildren cease to respect him as a teacher....
When a father does not teach his children how to please him....
His children feel frustrated and rejected....
When a father is impatient with his children....
His children feel inferior and reject themselves....
When a father has inconsistent standards...
His children despise him....
When a father tries to warn his children only of the consequences of sin....
His children are challanged to be successful in avoiding the consequences....
When a father lets his wife assume spiritual leadership....
His children mauy regard religion as childish when they grow older....
when a father does not have personal convictions....
His children accept situational ethics and excuse in excess what their father allowed in moderation....
Love....
Terri
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Abundant Waters......
Scripture....John 4:1-10; 5:1-9
In His great plan of salvation, God fashioned all living creatures with a natural dependency upon water. Some species rely on water as an enviroment to sustain them. Others, because their body mass consists largely of water, must frequently replenish the body's water reserves. The importance of satisfying this natural thirst cannot be ignored without serious consequences.
Jesus occasionally spoke of living water. This was an introduction to the Holy spirit whom Jesus promised to send following His ascension to heaven. As water is vital for natural life, so the Spirit provides life for the soul.
Those who receive the Holy Spirit through repentance and conversion find complete fulfillment. Because God's Love is the source of this newness of life, the efects are evident and far-reaching. "He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water"(John 7:38).
When we surrender our lives to the Lord, we become aware of new life beginning in our hearts. The Holy Spirit has entered, and the trickle of water begins to flow. He leads us with gentle promptings and impressions, as well as convictions. Our desire is to be obedient to God and faithful to His word. Our acquaintances observe a change in our lives. The water that began to trickle is now a flowing river that goes deeper and deeper widening to reach out to others. What a privilege it is to be channels through which Gods grace can be manisfested to others.
Multitudes of people appear to be standing on the river bank, desiring the effects of it's water in their lives, yet fearful to take the plunge. Some seem to be content in the shallows: others are unwilling for the crucial step that will sweep them into the current, carrying them to the conter of Gods will and complete reliance upon Him through faith. Why do we resist the abundant waters? Only when we lose sight of the familiar shoreline can we discover new horizons of abundant life.
Satans tactic is to suggerst deeper waters will take us into self righteousness. This is a lie, but it is sometimes a convenient excuae for those who are unwilling for a deeper sanctification and a closer walk with God.
Our hearts are soft at the times when God moves in it. At this point we face a test, will we be obedient or will we just turn off that "still small voice"? Remaining in the shallows(turning off the H.S.), we will remain where we are...but, plunging into the deep river, gives us blessings that only can be found there...not wading, but, plunging....
Where are you in the river of life, wading or plunging?
Lets take Jesus as face value and take the plunge.....
Love to all....
Terri
Monday, May 4, 2009
Chapter 12...by Divine Apointment (last entry).....
Marriage Made in Heaven....
So, is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, browbeaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not pur women back in the stone ages, nor will it tuen us into a bunch of women who stayed covered in black.....God does not teach that..for you to be happy---really happy---as I have been happy, you MUST follow and abide in God's role for women.
God has spoken frankly as to why he made us as he did and what our role is to be.
Yet, today others tear apart what God and the Bible teaches and make the average young wife reading these Scriptures feel as though what God has said to her in an insult. I(Debbie Pearl) have spent 35 years counseling, a wife, reading thousands upon thousands of letters, and chalking up my own life experiences, I have concluded that what the Bible says on this subject is ROCK solid truth and it works!!!! I have also seen the reults of bad teaching and teaching against the Scriptures.
My conclusions can be said to be scientifically correct. That is, the "evidence" that leads to my conclusion is reproducible: Anyone can test it and get the same results. The Creator knows best, and HIS way does work. His Word is meant to be taken at face value.
And, when any woman does as I have done, the blessings are incredible!(Just a note from me,Terri, the writer of this blog,, It truly works, my marriage was a wreck, my heart towards my DH was awful [dissrespectful, distainful, hateful and awful!!] but, God saw me really wanting to change and it has totally changed for the good, respect has come to my heart and a genuine love for my DH and also, he for me...ONLY a God who loves me and cares for my marriage could do this marvelous work!!!) I(Debbie) have received thousands of letters from woman who have entered into this wonderful plan for women and their marriage, and they just simply believed and followed and let God do the work in their hearts concerning their place as women. Broken homes, ladies who are church taught, rebellious ladies, and other such things in our world today, have been set free, all learning to honor their men and become good help meets. Marriages that all were made on this earth, remade into Godly good marriages.....Do you know even one couple who says they have a heavenly marriege? I know that the angels in heaven stand amazed at how much a man can love a woman, how he can break down weeping at the thought of how precious she is to him. The reason he loves her so is because she IS precious. She has earned his total adoration and love. She is what God asks of a woman, and the end result is a man who cherishes her beyond anything this world can know.
(LADIES<>>>> this is the way it happened with me, my heart turned upside down, all because I allowed God to reveal to me, "the real me", towards my DH...He showed me how repulsive my disrespect was to Him, and then gave me the tools to go on and change...NO, it WAS NOT EASY!!!!,,,but, so much worth the self control and time to work on it...)
When someone tells you that the Greek doesn't read submit, obey, or silence, just ask that person, "How is your marriage?....Would you say it is glorious?....Will God use your marriage as an example to show others how He wants a Marriage?"
Those who change the Word of God concerning a woman being a helpmeet do so because they don't know the wonder of a marriage made in heaven like I do.
If you want what I(Debbie Pearl and I, Terri) and thousands of other women have, then you must follow the plan the way God wrote it in the Bible. It simply will not work any other way....
TIME TO CONSIDER.....
God set up a chain of aommand, first in Heaven, and then again here on earth. When you do not honor that command, you dishonuor God, and apart from repentance, you can expect to reap the sure consequences.
"But, I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of every woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God"(I Cor. 11:3). Don't question Gods chain of command, and don't attempt to break any of its links.
Make a new habit....
Start thinking and acting as though your husband is the head of the company and you are his secretary. Look for ways to help him in his managerial position.
>Traits of a good Help Meet....
~~She fears God.
~~She believes Gods Word as it is written.
~~She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command.
>Getting serious with God......
Make a list for each day of the week....
MONDAY: Write three new things that you will add to your life that will cause you to become more precious to your husband.
TUESDAY: List three things that you can do that will be a help to him.
WEDNESDAY;: Write down 3 things you can do that will be an encouragement to him.
THURSDAY: Jot down 3 things that you can do to your appearance that you can change, which he is sure to like.
FRIDAY: List 3 things that you can do to your house that will please Him.
SATURDAY: Write 3 things you can do that will make him feel like a man(intimate time together?).
SUNDAY: Plan 3 ways you can respond to him in front of others that will show a heart of respecct and honor toward him.(This here alone will help to change the way he sees you!!!)
This is not easy ladies, but, because of such a change in my heart, it is possible. Without the Lord as ones Saviour, one cannot possibly do this, one needs to have confidence in the Scriptures and God for this to work. It has taken about 2 years for the fruits to show in my marriage, lots of biting my tongue, no remarks back, no attitudes towards him if he did not do what "I "thought He should, and lots of LOVIN".....BUT...LAdies...it works!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You will fail, you will blow it, you will make mistakes, but, God is a God of compassion, and LOVE...He is right there to pick you up, so you can go again...
DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU CAN DO IT<<>>>>>>>>>
Love to all who read this...
Terri
So, is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, browbeaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not pur women back in the stone ages, nor will it tuen us into a bunch of women who stayed covered in black.....God does not teach that..for you to be happy---really happy---as I have been happy, you MUST follow and abide in God's role for women.
God has spoken frankly as to why he made us as he did and what our role is to be.
Yet, today others tear apart what God and the Bible teaches and make the average young wife reading these Scriptures feel as though what God has said to her in an insult. I(Debbie Pearl) have spent 35 years counseling, a wife, reading thousands upon thousands of letters, and chalking up my own life experiences, I have concluded that what the Bible says on this subject is ROCK solid truth and it works!!!! I have also seen the reults of bad teaching and teaching against the Scriptures.
My conclusions can be said to be scientifically correct. That is, the "evidence" that leads to my conclusion is reproducible: Anyone can test it and get the same results. The Creator knows best, and HIS way does work. His Word is meant to be taken at face value.
And, when any woman does as I have done, the blessings are incredible!(Just a note from me,Terri, the writer of this blog,, It truly works, my marriage was a wreck, my heart towards my DH was awful [dissrespectful, distainful, hateful and awful!!] but, God saw me really wanting to change and it has totally changed for the good, respect has come to my heart and a genuine love for my DH and also, he for me...ONLY a God who loves me and cares for my marriage could do this marvelous work!!!) I(Debbie) have received thousands of letters from woman who have entered into this wonderful plan for women and their marriage, and they just simply believed and followed and let God do the work in their hearts concerning their place as women. Broken homes, ladies who are church taught, rebellious ladies, and other such things in our world today, have been set free, all learning to honor their men and become good help meets. Marriages that all were made on this earth, remade into Godly good marriages.....Do you know even one couple who says they have a heavenly marriege? I know that the angels in heaven stand amazed at how much a man can love a woman, how he can break down weeping at the thought of how precious she is to him. The reason he loves her so is because she IS precious. She has earned his total adoration and love. She is what God asks of a woman, and the end result is a man who cherishes her beyond anything this world can know.
(LADIES<>>>> this is the way it happened with me, my heart turned upside down, all because I allowed God to reveal to me, "the real me", towards my DH...He showed me how repulsive my disrespect was to Him, and then gave me the tools to go on and change...NO, it WAS NOT EASY!!!!,,,but, so much worth the self control and time to work on it...)
When someone tells you that the Greek doesn't read submit, obey, or silence, just ask that person, "How is your marriage?....Would you say it is glorious?....Will God use your marriage as an example to show others how He wants a Marriage?"
Those who change the Word of God concerning a woman being a helpmeet do so because they don't know the wonder of a marriage made in heaven like I do.
If you want what I(Debbie Pearl and I, Terri) and thousands of other women have, then you must follow the plan the way God wrote it in the Bible. It simply will not work any other way....
TIME TO CONSIDER.....
God set up a chain of aommand, first in Heaven, and then again here on earth. When you do not honor that command, you dishonuor God, and apart from repentance, you can expect to reap the sure consequences.
"But, I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of every woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God"(I Cor. 11:3). Don't question Gods chain of command, and don't attempt to break any of its links.
Make a new habit....
Start thinking and acting as though your husband is the head of the company and you are his secretary. Look for ways to help him in his managerial position.
>Traits of a good Help Meet....
~~She fears God.
~~She believes Gods Word as it is written.
~~She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command.
>Getting serious with God......
Make a list for each day of the week....
MONDAY: Write three new things that you will add to your life that will cause you to become more precious to your husband.
TUESDAY: List three things that you can do that will be a help to him.
WEDNESDAY;: Write down 3 things you can do that will be an encouragement to him.
THURSDAY: Jot down 3 things that you can do to your appearance that you can change, which he is sure to like.
FRIDAY: List 3 things that you can do to your house that will please Him.
SATURDAY: Write 3 things you can do that will make him feel like a man(intimate time together?).
SUNDAY: Plan 3 ways you can respond to him in front of others that will show a heart of respecct and honor toward him.(This here alone will help to change the way he sees you!!!)
This is not easy ladies, but, because of such a change in my heart, it is possible. Without the Lord as ones Saviour, one cannot possibly do this, one needs to have confidence in the Scriptures and God for this to work. It has taken about 2 years for the fruits to show in my marriage, lots of biting my tongue, no remarks back, no attitudes towards him if he did not do what "I "thought He should, and lots of LOVIN".....BUT...LAdies...it works!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You will fail, you will blow it, you will make mistakes, but, God is a God of compassion, and LOVE...He is right there to pick you up, so you can go again...
DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU CAN DO IT<<>>>>>>>>>
Love to all who read this...
Terri
Thursday, April 23, 2009
What must Ido t be saved?
What must I do...?
This is a very good question everyone should ask. It pertains to the eternal destiny of the soul--eternal life. If yo are not a Christian, not born again, Jesus would say: "Ye must be born again"(John 3:7).
What is meant by "being born again"?
It means to be reborn--experiencing a rebirth. In other words be converted--made over'...that your sins may be blotted out..."(Acts 3:19).
Who needs this new birth?
Every man or woman and every boy and girl who has come to the years of
accountability needs to be spiritually born. In chapter 53 the prophet Isaiah, moved by the Holy Ghost, portrayed the suffering of our Lord Jesus for the sins of mankind several hundred years in advance. In verse six he says, "All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way,;;;" Jesus made it very plain to Nicodemus, a teacher in Israel, when he said "...Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannotsee the kingdom of God"(John3:3). He also told him it was a spiritual birth. It's operations are by the Holy Spirit.
Jesus invites "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is ight"(Matthew 11:28-30).
All who are sinsick and tired of their load of sin are invited to come lay it down at the foot of the cross of Jesus, and "receive the atonement"(Romans 5:11). Jesus suffered, shed His blood and died on the cross a "...propitiation(self sacrificial death) for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins fo the whole world"(1John 2:2).
We must feel the guilt of ur sins--and that Jesus bore the agony in our stead. "He that covereth his sins shall nor prosper: but whoso confesseth and FORSAKETH them shall have mercy"(Proverbs 28:13).
No matter how great a sinner you may be, there is hope for you. "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool"(Isaiah 1:18). "...These are they which come out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb[Jesus Christ]"(Revalation 7:14).
The Bible teaches us that all men have sinned and come short of the glory of God(Romans 3:23). But, man is not in a hopeless condition, for God commands all men everywhere to repent(Acts 17:30). "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"(1 John 1:9). This means that where we have wronged our fellow man, we shall confess and acknowledge our sin--also make rstitution, where needed.
In luke 19, we read of Zaccheus and how he restored fourfold to any from whom he had tamen by false accusation. This repentance, confession and restitution is all a part of our coming to the Lord Jesus with all our heart, soul, mind and strength.
We also read, "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved"(Romans 10:9). Believing and acting---faith and works---go hand in hand. "Behold, I stand at the door[door on your heart] and knock[call]: if any man hear my voice, and open the door[we must head/answer His call and open our heart''s door], I will come in to him, and will sup with him[help him, have sweet fellowship], and he with me"(Revelation 3:20). What a glorious state and condition it is to have forgiveness of our sins and "...peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ!"(Romans 5:1)... It is the beginning of Heaven on earth.
"Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old thing are passed away behold, all things are become new"(2 Corinthians 5:17). "There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit"(Romans 8:1). Lusts of the flesh and of the eye, and the pride of life(1 John 2:15-17) and works of the flesh as mentioned in Galations 5:19-21, are outside the realm of salvation. Whereas the fruit of the Spirit as recorded in Galatians 5:2222-26 have the "..promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come'(1 Timothy 4:8).
This is a very good question everyone should ask. It pertains to the eternal destiny of the soul--eternal life. If yo are not a Christian, not born again, Jesus would say: "Ye must be born again"(John 3:7).
What is meant by "being born again"?
It means to be reborn--experiencing a rebirth. In other words be converted--made over'...that your sins may be blotted out..."(Acts 3:19).
Who needs this new birth?
Every man or woman and every boy and girl who has come to the years of
accountability needs to be spiritually born. In chapter 53 the prophet Isaiah, moved by the Holy Ghost, portrayed the suffering of our Lord Jesus for the sins of mankind several hundred years in advance. In verse six he says, "All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way,;;;" Jesus made it very plain to Nicodemus, a teacher in Israel, when he said "...Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannotsee the kingdom of God"(John3:3). He also told him it was a spiritual birth. It's operations are by the Holy Spirit.
Jesus invites "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is ight"(Matthew 11:28-30).
All who are sinsick and tired of their load of sin are invited to come lay it down at the foot of the cross of Jesus, and "receive the atonement"(Romans 5:11). Jesus suffered, shed His blood and died on the cross a "...propitiation(self sacrificial death) for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins fo the whole world"(1John 2:2).
We must feel the guilt of ur sins--and that Jesus bore the agony in our stead. "He that covereth his sins shall nor prosper: but whoso confesseth and FORSAKETH them shall have mercy"(Proverbs 28:13).
No matter how great a sinner you may be, there is hope for you. "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool"(Isaiah 1:18). "...These are they which come out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb[Jesus Christ]"(Revalation 7:14).
The Bible teaches us that all men have sinned and come short of the glory of God(Romans 3:23). But, man is not in a hopeless condition, for God commands all men everywhere to repent(Acts 17:30). "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"(1 John 1:9). This means that where we have wronged our fellow man, we shall confess and acknowledge our sin--also make rstitution, where needed.
In luke 19, we read of Zaccheus and how he restored fourfold to any from whom he had tamen by false accusation. This repentance, confession and restitution is all a part of our coming to the Lord Jesus with all our heart, soul, mind and strength.
We also read, "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved"(Romans 10:9). Believing and acting---faith and works---go hand in hand. "Behold, I stand at the door[door on your heart] and knock[call]: if any man hear my voice, and open the door[we must head/answer His call and open our heart''s door], I will come in to him, and will sup with him[help him, have sweet fellowship], and he with me"(Revelation 3:20). What a glorious state and condition it is to have forgiveness of our sins and "...peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ!"(Romans 5:1)... It is the beginning of Heaven on earth.
"Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old thing are passed away behold, all things are become new"(2 Corinthians 5:17). "There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit"(Romans 8:1). Lusts of the flesh and of the eye, and the pride of life(1 John 2:15-17) and works of the flesh as mentioned in Galations 5:19-21, are outside the realm of salvation. Whereas the fruit of the Spirit as recorded in Galatians 5:2222-26 have the "..promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come'(1 Timothy 4:8).
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Continuation on ..."Peace of mind in a troubled world."
The battleground in our hearts..........
Though our souls long for God, our sinful natures rebel at His ways. Part of us yearns for God and part of us reaches for fleshly desires. Our hearts are a battleground of continual conflict. This inner struggle causes tension and excessive strain. Without God we are "like the troubled sea, when it cannot rest, whose waters cast up mire and dirt"(Isiah 57:20).
There can be no peace until all of life---mind, body, and spirit---are coordinated by the One who made us and understands us. He is not only master of the world but knows your life and mine from the beginning to the end. He was thinking of us when He came into the world"to give light to them that sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, to guide our feet into the way of peace.(Luke 1:79).
As the Prince of Peace, He invites you to come to Him. "Come unto me, all that are heavy laden, and I will give you rest"(Matt. 11:28). When you come
to Him, you will find relief and relaxation in the freedom He gives. Your peace will be as a river(Isiah 48:18)--an active, sparkling peace that is refreshing and strong, a peace that passeth all understanding. (Phil. 4:7).
Will you come to Jesus casting your burden on Him? He says,"Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you...Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid"(John 14:27).Faith and trust are the antidotes for fear and aanxiety. How restful it is to trust in the only God who is from everlasting to everlasting, to have a friend who never changes, whose love never dies. This Friend is ever thinking of us, ever caring for us. So why worry and fret? Learn to do as we read in 1 Peter 5:7, "Casting all your care upon Him' for He careth for you." There is peace when the battle is over, so why not surrender your ife to the Lord? Remember, if you trust, you don't worry and if you worry you are not trusting. "Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee"(Isiah 26:3).
Resentment is a poison that also robs your peace of mind. It leads to discouragement and hopeless confusion. It is hard to forgive those who have done you an injustice, but you must if you wish to be forgiven. "But if ye forgive NOT men their tresspasses, neither will your Father forgive your tresspasses"(Matt. 6:15). As faith is born in your heart, you are able to surrender your will. Instead of resentment and irritation, your heart is filled with love and mercy, and you experience an inner tranquility. When Jesus is reigning in your heart, you will truly love your enemies. Only through Christ's redeeming blood can this occur.
More next week.....
Love to all who read this blog.......
Terri
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Are we still created to be His helpmeet?
Are we?
I think so, God has not changed.
Well, its been a few weeks without our study....maybe it's time to get on with it again.
My DH is home for the next few months and I did not realize how much it changed ones routine....I had it all planned to post on Monday, and then again, having DH home has changed my routine. So, I hope to get this next lesson posted before the end of the week.
How about what we studied the last time I posted, Did you work on making your DH smile?
Did you study the word "Joy"?
How have you woke up in the mornings?, have you tried to be happy?..I know with little ones, it is hard, but, think about it....
The title of this lesson is.........
"Wisdom"...
A wise woman is wanting to change and learn, she is never closed to changing in Her what she knows needs to be changed. She is not always thinking she is "always" right.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like if your DH just dissappeared one day? Whew!, you think, either that would be horriable, or maybe your thinking that would be great...there would be no more income, warm snuggles, free childcare, helping around the house a job away from the children(oh! These memories hurt me, almost too much to handle..), your little ones crying while you haveing to leave for work, the car is broken, the pipes break...the list can go on and on....YES!!!! this and more has happened to me, and millions of other single moms...and also, the childsupport you thought you were goping to get, suddenly stops(if you even get eany)...and THEN WHAT???????? Alone!!!!
Are you bitter and still angry, because of what that so and so did to you and your or "his" children? OH MY!!!! My dear, dear friend....your soul is being subtly and silently ebbed away from you in the most little of ways....your happiness wayyy down deep in your soul...you use to be bubbling over, now, you are silently critical of everyone that has a good marriage, you go a try to "help" others who are in your situation, all the while, hurting inside, and critical, resentful and many other feelings that are hidden, from "your" view.
I hope this has not already happened to you and you blame "HIM"! Yes, it takes 2 to tango, it takes 2 to make a marriage, but, with a resentful, angry, sad, dishonoring wife, that he comes home to and she is angry at him, and the children, almost every night, why wouldn't he make you a single mother?
Oh, he may not physically leave you, but, has he left you emotionally? Please dear friend.....listen as I share my experience with you, about what happened to me and how you can hope to change your marriage for the good, and the marriage God would have you to have.
NO, this is not a magic wand, that will all of the sudden change it all, but, these are tools and have been that can help...IF YOU choose to put them into practice...NO>>>>it will not happen overnight, it has taken me 2 years and a lot of apologies and asking for forgiveness, to get where we are today, but, it can't do anything but help....
Young mother....others will ask you what happened..and you tell them, HE left...but, where was your heart?..I am NOT saying, it was all of your fault, but, you can either draw your DH or push him further away by who you have you to be. Are you still trying to play the Holy Spirit, you think...."I just said.....(you fill in the blank).....How many times have you "just said",,,the same thing....Isn't that being the Holy Spirit? Last night, my Dh was reading something I felt uncomfortable with, I have not said anything up until lastnight....I just said"Hun, I really don't feel comfortable with you reading so and so"...He asked why and I said, "I just didn't think a a Christian should read that, and added, I am not trying to tell you what to do, just sharing my heart"...(with NO body language, I am still learning that...)...He continued on reading whatever He was reading and I HAD TO leave it, no more said....no body language, or rolling my eyes, or subtle suggestions....That is leaving it to the Holy Spirit, not ME being the Holy Spirit....Get it?
If we don't let the HOly Spirit do His work, we are dishonoring our DHs....
Marriages can survive other subtle things and some not so subtle, if the wife honors her DH...but, when and if Mother dishonors Daddy, few marriages make it. Your attitude has the most to do with all of this, the children feel it, so why wouldn't Dh feel it? Lower your expectations(of profit by "will",[whos will, yours?]) and permit yourself to love and honor your DH, your children will feel that too....so will DH!
Not saying your standards(rule used for comparison) should be lower.....but, your dishonor and nagging(even in your thoughts) will drive him to the other woman.
I do remember when God brought this to me, how my thoughts about my DH truly make me act it out...if my thoughts are dishonoring(begrudging his every step, because it's not the way "I" would do it, say it, or think it,) then my actions and words come out "barbed". Holding your thoughts and tongue will possibly hold your man.
Lets work on our thoughts..using the last few studies and ideas I have posted, lets try to be happy, have JOY, hold our thoughts(taking them into captivity), and last but absolutely NOT least.....PRAY!!!
Really, Really, kGod to help you in your hearts of hearts....ask Him to Hold your tongue and your thoughts....even if you really don't want to....
Next weeek, we will look at "Alone"!
Rememer, I pray for each and every one that reads my blog....
Love to you all of my Friends, until next week....
Terri
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