Hormones 101

   We ladies all have basically the same hormones. Over the last 50 plus years, my hormones have fluctuated some, but I have still been fully a female during all that time. Amazing, isnt it? Through adolescence, marriage, pregnancies, births, periods, menopause you  name it, our hormones were always there, maintaining us as a female. For the most part, all ladies have the same intimate drive.
   Do you love your husband the way he needs loving, the way you were created to love him? If you dont score high points here, you are providing an opening for your husband to be tempted by other women. It is a mans duty to walk in truth and have high integrity, but a woman, who trusts in a mans ability to endure all things, while providing circumstances that test him to the max, is a fool. It is your duty to fulfill his intimate needs. God knew that the pleasurable memories "planted" lovingly by you would serve to keep you sweetly and tenderly in his thoughts and his dreams(SOOOO TRUE!!!). His faithful responsibility to you, and yours to him are both equally important, and we wives must give an account before God for our faithfulness in these areas. I call it"ministering" to my husband and he says I am a MIGHTY fine minister(giggle).
 For a woman, intimate expression starts in her mind and heart. Love is giving up your center, your self interest. It is choosing anothers needs above your own. A woman chooses to be interested or not interested in her  husbands needs. So, when a womans first commitment is to her own needs and feelings, she is  going to view intimacy strictly as carnal....for then she does have a total hedonistic outlook.---her self gratification. But if a woman views intimacy as a ministry to her husband, then it is a selfless act of benevolence. She need not wait until she is stimulated to desire eroticism, she need only seek to fulfill her husbands needs. I have a tip for you.....when you make your husbands needs central , you will get turned on to the experience and enjoy it yourself. That is the way God meant it to be. The principle is universal---we minister to others because we want to bless them. It is completely incidental that the by-product of selflessly blessing others should result in our being blessed also, Eve was created to be Adams helper. It is not in seeking personal fulfillment that she is fulfilled, rather, it is in doing her duty to bless him, that a blessing is returned upn her.
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LOVE TO ALL WHO READ>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.......
####!!~~~TERRI~~~!!####

Just a note to all who read.....

Wha is written herein, is NOT, meant to confuse anyone or hurt any who are already hurt ...I encourage you to get help for those thiings that these writings may trigger.
 Lets not share the bad things with those who think as we do, lets bear one anothers burdens, and lift each other up instead of tear down...if we dont agree with someone, lets pray, instead of spreading 'bad' about that person/those people...
 We all have things in our lives that have hurt us and still do,sometimes    PLEASE bear with  me, and let these writings do what they can for others,,,maybe not for you, but, for others,....
Thanks for reading..
LOVE to all who read....
!!!~TERRI~!!!

His arms are my arms....

Dear ?.....
    I have not felt close to God for a long time. Something was missing I found myself empty and lonely. I really had no idea what was wrong. I was aimless as a mother, and my discipline of my children was inconsitent and fraught with anger. My household management was wanting. In the past, my husband and I have had a good relationship, but even that was limp. I often cry myself to sleep, not knowing what was wrong.
   My husband had been attempting to get intimate with me during "that time of the month" at which I usually pushed him away, He knew it was "that time", but assured me, he only wanted to give me pleasure...
   I guess I must think in boxes; it is either all or nothing for me. And so, when I did not think it was all a good time, then it was nothing. Last night, after I resisted my husband yet again(argh!), my heart cried out to God, and I began to cry and cry and pray. Eventually the sobbing subsided, and I calmed down(my DH had sleepily held onto me and let me cry it out).    It was then I felt like God said in that still small voice, "Those arms that hold you are my arms", I felt the warmth and strength of my husbands arms about me. I realized by pushing my husband away, I am pushing God away. NO WONDER I was sooo very lonely!!!  I have been pushing the Lord away all this time and refusing to receive guidence and comfort  here on earth ,from my Saviour...
   How eagerly I went to myhusband and how eager I will always reamain! Life is an education. Boxes, boundaries, self imposed rules, they are all the same ink.
   Today was like a new day! My children, my house, my chores, I saw everything with different eyes, THANKFUL eyes, a grateful heart and a soul full of  joy and love....
  
 "A wise woman guages her husbands needs. She seeks to fulfill his desire before even he is aware fo them. She never leaves him daydreaming outside of home. She supplies his desire."

   Ladies, as the time draws close to Our Heavenly Saviour coming, the enemy of our souls will pour it on even more...WE NEEDS to fall on our faces before our Father and ask for guidence, Help, truth, and  our hearts to be changed....not to stay in the same mold, as we always have...
    Pray, as we never have before...for us to HEAR His still small voice, to determine, in our hearts to do the will of the Father..not our own wills....hard?, you think, yes, it is, but, the joys that will flood or souls when we do.... 
   More later....

   Love to all who read.....
   !~~~TERRI~~~!

More on the "Love" tract...

Lets see, where did we leave off?....
   If you feel the need of love---if there is an emptiness in your heart----you can find true love. You can find this be giving yourself to God. God loves you with a tender, caring, compassion that knows no bounds. He cares for you and wants to share and help you through all the heartaches of life. If you feel alone and think that no one really cares,you can rest assured that the One who gave his Son for you does feel all your heartache and grief, in your loneliest hours and your most dismal days, He will be there to give you comfort, strength, and direction if you turn toHim.
   If you do not know how to reach God, just pour your heart to Him and He will hear. If you feel you can hardly trust anyone, not even God, tell Him so. Then ask Him to show you the way.
If you feel you are a sinner without hope of ever finding forgiveness and love, come to God with all your heart, repenting of and leaving your past sins. He will be your loving Father if you come to Him with all your heart, and are willing to obey in all that He asks of you.
   When God forgives and accepts you, you will feel His love and gain a relationship with HIm that nothing can take away. This relationship will only be broken if YOU turn away from HIm, it is impossible for Him to leave us IF, we are following Him.

OK, My computer is acting up, more later...

Love to all who read....Terri


Here is the link for this tract....
http://churchofgodinchristmennonite.net/node/12

Christlikeness?

The life I live should reveal what I believe; whether the "world" or "Christ".

Are you a nominal Christian(conformed to the world, and not Christ)? How do you make a difference in the false values and beliefs around you? When a Christian responds/acts like those looking on, they see no difference, "Why should they change?, but, if they see a difference n your demanor....they can't help but want what you have. Afterall....Christlikeness is all that really matters, not?

Love to all who read....
Terri

MIRROR?

The best mirror is an old friend....

Frame of reference....

Frame of reference...
A mans concept of marriage is different from a womans. Especially after he has gone without intimacy for a few days. This book is not a "how to" for a man. I will skip his part and deal with the ladies part. God describes marriage as"they two shall be one flesh", which is, their bodies coming together. 
   Many men feel that marriage is not quite what they thought it was going to be. Some men spend their youth dreaming about the wild passion they are going to experience with the one woman they love more than life. It is their expression of the oneness they will have with her alone and her alone. This is truly Gods design for a man in the department of love .
   The man remembers the passinate looks his sweetheart gave him before marriage. He had  naturally assumed that she would always think of him in that all-consuming loving way.
   When they were courting, that is the way she made him feel. He saw it refelcted in her face. All he wanted was to satisfy that hungry anumal he thought she was, and, for a while, she was all he had hoped for; but then
it faded away. She wasnt interested anymore. Her disinterest in him intimately is a reflection of her heart, and he knows it. Ther are a multitude of excuses women use to explain why they would "rather not" or why they "cannot respond" this way. I think  her husband knows in his spirit that all her excuses are just that:excuses for not wanting him.

My computer is acting up again, I can only write a few lines then it shuts off.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~
 

More on the tract "Love"...

The difficult things that  life brings us are not an indication that God does not love us. God at times allows us to experience difficulty for our own good. A parent with true love does not always give a child wht he wants, but rather restrains him for the childs benefit.
Love is self-sacrificing, true love seeks the good of others. Love is warm, sympathetic, kind. If we really love, we will care for the present and future well being of those near to us. A loving husband and father will display his affection for his wife and children. He will gladly give and sacrifice of himself to provide an atmosphere of love and well being.
  A wife and mother who truly loves,her husband will respect her husband and will instill in her children a sense of respect and love for their parents and for each other. She will gladly provide a haven of security and tranquility for all in the family.
Christ exemplified love by his undeserved death on the cross of Calvery.

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

The meaning of quiet...

Quiet...Are we?
mild, free from turbulance, immovable(in the things of the truth of God), steadfast, settled, not easily provoked.
Ask ourselves this wuestion, Am I?

Jesus the faithful one.....

The confidence we have...
the trust we hold...
the hope we carry...
rest in His faithfulness...

Every promise He has made
He purposes to fulfill.

He has the authority to
accomplish all He has spoken.

His power is limitless...
His character changeless...
His love endless!!!

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Fragrance????

Forgiveness is like the violet
Sending forth its pure fragrance
On the heel of the boot
Of the one who crushed it....

I'm about to have a nervous breakdown....

This letter shows how not gttring our way often causes us to have a nervous, troubled spirit instead of the quiet(sober) spirit God expects us to have. It was good to hear that this lady finally found peace. the article she refers to can be found on the nogreaterjoy.org website.
I heard your article read publicly called "Carnal husbands, cranky wives and cantankerous kids", while at a seminar in Knoxville. It was the first time I realized my anxiety controlled my husband and was a reflection of my lack of confidence in him. As we left the seminar and were fighting traffic, my husband spoke up that we needed to stop for gas. Miles passed and still the traffic was bumper to bumper. Suddenly we were free and in the mountains with no place to buy gas. I was in an extreme state of turmoil. I had worked myself up to a state that I wanted to scream to him to go back in to the city and get gas. I could see the gas gauge; it was . totally empty. I kept quietly raging to God that "this was the exact reason why I had to take control, since he is  the most irresponsible man and does not make wise decisions. I felt that I should tell him what to do. "I was so nervous, I was almost sick, but, for the first time I kept my mouth shut and looked interestedly at the hills. Ten miles up into the mountains, we finally came to an exit that had a gas station, and my husband turned to me, smiled and said, "Whats happened to you? Your not a nervous wreck like you usually are. I'm so glad youve learned to relax. Isn't life a lot more fun when your not so full of fear? I'm proud of you."
I had to stop and think Even if we had tun out of gas, would it have been a tragedy? I could see that I had turned many things into monsters. I had the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit that we were suppose to have. I have learned not to let my fears and irritations over uncertain circumstances control me, and , much  worse, my husband. I am learning to lean on my husband.


Love to all who rad...
~~~*Terri*~~~