Hello to all that read this blog...

"The Contented Woman"...

I could not get in this blog for years and just did...WOW!!!

There have been many, many changes in my life and you will see when you read my other blog....

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Hormones 101

   We ladies all have basically the same hormones. Over the last 50 plus years, my hormones have fluctuated some, but I have still been fully a female during all that time. Amazing, isnt it? Through adolescence, marriage, pregnancies, births, periods, menopause you  name it, our hormones were always there, maintaining us as a female. For the most part, all ladies have the same intimate drive.
   Do you love your husband the way he needs loving, the way you were created to love him? If you dont score high points here, you are providing an opening for your husband to be tempted by other women. It is a mans duty to walk in truth and have high integrity, but a woman, who trusts in a mans ability to endure all things, while providing circumstances that test him to the max, is a fool. It is your duty to fulfill his intimate needs. God knew that the pleasurable memories "planted" lovingly by you would serve to keep you sweetly and tenderly in his thoughts and his dreams(SOOOO TRUE!!!). His faithful responsibility to you, and yours to him are both equally important, and we wives must give an account before God for our faithfulness in these areas. I call it"ministering" to my husband and he says I am a MIGHTY fine minister(giggle).
 For a woman, intimate expression starts in her mind and heart. Love is giving up your center, your self interest. It is choosing anothers needs above your own. A woman chooses to be interested or not interested in her  husbands needs. So, when a womans first commitment is to her own needs and feelings, she is  going to view intimacy strictly as carnal....for then she does have a total hedonistic outlook.---her self gratification. But if a woman views intimacy as a ministry to her husband, then it is a selfless act of benevolence. She need not wait until she is stimulated to desire eroticism, she need only seek to fulfill her husbands needs. I have a tip for you.....when you make your husbands needs central , you will get turned on to the experience and enjoy it yourself. That is the way God meant it to be. The principle is universal---we minister to others because we want to bless them. It is completely incidental that the by-product of selflessly blessing others should result in our being blessed also, Eve was created to be Adams helper. It is not in seeking personal fulfillment that she is fulfilled, rather, it is in doing her duty to bless him, that a blessing is returned upn her.
>>>>MORE LATER<<<<

LOVE TO ALL WHO READ>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.......
####!!~~~TERRI~~~!!####

Your God ordained place....

   A letter was written to me about a "switch" being turned off after birthing the children...Has your "switch" turned off to your DH, because ???????? Consequently,has  His(DH) "switch" turned off also, you live married and still do everything married couples do except, for sexual relations....How can this be? Obviously, the marriage was not as good as one thinks or one would not be concerned and writing as one did....
 "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render(give) unto the wife due benevelence(sexual gratification for her): and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and pryer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency"(I cor. 7:2-5).
Hmmmm. pretty strong words...Lets go on....
   Dear Mrs.?(Could you put your name in here?)........
   You would not be writing unless you are both unhappy with your current realtionship. You know this should not be. When you married you sugned over to become a helper for his needs. Your lifes work is to help your husband. Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends. In practice, you are not in a marriage relationship with your husband. You and your husband are effectively living in a seperate status..having put each other away .
   God commands, in I Cor. 7:5...."Defraud not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan temp you not for your incontinency."
   God has already told us that not having regular intimacy is giving Satan an opportunity to tempt married couples. Wife, it is your God-ordained helper place to your husband to be his totally enthusiastic intimacy partner, ready to enjoy him at all times. To do less is a grave error. If you love your DH, as God commands, you will always seek to give him pleasure. In so doing, you will fulfill your role as his suitable helper.

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

OK, Ladies, I must confess...
My computer is back, but, NOT what it was...I cannot figure out how to get the "Annie Johnson Flint" Poems on here now......I cannot do it like I use to...Can anyone help?
Email me, if you know how...please......
glad2bcovered@gmail.com

Thanks.......
~~~*Terri*~~~

Eight practical game rules......

Todays is called...."Eight Practical Game Rules"....
Have you ever studied the word "blasphame"?
When I was small, it struck terror in my heart. We were new christians and somewhere along the way, the preachers were able to stuff into my little brain the verse on blaspheming the Holy Ghost., "But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation"(Mark 3:29).
Today, now at a much riper age, the word "blaspheme" still causes me to shudder---as it should. To some degree, blasphemy is to put oneself above God, either by what you say or what you do. When the Pharisees heard Jesus speak, and because they wanted a reason to kill him, they accursed him of blaspheming,"making himself equal with God"(John 5:18).
This is a womans study about wives and mothers, so you must be wondering what blasphemy has to do with the subject. A lot! I tried to recall the list of 8 things that aged women were told to teach the younger women.
"That the aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be [1]sober, [2]to love their husbands, [3]to love their children, [4]to be discreet, [5]chaste, [6]keepers at home, [7]good, [8]obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed(Titus 2:3-5).
The word blasphemed jumped out at me,"...that the word of God be not blasphemed." Aged women (that's me) are commanded to teach the young women so they will not blaspheme the word of God!!! As young mothers in danger of blasphemy? The passage says they are.....blasphemeing the Word Of God. Even though it is not the unpardonable sin, it sure is a scary thing for Paul to say that about young wives.
The word blaspheme in this passage had always seemed to be an overstatement---an emphatic exxageration. How can a woman be causing the Word of God to be blasphemed is she is not discreet? Does a women really cause the Word of God to be blasphemed if she doesn't obey her husband? What if he is wrong? What if she dresses a little sexy and is not as chaste as she should be? Should that be judged as blaspheming? What does it mean to be keepers at home? Why are these eight things so critical to young wives that refusal to do them would be termed blasphemy?
God is faithful, as I pondered these thoughts, He gave me a glimpse of how to answer these questions, His answer broke my heart. I could never have dreamed the horror that would teach me just why the word blaspheme is the right word. But first, we will examine the 8 characteristics, one by one, that God commands aged women to teach young women.

Until next week,..........

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Part 2, "Titus 2".....

Here is the second part to these lessons...

"Titus 2"........

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their childen, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"(Titus 2:3-5).
Over the last several years I have asked hundreds of women, "Can you tell me the eight things God requires of a woman, which if she does not obey she will be guilty of blashpheming God's word?" Most women respond with a blank look, not having a clue as to the answer.
God told the older women to teach only one message. It is found in Titus 2. The next section in these studies cover those eight important things.
Stay tuned for the things that this part entails.......

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

The purple flower PJs Girl....

The Purple Flower Pjs Girl......

Just last week, while I sat in my car in the Walmart parking lot, waiting for my daughter, I watched the people as they walked into the store. It was an interesting study in human behaviour. Of the 25 or so couples who walked into the store together,only 3 of them were touching each other, and those 3 ladies were the only one ssmiling out of the 25 or so I observed. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the prettiest, these ladies were 1 or 2's. One lady looked several(hard) years older than her tall, young, handsome husband. He had a delighted smile on his face as he watched her every move, possessively leading her by the arm. It was clear that she was enjoying telling him her tale. I could see it was a good story, because he threw his head back and laughed freely just as they walked through the door. He was enjoying his woman.
Another couple passed by quietly, deliberetly brushing up against each other, saying nothing, but the womans smile said everything. the third smiling couple took the award of the day. He was a muscled-up gorgeous man, and she was almost past describing. She was wearing flannel PJ bottoms that were cut off just above the knees. The shortened pants had 5 inch purple flowers scattered over the white, almost see through material. She was short. and a lot overweight, with the most weight bouncing in those "extra tight" PJ shorts. Her hair was chopped off in an very "home" cut style, and really needed to be washed. Her gorgeous man had her in a headlock hug. She was laughing and poking him in the ribs while hollering for him to ler her go. You would have thought he was hugging Miss America by the way he was grinning. He was really enjoying his purple flower sweetie. I caught his eye, and he grinned back at me, not one bit embarressed. That gal had totally won his heart and my respect. He was proud to be her man. Of all those "beautiful"a girls who had walked into Walmart while I waited, it was this girl who was publicly being adored and appreciated. I suspect that she has never removed her husbands hugging arm for any reason, much less to save her hairdo. She has accepted all of his overtures with thanksgiving and delight.
In the coming few weeks, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of our children, etc. These things are important and necessary, but, the buck stops right here at the action of the word reverence.
A man will allow his woman many, many, faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great.
If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankdul to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be very overweight, have hair needs help, not cook or very little, be a little lazy, and be not pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is wonderful.....HE WILL LOVE HER!!! I know, it sounds ridiculous,but that is just how it is.
Women, on the other hand, want their husbands to perform. They expect them to be spiritual, hardworking, diligent, sensitive, and an attentive parent, or they will take personal offense and begin a campaign to change him onto "their" image. I find it amazing that a woman would marry an MAN(as he is) and then become angry because he continues to act like one.

What does it mean to reverence?

The very act of reverence is extreme appreciation profound thankfulness that this man, JUST AS HE IS, has chosen to love me, JUST AS I AM.

How many traits should a young maid carry that is looking to be married?.....really only one, a grateful heart......let me explain....
That girl must be joyful and thankful for the love that that man has for her who marrys her. The more that young lady believes she is fortunate that her man chose her over others, the better the fondation for the true marriage of 2 souls. If the young lady feels that the man is lucky to get her, that young lady is looking for her very OWN helpmeet and she thinks you are the one to fill the job...She will spend the rest of her life trying to change that young man.

To reverence your husband is to be thankful and delighted.

Like the purple flower pjs girl. It means the you must be the opposite of the "dont mess my hair girl", and that you believe in him enough to dream good things aboaut him. You reverence him by teaching your sons and daughters that their daddy is the #1 man, and then by helping making a sign in their hearts and maybe in reality, so everyone can see how you think and feel about him. In summary, it is to believe that YOU are blessed for being loved by this wonderful man.

Next week, some things to study....

OH!! Ladies, I do hope this gives you courage....don't give up....a short note from me.....this thing called reverence is funny, but, it is true, it really works, this happened to my DH and I...I decided to reverence, it took time, for him to trust me, but, it works....
If your man decides to go the other way, PLEASE don't quit becoming what God would have you be...work on YOU!




Love to all who read....
Terri

Compassion, much needed for these tumultous times.........

Compassion....
Who has compassion?
Who has love?
Who has generosity?
Who has a general kindness?

I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight

That to somebodys need made me blind;

But I never have yet felt a tinge of regret

For being a little too kind.

Author unknown

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Not Fair.......

Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.

This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Spiritual Armour....

~~~~My DH thought I should post this this morning, so here it is....
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.

Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri

Kings and Kingdoms, cont'd.....

Good Morning Ladies, My garden takes more time than one thinks....mowing lawn, having Grandsweeties, and other such, time flies, so here is just a bit for this week,.........

Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.

Love from my Heart,

Terri

Kings and Kingdoms.....(New Chapter Ladies)....

A wise woman always receives her husbands overtures with delight, no matter how clumsy they may be.
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."

Part 2 of this text next week....


Love to all who read....
Terri

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~


God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.

"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).

Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)

Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.

Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.

Love to all who read....
Terri

Washed in the Blood of the Lamb?

The title may give you questions, Is your heart washed in the Blood of the Lamb?
Rev 7:9-14, 1:4-9, and ;Hebrews 10:29
Is THE blood of THE lamb on the doorposts of your heart?
When we are deliberet in our disobedience to what God has called us to do, that is when it becomes wrong for us....In spite of repeated warnings by the Holy Spirit, Do you still disobey?, and make excuses for not obeying?
Satan would like to rob us of courage in our Christian lives and have us look at bad situations, and bring our courage low. If I can believe I am saved(washed in the blood of the lamb[i.e., born again]), my courage will come back. Satans trick is to make us believe lies, and not obey "The Word Of God"....he makes us think, were ok, to just walk the fence, with one foot in the Word and one foot in the World....

Love to all who read,
Terri

Comfort zones....

Comfort zones....
Men are not the uncaring creatures they sometimes appear to be. They highly treasure their families and like for their homes to be comfort zones. they want respect and a family that gives them security and purpose. Even though home life may get dull, men greatly value their own woman and children.
Men may allow the lust of the flesh to pull them away from that which they value, but they try to get back to that comfort zone. It is this natural need for his own famuly that keeps a man caring for and bearing the responsibility for his wife and children. When a woman does not provide for her husband a comfortable nest and a reverent attitude, she has to rely on his goodness to "keep him" faithful. She is a fool to expect him to be a good husband when she is not being the helpmeet God has created for her to be.
A man coming home to a tense or messy home, lousy meals, and a wife who is critical, judgemental, and or bossy might not have the "goodness" to remain faithful if a young sweet, kind, woman at work seeks to pull him away with the promise (illusion) of a more fullfilling comfort zone.
Woman take it for granted that a man will be faithful because it is his Christian duty to be faithful(and it is). It is also a womans Christian duty to be a help meet: honoring, obeying, serving, and reverencing.
Experience has proven that failure on a woman part will make it much easier for a man to fail his obligations to the family. a satisfied man will cherish his "comfort zone" enough to resist the "evil woman" and her empty promises.
Counselors agree that in almost all marriage conflicts both husband and wife share the blame almost equally. A mans guilt is usually easy to see. A womans guilt is less obvious but just as destructive and just as evil. God ordained a woman to be a help meet. She is to provide a haven of rest and satisfaction, and to be a delight to her husband. ARE YOU??????
When she fails to obey God, there is often a high price to pay. When she obeys God, even if she is married to a "lost" man, she will usually reap heavenly rewards.

Love to all who read, may you reap heavenly rewards by following this and "The Word of God"....
Terri

Monday, the Promise.....

Sorry for not getting on here earlier, my computer got another virus.........
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....

On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........

Love to all who read....
Terri

Monday....The Power of Reverence....

How do your children see their "Daddy"....? How do you see Him even when he is not all that great? How do others see Him?

Even when Your DH is not happy, cute, smelling good, thoughtful, good looking, and all of the things the world sees as "good"...How do you see Him? Even when you reverence a man that does not deserve it, you are in a sense reverencing God.

Do you understand that? You reverence God because you reverence your DH, not because your husband is a fit representative of Christ, and not because he is a worthy substitute, but because God placed you in subjection to your husband. And when it gets humanly ridiculous to obey him, and when he gives you every reason to not respect him, there is only one controlling factor left---God. You obeying and reverencing God, and no one else. That man of yours is the fortunate one who receives honor being given to God. Your faith sees beyond the circumstances of your sinning man to the God who created us all and "so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son..."(JHohn 3:16).

If your faithfullness is never rewarded with a new-birth change in your husband, your commitment will not be wasted, for the grace that God is working in your heart is making you supremely fitted to be the Bride of Christ. It is an eternal work(we look so temperal)taking place in your soul. Your obedience to God, and your willingness to go beyond the extra mile, prevents your husbands damaging your children. You have covered a multitude of sins with your love and forgiveness(1 Peter 4:8).

Play it again, Sue...

In our own strength, we women tend to have minds like old LP records that are scratched. We take our husbands faults and replay them in our thoughts over and over again, "he's insensitive....he's insensitive....he's insensitive..."We get worked up over the smallest things and offense until our agitation sours into bitterness. He will forget to feed the dog three days in a row. We will look a the empty dog bowl and attribute it to all kinds of evil motives of him. He will leave us waiting in the car for an extra 10 minutes, and we convince ourselves that his lack of consideration is just the tip of the "cold iceberg" in his heart. Since we are "Christian" ladies, and the children are watching, we don't rant and rave; we just give him the cold silent treatment(like that will help!). He must know how much he hurts us, and the best way to retaliate is to hurt him back(STOP!!! This doesn't help!!!)by depriving him of what he wants most---respect, honor, and love.

We know that this will get his attention, and he will eventually have to come humbly asking what is wrong. By then, our miserable countenance(ugly!) should have softened him up for a good case of repentance. Boy, will we make him sorry! But we fully expect that he will try to make up for the birthday he forgot by buying the same kind of candy we told him we hate, and then we hate him all the more for not remembering that we hate that kind of candy. Practice. We are always practicing those awful thoughts!!!!

Remember the 40,000 thoughts a day? Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. How many thousands of negative thoughts are you thinking in the course of three or four hours? It IS YOUR DUTY before God to think differently....God tells you how to think. When our emotions will not freely allow us to think what we ought, our will(we use it for bad, why not for good?) can command our muscles to actions and the thoughts will follow. "Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established"(Prov. 16:3).

Remember the passage in 11Cor. 10:5? "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ"

In the letters I receive, 90% of the offenses are not ony but the wifes imaginative responses to something that could have been easily overlooked......

The difference between a good marriage and a lousy one is not found in good husbands and good wives versus bad husbands and bad wives, for all marriages are made up of 2 sinners with lots of faults. A good marriage is good because one or both of them have learned to overlook each others faults, to love the other as he or she is and to not attempt to change the other or bring the other to repentance. A bad marriage is not one that contains more faults between the 2 of them, it is a marriage where one or both of them gets worked up over issues that good marriage partners let slide and cover up with love and forgiveness.

When a woman gets it in her mind that she must change her husband before she will allow him to relax in the security of her honor and respect, she will never see so much as the bottom side of a good marriage, except when she is kissing hers goodby!!!

~~~Continued next week~~~

Ladies....I hope you thoughtfully pray about all of these tips and truths...

they work....

Love to all who read...

Terri

Thursday...part 1 of "Why do children rebel?"

Why Do Children Rebel?

When a father does not fulfill his promises........His children get wounded spirits.
When a father does not admit his wrong.............His children lose cxonfidence in his leadership.
When a father refuses to ask for forgiveness.....His children react to his pride.
When a father does not have right priorities......His children feel that he is too busy for them.
When a father is too strict in discipline.....His children have their spirits broken.
When a father gives too much freedom to his children.....His children see freedom as a form of rejection.
When a father neglects his parents.....His children do not honor the cousel of their grandparents.
When a father does not love his wife....His children take up offenses with their mother.
When a father neglects Gods Word....His children neglect the authority of God and the Bible.

The rest of this special, next week.

Love.....

Terri

By Divine Appointment............

This is a continuation of "Created to be his helpmeet"..
Tis so needed in ur society today.Only with God and His power can one change from a boss to a submissive wife and be happy, here is more on that subject.....
Your DH did that he may be, is appointed by God to be your immediate Superior Officer inthe chain of commans. Your position under him is where God pur you for your own spiritual, emotional, and physical safety. It is the only position where you will find real fulfillment as a woman. Dont worry about the quality of leadership, for he is under the oversight of Jesus Christ. He must answer to God for how he leads his "troops'. You must answer to God for how you obey the one he placed over you. It takes faith in God to trust him when all you seem to see is one carnal man leading you--to "God only knows where".
In all of this "submit and superior" talk, rememver this: Giod is focusing our attention on the heavenly pattern. The emphasis is not on woman submittingto men, but rather showing, here on earthm the heavenly opattern of the son submitting tothe Father.
"He is not saved", you say! Gods Word remains the final authority. Your husband is your knight in shining armour. Even if his armour appears a bit rusty and dull, it is till the armour of God, your safe covering in everything.
JUST a note from me, this above is true, as I learned to submit and respect my DH, He actually blossomed into what God and I really wanted all along! No, He is not perfect and makes mistakes, but, with the respect I have learned for him, through Gods Grace, He does not cowar from me, and can pick himself up and go again. To think, He cowared because of me, YUK!
God tells us that we are to be His help meets: We are to submit to him, obey, and even reverence our DHs. He also tells us WHY we are assigned the role of helper.

1. We came forth from mans ribs and were created for him. We are part of him.
"For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man"(1 Cor. 11:7-9).

2. Our position in relation to our husband is a picture of the Great Mystery, which is Christ and the Church. We, as the body as Christ, are for
Him, our living Head. It can be no other way!
"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of every woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God"(1 Cor. 11:3).
"This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church...and the wife see that she reverence her DH"(Eph. 5:32-33).

God tells why our DH is to be the one who rules the home. God explains why it is never his will for the wife to rule.

1. The fall into sin was due to a woman's inherent vulnerability.
"For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression"(1 Tim. 2:13-14).
"For a man indeed...is the image and lgory of God: but the woman is the glory of man"(1 Cor. 11:7).
2. Curses were placed on the guilty in the fall.
"Unto woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over you"(Gen. 3:16).
It was Gods design, before the fall, that the womans desire would be to her husband and that he would rule over her. This relationship was not punishment, but after the fall it would be a source of suffering for the woman. God created the woman to be the helper of the man---a sinless man. Now that Eve led Adam into sin, Eve is still his helper, her desires are still focused on him and his goals, and he will still rule over her as before--but now, he is sinful, selfish, and carnal.
I think we will wait until next week, for more...
Have a blessed week.
Lets remember to stop and think before we speak, listen to our DHs more and try and not be His "BOSS".........
Love to all...............
Terri

Computer down since Friday.....

I have to apologize ladies.........my computer has been down since last friday(today is Tuesday).
Much to catch up on.......will do that tomorrow............

Love to you........
Terri