Blaspheming the written Word of God....

Dear Mr Pearl;
I have a question. Would it be sin to castrate myself? I am a husband and father, and I just cannot satisfy myself with my wife because she does not want to be intimate very often. The bible says, "whosever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed aadultery with her already in his heart." Would it not be better in my case to be castrated? I talked with my wife and she does not care. I am tired of sinning.
Mr Miller
This is a real letter from a real man named Mr. Miller. We were shocked! What do we tell this man who is willing to lose his manhood to avoid the lust caused by his indifferent wife? The gravity of his wifes sin is staggering. She has NO FEAR of God Almighty. She has blasphemed the word of God with her selfishness, thinking only of her own needs and not loving her husband. Never, Never, never be guilty of such a grave sin. This husband needs to know that God says. "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband....Defraud ye not one the other...that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency"(1 Corinthians 7:4-5). God grants the marriage partner full access to his spouses body for sexual gratification. And remember, indifference is unwillingness.
Ladies, ARE YOU INDIFFERENT ? Lets fall on our faces before God and repent...we dont need this added to our other sins......Love your husbands....

More later...
Love to all who read....
Terri

More on the "Love" tract...

Lets see, where did we leave off?....
   If you feel the need of love---if there is an emptiness in your heart----you can find true love. You can find this be giving yourself to God. God loves you with a tender, caring, compassion that knows no bounds. He cares for you and wants to share and help you through all the heartaches of life. If you feel alone and think that no one really cares,you can rest assured that the One who gave his Son for you does feel all your heartache and grief, in your loneliest hours and your most dismal days, He will be there to give you comfort, strength, and direction if you turn toHim.
   If you do not know how to reach God, just pour your heart to Him and He will hear. If you feel you can hardly trust anyone, not even God, tell Him so. Then ask Him to show you the way.
If you feel you are a sinner without hope of ever finding forgiveness and love, come to God with all your heart, repenting of and leaving your past sins. He will be your loving Father if you come to Him with all your heart, and are willing to obey in all that He asks of you.
   When God forgives and accepts you, you will feel His love and gain a relationship with HIm that nothing can take away. This relationship will only be broken if YOU turn away from HIm, it is impossible for Him to leave us IF, we are following Him.

OK, My computer is acting up, more later...

Love to all who read....Terri


Here is the link for this tract....
http://churchofgodinchristmennonite.net/node/12

Chapter 2...To love their husbands....Titus 2:4

"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands..."
This is a big commission to all of us who are married.
Loving him means putting His needs before your own. We were and are created to be help meets. Everyday and every night we need to be ready to minister to His needs.
Lets ponder this verse for the next few days, and I will   
be back to share more on this verse......
Titus 2:4
"That they might teach the young women to LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS."

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Accepting what God hands our way...

Ladies...Has anyone  ever wondered why God allows/brings certain things in our lives...
I am wondering about your wonderments...What has God brought to you that you deem "This cannot be from God"...A certain friend, that "reproves" you, a spouse that doesn't agree with you, a song that shows you your weaknesses, a spouse "to be" that perhaps doesn't have "enough" for you to marry him....a piece of clothing that just doesn't "sit" well in you spirit,...the list could go on and on...
Think about it, why do we say it isn't from God,,,because it does not fit in with what we want, or think or feel..
Lets be REAL careful about "throwing the baby out with the bathwater"(so to speak), when we discount something God brings our way.....

Just my thoughts...
Love to all who read this blog....
~~~*TERRI*~~~

The meaning of quiet...

Quiet...Are we?
mild, free from turbulance, immovable(in the things of the truth of God), steadfast, settled, not easily provoked.
Ask ourselves this wuestion, Am I?

Reflections on the Chapter.....

Reflection on Sober...

Traits of a Good Help meet..

~~~A good help meet establishes a haven of rest.

~~She will adjust to her husbands time schedule and eating habits.

~~She will realx and enjoy her family, instead of worrying and fretting.

Words God uses to describe a godless woman...

Locate the verses in a concordance, and write them down. Ask God to cause you to HATE any sign of these things in your life. Believe and know that God will set you free.

*Foolish                                        *Brawling                                  *Withut Discretion

*Clamorous                                   *Contentious                             *Wanders from house tohouse

*Simple                                         *Angry                                        *Stubborn

*Knoweth nothing                        *Tattler                                     *Loud

*Like a swine(fat pig)                   *Busybodies                               

  with a gold nose jewel

Getting serious with God....

Think of an occasion in the recent past when you became angry or were hurt because your DH responded in a way that you felt was wrong.  Keep in mind that the other side of the coin of being angry is being hurt. It is one and the same coin,  and it buys the same results: a bad marriage and a strained relationship. How different do you think the end of the struggle might have been if you had kept in your mind that your job was to please your man? Write your own story. First, write the one that ended in a big fight, and next, write the story as it should have ended. Remember, he doesn't have to be right or kind for you to react in a godly way. this excercise will help you see the rationale for honoring your husband in a different light.

"Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"(PHIL> 2:5).

Personal shrines....
Many women lack biblical soberness, as seen in the way they treat their houses as shrines to be protected, rather than as spaces inwhich to enjoy their families. They get emotionally upset if the carpet gets messed up or if the children accidentally spill milk on the couch. They become emotional wrecks over their physical surroundings. If you have that problem, let me ask why, how you would feel if your husband provided nothing more than an open barn in which to deliver your first baby? That was the case with Mary, the mother of Jesus. Do you think God could have used Mary to be the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her enviroment was not clean and orderly? Think of the teenage girl, Mary, clinging to the back of a bouncing donkey, contractions pulling at her exhausted body, while her desperate husband searched for a place for her to have her child.
   Many have speculated as to what virtues Mary had that prompted God to choose her to be the mother of our Lord. I can tell you what she was like. She had eternity in her heart. She was self possessed, thoughtful, and was always learning to make wise judgements. When a young woman learns to be sober, she will not live for immediate gratifiction. She will appreciate those things that will last for eternity.

More next week....

Love to all who read...
~~~*Terri*~~~

Jesus the faithful one.....

The confidence we have...
the trust we hold...
the hope we carry...
rest in His faithfulness...

Every promise He has made
He purposes to fulfill.

He has the authority to
accomplish all He has spoken.

His power is limitless...
His character changeless...
His love endless!!!

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Fragrance????

Forgiveness is like the violet
Sending forth its pure fragrance
On the heel of the boot
Of the one who crushed it....

Forgiveness....understanding others....

Have you ever wondered why others do what they do..
I have... to...Jesus did also...He said over and over to forgive......
To love our enemies, to pray for those who despitefully use you(Mt.5:44 & Luke 6:48)....Can you, Will you?
These are choices we all make on daily basis'....
What will one say, when we stand at the judgement?(which we all will do someday)...."I didnt want to"...
May we welcome "Forgiveness" and accepting others, (not their sin), but, them....

Love to all who read, and may we apply this.....
~~~***Terri***~~~

How to be a good wife today....

Hello Ladies....
Today is ..."How to be a good wife today."
(This is taken word for word from a 1950's public high School home economics
textbook)...
***Have Supper ready...Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal is part of the warm welcome ahead.

***Prepare yourself...Take 15 minutes(or less for busy mothers)to rest so that you'llbe refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your self, look as pretty as you can and be fresh looking.
He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little happy and a little more interesting than His boring work fellows.

***Clear away the clutter....Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives,gathering up schoolbooks, toys.. and papers. then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too!

***Prepare the children...Take a few minutes to wash the childrens hands and faces(if they are small). Comb their hair, and if neccessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

***Minimize all noise...At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile.


Now, PLEASE, remember this is from a 1950's handbook for home economics...and cannot possibly be kept up by everyone all of the time, but...it is a good place to begin....


Love to all who read....
***Terri***

On HOLD!!!!

My computer is totaled, the keyboard that is....when I type, it might dissappear or not type at all, Or type in another word......it has taken 5 minutes just to type this.....Ill try to type every Monday, but, not guaranteeing anything... I will try....
Thanks for your reading my blog....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Annie Johnson Flint,(please click on the link).
http://http://blessedquietness.com/journal/homemake/ajf-itisjesus.htm

Enjoy!
~~~*Terri*~~~

Cont'd from the previous post.....

It is not the fact of a grouchy husband nor is it the fact of a bad day...It just may be the fact of simple planning that can make or break your day.....

Let me share a few tips....

Mondays...the same thing every week, maybe, peas, potatoes, and minute steaks..
Tuesday...Meatloaf with sweet potatoes..
Wednesdays....roast with mashed potatoes and green beans...
Thursdays....spaghetti with salad...
Fridays...Fish, chips, and salad...
This is just a suggestion, be creative, use your imagination....this may just be the key to getting you started for planning....
The regular dinners each week, made it easier for Mom to plan and buy the weeks groceries. My dad would look forward to the meal he knew would be hot and waiting for him when he came home from work.

A grocery list with the weeks meals well-defned is a very handy tool.

As wives, our lifes work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands.

Sometimes, maintaining a good relationship with yor husband simply requires the performing of simple tasks, like havuing a meal ready on time and a clean house, even when it is not easy or convenient to do so.

TRAITS OF A GOOD HELPMEET

*A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
*She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
*She plans and prepares well ahead of tome.
*She exercises self discipline.

~~~*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your lifes work and have missed Gods perfect plan.*~~~

Strawberries and Sweet Love

I have sweet memories of time spent picking strawberries. the thing I remember most vividly ismy wrinkled old grandpa down on his knees beside me picking strawberries and talking up one row and down the other about my Grandmother and how much he loved her. Apparently, he didnt see her bulging country dress, the thin white hair, and her wrinkled old face. The thought of him loving her and of her being a beautiful woman was a novel ides in my childish thinking, but, I found it delightful. I remember giggling so much, I found it hard to pick! His declaration of love to her, was very comforting. My Grandma honored and obeyed my Grandfather. It was their foundation of love and home that made the family(even the extended family) strong. As you read the next story, you will see why we were made strong by our examples....we were conditioned to please our husbands. They taught us how to resist taking offense, and that we were never to "give him a piece of our mind." If Grandma did get offended, noone would ever know it, because it was well understood, that a lady had duties and she must be sober in her execution of them? Maybe that is another title for another chapter, a lady?, What is one, and how do I get there?

"A wise woman doesn't ever allow herself to be a liability, but strives to always be an asset to the marriage. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because of his wife."

Cont'd next week with the next story....

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Just a meal idea....

*Sunday night put dried pinto beans and water into the crock-pot to soak. Monday morning, turn the pot on low. Monday evening, grill minute steaks and bake sweet potatoes to eat with the beans.
*Add water to leftover beans, and let cook on low all night to be used with taco salad as refried beans. An hour before dinner, cut lettuce, onion, bell pepper and 2 tomatoes in preparation for a taco salad. Brown 2 pounds of Hamb. putting half of the cooked meat in a plastic bag in the referigerator for spaghetti on Weds. Season the other half of the meat with taco seasoning and keep warm. Set your table, and other "fixins" for your tacos.
*Wednesday at noon, put your reserved, precooked hamb., with onion, peppers, celery in the crock-pot with crushed tomatoes and a can of tomato paste with spaghetti seasonings. An hour before supper, make a salad and heat water ready to drop in noodles 10 minutes before supper. Wednesday night, rinse out yout crock pot and put dried black beans into it to soak.
* Thursday morning, turn your crock pot on low with the black beans in it. Two hours before
supper, add smoked sausages to the black beans. Cook enough rice for 2 meals and serve the black beans over rice with sour cream, chopped onion, grated cheese and tomatoes. Add water to the leftover black beans in the crock pot, and a small handful of rice to simmer overnight for you and the childrens lunch on Friday, put the leftover rice in the refer. for you and the childrens lunch on Friday.
*Friday, use leftover black beans and rice for childrens lunch.
Chop onion, and meat and saute'. Mix with rice, then add scrambled eggs and soy sauce to rice. Season with salt and pepper. Make a fresh salad.
*Saturday, have a cookout with hamburgers, open cans of baked beans and cookies for dessert.
*Sunday, have you whole chicken ready for the crockpot. Early Sunday morning, put your chicken, a stalk of celery, one can of Cr. of chicken soup in the crockpot and season. Just before you leave for church, cut 10 flour tortillias in 2 inch wide strips and drop into the pot with the chicken. Enjoy when you return home.

There is your week of recipes. Simple enough?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The Plan....

In my experience of a simple/crazy life,,
raising half a dozen exuberant children(literally)....
farming USA dirt, stringing.. sheets out on the line......

I am praying to slow down and see the sacred in the chaos....
the flame in the bush...
the Cross in the clothespin..
and the flame in the bush.

Just a bit of listening, laundry,
liturgy and......
LIFE!

Love sent to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The Assignment....

Hello Ladies,
Seems like forever that I have been on here, but, I do so hope this time, my computer is fixed. The whole hard drive had to be wiped clean and a new one downloaded..OH! the wonders of this age...
But, lets move on with our study, still trying to get through,"Created to be His helpmeet"...might take a year or more, but, I do feel it is beneficial to all of us.

The Assignment
Learn to use the kitchens "wonder tool"--the crock pot. This morning I put several frozen chicken breasts and some rice into the electric crock-pot. I added some water, cerery, bell peppers, and seasonings, and turned it on low. When we came into the house at noon, the house was filled with a delicious aroma, and dinner was ready except for a simple salad. After we had eaten, I added some more water and seasoning, which now had only a few bits of chicken and rice with the broth. This simple soup simmered all afternoon, and was the basis for our meal that evening.

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify!!!
Always offer your children only one choice for breakfast...Several options will only confuse the child and make your work more! Choices also give room for argument and discontentment, (children do not have the capacity to think like we adults, therefore, giving them confusion.) Providing the same simple food every morning(exxcept maybe Sunday) causes a child to look forward to getting cereal on that one special morning. It can really help your children to be more Thankful and will bring about a more peaceful morning. A simple, yet filling, meal for the childrens daily breakfast is peanut butter toast served on a paper napkin. Clean up is easy.
If Dad is not home for lunch, then the plan is to have the same basic wholesome food for lunch each day. A crockpot of beans for simple beans and a simple vegetable added for a variety can also be served on a paper napkin.

Next, we will try and have menu for a week, use your creativity, for meals, BUT PLEASE make them simple.
I sometimes wonder if it is WE ourselves that make our "Mothering" job more...complicated....?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

To Be Sober.....Titus 2:4.."That they may teach the young women to be sober...."

To Be Sober.....
Titus 2:4...."That they may teach the young women to be sober..."
To be sober: To do ones duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
"And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure"(Isa. 33:6).


Common sense
A Sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is owner.
Her most basic responsibility is to make her husbands home run smoothly. She assumes the role of coordinator of all affairs. If the home doesn't run in an orderly manner, the marriage will not be joyous and fulfilling, and neither will child training.
When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet. This planning will eliminate tension and help set a peaceful mood. It is the simple things in life that can break down a marriage and bring about a bitter divorce. But on the positive side, it is the simple planning of lifes activities that can bring health, prosperity, peace, and happiness to a sound marriage and produce gratifying family relationships. Men(and children) appreciate good meals, a clean house, and an atmosphere of peace---a refuge from the stress of life.
Has your DH ever come home from work, and you had just had the WORST day in history with your children, they are sick, you just had a baby or you are sick and so is the newest addition to your little family....and all he does is ask..."Why supper is not ready?"..."Why is the house such a mess?"..and so..on....and on, and on......
Ladies, Even though all of this has happened, you are still responsible for what goes through your head, and what comes out of your moth, and also, what comes out of your attitude....
Noone can dispute, that your DH has just been insensitive, but, 2 wrongs don't make a good marriage. One "right" can make a BIG difference, in a marriage and change that selfish old guy. Always keep in mind that your job is to do a good job serving him, so planning ahead is a must... If you do a better job at your job,(serving him), then your DH wont be so insensitive.... Your DH expects you to plan ahead. He plans ahead at his place of work, otherwise he would lose his job. If you plan ahead, conflicts like this can be avoided, and your DH will be proud to know he has a better wife than the other guys at work. If you pamper your DH, in time he will become more sensitive to your burden, but you must be a soldier and show yourself strong.
My babies were sick to, plus I worked full time, and to keep everything running smoothly, was sometimes more than I could handle. As mothers, we will often be stressed over a sick child, but that is no reason to neglect our other duties. A sober wife, makes herself the match of every circumstance.

Continued next week....


Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

OK, Ladies, I must confess...
My computer is back, but, NOT what it was...I cannot figure out how to get the "Annie Johnson Flint" Poems on here now......I cannot do it like I use to...Can anyone help?
Email me, if you know how...please......
glad2bcovered@gmail.com

Thanks.......
~~~*Terri*~~~