Cont'd from the previous post.....

It is not the fact of a grouchy husband nor is it the fact of a bad day...It just may be the fact of simple planning that can make or break your day.....

Let me share a few tips....

Mondays...the same thing every week, maybe, peas, potatoes, and minute steaks..
Tuesday...Meatloaf with sweet potatoes..
Wednesdays....roast with mashed potatoes and green beans...
Thursdays....spaghetti with salad...
Fridays...Fish, chips, and salad...
This is just a suggestion, be creative, use your imagination....this may just be the key to getting you started for planning....
The regular dinners each week, made it easier for Mom to plan and buy the weeks groceries. My dad would look forward to the meal he knew would be hot and waiting for him when he came home from work.

A grocery list with the weeks meals well-defned is a very handy tool.

As wives, our lifes work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands.

Sometimes, maintaining a good relationship with yor husband simply requires the performing of simple tasks, like havuing a meal ready on time and a clean house, even when it is not easy or convenient to do so.

TRAITS OF A GOOD HELPMEET

*A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
*She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
*She plans and prepares well ahead of tome.
*She exercises self discipline.

~~~*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your lifes work and have missed Gods perfect plan.*~~~

Strawberries and Sweet Love

I have sweet memories of time spent picking strawberries. the thing I remember most vividly ismy wrinkled old grandpa down on his knees beside me picking strawberries and talking up one row and down the other about my Grandmother and how much he loved her. Apparently, he didnt see her bulging country dress, the thin white hair, and her wrinkled old face. The thought of him loving her and of her being a beautiful woman was a novel ides in my childish thinking, but, I found it delightful. I remember giggling so much, I found it hard to pick! His declaration of love to her, was very comforting. My Grandma honored and obeyed my Grandfather. It was their foundation of love and home that made the family(even the extended family) strong. As you read the next story, you will see why we were made strong by our examples....we were conditioned to please our husbands. They taught us how to resist taking offense, and that we were never to "give him a piece of our mind." If Grandma did get offended, noone would ever know it, because it was well understood, that a lady had duties and she must be sober in her execution of them? Maybe that is another title for another chapter, a lady?, What is one, and how do I get there?

"A wise woman doesn't ever allow herself to be a liability, but strives to always be an asset to the marriage. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because of his wife."

Cont'd next week with the next story....

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Just a meal idea....

*Sunday night put dried pinto beans and water into the crock-pot to soak. Monday morning, turn the pot on low. Monday evening, grill minute steaks and bake sweet potatoes to eat with the beans.
*Add water to leftover beans, and let cook on low all night to be used with taco salad as refried beans. An hour before dinner, cut lettuce, onion, bell pepper and 2 tomatoes in preparation for a taco salad. Brown 2 pounds of Hamb. putting half of the cooked meat in a plastic bag in the referigerator for spaghetti on Weds. Season the other half of the meat with taco seasoning and keep warm. Set your table, and other "fixins" for your tacos.
*Wednesday at noon, put your reserved, precooked hamb., with onion, peppers, celery in the crock-pot with crushed tomatoes and a can of tomato paste with spaghetti seasonings. An hour before supper, make a salad and heat water ready to drop in noodles 10 minutes before supper. Wednesday night, rinse out yout crock pot and put dried black beans into it to soak.
* Thursday morning, turn your crock pot on low with the black beans in it. Two hours before
supper, add smoked sausages to the black beans. Cook enough rice for 2 meals and serve the black beans over rice with sour cream, chopped onion, grated cheese and tomatoes. Add water to the leftover black beans in the crock pot, and a small handful of rice to simmer overnight for you and the childrens lunch on Friday, put the leftover rice in the refer. for you and the childrens lunch on Friday.
*Friday, use leftover black beans and rice for childrens lunch.
Chop onion, and meat and saute'. Mix with rice, then add scrambled eggs and soy sauce to rice. Season with salt and pepper. Make a fresh salad.
*Saturday, have a cookout with hamburgers, open cans of baked beans and cookies for dessert.
*Sunday, have you whole chicken ready for the crockpot. Early Sunday morning, put your chicken, a stalk of celery, one can of Cr. of chicken soup in the crockpot and season. Just before you leave for church, cut 10 flour tortillias in 2 inch wide strips and drop into the pot with the chicken. Enjoy when you return home.

There is your week of recipes. Simple enough?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The Plan....

In my experience of a simple/crazy life,,
raising half a dozen exuberant children(literally)....
farming USA dirt, stringing.. sheets out on the line......

I am praying to slow down and see the sacred in the chaos....
the flame in the bush...
the Cross in the clothespin..
and the flame in the bush.

Just a bit of listening, laundry,
liturgy and......
LIFE!

Love sent to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

The Assignment....

Hello Ladies,
Seems like forever that I have been on here, but, I do so hope this time, my computer is fixed. The whole hard drive had to be wiped clean and a new one downloaded..OH! the wonders of this age...
But, lets move on with our study, still trying to get through,"Created to be His helpmeet"...might take a year or more, but, I do feel it is beneficial to all of us.

The Assignment
Learn to use the kitchens "wonder tool"--the crock pot. This morning I put several frozen chicken breasts and some rice into the electric crock-pot. I added some water, cerery, bell peppers, and seasonings, and turned it on low. When we came into the house at noon, the house was filled with a delicious aroma, and dinner was ready except for a simple salad. After we had eaten, I added some more water and seasoning, which now had only a few bits of chicken and rice with the broth. This simple soup simmered all afternoon, and was the basis for our meal that evening.

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify!!!
Always offer your children only one choice for breakfast...Several options will only confuse the child and make your work more! Choices also give room for argument and discontentment, (children do not have the capacity to think like we adults, therefore, giving them confusion.) Providing the same simple food every morning(exxcept maybe Sunday) causes a child to look forward to getting cereal on that one special morning. It can really help your children to be more Thankful and will bring about a more peaceful morning. A simple, yet filling, meal for the childrens daily breakfast is peanut butter toast served on a paper napkin. Clean up is easy.
If Dad is not home for lunch, then the plan is to have the same basic wholesome food for lunch each day. A crockpot of beans for simple beans and a simple vegetable added for a variety can also be served on a paper napkin.

Next, we will try and have menu for a week, use your creativity, for meals, BUT PLEASE make them simple.
I sometimes wonder if it is WE ourselves that make our "Mothering" job more...complicated....?

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Computer down again.... sorry for not posting again...my computer went kaput this time, had to have all new everything installed,....hopefully next we

sorry for not posting lately....My conputer is down again...Hopefully next week, I will get it back...PLEASE read my past posts....

To Be Sober.....Titus 2:4.."That they may teach the young women to be sober...."

To Be Sober.....
Titus 2:4...."That they may teach the young women to be sober..."
To be sober: To do ones duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
"And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation: the fear of the Lord is his treasure"(Isa. 33:6).


Common sense
A Sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is owner.
Her most basic responsibility is to make her husbands home run smoothly. She assumes the role of coordinator of all affairs. If the home doesn't run in an orderly manner, the marriage will not be joyous and fulfilling, and neither will child training.
When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet. This planning will eliminate tension and help set a peaceful mood. It is the simple things in life that can break down a marriage and bring about a bitter divorce. But on the positive side, it is the simple planning of lifes activities that can bring health, prosperity, peace, and happiness to a sound marriage and produce gratifying family relationships. Men(and children) appreciate good meals, a clean house, and an atmosphere of peace---a refuge from the stress of life.
Has your DH ever come home from work, and you had just had the WORST day in history with your children, they are sick, you just had a baby or you are sick and so is the newest addition to your little family....and all he does is ask..."Why supper is not ready?"..."Why is the house such a mess?"..and so..on....and on, and on......
Ladies, Even though all of this has happened, you are still responsible for what goes through your head, and what comes out of your moth, and also, what comes out of your attitude....
Noone can dispute, that your DH has just been insensitive, but, 2 wrongs don't make a good marriage. One "right" can make a BIG difference, in a marriage and change that selfish old guy. Always keep in mind that your job is to do a good job serving him, so planning ahead is a must... If you do a better job at your job,(serving him), then your DH wont be so insensitive.... Your DH expects you to plan ahead. He plans ahead at his place of work, otherwise he would lose his job. If you plan ahead, conflicts like this can be avoided, and your DH will be proud to know he has a better wife than the other guys at work. If you pamper your DH, in time he will become more sensitive to your burden, but you must be a soldier and show yourself strong.
My babies were sick to, plus I worked full time, and to keep everything running smoothly, was sometimes more than I could handle. As mothers, we will often be stressed over a sick child, but that is no reason to neglect our other duties. A sober wife, makes herself the match of every circumstance.

Continued next week....


Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

OK, Ladies, I must confess...
My computer is back, but, NOT what it was...I cannot figure out how to get the "Annie Johnson Flint" Poems on here now......I cannot do it like I use to...Can anyone help?
Email me, if you know how...please......
glad2bcovered@gmail.com

Thanks.......
~~~*Terri*~~~

Eight practical game rules......

Todays is called...."Eight Practical Game Rules"....
Have you ever studied the word "blasphame"?
When I was small, it struck terror in my heart. We were new christians and somewhere along the way, the preachers were able to stuff into my little brain the verse on blaspheming the Holy Ghost., "But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation"(Mark 3:29).
Today, now at a much riper age, the word "blaspheme" still causes me to shudder---as it should. To some degree, blasphemy is to put oneself above God, either by what you say or what you do. When the Pharisees heard Jesus speak, and because they wanted a reason to kill him, they accursed him of blaspheming,"making himself equal with God"(John 5:18).
This is a womans study about wives and mothers, so you must be wondering what blasphemy has to do with the subject. A lot! I tried to recall the list of 8 things that aged women were told to teach the younger women.
"That the aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be [1]sober, [2]to love their husbands, [3]to love their children, [4]to be discreet, [5]chaste, [6]keepers at home, [7]good, [8]obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed(Titus 2:3-5).
The word blasphemed jumped out at me,"...that the word of God be not blasphemed." Aged women (that's me) are commanded to teach the young women so they will not blaspheme the word of God!!! As young mothers in danger of blasphemy? The passage says they are.....blasphemeing the Word Of God. Even though it is not the unpardonable sin, it sure is a scary thing for Paul to say that about young wives.
The word blaspheme in this passage had always seemed to be an overstatement---an emphatic exxageration. How can a woman be causing the Word of God to be blasphemed is she is not discreet? Does a women really cause the Word of God to be blasphemed if she doesn't obey her husband? What if he is wrong? What if she dresses a little sexy and is not as chaste as she should be? Should that be judged as blaspheming? What does it mean to be keepers at home? Why are these eight things so critical to young wives that refusal to do them would be termed blasphemy?
God is faithful, as I pondered these thoughts, He gave me a glimpse of how to answer these questions, His answer broke my heart. I could never have dreamed the horror that would teach me just why the word blaspheme is the right word. But first, we will examine the 8 characteristics, one by one, that God commands aged women to teach young women.

Until next week,..........

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Computer down......

Ladies, I am sorry for not writing lately, my computer has been down and this one is wayyyyyy too hard for me to use.......I wont be writing again until I get mine back...Please do read the previous posts.
In this day and age, things are getting worse and worse, Please Pray for our leaders and our country, your unsaved loved ones and friends, that they may KNOW the Saviour and who He is before its forever and ever too late.......

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

Hello Ladies....This weeks Poem....

Apple Blossoms, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry
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Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Part 2, "Titus 2".....

Here is the second part to these lessons...

"Titus 2"........

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their childen, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"(Titus 2:3-5).
Over the last several years I have asked hundreds of women, "Can you tell me the eight things God requires of a woman, which if she does not obey she will be guilty of blashpheming God's word?" Most women respond with a blank look, not having a clue as to the answer.
God told the older women to teach only one message. It is found in Titus 2. The next section in these studies cover those eight important things.
Stay tuned for the things that this part entails.......

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

God's Thougts and Mine, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

This is from Annie Johnson Flint for the week....
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God's Thougts and Mine, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Time to Consider what we have learned/read?

Time to Consider....
Make a list of things you should do that will cause your husband to feel your honor, respect, and reverence. These might be simple things, like meeting him at the door when he comes home from work or reaching out to touch him in the car as you drive down the road. Practice what you have learned, and make a committment to do these things, come sunshine or storm....

What have we learned?
God created us to be help meets. We will find Gods perfect plan for women in their marriage as we seek to be the help meets he desingned us to be.
~~~A help meet is someone who helps another.
~~~Joy comes from the abundance of a thankful heart.
~~~Control and dominance are masculine traits. A womans calling is to be submissive and yielding to her husband; to do otherwise is against Gods plan.
~~~In order for us to know Gods blessings, we murt recognize, appreciate, and honor the chain of command that God has set in place.
~~~Ous obedience in the role of "help meet" is not dependent on our husbands obedience to God.
~~~God has called us to reverence our husband. A woman who does not submit to and honor her husband in this reverencing him, is out of place, out of order and out of control.

~~~*God defined your role when he said, "the head
of the woman is the man". The man was put in charge before the woman was ever created. God explained his plan clearly when he said, "I will make him a helpmeet for him". God was making it crystal clear that a man is never to be his wifes helpmeet when he said, "For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, foasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man."
God even told us ehy a woman was never to be in authority or to think of herself spiritually more able than a man, "For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being decieved was in the transgression."
When we thoroughly understnad our role as help meets, begin to practice joy and thanksgiving in performing that role, and turn our hearts to reverencing our husbands, only then can we expect to experience a heavenly marriage.


Love to all....

Terri

The purple flower PJs Girl....

The Purple Flower Pjs Girl......

Just last week, while I sat in my car in the Walmart parking lot, waiting for my daughter, I watched the people as they walked into the store. It was an interesting study in human behaviour. Of the 25 or so couples who walked into the store together,only 3 of them were touching each other, and those 3 ladies were the only one ssmiling out of the 25 or so I observed. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the prettiest, these ladies were 1 or 2's. One lady looked several(hard) years older than her tall, young, handsome husband. He had a delighted smile on his face as he watched her every move, possessively leading her by the arm. It was clear that she was enjoying telling him her tale. I could see it was a good story, because he threw his head back and laughed freely just as they walked through the door. He was enjoying his woman.
Another couple passed by quietly, deliberetly brushing up against each other, saying nothing, but the womans smile said everything. the third smiling couple took the award of the day. He was a muscled-up gorgeous man, and she was almost past describing. She was wearing flannel PJ bottoms that were cut off just above the knees. The shortened pants had 5 inch purple flowers scattered over the white, almost see through material. She was short. and a lot overweight, with the most weight bouncing in those "extra tight" PJ shorts. Her hair was chopped off in an very "home" cut style, and really needed to be washed. Her gorgeous man had her in a headlock hug. She was laughing and poking him in the ribs while hollering for him to ler her go. You would have thought he was hugging Miss America by the way he was grinning. He was really enjoying his purple flower sweetie. I caught his eye, and he grinned back at me, not one bit embarressed. That gal had totally won his heart and my respect. He was proud to be her man. Of all those "beautiful"a girls who had walked into Walmart while I waited, it was this girl who was publicly being adored and appreciated. I suspect that she has never removed her husbands hugging arm for any reason, much less to save her hairdo. She has accepted all of his overtures with thanksgiving and delight.
In the coming few weeks, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of our children, etc. These things are important and necessary, but, the buck stops right here at the action of the word reverence.
A man will allow his woman many, many, faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great.
If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankdul to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be very overweight, have hair needs help, not cook or very little, be a little lazy, and be not pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is wonderful.....HE WILL LOVE HER!!! I know, it sounds ridiculous,but that is just how it is.
Women, on the other hand, want their husbands to perform. They expect them to be spiritual, hardworking, diligent, sensitive, and an attentive parent, or they will take personal offense and begin a campaign to change him onto "their" image. I find it amazing that a woman would marry an MAN(as he is) and then become angry because he continues to act like one.

What does it mean to reverence?

The very act of reverence is extreme appreciation profound thankfulness that this man, JUST AS HE IS, has chosen to love me, JUST AS I AM.

How many traits should a young maid carry that is looking to be married?.....really only one, a grateful heart......let me explain....
That girl must be joyful and thankful for the love that that man has for her who marrys her. The more that young lady believes she is fortunate that her man chose her over others, the better the fondation for the true marriage of 2 souls. If the young lady feels that the man is lucky to get her, that young lady is looking for her very OWN helpmeet and she thinks you are the one to fill the job...She will spend the rest of her life trying to change that young man.

To reverence your husband is to be thankful and delighted.

Like the purple flower pjs girl. It means the you must be the opposite of the "dont mess my hair girl", and that you believe in him enough to dream good things aboaut him. You reverence him by teaching your sons and daughters that their daddy is the #1 man, and then by helping making a sign in their hearts and maybe in reality, so everyone can see how you think and feel about him. In summary, it is to believe that YOU are blessed for being loved by this wonderful man.

Next week, some things to study....

OH!! Ladies, I do hope this gives you courage....don't give up....a short note from me.....this thing called reverence is funny, but, it is true, it really works, this happened to my DH and I...I decided to reverence, it took time, for him to trust me, but, it works....
If your man decides to go the other way, PLEASE don't quit becoming what God would have you be...work on YOU!




Love to all who read....
Terri

Compassion, much needed for these tumultous times.........

Compassion....
Who has compassion?
Who has love?
Who has generosity?
Who has a general kindness?

I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight

That to somebodys need made me blind;

But I never have yet felt a tinge of regret

For being a little too kind.

Author unknown

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Today this is the Poem...I hope you can let it touch your heart of hearts....
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The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

For What We Are Watching

Todays Poem from Annie Johnson flint, I pray it touches your heart.

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For What We Are Watching

Love ~~~*Terri*~~~....

Thank-you!!!!

I just wanted to say a GREAT BIG THANK-YOU!!!, for all those of you who read this blog, I pray that these words will touch your heart of hearts and begin to change you in a way that DH can see without you even saying a word...
Terri

Not Fair.......

Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.

This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....

Love to all who read....
Terri