The purple flower PJs Girl....

The Purple Flower Pjs Girl......

Just last week, while I sat in my car in the Walmart parking lot, waiting for my daughter, I watched the people as they walked into the store. It was an interesting study in human behaviour. Of the 25 or so couples who walked into the store together,only 3 of them were touching each other, and those 3 ladies were the only one ssmiling out of the 25 or so I observed. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the prettiest, these ladies were 1 or 2's. One lady looked several(hard) years older than her tall, young, handsome husband. He had a delighted smile on his face as he watched her every move, possessively leading her by the arm. It was clear that she was enjoying telling him her tale. I could see it was a good story, because he threw his head back and laughed freely just as they walked through the door. He was enjoying his woman.
Another couple passed by quietly, deliberetly brushing up against each other, saying nothing, but the womans smile said everything. the third smiling couple took the award of the day. He was a muscled-up gorgeous man, and she was almost past describing. She was wearing flannel PJ bottoms that were cut off just above the knees. The shortened pants had 5 inch purple flowers scattered over the white, almost see through material. She was short. and a lot overweight, with the most weight bouncing in those "extra tight" PJ shorts. Her hair was chopped off in an very "home" cut style, and really needed to be washed. Her gorgeous man had her in a headlock hug. She was laughing and poking him in the ribs while hollering for him to ler her go. You would have thought he was hugging Miss America by the way he was grinning. He was really enjoying his purple flower sweetie. I caught his eye, and he grinned back at me, not one bit embarressed. That gal had totally won his heart and my respect. He was proud to be her man. Of all those "beautiful"a girls who had walked into Walmart while I waited, it was this girl who was publicly being adored and appreciated. I suspect that she has never removed her husbands hugging arm for any reason, much less to save her hairdo. She has accepted all of his overtures with thanksgiving and delight.
In the coming few weeks, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of our children, etc. These things are important and necessary, but, the buck stops right here at the action of the word reverence.
A man will allow his woman many, many, faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great.
If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankdul to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be very overweight, have hair needs help, not cook or very little, be a little lazy, and be not pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is wonderful.....HE WILL LOVE HER!!! I know, it sounds ridiculous,but that is just how it is.
Women, on the other hand, want their husbands to perform. They expect them to be spiritual, hardworking, diligent, sensitive, and an attentive parent, or they will take personal offense and begin a campaign to change him onto "their" image. I find it amazing that a woman would marry an MAN(as he is) and then become angry because he continues to act like one.

What does it mean to reverence?

The very act of reverence is extreme appreciation profound thankfulness that this man, JUST AS HE IS, has chosen to love me, JUST AS I AM.

How many traits should a young maid carry that is looking to be married?.....really only one, a grateful heart......let me explain....
That girl must be joyful and thankful for the love that that man has for her who marrys her. The more that young lady believes she is fortunate that her man chose her over others, the better the fondation for the true marriage of 2 souls. If the young lady feels that the man is lucky to get her, that young lady is looking for her very OWN helpmeet and she thinks you are the one to fill the job...She will spend the rest of her life trying to change that young man.

To reverence your husband is to be thankful and delighted.

Like the purple flower pjs girl. It means the you must be the opposite of the "dont mess my hair girl", and that you believe in him enough to dream good things aboaut him. You reverence him by teaching your sons and daughters that their daddy is the #1 man, and then by helping making a sign in their hearts and maybe in reality, so everyone can see how you think and feel about him. In summary, it is to believe that YOU are blessed for being loved by this wonderful man.

Next week, some things to study....

OH!! Ladies, I do hope this gives you courage....don't give up....a short note from me.....this thing called reverence is funny, but, it is true, it really works, this happened to my DH and I...I decided to reverence, it took time, for him to trust me, but, it works....
If your man decides to go the other way, PLEASE don't quit becoming what God would have you be...work on YOU!




Love to all who read....
Terri

Compassion, much needed for these tumultous times.........

Compassion....
Who has compassion?
Who has love?
Who has generosity?
Who has a general kindness?

I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight

That to somebodys need made me blind;

But I never have yet felt a tinge of regret

For being a little too kind.

Author unknown

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Today this is the Poem...I hope you can let it touch your heart of hearts....
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The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

For What We Are Watching

Todays Poem from Annie Johnson flint, I pray it touches your heart.

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For What We Are Watching

Love ~~~*Terri*~~~....

Thank-you!!!!

I just wanted to say a GREAT BIG THANK-YOU!!!, for all those of you who read this blog, I pray that these words will touch your heart of hearts and begin to change you in a way that DH can see without you even saying a word...
Terri

Not Fair.......

Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.

This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Dont mess my hair....

Well, I didnt get this typed as soon as I wanted, but, it is for today.....


Dont mess my hair!
A few years ago, a meeting went on, where men sat in a circle and tried to figure out some answers for some grave matters that they were facing as well as, the course of action to take. Their wives were right beside them or behind them. I looked at one young man, who I will call, Charles. He was there with his attractive wife. In the midst of an intense part of the conversation Charles leaned back and draped his arm around his wifes shoulder. She immediately reacted with obvious irritation, shaking his hand off her shoulder, and leaning forward as if to get away from his embrace. Then she carefully fixed her hair where his arm had disturbed it. His mind was jerked off of the serious problem at hand and was focused on her, now-----as was the attention of almost everyone in the room. To her, brushing him off was nothing, but to all those in the room(including her DH), it was an act of putting him down like a thoughtless inept child. Everyone felt his humiliation. After that, Charles had nothing else to contribute. For the duration of the meeting, he sat downcast, properly chastened, with his hands in his lap. I wanted to get up and visit with her but, did not. It would have shocked her to know that everyone in that room, probably was thinking what I was. She continued to straighten herself, unaware that she was wasting her time trying to look pretty, for she had lost all that was lovely and feminine in that one act of disdain.
Carrying that kind of rejection, on a regular basis, Charles will never really be able to cherish his wife, and he will never have what it takes to become an effective leader or minister. Yes, she is his wife, and he will undoubtly continue to love her. But, his love will always be more of an attempe to win her. Until she repents, he cannot love her with abandoned joy. A mans ego is a fragile thing. How can a man cherish someone who cares so little for his reputation?
Her act was testimony to the state of her heart. She thought more of her hair than her husbands honor. She was rebelling against God in not reverencing her husband. To reverence is an active verb. It is something you so. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence our DHs, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others. Charles was not free; he was troubled and bound inside, and guess who made him feel that way...His wifey, that thought more of her hair, than her DH.
Regardless of how a woman may feel about her husband, she can choose to obey and honor him. A husband is told to love his wife. It involves how he feels toward her. You can will to do what you ought to do much sooner than you can be motivated by your feelings to act. As we said earlier, when you choose the right way, feelings will soon follow.

A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple(minded and heart), and knoweth nothing(even with years of schooling)(Proverbs 9:13).

"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands(by your words and actions)(Proverbs 14:1).

Love to all who read, and may it touch your heart enough to change....
Terri

Prisoners of the Lord, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

This is this weeks Poem...
Prisoners of the Lord, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

Love to all who read....
Terri

Annie Johnson Flint, Much Fruit, poetry, poem, poems

~~~~~This is the poem for this week, Please enjoy!~~~~~
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Annie Johnson Flint, Much Fruit, poetry, poem, poems

Love to you....
Terri

The Meaning of Meek;

Not easily provoked(do others "bug" you?), or irritated, submissive to divine will(even if I dont see it that way?), gentle, yielding(is it only on the outside, or does ones heart truly submit?), forebearing(love through whatever)(not harsch), humble, mild, unassuming(ouch!). Does one ever have evil surmisings?

Much Love to you...

Terri

Kings and Kingdoms, contd'.....

Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language.
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?

Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Spiritual Armour....

~~~~My DH thought I should post this this morning, so here it is....
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.

Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri

Kings and Kingdoms, cont'd.....

Good Morning Ladies, My garden takes more time than one thinks....mowing lawn, having Grandsweeties, and other such, time flies, so here is just a bit for this week,.........

Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.

Love from my Heart,

Terri

Nevertheless, Afterward, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

~~~Hello Ladies, This is todays Poem....
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Nevertheless, Afterward, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry


Love to all who read....
~~~***Terri***~~~

Kings and Kingdoms.....(New Chapter Ladies)....

A wise woman always receives her husbands overtures with delight, no matter how clumsy they may be.
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."

Part 2 of this text next week....


Love to all who read....
Terri

Bear with me.....

to all who read this blog.....Summer is upon me ...I know I posted this earlier, but, thought I should post this again.....Summer is extremely busy for me, with my 11 Grandchildren, 1 acre garden, 1 acre of lawn and other sorts........

My blog might have to take a back seat to all of this..... in the summer...BUT>>>>>> PLEASE>>>>Bear with me..I will post as often as I can......

Love to all who read this blog...
Terri

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~


God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.

"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).

Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)

Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.

Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.

Love to all who read....
Terri

How is your week?

Hello Dear Freiends...
How is your week? Are you still trying to follow Gods plan for your marriage, or have you let the enemy of our souls win? Please don't give up, sometimes we just need to press in, keep on...and hang in there...then, God will move in our hearts or ?......
My marriage is not without it's trials, but, there is no comparison with what it use to be....I do have a glorious marriage, a DH that treats me just like I am his princess, because in my heart and actions he is my Prince Charming.................Yes, he has faults, yes I have faults, but, I CHOOSE to not dwell on them, I CHOOSE to let it roll off my back, like a duck does water(sometimes it takes prayer, on my knees and a lot of forgiveness)....but...it does happen..I am Free to love!
Don't give up....

Love to all who read...,.
Terri

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

This is for this week, May you be blessed with this poem....

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

Love to all who read....
Terri

Washed in the Blood of the Lamb?

The title may give you questions, Is your heart washed in the Blood of the Lamb?
Rev 7:9-14, 1:4-9, and ;Hebrews 10:29
Is THE blood of THE lamb on the doorposts of your heart?
When we are deliberet in our disobedience to what God has called us to do, that is when it becomes wrong for us....In spite of repeated warnings by the Holy Spirit, Do you still disobey?, and make excuses for not obeying?
Satan would like to rob us of courage in our Christian lives and have us look at bad situations, and bring our courage low. If I can believe I am saved(washed in the blood of the lamb[i.e., born again]), my courage will come back. Satans trick is to make us believe lies, and not obey "The Word Of God"....he makes us think, were ok, to just walk the fence, with one foot in the Word and one foot in the World....

Love to all who read,
Terri