Unconditional Surrender

Good Morning Ladies....

I thought for today, I would share my thoughts about this title....What does that mean , you are thinking...Lets find out....

Immediate and unconditional surrender is the only way we can truly serve God. In the battles of life, those who loose are at the mercies of the winners. If the loosers don't give up, immediately and unconditionally to their captives, it just wouldn't work for the loosers.

If we desire to live a Christian life, the only way we can, and the thing Jesus offers is "freedom", but, with unconditional surrender of our hearts and minds and wills.

Luke 14:31..We wonder, "Why is Christianity not clear, why cannot I hear the voice of the Holy Spirit? Could it be a lack of complete surrender in our lives? Am I willing to do whatever the Holy Spirit asks of me? Even when it goes against my own thinking? Rev. 2:26-28

Matthew...Are we holding onto a "part" of ourselves, that perhaps God has ask us to give up and let go of? We don't want anyone else to know, we want to keep it secret....We may think it's a secret, but, Our Heavenly Father, sees it all, and we really are not fooling anyone, are we?

God is very merciful to us, He will not require anything of us, that He would not give us the strength to overcome, or walk through. He's not a harsch God, He does not hold a rod over our heads to clunk us, when we do wrong, He is merciful, and ever bearing with us. He wants us to be "free" of our "secret" sins...... It may be painful to go through, we may have to be humble enough to be wrong.....but, that is the way we are free.....

When we are truly broken, we will want to be what he wants us to be.....We will want to do right, that doesn't mean we wont fail, we will, but, he is

there to "lift our arms that hang down"..and help us along....We can then have the vision to see wht God is requiring of us. Humility ONLY comes when we are truly broken and ready and willing for whatever He has for us....

Matthew 10 says....."...come unto me all ye that are heavey laden...for "I" will give you rest..."

I want to encourage us to give our "all" to Jesus, and allow Him the room to "set us free"...

May we be faithful so, no matter what, even when its tough and looks like a mountain to us, we may fall on our knees and repent.

Love from my heart this morning...

Terri

The Jezebel Profile.........

Dearest friends...today is another part of this writing, please read....

When the name Jezebel is mentioned, most of us see the painted face of a seductively-dressed woman gazing into the eyes of a man who lacks good sense. The Bible portrays Jezebel in a different light. Revelation 2:20 says that Jezebel "calleth herself a prophetess," and men received her as a teacher, showing that she was part of structured Christianity, "ministering" to the saints. Jesus warned the Church against the teaching woman, Jezebel. Any woman who defies scripture's prohibition against women teachers in the Church is following in the grave tradition of Jezebel.
OUCH!!!!!

Lets go on.....

Going to first Kings to see what the Bible has to say about the historical Jezebel....the first thing was that she was more spiritual and religiously devoted than her husband. She used her insights to guide him. He was a weak man, so she took the lead to motivate him. the Bible says in I Cor. 11:3, "But I would have you to know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." Regardless of our circumstances, when we women take the spiritual lead, we step out from under our designated rightful head.

The second thing, was that Ahab was emotionally volatile---unstable. Is your husband prone to retreat? Is he bitter, angry, or depressed? When a woman takes the lead in her marriage, her assuming the masculine role makes a weak man weaker and weaker and weaker to the point of sending him to bed, as did Jezebel.....If your Dh cowars out of all he can...Are you leading again?....or still?

The third and most significant thing I noticed was that she used his emotional stress to endear herself to him---a strange way of lording over her husband. If you read the story, you will see how Jezebel manipulated and accused an innocent man, then had him killed so that Ahab could obtain his vineyard. Ahab, in depression, kept his face to the wall, and let her do her dark deeds. Today, if a woman is willing to play her husbands role in directing the family, her husband will lose his natural drive to bear responsibility. He will turn his face to the wall.

The fourth thing....

Ahab was esily manipulated by his wife to suit her purposes. She stirred his passive spirit, provoking him to react in anger. Jezebel used him to set up images and to kill Gods prophets. Often a man becomes involved in the local church, not because God has called him, but because he is trying to please his wife be at least looking spiritual. When a husband steps into a spiritual role at his wifes beckoning or emotional pressure, he is susceptable to her "guidence" in that role. Jezebel took steps to help promote her spiritual leaders. In th eprocess, she provoked her husband to destroy those in spiritual authority whom she did not like. Have you influenced your DH to think evil of those in authority because you did not like something abaut them?

Jezebel knew that she was not the rightful head, so she invoked her husbands name to give her word authority. Have you ever said, "Oh my husband will not let me do that," when you knew he would not care? It is a way to maintain control and to stop those who would question you. When a woman steps outside her divinely ordained nature and assumes the dominant role, she will soon become emotionally and pyhsically exhausted, and dangerous.........

Ladies.

Is this picture you?

It was me, just 1 year ago. I remember whwn I read this part and ithit me like a ton of bricks....I layed on the floor and cried for hours in repentence....for treating my DH like Jezebel..............my heart broke as God showed me the real me....YUK!!!!!!!!

We need to allow God to show us, who we really are....So we can be set free, this did not happen overnight, it its an ongoing process of repentence and asking him for forgiveness....(humility on my part)

You are thinking..."But he wont lead"......of course not, with you leading, why should he?

There were things that I just had to stop doing, NOT IN REBELLION, but, just because I knew he would wait till I did it, well I didn't....then he began to take his rightful place....but, then I had BAD habits to break......and still have to work on them, to stay where God would have me....

Ladies,,,LETS NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Next, we go over 2 women of godly femininity in the Word...

Until next week......

My Love and Prayers to all who read this...

Terri

For Today.....

I just want to thank each and every one of the ladies who read this blog.....Please know, that all I write is not for every marriage, nor for every woman. However, if it has touched your heart,(even though its hard to obey), please let me know. If there is something that you feel is not Bibilical, also, please let me know....and I will take a look at it with my DH....

I only want to serve and obey the Lord in this matter of Submission to my DH....

Lets pray together for this blog and others like this one, that they may touch those hearts that need to submit to their DHs and truly become the woman of God they are meant to be....

Love to all of my friends, that read this....

Terri

Beautiful, Deceived, Dreamers

Women, in general, give the appearance of being more spiritual then men. They like to dabble in soulish thoughts. There are many ways of expressing spirituality, but, most of them have nothing to do with the spirit of Jesus Christ. We ladies are more inclined to trust our feelings and intuition than are men, which makes us more subject to deception, just like sister Eve. Feelings and intuition are ever-changing. The Word of God is objective and dogmatic -- unchanging. It is to religion wht hard facts are to science.


You rarely hear a man say"God told me to do this or that", or, "God led me to go down there". The few men I have known who talked that way did not demonstrate that they were any more led by the Spirit than other Christian men. I know that when God does speak to my husband and leads him in a supernatural way, he will not speak of it in public. He doesnt' feel the need to promote himself in this manner, and furthermore, he feels that if he has truly heard from heaven, God does not need his publicity. God will vindicate himself. But many Christian women habitually attribute nearly every event to divine guidence. Experience proves that women are prone to claim God as their authority, when God had nothing at all to do with their "leading".

~~~~LADIES....lets be careful not to rush in where angels fear to tread.~~~~

It really is appaling to see this shameful behaviour still in action today, especially when God so graciously gave us an example of Miriam, Moses' sister. Her desire to be on an equal footing with Moses has left her name inininfamy, for our admonition(1Cor.10:6, 10) and "for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope"(Rom.15:4). God seems to be gracious to us dimwits--and that is what we are when we lightly use Gods name to give authority to our intuitive decisions. The bottom line is that women "enjoy" their own self-effusing spirituality. It is feminine trait that few men share or understand. Men CAN, however, become totally absorbed in their own personal ambitions and , in the process, neglect their "spiritual" side altogether. Women often see this "carnality" in men and assume that women, being more "spiritually" minded, are closer to God--a completely false assumption.


Ladies....it is not "carnal" for a man not to be forward about what they believe.


Nearly all spiritualists, past and present are women. Women are the palm readers, crystal ball gazers, fortune-tellers, and tarot card readers. Witches' covens are headed by women. Most mediums(those that contact the dead) are women, as was the witch of Endor whom King Saul consulted conderning long dead Samuel. When Jesus spoke a parable about the kingdom becoming corrupted with false doctrine, he illustrated it with a women bringing the corruption(Matt. 13"33).


In the book of Revelation, it is a women, typically called Jezebel, who deceives her church. We are told that she did it through her teaching.


John wrote to the church of Thyatira and warned then against allowiing that woman Jezebel to teach(Rev. 2:20). The Bible makes a point of revealing the inherent nature of women when it gives a reason why women should not teach men; "And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression"(1Tim. 2:14).


That a man is less sensitive than a woman does not make him inferior to her, nor does her being more subject to deception than him husband make her inferior to him--just different. It is in recognizing that difference that wives should fear God and destrust their natural tendencies. Things different are not the same, and things that are not the same have different capacities and different offices.

Friends, just a note, these little things I type are passed by men, before, I type them, these are just NOT my own thinking....DH approves, BEFORE, I type.

Love to all who read, and may your hearts be open and taught as you read....

Terri.........

Intentions?

I was just thinking about our intentions....

What truly are our intentions?

To be happy, obedient or to do our own thing?

Lets just think about it?

Love to you..

Terri

I'm back!!!!!, and my thoughts for the past 2 weeks....

Oh!!! This week has been somthing......my computer caught a virus, and had to had it fixed, yet again......I don't know if I like having to add another to my plate or not......But, hopefully, I can keep it together enough, to keep posting.......Gardening time, sewing time....... to get ready for summer...........
My thoughts this week have been.....
Is being a Christian too hard or not? It depends on what "too hard" is for one....Too hard is trying to do "it" on our own, and trying to get "it" together on our own...when we do "it" on our own, we wont be able to succeed, we will be frustrated and unhappy...but, When we allow the God of the universe and hopefully our hearts, to do "it" through us, then, we wont be frustrated or unhappy. It somehow seems to do "it" on our own comes sooooo naturally...so easy, but, not what the Scriptures say......How to do "it" and allow God to work through us, well, I cannot say, all I know is, we need to be on our knees more and on our feet less to try "it" on our own....
Allowing God to truly be the God of our lives, is tough, our human nature is to always figure "it" out on our own and work "it" out on our own...?
I AM NOT saying, self control is not in the picture, that is on our own, and that REALLY does need to be from our minds, but, to figure "it" all out with our own minds, well,.....from experience does not work. If we but, just pray and pray and pray some more, then leave it to Him....."IT" will be what He sees best....The things of the Spirit are so hard to explain....
God expects us to use self control with our mouths, actions, finances, all those, but, to work out what His part is.....that puts a question in my mind....
Just my thoughts for this past 2 weeks....
Love to all who read....
Terri

Hello Ladies...
My computer is down, hopefully to be fixed by the end of the week,,,,so, I will not be able to write until then..sorry for the inconvience, this causes.
Pray for me....
Love to all....
Terri

The Nature of Man and Woman.....

Good Morning......did not get to this yesterday, so today.....Time flies way too fast, and things have been hectic here,,,,the enemy of our souls has been terrible busy in our home, Lets remember each other in Prayer.

This week the title is...

"The Nature Of Man And Woman"..

Man was created to subdue; woman to assist....God made them that way. God created man with a nature that is aggresive, and then commanded him to exercise dominion over the earth(Gen. 1:28). He created the male with an extra dose of testosterone, which provokes him to want to work hard, conquer everything in his path, and subdue all things. That is why the male is at the forefront of conquests, exploration, architecture, science, inventions etc. No woman would ever go out and tame a wild horse and make a rope out of its mane and tail, and then go find a bear and lasso it just to prove that she could----laughing the whole time.

If women were the inventors, they would make minivans. Men make 4 wheel drive vehicles and then modify them so they will stand higher and drive faster. They will even put a winch on the front so they can traverse places meant only for alligators and mountain goats. Men fly to the moon, climb treacherous mountains, fight wild beasts, challange each other at any sport, and laugh with hilarious delight the whole time. They like to play or watch games where they knock each other down, just to prove they can. Everything they do must end with a testosterone driven climax. And they think we ladies are hard to understand! A woman can do about everything a man can do, but it is always the men who invent it and then eventually invite the ladies along just to make it more interesting. Testosterone again!!! A few ladies will always step out and play the mens games, trying to prove a gender point. The men don't need a point to prove; they just need to vent. Men are different, we must face it.

Thankfully, men and women were not created alike. Men were created with traits that I do not want as part of me!!! But, when I married, it was of course, to one of these strange male creatures with those wierd traits. When we ladies discover traits in a man like sensitivity, spirituality, and understanding, we are thrilled, because they contrast so starkly with the many coarser and visible traits that so strongly drive his nature. After all, having a nature to subdue all things, he likes best, a woman who will give him a token struggle and then surrender totally to his wit, charm, and strength. He must thoroughly conquer. It is a battle I always enjoy losing, I like to be conquered by my man, that is the way I am created. Think about it ladies, if we are created that way, why, do it any other way? We will fall into this createdness, if we but, allow it.

The Woman Deceived...

When Adam was created and placed in the garden, Lucifer, the fallen cherub, was jealous of Adams position as master of the renewed planet. Lucifer, having become the devil, had previously made himself the enemy of god and his program. He did not want God to be successful at replenishing the earth. From the very beginning, it was in the devils dark heart to lure Adam into disobeying his Creator. Satan would make Adam into the same rebel that he himself had been for such a long time. but satan did not approach Adam. He waited and watched....

When God finished Adam, he gave the job of naming all the animals to him. He commanded the first man not to eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, and he told him to subdue the earth and have dominion over the animal kingdom. His principal job was to dress and keep the garden(Gen. 2:15). So, even before Eve was created, Adam was a full grown man, firmly rooted in his relationship with God and fully engaged in his lifes work.

Adam was alone for a period of time as he attended to his vocation and obeyed the command of his Creatos. In going about the task of ulfilling his duties, he became aware of a need that he could not define, even though he observed it daily in the male and female behaviour of the animals. He was lonely. He had no one with whom to share his conquests. God, in watching Adam, said, "It is not good that the man should be alons; I will make him an help meet for him"(Gen. 2:18). In time, God put Adam to sleep and took a rib from him to make of it a woman to be his helper and to meet his needs.

Satan could have tempted this lonely man at any time, for he had no knowledge of good and evil. But satan waited---waited for the created weaker vessel. "For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam wasnot deceived, but the woman being deceived was inthe transgression"(1Timothy 2:13-14). Satan knew that the man co uld not be deceived, but, the woman could. Hmmmmmmm....it WAS us!!! So, when she drew near to the tree, he convinced her that life would be better if she sought the higher state of being "like the gods"---gaining spiritial insight into the nature of good and evil. Eve was deceived in 3 WAYS:

1. She followed her flesh in desiring the tree for its food properties.

2. She succumbed to its beauty, desiring it for its pleasant appearance She did not follow logic, she follower her "sensibilities."

3. She wanted "deeper" spiritual insights than those provided by God.

the source of Eve's failure was her UNWILLINGNESS to believe God and her husband.

Do you do this? It is misery when we step out of this protection. Oh, God will let us, but, we will reap the consequences, a marriage that is the pits, and maybe not that bad, but, not quite right. Our hearts will take the lead, and our DHs will let us(most anyhows), and we will also take the consequences for that. Ladies lets follow, follow, follow...God can and Will show you the right path to take if you will but listen.

She was meant to be Adams helper, but she helped herself to Spiritual knowledge and acted independently, becoming his downfall instead of his helpmeet.

Why did satan avoid Adam and approach Eve with his offer of greater spirituality? Lucifer is a male being(Isaish 14:12-20). He understands the natural resistence of the male. He knows males say "no" just to prove they are in command. But Lucifer could see this soft, sweet female was vulnerable. God had made her by nature to be responsive, and she trusting and naive. Being willing to rationalize, she could be deceived---having the best of intentions.

In my mind, I picture the man being created heavily armoured. His armour is helpful both Spiritually and physically. God loaded him down with resistances, giving him a nature that is doubtful, skeptical, forceful, and pushy(for the most part). God knew that in order for man to survive, and even prosper, he would need a natural armour that would drive him to keep pushing against the odds, while enjoying the challange. God knew that satan was a liar and the master of deceit, so he crated in man a questioning about things. Mans objectivity and lack of intuitiveness make him appear less spiritual than the sensitive, female. As a general rule, man is ruled more by his mind than the female, who is goverened more by her sensibilities.

Picture God, as deliberately creating the woman without this armour, because he intended for her to stand beside her husbands armour. He was to be her covering, her shield, and her protector. Satan was ble to deceive her when she left Adams side and confronted the Devils logic alone. She didn't have the armour to ward off his fiery darts of deceit.

God designed the woman to be sensitive and vulnerable for the sake of the little ones whom she must nurture. The soul of a mother had to be vulnerable, the outer shell thin. She must be quick to feel, hurt. love, have compassion, to take in the broken, and to believe the best. Vulnerability is a womans greatest natural asset and the point of her greatest weakness. A woman CAN become tough and hard, skeptical, and cautious in relationships just like men. She can become guarded and cynical, but in so doing, she is no longer feminine, no longer attractive to a man, and she might even start to not like herself.Unprotected by the covering of her man, she will grow miserable fighting her own battles and trying to survive on equal footing with men.

I find this very interesting.....If we are created this way, and we fight against it, how can we be happy? We will, put on a good face, be happy on the outside, but, to really be happy outside of what God created us.....How can we?

Look at our world today, the same female sexes together..... In their attempt to shed their vulnerability and their not wanting to be what they were REALLY created for....they begin to exhibit traits totally outside their created feminine nature. They lose their beauty and charm, and become very poor "men".(Scripture says this).

I thnk...we will. continue tomorrow, my fingers are tired........

Think on this..Ladies. Gods word is His word, not mine...lets begin to see our man for what God created Him to be and our role where it needs to be.

See you tomorrow.......

Love Terri......

Reactions Define You!!!!!

This is my 2nd attempt at writing this morning.....my computer just blanked out and I was almost finished with this ...now to start over......

A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been". She does not see herself as "Gods" gift to her man, therefore, she is joyful and content in whatever cinrcumstances she finds herself in....
By the time you married, you already had ceratin convictions. You knew right from wrong. you did what you thought was right, and no one could persuade you differently. But, now you find yourself and your convictions challenged by someone who may not share your established standards and worldview. He may be more liberal than you, more permissive, or he may be stricter and more more legalistic. The presence of children further complicates the situation. You want desperately to do what is right for them, but you have submitted yourself under the authority of another. Life is not going the way you had planned, and you cannot react in the way you wanted to. You find yourself pushed to the limit of your patience, and then you react in unsubmissive and selfish anger.
Reactions are not premeditated actions springing from our best motives, carefully thought our, planned, weighed. They are emotional responses, breaking lose like wild horses when we feel hurt, cheated, used or misunderstood. They are often are retalitory, sometimes condemning, confrontational, or adversarial and eventually vengeful and punishing.
Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level.
We loose our carefully preserved "front" when we are pressed beyond our own thinking. Then,who we really are is made manifest.
You can control your future reactions considerably by changing the way you think you feel, and it will determine how you will react in stressful situations.
Researchers have determined that the average person thinks over 40,000 thoughts per day. The heart is filled with these thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks, be it good or bad. When the pressure is on, and the dam of resevation breaks loose, you cannot control what you say, because you will speak from the abundance of your heart---from the 40,000 thoughts you had that day and all the days before.
"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh"(Luke 6:45) If you, as s wife, are going to change the way you have been speaking, it is not a matter of willpower; it is a matter of thought ower. "For as he thinketh in his heart, so IS he..."(Prov. 23:7). You must bring "into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ"(II Cor. 10:5). "For out of hte heart proceed evil thoughts..."(Matt. 15:19). As Paul says, "Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"(Phil. 2:5).
You will ve "transformed by the renewing of your mind"(Rom. 12:2), not by the strength of your will to hold your tongue. God tells us HOW to think about our role as wife and help meet. If you believe him, you will think diferently.......
If I were in a airport baggage pick up area waiting for my red suitcase, and I saw a young man snatch it and run, I would be very upset UNTIL I learned that my husband sent him to get it for me. When my thinking changed, my emotions changed.
The lady married to the accountant gone Dairy farmer was sitting at home angry because her husband was late. When he finally arrived, he went directly to the barn to take care of his cows. She couldn't hold her tongue. She couldn't help the way she felt, because she had spent the entire day, no, the entire week....month.....last 3 years, thinking how miserable whe was for the circumstances her husband had barought upon her....She felt HER "red suitcase" was stolen. "This was not what we greed upno when we got married"......"He should come in and eat the supper that is already cold from waiting, not go out and milk first..."she had reapeated to herself for the last 3 hours when it was obvious he wa late.....She was storing up in her heart an abundance of selfish thoughts. Her actions and reactions became enslaved to her misguided thoughts.
What could she do to change her thoughts? She coul learn something she does not know, not just from this bookd advice, but, from Gods Holy Word....The Bible....
She was not created to choose her husbands vocation, nor to choose his or her lifestyle. She was created by God to be her husbands helper. In her case, that meant becoming a country girl----dairymans helper. that doesn't mena she has to like cows, but she was created to help the man who does like cows.
Think how differnet it would be if, when he was 3 hours late, she thought about how blessed she is that he comes home every night and brings a paycheck, he IS home every night, she can crawl into a warm bed at the end of a day without being lonely, has a daddy to her children and the future of more cows, milking equipment and possibly a rise in milk prices.....How thrilling her life would be.......An adventure, not stagnate.......Many a woman is sitting alone at 7 in the evening, afraid that her ex will break in her apartment and steal the children..and where will she and her children will move next month, or how will she pay the bills?.......She and many, many others would love to sit in the "dairymans" ladys kitchen, waiting peacefully for her grassroots husband to come in late for supper, only to go out and tend his cows. When he did come through door, his dinner would be warm and the smiles and hugs would be warmer, with a promise of a even warmer bed.
You are what you think, and God tells you how to think. THINK THE TRUTH!!!
This is not the power of positive thiking: this is the power of the truth as God defines it.
You are created to be your husbands helper, not this conscience, not his vocation director, and certainly not his critic.
When you develop and adversarial relationship with your husband, you do so on the premise that you are right and he is wrong...OUCH!!!!.,....You are also assuming that you have the duty to resist, confront, and challenge him. In thinking he is wrong and you are right, you declare yourself wiser than he, more spiritual, more discerning, more sacrificial, etc.
All this adds up to the obvious conclusion that you have assumed the role of his leadership, teacher, and judge. This is sinful and odious, and it displeases God greatly. No woman will ever have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband, and she is committed to becoming a good help meet for him. Is much of your life a reaciton to real or perceived wrongs? Are you truly as wise as you think?
Take this test to see....................

Wisdom Test..........
1. Do you have enough fear of God to not question his Word?
2. Do you sometimes feel God is punishing you by telling you to obey your husband?
3. Would you give God excuses like, "My husband is mean," or, "I am a strong personality, and he is weak"?
4. How would you respond if God gave you directions on how to talk, when not to talk, or how to dress or even wear your hair?
5. Are you comfortable with dismissing the Bibles role for women by saying we live in a different culture?
6. When God says to reverence(meaning, stand in awe of)your husband, do you think that is demanding too much?
7. Will you say, "If God says it, or even suggests it, than that is what I will do"?

If you can say, "Not my will, but thine be done," then you can know that your prayer is based on the fear of God. It is the beginning of wisdom. Ask God to give you the beginning of wisdom by asking him to teach you to fear him.

Time to Consider........
WE have larned that our created nature is to be a help meet to our husband.
We have learned that a help meet is someone who helps herhusband in any and all of his life projects.
We have leatned that the jou ot the Lord is our strength and that a merry heart is a real asset in becoming a godly help meet. A smile keeps our man looking our way. Our desire is to become a jolly "playmate" to our husband and to be an heir with him of the grace of life.
All of us have decided that we do not want o grow old and become crazy old, religious fanatics who think that they are obeying God while disregarding his written Word. We have learned that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, and we shudder to think we might have ended up being like some of the old reprobates we know tho dishonor their husbands.
We have learned that wisdom is a gift that God promises to anyone who asks. Through wisdom, we have discovered that eachof our husbands are made in the image of God, either as xommand men, Visionarys or Mr. Steady or a mis of all three.
We know that it is our job as a help meet to always be looking for ways to better meet ourhusbands needs and desires.
Believe you me, I know this is NOT easy........we had a something this morning...it was exactly what this page is aboaut today, now,,,,I have to ask myself....How will I deal with it...first, I apalogized, then we still got nowhere...then I confessed and tried to change my mindset, still to no avail,,,,so her we are at a standoff......
On my knees, I go...an into prayer for Gods wisdom and not my own......
Now it is time for us all to go back and add to the list the tings you could be doing that will free your husband to be the man god created him to be...
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! this will not be easy, but, with Gods help and Him doing the changes, I too, can be"Created to be His help Meet".

Lets not give up Ladies....
Love to all who read this blog....
Terri

continue on "Finding your life in His..."

Now a continuation on yesterdays postings...............

Has your Dh decided to take a different path in his career than you want?God didn't create Adam and Eve at the same time and then tell them to work out some compromise on how they would each achieve their personal goals in a cooperative manner. He created Adam, gave him an occupation, appointed him as ruler of the planet, endowed him with a spiritual outlook, gave him commands, and specified his occupational duties. Adam commenced his rule of the planet BEFORE God created Eve to help him in his lifes goals. Adam didn't need Eves consent. She was designed to serve, not to be served, to assist, not to veto his decisions. Can you imagine Eve saying; " When God brought me to you in that wonderful garden, and we commenced life together, you never said anythng about thorns and thistles, about pain in childbirth, about milking goats, cows or whatever, about churning butter and I am not a wildernessgirl!"

I wonder how your DHs feel when you are essentially saying these things? Will your unhappy DH loose his joy over the whole matter?, and be robbed of his vision? If he does go back to being what he was before he got this "vision"....will he spend the rest of his life, dreaming? Dreaming of a different kind of lady for a wife?, a bunch of happy children, and the rest of his dream?...just like the Grandpa in yesterdays words.

LIFE IS NOW!!!! Don't make him ruin his life by being forced(by you and your control)into doing "your" thoughts, do it his way, make him happy..Find your life in his!!!!

God made us women to be helpmeets, and it is in our nature to do so....It is the role in which we will succeed in life, and it is where we will find our very greatest fulfillment as a woman. God did say in Genesis; "I will make him an help meet(not head of the home) for him." 1 Corinthians 11;8 & 9 says that also...Genesis 3:16 says..."Unto the woman he said....and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee..."

When we fight Gods will and our DHs dreams, we are frustrated and disappointed.

If our DHs are kind steady men,(like mine) they will eventually become discouraged and give up trying to please us, (I am glad to have sae the right light before this happened!) If our DHs are Command men, they may leave us behind and find the kind of woman that loves what they love. If our DHs are Visionary men, they will yell and make our lives miserable until we run back to mama and end up sleeping in a cold bed and living on food stamps or less.

Life is full of choices. How you choose to respond will help you decide your fate in life. Life is NOW! Learn to really enjoy taking our the trash or milking the cow(ask God to help you and make you willing). You will be amazed at how God will fill you fulll of himself. You will look back(and I do)in your happy old age, and wonder how this happened, how you ever could have been a long faced sad sack, how you ever "did that" to your DH...how anyone else could have stood your atatitudes and control?

Now they may say, "You are just happy....why?" And you know what to say....

You can now laugh..... and knowing that you are in Gods will as a Helpmeet. that is what brings you life and Joy, being in HIS will, what you are created for...God is not looking for happy women to make them into help meets for good men....He is looking for women willing to be true help meets to the men they are married to......HE can fill them with His joy!!!!!!!!

His express image........

We have studied 3 different types of men and how each one relates the the lady in his life. WE have learned that God gives wisdom for you to come to know, accept, and appreciate, the man in your life. He may be all 3 or a mix of 2 or just one. The important thing is for you to understnad that he is what God made him, and that you are to be his suitable helper. Knowing what "expression" God has made him to be will help you become a better helper to the man of your life. God says so clearly and emphatically that "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth ato all men[and women] liverally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him'(James 1:5).

Ask The Lord of your life to help you know and appreciate your DH. Pray that God will give you the wisdom and grace to share your mans dreams so it will always be you that he dreams about....

TIME TO CONSIDER>>>>

Wisdom is knowing what you "bought", when you married that man and learning to adapt to him as he is, while enjoying the full value of your "purchase".....

Make a new habit....

Is it Gods will that yor DH adapt to you, or hat you adapt tohim? What habits in your life should yo adapt to his? Start today....

Getting serious about this whole thing...

The word WISDOM appears 223 times, hmmmmmmmmm, I wonder why?

Look up and read each one and ask that God will do a work in your heart and your "WILL". Add to your memory your favorite verses about Wisdom. Each day resolve that you will pray for your DH....the same time every day...(at a red light, washing dishes...)

This really works, it has turned my marriage upside down...

Love to all....

Terri

Finding your life in his..........

Hello Ladies and others.........tis time to go on with our study about "Created to be His helpmeet"..

Lets go on.

There was once a show called "Dad"...It told of a woman/wife that controlled the man/husbands every move, he could not even pour the milk on his cereal......they got old and the son came home to take care of them in their old days...the old woman spent her entire life taking care of her "Mr. Nice, Steady" husband...

Then she got sick and spent some time in the hospital, when she came home, her "Mr. Nice, Steady" husband was a changed man...during her absence he had began to to places, and doing fun things, the clock had seemed to be turned back 50 years, he was happy now...you seee....he was ready to live out what he had dreamed about for 30 years in his mind while working in the same old factory...

He talked of friends and family that never existed, their 4 children, when there was only 2, He spoke of his much loved, gentle and obedient wife, quite different from the reality he had experienced over many, many years. His wife was terribly shaken, because she knew that never existed, no dairy farm, no 4 children,...she also knew the woman he remembered was not her.

All the years at the factory and "dreaming "of what he really wanted for his family and wife,,took a toll on him, the psychologist explained. He now lived in the very world he had dreamed about for years. As Grandfathers mind aged, the pleasant make believe world he had dreamed about had become reality to him, and the "caged" life that he had really lived faded away....

Because of his wifes controlling hand and his desire to do "his duty" and please her, he had failed to live his dreams. She had weakened him with her control and criticism until he created and imaginary world of hope and fullfilment.

Oh, ladies, as I type this, my heart breaks again for how I treated my DH...Do you treat yours with distain, because he is not the MAN you want him to be...well, then quit treating him like that....treat him with respect, reverence and honor as you want and he will blossom,,,he will make you his queen.....

I cannot go on today, for my heavy heart and the memories that pour back with this part of the study.....

Please stay with me though......next Monday will be more.....

Love to all who read this....

Terri

A heart of rest and usefullness.....

Hello all....

I have a subject on my mind, so here it goes....

We can get so hard in our hearts. As we go through life, thinge come up. We rise up in our own way. Sometimes we lose God in our own ways. We jsut need to break and give it all to God. Its a hard path sometimes, but its such a beautiful path. May God keep us broken. I want to be a broken woman, don't you? Sometimes we break and become useful, then we become proud and we have to be broken again. We do need a daily breaking to stay soft and pliable in the Lords hands.

When our hearts break, our "rights" are gone. A broken and contrite heart brings a rest to our hearts and lives. Jesus said,"Come to me if you are heavy laden and need rest." Gods children need rest. We need rest in our hearts. How do we get it? Jesus said,"Learn from me, for I am meek and lowely of heart." In meekness, that is in brokeness. In meekness and lowliness is where we find rest. We are at peace with God.

When our heart breaks, our life becomes silent. Ther is a lot more silence than there is speaking. I have noticed that. Deeply broken people are generally a quiet people.

Look at the silence of Jesus when He was in the judgement hall. People were after Him, saying all kinds of things about Him. What did He do? He was silent, unless He wanted to identify who He was. There is a distanct difference. When He was accused, He was silent. When He was asked who He was, then He spoke. He was concerned about His identity with God, the Father, but not about His reputation.

We are so protective of our reputation. We are so concerned about what others think about us, but Jesus wasn't. We need to protect God's testimony in our lives, but not our reputations. When men speak evil against me, I want to fight back, go hunt them down, see who said it......When our heart breaks, we leave the fight to God. God can do it. If God wants to hunt that person down, then let Him hunt it down......the TRUTH always stand. When the heart breaks, the fight is over.

Usually when something is broken it becomes useless, but when the heart breaks IT becomes usefull. In the church of Jesus Christ, everything must be brought to death, and then, through resurrection power, be rivived. Jesus' first miracle, that miracle of turning water into wine, didn't happen until the old wine was finished. Then the new wine came, then the miracle.

If you don't see the work of God in your life, if youre not where you want to be, then what you need to do is finish, let your heart break with the things that break the heart of God. Then, in His power, He can put you together again, His way.

God needs to do a deep work of breaking in our hearts. Our visions may collapse right in front of our very eyes. But, have you looked at Joseph? He had a dream, God had showed him that he was going to be a leader. How do you think he felt when his brothers threw him in that old pit? Do you think he thought about his leadership? There he was, down in the pit. His vision collapsed right in front of his eyes. Later he was in prison....how can he ever lead in prison? God brings vision to nothing, so that He can raise up His way in us. Thats the life of brokeness.....

When the heart breaks, hiding our inner poverty is over. Some of us would probably not want everyone to know the inner poverty in our life-how shallow we really are in our Christian walk. Wou you like everyone to know how you rally are? Sometimes we try to hide, but when the heart breaks, we no longer care who sees it....We just want to be different. We WANT TO CHANGE. We WANT to get close to the Lord......

Have you had hurts in your life? I have. Those deep hurts can make us bitter or better....It depends if the "I" is in it or not....God wants to bring those diffeculties in our lives to break us down to nothing, so that He can raise up His power in us. There is tremendous power in being broken......But, ITS SOOOOO PAINFUL!!!!

God wants broken hearts. When a Church is a Church full of broken hearts, you will see a Church that has peace amongst it's people. Your going to have rest in your hearts and souls, Your Church will be peaceful. You will want to reach out to others and not keep it unto yourself. There is something sooooo sweet and beautiful aboaut brokeness.....but,,,,its not going to be easy..its hard.

May I encourage you to give your all to God with no reserves...all of who you are or are not, all of who you want to be and don't want to be, your dreams and aspirations.......give HIM all.......May God break our hearts with the things that break His...may we trust,,and not be afraid to let him be God......

Love to you.............

Terri

..................Let it be the hidden person of the heart....

~~~~~~~~Good marriages don't just happen~~~~~~~

Good morning all who read..

It had snowed again, only 1 inch this time, but, I have a few words to open this morning as an encouragement to all of you.

Our marriages need to be carafully, loved, and cared for also nurtured. They don't just happen. The health of your relationship with your spouse effects sooo many more than just the 2 of you. When you marry, you begin to build something bigger than either of you can see at that moment(remember the butterflies). the family you want to build deserves more than either of you alone can do. It is your commitment; NOT LOVE; that will build it to outlast the storms of marriage that we all go through.

So...on this Valentines day(just to use this day)as every day, I want to encourage you to give your husband and family something that will make your whole family(all who you are around) outlast flowers or candy, that will make your whole life happier. Something that is a matter of the heart......

Something that you cannot do alone......

Your probably thinking, ya, ya, ya,.........she's going to talk about the same old thing, your RIGHT!!!! I am......about the God that created this old world.....that created even you.

Fall on your knees...and ask "Him" tohelp you change and make it better.

The mothers heart is the childs classroom....

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Grace Sufficient

So many burdened lives along the way!

My load seems lighter than most I see,

And oft I wonder if I could be brave,

Patient and sweet if they were laid on me.




But God has never said that He would give

Another's Grace without another's thorn;

What matter, since for every day of mine

Sufficient grace for me comes with the morn?




And though the future brings some heavier cross

I need not cloud the present with my fears;

I know the grace that is enough today

Wil be sufficient still through all the years.



Annie Johnson Flint

Hello Ladies...

Just a note to all of you that read this blog......

Thank-you for reading it....it is in my heart to minister to those who need it, whether old or new...Today, many, many women have noone to share with, talk to, or learn from.

We will continue our notes on "Reverencing our husbands."

Then onto teaching some basic HOMEY skills....

stay tuned for what is to follow on my blog...

Encouragement.....

Good Morning...............
I am writing this morning, to encourage anyone who is down. No matter what circumstances life finds you, there is one who can and will carry you through. Even when it seems all is lost, your heart is broke and nothing in the world fills that empty void. It seems that at that very moment, one cannot go on any longer, if one would cry out to that one who is bigger than all ones problems, Jesus......one can go on.............
Remember the Scriptures that will lift you up, call someone that can even help you through a tough time. Sing, read the Bible, but, giving up...."NO!", cry out to Jesus again, He will deliver........

Hello Ladies......

Just a note.... What I post is a combination of what I have read over the years and my own experience...not at all, the "Gospel"...I am sooooo glad for blogs....one can say what one wants in any way one wants.

I just hope and pray, what I have gathered over many, many years of "learning"....has been a help to someone. Much of it, is from the school of hard knocks....

It may not work for everyone, but, hopefully for one, who can make it work for them.

Love to all who read this and blessings.....

Terri

~~~~~~~~~~~~~Mr. Steady.....

Good Morning to all of you who read this blog;

May Gods Peace truly sink deeeeeep into your inner recesses and a "Do not disturb" sign has been placed where the enemy of our souls can see....

We are continuing on with our readings of the 3 basic types of men, this one being the last but surely not the least...

Today is on "Mr. Steady".....

Lets go on.........

God is as steady as an eternal rock, caring providing and faithful like Jesus. He created some men like that.....The steady man does not make decisions or spend his last dime ona new idea, and he doesnt tell other people what to do. He will avoid confrontation at all costs. He doesn't invent things, but, will build the factory to invent them in. Managing the assembly line is right up his alley. He will not jump in front to lead, but will if encouraged to do so. He will quietly ignore things in others that drive Mr. Command and Mr. Visionary crazy. As a general rule, he will be faithful in the same house, car(unless it quits) and the rest of his life will stay the same till the day he dies. Those of us who have learned the peace and safety of this kind of steady man, want to keep him, but, they are rarely available. He will also be content to be with the wife of his youth their whole lives.

Joys and Trials....

Being married to this kind of man has it's joys and trials........on the good side. he never puts undue pressure on anyone, you rarely feel pressured, hurried, pushed, of forced.

When you are married to a man who is steady and cautious, and you have a bit of the impatient romantic in you, you may not see his worth and readily honor him.

A bossy woman may not see his cautiousness as a attribute, she wants it NOW! You may think he is wishy-washy and only a follower because of his lack of hasty judgement. There is no exciting rush in him, just letting others USE him, but, his slow steady nature probably keeps you and him out of alot of fixes. When you need him to just tell you what to do, he wont.

Some woman see all of these as a lack of Spiritualness, when it is the exact opposite. His lack of spontaniety and open boldness looks unspiritual, however, he is deeeeeeep, like a deeeeep s l o w flowing river that leads to rapids(that may be you). He may look like he is unmoving, but, nevertheless, he is very strong.

Dissappointment and unthankfullness can make you wearier than any amount of duties. The trials he SEEMS to cause you are really your discontented responses to what you consider to be his shortcomings. If you didnt attempt to change him into something other than what God created him to be, he would not cause you such grief. His very steadyness keeps him on his middle-of-the-road course, it WILL drive a CONTROLLING WOMAN CRAZY!!!!!(Is that woman you?)

If you are married to this kind of man, who is kind, loving and serving(maybe not all), then you are likely to end up looking like an unthankful shrew. He helps you, adores you, protects you, and is careful to provide for you, and you are still not satisfied. Shame on who?

When you come to really understand your man as God created him, then you will STOP trying to change him. The KEY is to know your man. If he is Mr. Steady, then, you want to learn to be thankful and to honor him as the one created for you in the image of God. A man who is created steady brings peace and safety to a womans soul. (Heb. 13:8) His gentleness is NOT a weakness, IT IS HIS STRENGTH!!! Your husbands indecision is not indecision. Your husbands lack of deep spiritual conversation is not a lack of caring, it is simply the cap on the mountain of intense emetions. If he ever speaks of how he does feel, he will most likely become teary...REJOICE!

He is all too willing to hear you(Prov. 20:5).

Is this your man?, then you need to learn to stand still(for a minute or more) and listen. Ask God to give you a shamefaced spirit, quiet and gentle. Stop expecting him to perform for you. Pray for him to have wisdom and STOP trying to make him into what he can never be.

ALLOW him to be the still, quiet, thoughtful presence------just for you!!!

Seek his thoughts on what to do, BUT>>>>>wait for the answers, he will think about it.

A STEADY man likes a woman to walk beside him, yet, take her own innitiative when needed.He enjoys a woman being a "Proverbs 31" woman. But, laziness discourages him. He needs a resourceful woman with dignity and honor. It is important to Mr. Steady that his wife is able to be self-sufficient in all the mundane things of daily living, like paying bills, making appointments and entertaining guests with ease. At the end of the day, Mr. Steady will enjoy weighing what he has accomplished with what you have accomplished and will rejoice in the value of having a worthy partner in life.

Sometimes these men are among the most important in the Church, they make well thought out, wise decisions.

The children can grow up to honor their gentle speaking dad if mother HAS NOT degraded this Mr. Steady to the point, the children dissrespect him.

He will not talk about himself as Mr. Command and Mr. Visionary might. He will wait for others to call him(always in need) and then will be proud(to himself) of others calling him for this and that.

When you as a wife dishonor a man like Mr. Steady, you WILL see him shrink, into a puddle, walk as if he has a 10 ton weight on his back and turn you off more often than not....why not?...he cannot live up to YOUR expectations...

To others he is mediocre and lacks strength and authority, when in actuality, he lacks a respectful wife.

Of all 3 types of men, this one will be liked by everyone.

LADIES>>> this is my DH....I treated just like the above says not to and watched him shrink and act like a 50 ton weight was on his back, not understanding that he LOVES ME SOOOOO MUCH, that he did not want ot hurt me when I treated him like this. Now, HE IS MY Mr. Steady, and walks upright as s man proud of his marriage and wife....

THIS TOOK TIME, and does not happen overnight, but if you can grasp what I have typed...then you wil be well on your way to having a glorious relationship and marriage with your Mr. Steady. You can truly be his Helpmeet!!!!

"Ruination" Wifes summary.....

~~~~~The wife of Mr. command can ruin her marriage by failing to honor, obey and reverence her husbands authority.~~~~~

~~~~~The wife of Mr. Visionary can ruin her marriage by failing to follow, believe and participate as an enthusiast in her husbands dreams and visions.~~~~~

~~~~~The wife of Mr. Steady can ruin her marriage by failing to appreciate, wait on, and be thankful for her husbands pleasant quilities.~~~~~

"Successful" Wifes Summary....

~~~~~The wife of Mr. Command can have a better marriage to him by becoming hiw adoring Queen, hororing and obeying his every(reasnable andunreasonable) word. She needs to dress, act, and speak aso as to being HIM honor .

~~~~~The wife of Mr. Visionary can have a better marriage by laying aside her own dreams and aspirations and holding onto her role as HIS helpmeet. Believe in him and follow him with ajoy into whatever path he shooses.

~~~~~The wife of Mr. Steady can have a better marriage by being joyful and realizing what a friend and companion she really has. By living that gratitude verbally and actively, her man will blossom. by trying to change him, he will shrink witha 10 ton weight on his back.

TIME TO THINK>>>>

Make a list of your husbands attributes----things that allow you to see which type of man he is. It may be a mixture of 2 or maybe all 3, but, will be stronger in one area.

Ask God to give you wisdom to see your need and where you can build up rather than tear down you man.

May you have the tenacity to persevere to have a glorious marriage, I did and it can be!!!!!!!

Blessings to all who read....

Terri

~~~~~~~~~Time to visit?

Hello Ladies;

It has been on my mind today, when was the last time one had a few ladies over for ,hmmmmmmmmmmm, tea, and handwork?

We ladies need each other and to bounce things off each other. NOT TO GOSSIP, but, to see what others thnk.

When we share we should not be sharing to "TEACH" others, but, just to share and leave it. Now don't go away from a Tea with your feelings hurt, because others don't see it "your" way. Lets be grown up enough to understand, not all see things our way. AND, maybe, just ,maybe, there is another way to see it.

If you think that others will just jump at the chance to see "it" your way, that probably will not happen. They most likely will hear it, process it, and probably NOT do "it" your way. Part of getting together is to SHARE, and LEAVING IT THERE.

Being an adult does not mean our opinion is the only way. share it, and leave it. NO gossip about so and so, who just is this way and that.

"Love covers a multitude of sins...". yes, the Bible says that.....now onto bigger and better things, friendship, lets cultivate it, and not ruin it by wanting our own ways....

Its time to growup for many of us...lets!!!!