Not Fair.......

Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.

This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Dont mess my hair....

Well, I didnt get this typed as soon as I wanted, but, it is for today.....


Dont mess my hair!
A few years ago, a meeting went on, where men sat in a circle and tried to figure out some answers for some grave matters that they were facing as well as, the course of action to take. Their wives were right beside them or behind them. I looked at one young man, who I will call, Charles. He was there with his attractive wife. In the midst of an intense part of the conversation Charles leaned back and draped his arm around his wifes shoulder. She immediately reacted with obvious irritation, shaking his hand off her shoulder, and leaning forward as if to get away from his embrace. Then she carefully fixed her hair where his arm had disturbed it. His mind was jerked off of the serious problem at hand and was focused on her, now-----as was the attention of almost everyone in the room. To her, brushing him off was nothing, but to all those in the room(including her DH), it was an act of putting him down like a thoughtless inept child. Everyone felt his humiliation. After that, Charles had nothing else to contribute. For the duration of the meeting, he sat downcast, properly chastened, with his hands in his lap. I wanted to get up and visit with her but, did not. It would have shocked her to know that everyone in that room, probably was thinking what I was. She continued to straighten herself, unaware that she was wasting her time trying to look pretty, for she had lost all that was lovely and feminine in that one act of disdain.
Carrying that kind of rejection, on a regular basis, Charles will never really be able to cherish his wife, and he will never have what it takes to become an effective leader or minister. Yes, she is his wife, and he will undoubtly continue to love her. But, his love will always be more of an attempe to win her. Until she repents, he cannot love her with abandoned joy. A mans ego is a fragile thing. How can a man cherish someone who cares so little for his reputation?
Her act was testimony to the state of her heart. She thought more of her hair than her husbands honor. She was rebelling against God in not reverencing her husband. To reverence is an active verb. It is something you so. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence our DHs, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others. Charles was not free; he was troubled and bound inside, and guess who made him feel that way...His wifey, that thought more of her hair, than her DH.
Regardless of how a woman may feel about her husband, she can choose to obey and honor him. A husband is told to love his wife. It involves how he feels toward her. You can will to do what you ought to do much sooner than you can be motivated by your feelings to act. As we said earlier, when you choose the right way, feelings will soon follow.

A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple(minded and heart), and knoweth nothing(even with years of schooling)(Proverbs 9:13).

"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands(by your words and actions)(Proverbs 14:1).

Love to all who read, and may it touch your heart enough to change....
Terri

Prisoners of the Lord, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

This is this weeks Poem...
Prisoners of the Lord, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

Love to all who read....
Terri

Annie Johnson Flint, Much Fruit, poetry, poem, poems

~~~~~This is the poem for this week, Please enjoy!~~~~~
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Annie Johnson Flint, Much Fruit, poetry, poem, poems

Love to you....
Terri

The Meaning of Meek;

Not easily provoked(do others "bug" you?), or irritated, submissive to divine will(even if I dont see it that way?), gentle, yielding(is it only on the outside, or does ones heart truly submit?), forebearing(love through whatever)(not harsch), humble, mild, unassuming(ouch!). Does one ever have evil surmisings?

Much Love to you...

Terri

Kings and Kingdoms, contd'.....

Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language.
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?

Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Spiritual Armour....

~~~~My DH thought I should post this this morning, so here it is....
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.

Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri

Kings and Kingdoms, cont'd.....

Good Morning Ladies, My garden takes more time than one thinks....mowing lawn, having Grandsweeties, and other such, time flies, so here is just a bit for this week,.........

Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.

Love from my Heart,

Terri

Nevertheless, Afterward, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

~~~Hello Ladies, This is todays Poem....
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Nevertheless, Afterward, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry


Love to all who read....
~~~***Terri***~~~

Kings and Kingdoms.....(New Chapter Ladies)....

A wise woman always receives her husbands overtures with delight, no matter how clumsy they may be.
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."

Part 2 of this text next week....


Love to all who read....
Terri

Bear with me.....

to all who read this blog.....Summer is upon me ...I know I posted this earlier, but, thought I should post this again.....Summer is extremely busy for me, with my 11 Grandchildren, 1 acre garden, 1 acre of lawn and other sorts........

My blog might have to take a back seat to all of this..... in the summer...BUT>>>>>> PLEASE>>>>Bear with me..I will post as often as I can......

Love to all who read this blog...
Terri

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~


God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.

"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).

Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)

Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.

Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.

Love to all who read....
Terri

How is your week?

Hello Dear Freiends...
How is your week? Are you still trying to follow Gods plan for your marriage, or have you let the enemy of our souls win? Please don't give up, sometimes we just need to press in, keep on...and hang in there...then, God will move in our hearts or ?......
My marriage is not without it's trials, but, there is no comparison with what it use to be....I do have a glorious marriage, a DH that treats me just like I am his princess, because in my heart and actions he is my Prince Charming.................Yes, he has faults, yes I have faults, but, I CHOOSE to not dwell on them, I CHOOSE to let it roll off my back, like a duck does water(sometimes it takes prayer, on my knees and a lot of forgiveness)....but...it does happen..I am Free to love!
Don't give up....

Love to all who read...,.
Terri

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

This is for this week, May you be blessed with this poem....

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

Love to all who read....
Terri

Washed in the Blood of the Lamb?

The title may give you questions, Is your heart washed in the Blood of the Lamb?
Rev 7:9-14, 1:4-9, and ;Hebrews 10:29
Is THE blood of THE lamb on the doorposts of your heart?
When we are deliberet in our disobedience to what God has called us to do, that is when it becomes wrong for us....In spite of repeated warnings by the Holy Spirit, Do you still disobey?, and make excuses for not obeying?
Satan would like to rob us of courage in our Christian lives and have us look at bad situations, and bring our courage low. If I can believe I am saved(washed in the blood of the lamb[i.e., born again]), my courage will come back. Satans trick is to make us believe lies, and not obey "The Word Of God"....he makes us think, were ok, to just walk the fence, with one foot in the Word and one foot in the World....

Love to all who read,
Terri

June 22, 2009 Monday...Earning His Trust...........

Earning His Trust....
Have you ever wondered why your DH does not trust your judgement?, or even worse you? Read on and see how you can change his feelings in that area towards you....
Beware, this may take work on your part in your heart..........
Not all women are as wise as some women. Years ago I knew a sweet young girl who was really dumb. She had a very tender heart(which she thought was Gods love and compassion in her), and she always showed a weakness for men who "needed" her. Her name was Sunny, and she was as fair and lovely as the Sunshine she was named for. Sunny always picked up hitchhikers to witness to, even though the older told her this practice was not wise. One day she picked up a young man of Arab descent, who looked and talked very romantic. To make a long story short, Sunny married him.
She was soon pregnant with their first child, and in a matter of weeks, the violence began. Over the next 7 years, Sunny was rugularly subjected to his alcoholic rages and beatings, and she endured his flaunted unfaithfulness. She and the children were alone for days at a time, even weeks, as her husband stayed with "friends". He returned home to vent his rage and take the few dollars she earned to support their growing family. When Sunny was pregnant with their third baby, Ahmed came home drunk and tried to kil her with a butcher knife. Only the miraculous intervention of an Almighty God spared her life.
Every time Ahmed came home raging drunk, Sunny would leave the house with the loud railing accusations and go to her mothers home and cry out her sorrows. She would get on the phone and call all of her friends and tell them what Ahmed was doing to her. But she did not leave him.
One day, I saw her at a church meeting---a huddled, sodden mass of tears and exhaustion. Sunny confessed to plotting her husbands murder. She said she couldn't tolerate life any more as it was, but her children needed her. So she had decided to kill her husband instead. Her murder plan was well thought out and could have succeeded if God had not sropped her.
I spent hours in prayer and counseling with Sunny that evening. I asked her to make a decision, either to leave her Husband once and for all and put the pieces of her life bback together, or to stay with him and begin a campaign of winning his heart and saving their life together. I fully expected her to leave him that night; but I discovered something amazing about her: Sunny really wanted Gods will in her life. She had grasped and eternal vision about life, and she now believed God could save her man.(DO YOU????)
I knew of Sunnys weakness to blab everything ; she could not keep a secret to save her life. I also knew her husband was a very private man, and that her blabbing about his sins kept him in a rage, as it would any man. I explained to Sunny that in order to win her husbands heart, she needed to reverence him. This did not mean she had to see some goodness or worth in him that was not really there, but that she needed to show him esteem for the sake of her children and herself.
Sunny alredy did everything else right. She was obedient, faithful, cheerful, a keeper at home and a help meet. I encouraged her to go one step further and look for an opportunity to reverence her husband. She was not to speak ill of him ever again. Her conversations with others, as well as with him, would be only praise and appreciation.
Sunny had a learners heart(Do You?). She took my advice, and the change in her husband was obvious in just one week. It is amazing how vulnerable a man is when a woman treats him with honor. He stopped going off with his drunken friends and got a job so he could help support the family. He came to Church occasionally and seemed amazed at the comments prople made. "Sunny says you play the saxophone like a genius". "Sunny told us you were a hamdsome man", "We've been looking forward to meeting you; Sunny told us....." Her Husband was shocked, and Sunny continued on her mission. A week or so later, she got encouraging boosts in the form of a dream.
She dreamed that a top government official came to the office building where her husband worked on a cleanin g crew. The official had a meeting with the manager of the business and told him,"I need to hire a man for the managerial position in my department. The qualifications required are faithfulness, hardworking, honesty, punctuality, and intelligence....no special education needed. We can always teach him what he does not know, but, we cant give him work ethics. So do you have anyone who has a good work ethic like that? the manager said, "I have one guy who fits that profile, but he is just the clean-up man." In Sunnys dream, the government official said, "I don't care if the guy can't read or write, if he is faithful, hardworking guy that I can trust and depend on, then I will hire him and double his wages." In her dream, her husband was hired by the government official to fill a managerial position.
When Sunny awoke, she excitedly told her husband the dream. She was sure that it was a sign he was destined for greatness. Remember what we learned when we studied "Mr. Visionary", how greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments of the lack of them? Previously, when Sunny called her friends to "TELL" them what a creep her husband was, she was reinforcing to him the belief that she thought he was a looser. She publicly shamed him, and he continued to be shameful. Her opinion became his frame of reference. Now Sunny began to publicly exalt him, with miraculous results.
Her husband thought of her dream as silly, but he held his head a little higher when he went to his regular job the next day---on time! Sunny went to her mothers house and got on the phone. She called her friends and told them her dream. This time.....her DH did not mind her blabbing!
To my knowledge, her husband is still on the cleaning crew, and Sunnys dream was just that---a dream. But it expressed her heart toward her husband, and her opinion of him was far more important to him than any job he could ever get. When she dreamed he was a winner and told it around, Her husband tried to live up to that image-----LADIES..THIS IS A KEY..WHAT WE SAY ABOUT OUR DH'S IS HOW THEY ARE----So do say uplifting things, or tear them down because they are as human as you?
Her husband found such pleasure in her life that he wanted to find out about her God....In time, He learned to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. The las time I visited with her, they were both growing in the Lord together.
The Scripture says, she won him "without word" (Bible) by her "conversation"(1Peter 3:1). God's way works. Who would have ever believed it? Sunny did-------Can You?
Ladies, where is your heart in this story(true by the way)....Do you lift up your husband in front of others(ie...family, children, friends, church people)...or do YOU make remarks, tell tale things, tell about his faults?
Lets try this week, to ONLY say good things about our DHs....It not only changes our hearts, but, others too.....

LOVE TO ALL WHO READ THIS BLOG....
TERRI

PLEASE BEAR WITH ME>>>>

Dear Ones...
Please bear with me, through the summer...My schedule may have to take a back seat to my 1 acre garden and 1 acre of lawn, Grandbabies, building on our house and may other sorts, because of Summer...
Please stick with this blog however, and watch for my articles....

Thanks for your Grace...
Terri

Comfort zones....

Comfort zones....
Men are not the uncaring creatures they sometimes appear to be. They highly treasure their families and like for their homes to be comfort zones. they want respect and a family that gives them security and purpose. Even though home life may get dull, men greatly value their own woman and children.
Men may allow the lust of the flesh to pull them away from that which they value, but they try to get back to that comfort zone. It is this natural need for his own famuly that keeps a man caring for and bearing the responsibility for his wife and children. When a woman does not provide for her husband a comfortable nest and a reverent attitude, she has to rely on his goodness to "keep him" faithful. She is a fool to expect him to be a good husband when she is not being the helpmeet God has created for her to be.
A man coming home to a tense or messy home, lousy meals, and a wife who is critical, judgemental, and or bossy might not have the "goodness" to remain faithful if a young sweet, kind, woman at work seeks to pull him away with the promise (illusion) of a more fullfilling comfort zone.
Woman take it for granted that a man will be faithful because it is his Christian duty to be faithful(and it is). It is also a womans Christian duty to be a help meet: honoring, obeying, serving, and reverencing.
Experience has proven that failure on a woman part will make it much easier for a man to fail his obligations to the family. a satisfied man will cherish his "comfort zone" enough to resist the "evil woman" and her empty promises.
Counselors agree that in almost all marriage conflicts both husband and wife share the blame almost equally. A mans guilt is usually easy to see. A womans guilt is less obvious but just as destructive and just as evil. God ordained a woman to be a help meet. She is to provide a haven of rest and satisfaction, and to be a delight to her husband. ARE YOU??????
When she fails to obey God, there is often a high price to pay. When she obeys God, even if she is married to a "lost" man, she will usually reap heavenly rewards.

Love to all who read, may you reap heavenly rewards by following this and "The Word of God"....
Terri

Annie Johnson Flint, Much Fruit, poetry, poem, poems

This is for last wednesday....
Annie Johnson Flint, Much Fruit,
poetry, poem, poems

Love ..
Terri

Monday, the Promise.....

Sorry for not getting on here earlier, my computer got another virus.........
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....

On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........

Love to all who read....
Terri