Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Part 2, "Titus 2".....

Here is the second part to these lessons...

"Titus 2"........

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their childen, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"(Titus 2:3-5).
Over the last several years I have asked hundreds of women, "Can you tell me the eight things God requires of a woman, which if she does not obey she will be guilty of blashpheming God's word?" Most women respond with a blank look, not having a clue as to the answer.
God told the older women to teach only one message. It is found in Titus 2. The next section in these studies cover those eight important things.
Stay tuned for the things that this part entails.......

Love to all who read....

~~~*Terri*~~~

Thursday, August 27, 2009

God's Thougts and Mine, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

This is from Annie Johnson Flint for the week....
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God's Thougts and Mine, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Time to Consider what we have learned/read?

Time to Consider....
Make a list of things you should do that will cause your husband to feel your honor, respect, and reverence. These might be simple things, like meeting him at the door when he comes home from work or reaching out to touch him in the car as you drive down the road. Practice what you have learned, and make a committment to do these things, come sunshine or storm....

What have we learned?
God created us to be help meets. We will find Gods perfect plan for women in their marriage as we seek to be the help meets he desingned us to be.
~~~A help meet is someone who helps another.
~~~Joy comes from the abundance of a thankful heart.
~~~Control and dominance are masculine traits. A womans calling is to be submissive and yielding to her husband; to do otherwise is against Gods plan.
~~~In order for us to know Gods blessings, we murt recognize, appreciate, and honor the chain of command that God has set in place.
~~~Ous obedience in the role of "help meet" is not dependent on our husbands obedience to God.
~~~God has called us to reverence our husband. A woman who does not submit to and honor her husband in this reverencing him, is out of place, out of order and out of control.

~~~*God defined your role when he said, "the head
of the woman is the man". The man was put in charge before the woman was ever created. God explained his plan clearly when he said, "I will make him a helpmeet for him". God was making it crystal clear that a man is never to be his wifes helpmeet when he said, "For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, foasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man."
God even told us ehy a woman was never to be in authority or to think of herself spiritually more able than a man, "For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being decieved was in the transgression."
When we thoroughly understnad our role as help meets, begin to practice joy and thanksgiving in performing that role, and turn our hearts to reverencing our husbands, only then can we expect to experience a heavenly marriage.


Love to all....
Terri

Monday, August 24, 2009

The purple flower PJs Girl....

The Purple Flower Pjs Girl......
Just last week, while I sat in my car in the Walmart parking lot, waiting for my daughter, I watched the people as they walked into the store. It was an interesting study in human behaviour. Of the 25 or so couples who walked into the store together,only 3 of them were touching each other, and those 3 ladies were the only one ssmiling out of the 25 or so I observed. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the prettiest, these ladies were 1 or 2's. One lady looked several(hard) years older than her tall, young, handsome husband. He had a delighted smile on his face as he watched her every move, possessively leading her by the arm. It was clear that she was enjoying telling him her tale. I could see it was a good story, because he threw his head back and laughed freely just as they walked through the door. He was enjoying his woman.
Another couple passed by quietly, deliberetly brushing up against each other, saying nothing, but the womans smile said everything. the third smiling couple took the award of the day. He was a muscled-up gorgeous man, and she was almost past describing. She was wearing flannel PJ bottoms that were cut off just above the knees. The shortened pants had 5 inch purple flowers scattered over the white, almost see through material. She was short. and a lot overweight, with the most weight bouncing in those "extra tight" PJ shorts. Her hair was chopped off in an very "home" cut style, and really needed to be washed. Her gorgeous man had her in a headlock hug. She was laughing and poking him in the ribs while hollering for him to ler her go. You would have thought he was hugging Miss America by the way he was grinning. He was really enjoying his purple flower sweetie. I caught his eye, and he grinned back at me, not one bit embarressed. That gal had totally won his heart and my respect. He was proud to be her man. Of all those "beautiful"a girls who had walked into Walmart while I waited, it was this girl who was publicly being adored and appreciated. I suspect that she has never removed her husbands hugging arm for any reason, much less to save her hairdo. She has accepted all of his overtures with thanksgiving and delight.
In the coming few weeks, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of our children, etc. These things are important and necessary, but, the buck stops right here at the action of the word reverence.
A man will allow his woman many, many, faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great.
If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankdul to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be very overweight, have hair needs help, not cook or very little, be a little lazy, and be not pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is wonderful.....HE WILL LOVE HER!!! I know, it sounds ridiculous,but that is just how it is.
Women, on the other hand, want their husbands to perform. They expect them to be spiritual, hardworking, diligent, sensitive, and an attentive parent, or they will take personal offense and begin a campaign to change him onto "their" image. I find it amazing that a woman would marry an MAN(as he is) and then become angry because he continues to act like one.
What does it mean to reverence?
The very act of reverence is extreme appreciation profound thankfulness that this man, JUST AS HE IS, has chosen to love me, JUST AS I AM.
How many traits should a young maid carry that is looking to be married?.....really only one, a grateful heart......let me explain....
That girl must be joyful and thankful for the love that that man has for her who marrys her. The more that young lady believes she is fortunate that her man chose her over others, the better the fondation for the true marriage of 2 souls. If the young lady feels that the man is lucky to get her, that young lady is looking for her very OWN helpmeet and she thinks you are the one to fill the job...She will spend the rest of her life trying to change that young man.

To reverence your husband is to be thankful and delighted.

Like the purple flower pjs girl. It means the you must be the opposite of the "dont mess my hair girl", and that you believe in him enough to dream good things aboaut him. You reverence him by teaching your sons and daughters that their daddy is the #1 man, and then by helping making a sign in their hearts and maybe in reality, so everyone can see how you think and feel about him. In summary, it is to believe that YOU are blessed for being loved by this wonderful man.

Next week, some things to study....

OH!! Ladies, I do hope this gives you courage....don't give up....a short note from me.....this thing called reverence is funny, but, it is true, it really works, this happened to my DH and I...I decided to reverence, it took time, for him to trust me, but, it works....
If your man decides to go the other way, PLEASE don't quit becoming what God would have you be...work on YOU!




Love to all who read....
Terri

Friday, August 21, 2009

Compassion, much needed for these tumultous times.........

Compassion....
Who has compassion?
Who has love?
Who has generosity?
Who has a general kindness?

I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight
That to somebodys need made me blind;
But I never have yet felt a tinge of regret
For being a little too kind.
Author unknown
Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Friday, August 14, 2009

The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Today this is the Poem...I hope you can let it touch your heart of hearts....
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The Two Sufficients, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Love to all who read....
~~~*Terri*~~~

Thursday, August 13, 2009

For What We Are Watching

Todays Poem from Annie Johnson flint, I pray it touches your heart.

Please click on the link....

For What We Are Watching

Love ~~~*Terri*~~~....

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Thank-you!!!!

I just wanted to say a GREAT BIG THANK-YOU!!!, for all those of you who read this blog, I pray that these words will touch your heart of hearts and begin to change you in a way that DH can see without you even saying a word...
Terri

Not Fair.......

Todays is "Not Fair"....
It doesn't seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn't he love her regardless of how she acts? If my husband were talking to men, he would tell them to love their wives regardless of how they act. But remember, this is me, the aged woman, telling the young girls what they can do to make a heavenly marriage. You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely(know what I mean?). But God gave us ladies some keys to the avenues of a man's heart. His very nature is made to reapond to us if we will only treat him with reverence. A man does not have such power to influence his wife. Women are not built with the same response mechanisms. God did not give men the wonderful promise he gave to women, that they can win their wives with proper behaviors. But women have a beautiful hope based on the promises of God.

This is short, but, pray, pray, pray, and let it sink wayyyy down deeeeeeep in your heart...PLEASE read my previous posts to get the rest of the picture....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Dont mess my hair....

Well, I didnt get this typed as soon as I wanted, but, it is for today.....


Dont mess my hair!
A few years ago, a meeting went on, where men sat in a circle and tried to figure out some answers for some grave matters that they were facing as well as, the course of action to take. Their wives were right beside them or behind them. I looked at one young man, who I will call, Charles. He was there with his attractive wife. In the midst of an intense part of the conversation Charles leaned back and draped his arm around his wifes shoulder. She immediately reacted with obvious irritation, shaking his hand off her shoulder, and leaning forward as if to get away from his embrace. Then she carefully fixed her hair where his arm had disturbed it. His mind was jerked off of the serious problem at hand and was focused on her, now-----as was the attention of almost everyone in the room. To her, brushing him off was nothing, but to all those in the room(including her DH), it was an act of putting him down like a thoughtless inept child. Everyone felt his humiliation. After that, Charles had nothing else to contribute. For the duration of the meeting, he sat downcast, properly chastened, with his hands in his lap. I wanted to get up and visit with her but, did not. It would have shocked her to know that everyone in that room, probably was thinking what I was. She continued to straighten herself, unaware that she was wasting her time trying to look pretty, for she had lost all that was lovely and feminine in that one act of disdain.
Carrying that kind of rejection, on a regular basis, Charles will never really be able to cherish his wife, and he will never have what it takes to become an effective leader or minister. Yes, she is his wife, and he will undoubtly continue to love her. But, his love will always be more of an attempe to win her. Until she repents, he cannot love her with abandoned joy. A mans ego is a fragile thing. How can a man cherish someone who cares so little for his reputation?
Her act was testimony to the state of her heart. She thought more of her hair than her husbands honor. She was rebelling against God in not reverencing her husband. To reverence is an active verb. It is something you so. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence our DHs, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others. Charles was not free; he was troubled and bound inside, and guess who made him feel that way...His wifey, that thought more of her hair, than her DH.

Regardless of how a woman may feel about her husband, she can choose to obey and honor him. A husband is told to love his wife. It involves how he feels toward her. You can will to do what you ought to do much sooner than you can be motivated by your feelings to act. As we said earlier, when you choose the right way, feelings will soon follow.

A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple(minded and heart), and knoweth nothing(even with years of schooling)(Proverbs 9:13).

"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands(by your words and actions)(Proverbs 14:1).

Love to all who read, and may it touch your heart enough to change....
Terri

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

The Meaning of Meek;

Not easily provoked(do others "bug" you?), or irritated, submissive to divine will(even if I dont see it that way?), gentle, yielding(is it only on the outside, or does ones heart truly submit?), forebearing(love through whatever)(not harsch), humble, mild, unassuming(ouch!). Does one ever have evil surmisings?

Much Love to you...

Terri

Monday, July 20, 2009

Kings and Kingdoms, contd'.....

Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language.
It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep an eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. "Deference" is a hot cup of ?, while you take his shoes off after a hard days work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time. It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true feminity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but most especially to him. When I respect him, He is spurned on to protect me! When I treat him with disrespect with my facial expressions, eyes, body language and all that God has given me to honor him, He is turned off....Why would he want to protect me?

Next week, "Don't mess my hair"....

Love to all who read....
Terri

Friday, July 17, 2009

Spiritual Armour....

~~~~My DH thought I should post this this morning, so here it is....
~~~~Spiritual Armour
The kingdom of the world is based on untruth. It offers pleasures and happiness, but these lead to wretchedness and poverty of soul and often also of the body.
The kingdom of God is truth. Our spirits should be girded on all sides with this integral part of Gods armour. Truth will identify the sin which has come upon all men, and truth will bring men under conviction. All are lost without the Saviours intercession. Faith leads us to repentance and to the blood of Christ for the remission of sin. "For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ"(1 Cor. 3:11).
The breastplate of righteousness keeps the heart clean and pure. It protects against grace-robbing vices. It enables us to be Christian in deed and not only in name.
A departed church father taught that we are not just saved to be good, but we are saved to be good for something. Having our feet shod with the gospel of peace will radically alter how and where we walk. The doctrines of returning good deeds for evil and going to all the world with the message of salvation will be born within us. Love for the souls of men, willingness for a life of sacrifice, and grace to extend forgiveness to those who despitefully use us will be manifested in our lives.
The helmet of salvation guards the mind. Most sins are preceeded by impure thoughts and selfserving. Evil surmisings and imaginations break down confidence and foster ill will. The Bible instructs us to go alone to our brother with our concerns. This often results in a warm melting together of hearts. Too often this is neglected, and gossip and backbiting result.
Strong holds can be besetting sins of long standing or grave sins that seem to have one hopelessly ensnared. The sword of the Spirit is mighty, working miracles of deliverance when one becomes willing to use it. this sword will cut to the very core of our attitudes and motives in searching out and pulling down strongholds of sin. It enables us to become jyful, new creatures inChrist.
Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual meditation will establish the Word inour hearts. this will provide a strong defense against evil.

Love to all who read this blog....
DH and Terri

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Kings and Kingdoms, cont'd.....

Good Morning Ladies, My garden takes more time than one thinks....mowing lawn, having Grandsweeties, and other such, time flies, so here is just a bit for this week,.........

Women feel that they will lose some of their self-respect if they surrender to a man who is less than wonderful. Surrendering your autonomy to another is not for wimps. People say of an obedient women, "Oh, she is just the meek and timid type; she needs to get a life of her own." They know not whereof they speak. This is not a abstract, puzzling doctrine; it's practical and pragmatic. The more I show my husband reverence, the more he treasures me and treats me like his queen. God made a man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.
Ladies, this really is true, I have found it in my own life and marriage. My DH loves to "protect " me, but, I have to choose to allow him to do that, by..... reverencing, not only with respect, but, reverence, and being humble enough, that when I blow it, to say, "I am sorry". Not flippantly, but, from the bottom of my heart, and with that making a change. Sounds like a big charge, not?, but, it is possible. I never thought I could have a glorious marriage.... but,,,.....Thanks be to Jesus, it has happened.
First, a heart that is truly, Born Again, Changed, completely the Lords.....then the rest...still submitting to the Lord and DH....
~Oh~!, Ladies, let me encourage you to submit, to the Final Authority, Jesus Christ.

Love from my Heart,

Terri

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Kings and Kingdoms.....(New Chapter Ladies)....

A wise woman always receives her husbands overtures with delight, no matter how clumsy they may be.
Ladies, how about you? Do you think bad of your husband when he is perhaps doing the best he can, while he makes mistakes?
Lets see, how to change....
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever tule is their own little kingdom called HOME. At the least, evey mans destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God's will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his kingdom will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them.
When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children and your husband.
When the President makes a public appearance in one of the fifty states, even if he is not popular in that state, everyone spends time and energy preparing for him. When he arrives, he is treated with respect. It is not the man or his policies that the people are recognizing, it is the office and all that it stands for. God made your husband the "president" of your family. Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT Gods will for your husband to reverence you. It is NOT Gods plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge chait and expect him to serve himself. Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn't do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie. Our culture stands diametrically opposed to God at every turn. It is time to realize that feminist beliefs have tainted almosty all the public schools and even the best of Christian teachers. God says in Hosea 4:6, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I willl also forget thy children."

Part 2 of this text next week....


Love to all who read....
Terri

Friday, July 3, 2009

Bear with me.....

to all who read this blog.....Summer is upon me ...I know I posted this earlier, but, thought I should post this again.....Summer is extremely busy for me, with my 11 Grandchildren, 1 acre garden, 1 acre of lawn and other sorts........

My blog might have to take a back seat to all of this..... in the summer...BUT>>>>>> PLEASE>>>>Bear with me..I will post as often as I can......

Love to all who read this blog...
Terri

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~

~~~~Ponderings for your heart~~~~


God admonishes us ladies to see that we reverence our husbands/ man.

"...and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph.5:33).

Make a new habit.....
Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day(no rolling the eyes, arguing with a decision, delibretely correcting him in front of others, whatever else would show him disrespect). Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally,.,.....( I remember when I read this, I thought to myself....RIGHT!!!!, buttttttttttt, Ladies, it really does work, now...it is soooooooo very different....)

Traits of a Good Help Meet.....
~~~she acknowledges the "good traits" in her man.
~~~she speaks of her husband with esteem.
~~~she defers to him.
~~~she never responds to him with scorn or ridicule.

Getting serious with God...
The word REVERENCE appears 13 times in Gods Word. Eight occurrences have to do with reverencing men. Look up and consider each of these uses of the word reverence. As you read, you will understand from Gods Word what God requires of you in reverencing your husband. Make a list of ways you have not shown reverence toward your husband,(If this is scarry to you, it is ok, it was to me too!)
and then make a list of things you are going to do to correct them. Always keep in mind that, when you reverence your husband, you are reverencing God.

Love to all who read....
Terri

Thursday, June 25, 2009

How is your week?

Hello Dear Freiends...
How is your week? Are you still trying to follow Gods plan for your marriage, or have you let the enemy of our souls win? Please don't give up, sometimes we just need to press in, keep on...and hang in there...then, God will move in our hearts or ?......
My marriage is not without it's trials, but, there is no comparison with what it use to be....I do have a glorious marriage, a DH that treats me just like I am his princess, because in my heart and actions he is my Prince Charming.................Yes, he has faults, yes I have faults, but, I CHOOSE to not dwell on them, I CHOOSE to let it roll off my back, like a duck does water(sometimes it takes prayer, on my knees and a lot of forgiveness)....but...it does happen..I am Free to love!
Don't give up....

Love to all who read...,.
Terri

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

This is for this week, May you be blessed with this poem....

The Gray Days of November, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry, poems

Love to all who read....
Terri

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Washed in the Blood of the Lamb?

The title may give you questions, Is your heart washed in the Blood of the Lamb?
Rev 7:9-14, 1:4-9, and ;Hebrews 10:29
Is THE blood of THE lamb on the doorposts of your heart?
When we are deliberet in our disobedience to what God has called us to do, that is when it becomes wrong for us....In spite of repeated warnings by the Holy Spirit, Do you still disobey?, and make excuses for not obeying?
Satan would like to rob us of courage in our Christian lives and have us look at bad situations, and bring our courage low. If I can believe I am saved(washed in the blood of the lamb[i.e., born again]), my courage will come back. Satans trick is to make us believe lies, and not obey "The Word Of God"....he makes us think, were ok, to just walk the fence, with one foot in the Word and one foot in the World....

Love to all who read,
Terri

Monday, June 22, 2009

June 22, 2009 Monday...Earning His Trust...........

Earning His Trust....
Have you ever wondered why your DH does not trust your judgement?, or even worse you? Read on and see how you can change his feelings in that area towards you....
Beware, this may take work on your part in your heart..........
Not all women are as wise as some women. Years ago I knew a sweet young girl who was really dumb. She had a very tender heart(which she thought was Gods love and compassion in her), and she always showed a weakness for men who "needed" her. Her name was Sunny, and she was as fair and lovely as the Sunshine she was named for. Sunny always picked up hitchhikers to witness to, even though the older told her this practice was not wise. One day she picked up a young man of Arab descent, who looked and talked very romantic. To make a long story short, Sunny married him.
She was soon pregnant with their first child, and in a matter of weeks, the violence began. Over the next 7 years, Sunny was rugularly subjected to his alcoholic rages and beatings, and she endured his flaunted unfaithfulness. She and the children were alone for days at a time, even weeks, as her husband stayed with "friends". He returned home to vent his rage and take the few dollars she earned to support their growing family. When Sunny was pregnant with their third baby, Ahmed came home drunk and tried to kil her with a butcher knife. Only the miraculous intervention of an Almighty God spared her life.
Every time Ahmed came home raging drunk, Sunny would leave the house with the loud railing accusations and go to her mothers home and cry out her sorrows. She would get on the phone and call all of her friends and tell them what Ahmed was doing to her. But she did not leave him.
One day, I saw her at a church meeting---a huddled, sodden mass of tears and exhaustion. Sunny confessed to plotting her husbands murder. She said she couldn't tolerate life any more as it was, but her children needed her. So she had decided to kill her husband instead. Her murder plan was well thought out and could have succeeded if God had not sropped her.
I spent hours in prayer and counseling with Sunny that evening. I asked her to make a decision, either to leave her Husband once and for all and put the pieces of her life bback together, or to stay with him and begin a campaign of winning his heart and saving their life together. I fully expected her to leave him that night; but I discovered something amazing about her: Sunny really wanted Gods will in her life. She had grasped and eternal vision about life, and she now believed God could save her man.(DO YOU????)
I knew of Sunnys weakness to blab everything ; she could not keep a secret to save her life. I also knew her husband was a very private man, and that her blabbing about his sins kept him in a rage, as it would any man. I explained to Sunny that in order to win her husbands heart, she needed to reverence him. This did not mean she had to see some goodness or worth in him that was not really there, but that she needed to show him esteem for the sake of her children and herself.
Sunny alredy did everything else right. She was obedient, faithful, cheerful, a keeper at home and a help meet. I encouraged her to go one step further and look for an opportunity to reverence her husband. She was not to speak ill of him ever again. Her conversations with others, as well as with him, would be only praise and appreciation.
Sunny had a learners heart(Do You?). She took my advice, and the change in her husband was obvious in just one week. It is amazing how vulnerable a man is when a woman treats him with honor. He stopped going off with his drunken friends and got a job so he could help support the family. He came to Church occasionally and seemed amazed at the comments prople made. "Sunny says you play the saxophone like a genius". "Sunny told us you were a hamdsome man", "We've been looking forward to meeting you; Sunny told us....." Her Husband was shocked, and Sunny continued on her mission. A week or so later, she got encouraging boosts in the form of a dream.
She dreamed that a top government official came to the office building where her husband worked on a cleanin g crew. The official had a meeting with the manager of the business and told him,"I need to hire a man for the managerial position in my department. The qualifications required are faithfulness, hardworking, honesty, punctuality, and intelligence....no special education needed. We can always teach him what he does not know, but, we cant give him work ethics. So do you have anyone who has a good work ethic like that? the manager said, "I have one guy who fits that profile, but he is just the clean-up man." In Sunnys dream, the government official said, "I don't care if the guy can't read or write, if he is faithful, hardworking guy that I can trust and depend on, then I will hire him and double his wages." In her dream, her husband was hired by the government official to fill a managerial position.
When Sunny awoke, she excitedly told her husband the dream. She was sure that it was a sign he was destined for greatness. Remember what we learned when we studied "Mr. Visionary", how greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments of the lack of them? Previously, when Sunny called her friends to "TELL" them what a creep her husband was, she was reinforcing to him the belief that she thought he was a looser. She publicly shamed him, and he continued to be shameful. Her opinion became his frame of reference. Now Sunny began to publicly exalt him, with miraculous results.
Her husband thought of her dream as silly, but he held his head a little higher when he went to his regular job the next day---on time! Sunny went to her mothers house and got on the phone. She called her friends and told them her dream. This time.....her DH did not mind her blabbing!
To my knowledge, her husband is still on the cleaning crew, and Sunnys dream was just that---a dream. But it expressed her heart toward her husband, and her opinion of him was far more important to him than any job he could ever get. When she dreamed he was a winner and told it around, Her husband tried to live up to that image-----LADIES..THIS IS A KEY..WHAT WE SAY ABOUT OUR DH'S IS HOW THEY ARE----So do say uplifting things, or tear them down because they are as human as you?
Her husband found such pleasure in her life that he wanted to find out about her God....In time, He learned to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. The las time I visited with her, they were both growing in the Lord together.
The Scripture says, she won him "without word" (Bible) by her "conversation"(1Peter 3:1). God's way works. Who would have ever believed it? Sunny did-------Can You?
Ladies, where is your heart in this story(true by the way)....Do you lift up your husband in front of others(ie...family, children, friends, church people)...or do YOU make remarks, tell tale things, tell about his faults?
Lets try this week, to ONLY say good things about our DHs....It not only changes our hearts, but, others too.....

LOVE TO ALL WHO READ THIS BLOG....
TERRI

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

PLEASE BEAR WITH ME>>>>

Dear Ones...
Please bear with me, through the summer...My schedule may have to take a back seat to my 1 acre garden and 1 acre of lawn, Grandbabies, building on our house and may other sorts, because of Summer...
Please stick with this blog however, and watch for my articles....

Thanks for your Grace...
Terri

Comfort zones....

Comfort zones....
Men are not the uncaring creatures they sometimes appear to be. They highly treasure their families and like for their homes to be comfort zones. they want respect and a family that gives them security and purpose. Even though home life may get dull, men greatly value their own woman and children.
Men may allow the lust of the flesh to pull them away from that which they value, but they try to get back to that comfort zone. It is this natural need for his own famuly that keeps a man caring for and bearing the responsibility for his wife and children. When a woman does not provide for her husband a comfortable nest and a reverent attitude, she has to rely on his goodness to "keep him" faithful. She is a fool to expect him to be a good husband when she is not being the helpmeet God has created for her to be.
A man coming home to a tense or messy home, lousy meals, and a wife who is critical, judgemental, and or bossy might not have the "goodness" to remain faithful if a young sweet, kind, woman at work seeks to pull him away with the promise (illusion) of a more fullfilling comfort zone.
Woman take it for granted that a man will be faithful because it is his Christian duty to be faithful(and it is). It is also a womans Christian duty to be a help meet: honoring, obeying, serving, and reverencing.
Experience has proven that failure on a woman part will make it much easier for a man to fail his obligations to the family. a satisfied man will cherish his "comfort zone" enough to resist the "evil woman" and her empty promises.
Counselors agree that in almost all marriage conflicts both husband and wife share the blame almost equally. A mans guilt is usually easy to see. A womans guilt is less obvious but just as destructive and just as evil. God ordained a woman to be a help meet. She is to provide a haven of rest and satisfaction, and to be a delight to her husband. ARE YOU??????
When she fails to obey God, there is often a high price to pay. When she obeys God, even if she is married to a "lost" man, she will usually reap heavenly rewards.

Love to all who read, may you reap heavenly rewards by following this and "The Word of God"....
Terri



Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Monday, the Promise.....

Sorry for not getting on here earlier, my computer got another virus.........
We are 1/2 way through the book, "Created to be his Helpmeet"....

On with "The Promise"......
Have you ever known of any husband that could reverse the course of an angry, resentful wife and make their marriage into something blessed? In all of Scripture, there is no promise to the man that they can save their wife and marriage by conducting themselves in a certain prescribed manner. In contrast, the bible holds a wonderful promise from God to women: they have the power to win their lost husbands both to themselves and to God. The Bible tells us hat a woman can win her husband without the Bible. In todays churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives......
"We" have to tell him the "truth"...right.........?
"We"have to make sure he does all right....right..........?
"We" have to not be embarressed of him.........right.........?
"We" have to be sure he knows how and when he hurts us.....right.........?
"We" have to be sure he does this and that right.....?
"We" have to tell him just where he does this and that wrong.....right....?
"We" have to let him know by "hints" or "suggesting"or "beating around the bush" to get our point across, {we are going to get our point across no matter how we have to do it}......right.....?
Sounds pretty selfish to me....
Ladies, lets just be ourselves, not his H.S., his guidence, his seargent, his leader...let's just rest, not get angry at whatever he does that sets you off.......Lets just be sweet....
I am not saying we all wont have our times....but, for the majority, the anger at every little thing is gone from my life......
It is possible.......God in His Omnipotence, wants to set you free..."from the sin that so easily entangles"...we can "pretend" to be sweet, but, it still shows all over our voice, body language, and facial expressions...ONLY by the power of God can we be truly set free, it is something that comes from wayyyyyyyy down deep inside, not the surface......
When we are at home with or without him, how do we think of him, how do we talk about him to our children, to others.....After all day, are we angry at him when he walks in the door from a hard day at the Job? Or can we sweetly welcome him home, and help him to take his boots/shoes off....
I have found out from experience, this works, my DH is soon to be 60 and it just "floats his boat", when I take his shoes off after a hard day a the job(NO, he may not have "worked" as hard as "I" think "I" have(see, there goes that selfishness again)......
What is it that you can do for your Husband, that would "float his boat"?
Pray, Pray, Pray, ask God for His supernatural help, He is more than able to answer your prayers...but BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!,,,there may be things you have to change in your heart........

Love to all who read....
Terri

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Tuesday.....

This is a saying I saw, and would like to share it with you my readers....
"Man/Woman values most what has least worth."

Loe....
Terri

Accroding to the Power, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry

This is for Wednesday, Yesterday....I hope you enjoy it....
~~~~~Accroding to the Power, Annie Johnson Flint, poems, poetry~~~~~
Love Terri........

Eve has many sisters......

Well, Ladies, I wish summer was not sooooooooooo busy, it is hard for me to get my posts out daily......Here is Mondays and the rest of the week.

Eve has many sisters....
When men struggle with fleshly imaginations, we women give ourselves over to emotional imaginations and create a world of hurt for ourselves and those atound us. Satan goes after the man directly, offering him pleasure, power, or glory, just as he did with Jesus during his desert temprtation experience. But satan goes after us ladies as he went after Eve, with subtlety. the tempter asked Eve a question designed to stir her imaginations into supposing that God did not have the best of intentions for her.
"Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD GOD made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall eat of every tree of the garden?"(Genesis 3:1). satan was neading Eve to question Gods motives. He went on to imply that God was keeping something from her, "For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ;ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil"(Genesis 3:5). Eve was deceived through her runaway imaginations. The root of her sin was doubting God's goodwill toward her. Even today, has many sisters. We still doubt the one in authority over us and imagine that he does not intend good for us. Like Eve, we imagine that we can disobey the authority of God's word and of our husband's word because we imagine that we have a higher purpose---to be more spiritual.
We have been tricked into believing that our husbands have committed offenses against us, all the while thinking that we are more spiritual because of the insights we have. We all agree that any man who lives in a lustful daydream is a godless man. And I say to you readers, that any woman who lives on the edge, expecting to be offended and believing ill will on every hand, that woman is living in vain imaginations and is a godless woman. It is time to get yourself under God-ordained authority. Believe God, believe the best of your husband, your neighbors, your church, your family, etc., and get on with the blessings of joy of life and marriage.
Ladies, I know, I keep saying this, but this really does work, not overnight, it takes time, believe me, pray and try, God is right there to help yu along the way.
Have you stepped out of being a broken record and stepped into playing in your mind those things that you are Thankful for. God speaks in Phillipians 4:8: "Finally, brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsosever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; is there be any virture, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
See, even in Gods word, we are not to be broken records or drippy fawcetts...we are to make our minds think on the above things...yes, it will take time, yes, it is hard, yes, it does not happen overnight. My mom says, "ANYTHING WORTH HAVING, IS WORTH WORKING FOR."
Are you going to work for something that is more precious than gold?
Have your children gotten the "mad wife" disease? Lets get over it before our children become infected with it, our families become infected with it.....Our children honor their daddy, because mother does, same with our families. I remember, when I would spout at my mother, who is not even a believer, she would automatically start talking down about my DH....argh!!!!
Now, I lift him up, and she does to.....How do your child(ren) see their daddy?
As your child(ren), gorw up they will become adults, they will discover that their daddy has faults, then, they will forgive their daddy as their mother has done. When they are grown, and they can see the whole picture, they will see that their mother is one of the finest mothers/wifes in the whole wide world, BECAUSE, she forgave... they will rise up and call their mother blessed.
Someday their mothers husband may grow up and grow out of his foolishness, and if he does, he will too, call her blessed. This wife/mother will have earned the daddys love and devotion, because she reverenced him when there was little in him to honor. She loved because God first loved her.
When we treat others with the love and forgiveness that Scripture talks about(now, you are thinking, he/they/she does not deserve it, your probably right, but, on the cross when Jesus forgave our sins, did and do we deserve it?) The forgiveness you heap on the heads of those who don't deserve it, shows the power of God at work in your life, and believe you me, others see it. Those who are receiving the forgiveness, will get a lump in their throats, because they know they don't deserve it. Let it work, not in spite, not in anger, but, with the same love Jesus showed on you when you did not deserve it. Your DH will get a lump in his throat not only because of your forgiveness, but, because of the reverence you bestow on him. There can be no greater love, and no greater inducement to repentance.
Not one of us honestly thinks this DH deserves your reverence, or your love for that matter. He is a first class stinker and deserves to sleep alone in an alley under a cardboard box. But, God has called us to a higher plane. It is on this higher plane that we discover the wonder of life, of love, and of forgiveness. And it is the place where we will come to be cherished. Few men are able to continue being angry, lustful, and selfish, in the face of such a strong force as being reverenced.
Ladies/ Friends......
This heaping "hot coals" of love on their heads, works, not a one time thing, not immediately, but, it does work......Gods word is true, and it still works.....
Pray, and ask God to help you do just this, "Heap hot coals of LOVE on their heads"....

More next week....
Love to all who read~~~~~
Terri

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Monday....The Power of Reverence....


How do your children see their "Daddy"....? How do you see Him even when he is not all that great? How do others see Him?

Even when Your DH is not happy, cute, smelling good, thoughtful, good looking, and all of the things the world sees as "good"...How do you see Him? Even when you reverence a man that does not deserve it, you are in a sense reverencing God.

Do you understand that? You reverence God because you reverence your DH, not because your husband is a fit representative of Christ, and not because he is a worthy substitute, but because God placed you in subjection to your husband. And when it gets humanly ridiculous to obey him, and when he gives you every reason to not respect him, there is only one controlling factor left---God. You obeying and reverencing God, and no one else. That man of yours is the fortunate one who receives honor being given to God. Your faith sees beyond the circumstances of your sinning man to the God who created us all and "so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son..."(JHohn 3:16).

If your faithfullness is never rewarded with a new-birth change in your husband, your commitment will not be wasted, for the grace that God is working in your heart is making you supremely fitted to be the Bride of Christ. It is an eternal work(we look so temperal)taking place in your soul. Your obedience to God, and your willingness to go beyond the extra mile, prevents your husbands damaging your children. You have covered a multitude of sins with your love and forgiveness(1 Peter 4:8).

Play it again, Sue...

In our own strength, we women tend to have minds like old LP records that are scratched. We take our husbands faults and replay them in our thoughts over and over again, "he's insensitive....he's insensitive....he's insensitive..."We get worked up over the smallest things and offense until our agitation sours into bitterness. He will forget to feed the dog three days in a row. We will look a the empty dog bowl and attribute it to all kinds of evil motives of him. He will leave us waiting in the car for an extra 10 minutes, and we convince ourselves that his lack of consideration is just the tip of the "cold iceberg" in his heart. Since we are "Christian" ladies, and the children are watching, we don't rant and rave; we just give him the cold silent treatment(like that will help!). He must know how much he hurts us, and the best way to retaliate is to hurt him back(STOP!!! This doesn't help!!!)by depriving him of what he wants most---respect, honor, and love.

We know that this will get his attention, and he will eventually have to come humbly asking what is wrong. By then, our miserable countenance(ugly!) should have softened him up for a good case of repentance. Boy, will we make him sorry! But we fully expect that he will try to make up for the birthday he forgot by buying the same kind of candy we told him we hate, and then we hate him all the more for not remembering that we hate that kind of candy. Practice. We are always practicing those awful thoughts!!!!

Remember the 40,000 thoughts a day? Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. How many thousands of negative thoughts are you thinking in the course of three or four hours? It IS YOUR DUTY before God to think differently....God tells you how to think. When our emotions will not freely allow us to think what we ought, our will(we use it for bad, why not for good?) can command our muscles to actions and the thoughts will follow. "Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established"(Prov. 16:3).

Remember the passage in 11Cor. 10:5? "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ"

In the letters I receive, 90% of the offenses are not ony but the wifes imaginative responses to something that could have been easily overlooked......

The difference between a good marriage and a lousy one is not found in good husbands and good wives versus bad husbands and bad wives, for all marriages are made up of 2 sinners with lots of faults. A good marriage is good because one or both of them have learned to overlook each others faults, to love the other as he or she is and to not attempt to change the other or bring the other to repentance. A bad marriage is not one that contains more faults between the 2 of them, it is a marriage where one or both of them gets worked up over issues that good marriage partners let slide and cover up with love and forgiveness.

When a woman gets it in her mind that she must change her husband before she will allow him to relax in the security of her honor and respect, she will never see so much as the bottom side of a good marriage, except when she is kissing hers goodby!!!

~~~Continued next week~~~

Ladies....I hope you thoughtfully pray about all of these tips and truths...

they work....

Love to all who read...

Terri

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Wednesday....He's Helping Me Now, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

Wednesday....
He's Helping Me Now, Annie Johnson Flint, poetry

I hope you enjoy this link as much as I do....

Love~~~~ Terri....

Tuesday....Our reading material.....

Tuesday....
Our reading material....
What does our reading material say in our hearts?
Does it lft up the one and only God of the universe? Or, does it kind of hint about the "one".....?
Beware, of falsities in this reading material....hinting, about "the one" and only true God, is it what our minds know as that, our minds will pick up subtleties in what we read...Does our reading ..."build us up in the most holy faith...", or does it tickle our ears?
Does it help us grow into the likeness of Christ, love our fellow man more, have more Grace for the unlovely, or does it make us critical, judgemental and just plain grumpy at those who dont do/think/dress as we think they should?
Lets keep our eyes open to the subtleties of the enemy in our souls...

Love...
Terri...
Sorry for not getting to my posts all week, was sick, and in over my head with other stuff, , Summer?!~><......?
Here they are now.....

Monday...."The Great Mystery"....
"A wise woman understands that her husbands nees to be honored is NOT based on his performance, but, on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is Gods will for her life."
"This is a great mystery:but I speak concerning Christ and the church... and the wife see that she reverence her husband"(Eph. 5:32-33).
There are 12 mysteries in Gods Word, but only the 7th is listed as the Great mystery. Each mystery is a strange, beautiful truth which is for us hard to understand. The old Websters Dictionary defines mystery as ,"something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being aboave human intelligence. An enigma: anything artfully made difficult."
Jesus wants us for a friend. He seeks to create through me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church through eternity.
Amazing as it sounds, marriage between a man and a woman is what God chose as the closest example of Christs relationship to his bride, the Church. You are part of eternity when you submit to your husband. Submission, reverence, and honor are virtues God seeks to establish in his sons bride. Your marriage to your husband is preparing you for a marriage in Heaven. You may think, "But, it would be easy being married to Christ. You are forgetting about haveing to offer ones son upon a alter.....that is what Abraham had to do with his son....What if your husband killed you for lying? That is what God did to Saphira....
For a woman to usurp authority over a man is aggaronce to God Almighty, like treason in camp. It would be like a man taking authority over Christ, or like the Church becoming jealous of Jesus' leadership and taking authority unto itself. It would be doing just what Lucifer did when he said in Isaiah 14:13-14, "I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north...I will be like the most High." Lucifer, like Eve, was not satisfied with his station in Gods eternal progrtam. He tried to jump rank and ascend higher on the chain of command. God cast him down, as he will do with men and women who attempt to live beyond their created position.
Knowing that my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life. As I reverence my DH, I am creating a picture of how we, the Church, should reverence Christ. You have wondered why God would tell us to do such a think as to reverence our husbands. Now you know.
"This is a great mystery: but I speak conderning Christ and the church.....and the wife see to it that she reverences her husband"(Eph. 5:32).
Reverence; to revere, to ber in awe; fear mingled with respect and esteem.
1. Obedience is doing what yo know the other person wants you to do.
2. Submission is your heart giving over to the other persons will.
3. Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the womans will, to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
Obedience, Submission, and reverence are all acts of the will and are not based of feelings. Showing deference toward ones husband is an act of reverence toward the God who placed you in that role.

Ladies, I am still living this and it still works....Yes, I fall flat on my face, but, that is what repentance is all about, and a God of Grace....
Dont quit, keep on....
My relationship with my DH, and my respect/reverence/hon or for him only grows with every time I allow the Holy Spirit to convict my heart, I repent(sometimes to my DH), and go on and PUT MY WILL DOWN....
Its all about putting our will down, and not having to be right....We are wrong, you know!!!!

Love to all who read,
Terri

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Continuation on "Why do children rebel?

We are not printing this for mothers to be down on their husbands, or for them to think less of their DH's...I thought this might help someone who has children rebelling.....
Always pray about whatever it is you read, and ask the God for guidence.......

When a father sacrifices his family for a better retirement....
His children develop a temporal value system....

When a father desciplines in anger....
His children have seeds of bitterness...

When a father delegates his childrens educatiuon to others.....
His chgildren cease to respect him as a teacher....

When a father does not teach his children how to please him....
His children feel frustrated and rejected....

When a father is impatient with his children....
His children feel inferior and reject themselves....

When a father has inconsistent standards...
His children despise him....

When a father tries to warn his children only of the consequences of sin....
His children are challanged to be successful in avoiding the consequences....

When a father lets his wife assume spiritual leadership....
His children mauy regard religion as childish when they grow older....

when a father does not have personal convictions....
His children accept situational ethics and excuse in excess what their father allowed in moderation....

Love....
Terri

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Abundant Waters......

Scripture....John 4:1-10; 5:1-9
In His great plan of salvation, God fashioned all living creatures with a natural dependency upon water. Some species rely on water as an enviroment to sustain them. Others, because their body mass consists largely of water, must frequently replenish the body's water reserves. The importance of satisfying this natural thirst cannot be ignored without serious consequences.
Jesus occasionally spoke of living water. This was an introduction to the Holy spirit whom Jesus promised to send following His ascension to heaven. As water is vital for natural life, so the Spirit provides life for the soul.
Those who receive the Holy Spirit through repentance and conversion find complete fulfillment. Because God's Love is the source of this newness of life, the efects are evident and far-reaching. "He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water"(John 7:38).
When we surrender our lives to the Lord, we become aware of new life beginning in our hearts. The Holy Spirit has entered, and the trickle of water begins to flow. He leads us with gentle promptings and impressions, as well as convictions. Our desire is to be obedient to God and faithful to His word. Our acquaintances observe a change in our lives. The water that began to trickle is now a flowing river that goes deeper and deeper widening to reach out to others. What a privilege it is to be channels through which Gods grace can be manisfested to others.
Multitudes of people appear to be standing on the river bank, desiring the effects of it's water in their lives, yet fearful to take the plunge. Some seem to be content in the shallows: others are unwilling for the crucial step that will sweep them into the current, carrying them to the conter of Gods will and complete reliance upon Him through faith. Why do we resist the abundant waters? Only when we lose sight of the familiar shoreline can we discover new horizons of abundant life.
Satans tactic is to suggerst deeper waters will take us into self righteousness. This is a lie, but it is sometimes a convenient excuae for those who are unwilling for a deeper sanctification and a closer walk with God.
Our hearts are soft at the times when God moves in it. At this point we face a test, will we be obedient or will we just turn off that "still small voice"? Remaining in the shallows(turning off the H.S.), we will remain where we are...but, plunging into the deep river, gives us blessings that only can be found there...not wading, but, plunging....
Where are you in the river of life, wading or plunging?
Lets take Jesus as face value and take the plunge.....
Love to all....
Terri

Monday, May 4, 2009

Chapter 12...by Divine Apointment (last entry).....

Marriage Made in Heaven....
So, is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, browbeaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not pur women back in the stone ages, nor will it tuen us into a bunch of women who stayed covered in black.....God does not teach that..for you to be happy---really happy---as I have been happy, you MUST follow and abide in God's role for women.
God has spoken frankly as to why he made us as he did and what our role is to be.
Yet, today others tear apart what God and the Bible teaches and make the average young wife reading these Scriptures feel as though what God has said to her in an insult. I(Debbie Pearl) have spent 35 years counseling, a wife, reading thousands upon thousands of letters, and chalking up my own life experiences, I have concluded that what the Bible says on this subject is ROCK solid truth and it works!!!! I have also seen the reults of bad teaching and teaching against the Scriptures.
My conclusions can be said to be scientifically correct. That is, the "evidence" that leads to my conclusion is reproducible: Anyone can test it and get the same results. The Creator knows best, and HIS way does work. His Word is meant to be taken at face value.
And, when any woman does as I have done, the blessings are incredible!(Just a note from me,Terri, the writer of this blog,, It truly works, my marriage was a wreck, my heart towards my DH was awful [dissrespectful, distainful, hateful and awful!!] but, God saw me really wanting to change and it has totally changed for the good, respect has come to my heart and a genuine love for my DH and also, he for me...ONLY a God who loves me and cares for my marriage could do this marvelous work!!!) I(Debbie) have received thousands of letters from woman who have entered into this wonderful plan for women and their marriage, and they just simply believed and followed and let God do the work in their hearts concerning their place as women. Broken homes, ladies who are church taught, rebellious ladies, and other such things in our world today, have been set free, all learning to honor their men and become good help meets. Marriages that all were made on this earth, remade into Godly good marriages.....Do you know even one couple who says they have a heavenly marriege? I know that the angels in heaven stand amazed at how much a man can love a woman, how he can break down weeping at the thought of how precious she is to him. The reason he loves her so is because she IS precious. She has earned his total adoration and love. She is what God asks of a woman, and the end result is a man who cherishes her beyond anything this world can know.
(LADIES<>>>> this is the way it happened with me, my heart turned upside down, all because I allowed God to reveal to me, "the real me", towards my DH...He showed me how repulsive my disrespect was to Him, and then gave me the tools to go on and change...NO, it WAS NOT EASY!!!!,,,but, so much worth the self control and time to work on it...)
When someone tells you that the Greek doesn't read submit, obey, or silence, just ask that person, "How is your marriage?....Would you say it is glorious?....Will God use your marriage as an example to show others how He wants a Marriage?"
Those who change the Word of God concerning a woman being a helpmeet do so because they don't know the wonder of a marriage made in heaven like I do.
If you want what I(Debbie Pearl and I, Terri) and thousands of other women have, then you must follow the plan the way God wrote it in the Bible. It simply will not work any other way....

TIME TO CONSIDER.....

God set up a chain of aommand, first in Heaven, and then again here on earth. When you do not honor that command, you dishonuor God, and apart from repentance, you can expect to reap the sure consequences.
"But, I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of every woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God"(I Cor. 11:3). Don't question Gods chain of command, and don't attempt to break any of its links.
Make a new habit....
Start thinking and acting as though your husband is the head of the company and you are his secretary. Look for ways to help him in his managerial position.

>Traits of a good Help Meet....
~~She fears God.
~~She believes Gods Word as it is written.
~~She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command.

>Getting serious with God......
Make a list for each day of the week....
MONDAY: Write three new things that you will add to your life that will cause you to become more precious to your husband.
TUESDAY: List three things that you can do that will be a help to him.
WEDNESDAY;: Write down 3 things you can do that will be an encouragement to him.
THURSDAY: Jot down 3 things that you can do to your appearance that you can change, which he is sure to like.
FRIDAY: List 3 things that you can do to your house that will please Him.
SATURDAY: Write 3 things you can do that will make him feel like a man(intimate time together?).
SUNDAY: Plan 3 ways you can respond to him in front of others that will show a heart of respecct and honor toward him.(This here alone will help to change the way he sees you!!!)

This is not easy ladies, but, because of such a change in my heart, it is possible. Without the Lord as ones Saviour, one cannot possibly do this, one needs to have confidence in the Scriptures and God for this to work. It has taken about 2 years for the fruits to show in my marriage, lots of biting my tongue, no remarks back, no attitudes towards him if he did not do what "I "thought He should, and lots of LOVIN".....BUT...LAdies...it works!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You will fail, you will blow it, you will make mistakes, but, God is a God of compassion, and LOVE...He is right there to pick you up, so you can go again...
DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU CAN DO IT<<>>>>>>>>>

Love to all who read this...
Terri

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Thursday...part 1 of "Why do children rebel?"

Why Do Children Rebel?

When a father does not fulfill his promises........His children get wounded spirits.
When a father does not admit his wrong.............His children lose cxonfidence in his leadership.
When a father refuses to ask for forgiveness.....His children react to his pride.
When a father does not have right priorities......His children feel that he is too busy for them.
When a father is too strict in discipline.....His children have their spirits broken.
When a father gives too much freedom to his children.....His children see freedom as a form of rejection.
When a father neglects his parents.....His children do not honor the cousel of their grandparents.
When a father does not love his wife....His children take up offenses with their mother.
When a father neglects Gods Word....His children neglect the authority of God and the Bible.

The rest of this special, next week.

Love.....

Terri